It's my first time greeting you like this.
My name is Geun-oh Lee, and I write for a channel called 'Language of the Day' on Instagram.
Life is so tough and difficult, and I desperately wish I had some time and space to find some comfort.
And so I created a SNS account and wrote a post.
But thankfully, many people liked the writing I wrote to comfort and heal myself.
There were people who said that my writing helped them regain their composure when they were contemplating making an extreme choice. There were also people who said that when they were going through a difficult time after parting ways with a loved one, my writing gave them deep comfort that they had not received even from close friends.
What did I say?
And I never even thought about becoming a writer.
I'm not good at writing, and I don't have any fancy qualifications like other people.


But then suddenly this thought occurred to me.
When I look back, I remember that during a difficult time, I received great strength from the warm words of someone I didn't know.
It wasn't a very fancy piece of writing, but that short sentence gave me more comfort than anyone else.
I don't know that person's name or where he is from.
No, you don't need to know.
It doesn't even matter who you wrote it for.
Because what you write for yourself can reach the hearts of people on the other side of the world.
I hope this book does that.
I am not a bestselling author, nor am I famous.
But when I saw that the writings I had written to comfort myself, the writings I had written completely selfishly, were giving comfort and inspiration to so many people, something indescribable and warm rose up in my heart.
I felt a warm desire to see more people happy through my writing.
I'm sure you're having a tough and tiring day today. I can't guarantee that the words in this book will dramatically transform your life.
I don't even want to do that.
However, if my writing can serve as a shade where people can sit and rest for a moment when they are really tired and worn out, I would be truly happy.
I sincerely hope that my writing can serve as a warm reminder to cultivate a normal yet upright mindset in this harsh world, and that it can serve as a pacemaker to protect yourself, ensuring that every day is filled with happiness in uncertain relationships.
thank you

No matter how well people get along, if the circumstances and directions are different, they go their separate ways. That's human relationships.
Even if you've been together for a long time and treated each other with sincerity, it's common to see people become strangers.
They say that a true network is not the number of people saved on your phone, but the number of people who truly support you.
However, there is no need to divide the two into groups, or to distance yourself from each other in a bad way, to the point of creating bad memories.
If you keep going through all the bad memories and mulling over what was right and wrong on your own, it will be your responsibility to embrace the pain.
So, you must also know how to let go of things that cannot be helped.


Because of this, unnecessary noise is created.
For example, you prepare as best you can for an important meeting but end up late due to traffic, or you dress up so well that you want to look good when you're introduced to someone nice but end up getting a pimple.
This isn't the day I wanted, and if I'm depressed because of things that went wrong, then I'm still holding on to my feelings even though I know it won't work out.
Life is too short to enjoy happiness without having time to endure sadness.
It may be necessary to put down the heavy burdens that cannot be dealt with right now and enjoy life.
If possible, I would like to talk to people like 'sunflowers' who always look after me even though I am lacking.
Then, I can only keep the good memories.
They say that human relationships are something you can't do anything about, so if it was good, think of it as a memory, and if it was bad, think of it as an experience, and create your own world.
So that the good memories are more vivid than the sad ones, and that the difficult days are remembered as happy days.
This is the gaze that looks kindly at things that cannot be helped, and it is the way to make my world warm.
--- From "Human Relationships Are Unchangeable"

No matter how expensive the clothes are, if they get worn out or have holes in them, they have to be thrown away.
Even food that looks very delicious should be thrown away if it goes bad.
Relationships are like this too.
No matter how much you loved at first, no matter how desperately you loved.
As time passes and your hearts no longer match, or when your partner's heart moves away and you are no longer one, you must let go of the relationship.
That doesn't mean you should take the time we spent together lightly.
The point is not to let go until the moment comes when you have to let go.
All relationships fall into this category: lovers, friends, family.
A momentary spur of the moment can ruin things, lead to breakups, and create irreversible regrets.
Unfortunately, words that have already been spoken cannot be taken back, so you must take responsibility for them, whether you apologize or end it.
Even if we live in a world where it's easy to talk, we shouldn't leave traces here and there.


In order to avoid the regret of having to let go of someone you love, it would be good to exchange pretty words that do not contain regrets.
It would be perfect if you could convey your affection with simple words like "You have a pretty smile", "You are kind", "You have a good personality", "You are cute", and "You are cool".
People call it a 'compliment', but I call it 'interest'.
Words that can only be said if you are not interested.
Surprisingly, the strength of the day comes from simple things, so I hope your day is filled with such words of concern.
The more you save, the more beautiful the words you choose to convey to your loved one.
A person who knows how to speak nicely is not someone who is good at talking, but rather someone who has the affection to empathize with the feelings of others.
This kindness makes me feel so secure that I forget how hard the day was, and it makes me a better person even when I feel like giving up.
If you're with someone who can have such affectionate conversations, you'll definitely have more happy days than regrets.
--- From "I Can't Pick It Up"

At least once in your life, you will meet someone you spend a long time with.
This is a relationship that can often exist if you have similar personalities and the same peaks of pleasure.
However, it is difficult to say that the relationship will necessarily last long.
Because it's a long-term relationship, you tend to reveal your shortcomings without even realizing it, and you can easily get hurt by jokes you made thinking you knew the other person well.
Because this kind of relationship involved a lot of affection, it is easy to feel a great sense of resentment and betrayal.
That's why so many times family becomes strangers and friends become enemies.
But on the other hand, there are people who maintain long-term relationships despite bickering every day.
It's a relationship that seems like nothing is right on the outside, but in the end, it's always filled with reconciliation and smiles.
A characteristic of these relationships is that even if they outwardly use aggressive language, they do not personally attack each other.


Rather than each person trying to take the lead, there is a strong desire to be considerate of each other.
If the other person wants to eat something you don't want to eat, you grumble and eat it with them, and if they ask you to go, you grumble and say it's annoying but still go with them in the end. It's such a considerate way of showing consideration to each other.
Just because it's been a long time doesn't mean it will last a lifetime, and just because we fight every day doesn't mean we'll break up right away.
When you meet someone, what matters is not their abilities or actions, but how well they fit with you.
People seem to be divided into people you like and people you dislike, but it all depends on how well they fit with you and how well they don't fit with you.
Even if nothing else suits you, if you eat well together, you become friends with delicious restaurants.
If the exercise is right for you, you will have a long-term relationship as a workout buddy.
Relationships that last despite bickering are because they complement each other's shortcomings and value each other's strengths.
This kind of relationship can be said to be a relationship without illusions about each other, that is, a relationship without pods.
So it lasts longer.
If you only look at external factors like appearance or wealth when looking at someone, the relationship is likely to end easily when those factors disappear.
On the other hand, a relationship that accommodates each other, even if it has its flaws, can last a long time.
Rather than focusing on outward appearances, I hope you focus on who you are compatible with and maintain good relationships with those people.

--- From "What's Important When Meeting People"