Before entering
prolog

Chapter 1: People who are more sensitive than others
Sensitive and introverted are different _ More accepting and thinking deeply _ Comfortable living alone _ Children of sensitive parents _ Very low threshold _ Influenced by the feelings of others _ More conscientious than necessary _ Richer inner life than anyone else _ Instinctive spiritual curiosity _ Perfectionist and meticulous _ Slow and careful _ Seeking sensation _ Introverted or extroverted _ As many types as there are people

Chapter 2: High Standards and Low Self-Esteem
Being very hard on yourself _Why you don't recognize your worth _Love doesn't cost anything _When it's hard to lower your standards _Fear of being abandoned _You're okay just the way you are

Chapter 3: A Life a Little Slower Than Others
Time to focus on myself _Acknowledge my limitations _Ask for a break _Things I must give up _How to block unnecessary input _Time of idleness to organize my inner self _Pleasant skinship _How to stop my train of thought _Being recognized by others is not important

Chapter 4: The Ability to Create Depth in Relationships
Don't pour your energy into every relationship _To avoid being overwhelmed by what the other person says _Emotions also need communication _Balance between deep and light conversations _Conversations between you, me, and us _From small talk to conversations that share emotions

Chapter 5: Sadness Hidden in Anger
Where does anger come from? _The ability to find hidden emotions? _Unhealthy relationships? _Recovering self-esteem comes first. _Hope breeds anger. _Don't blame yourself. _When anger turns to sadness.

Chapter 6: Guilt and Shame
Guilt and power are proportional _ Don't ignore reality _ The thought that everything is my fault _ Feelings that cannot be expressed in words _ How long will you keep hiding it?

Chapter 7 Anxiety and Fear
Fear is a natural emotion. _Depression doesn't go away with sleep. _Thoughts create emotions. _Sometimes, write the worst-case scenario. _Don't try to force yourself to change. _Trauma can be the cause.

Chapter 8: The Courage to Live as Yourself
Love and support yourself _The only person who accepts me _I need self-love _Self-pity is not shameful _Turn your flaws into special abilities

Chapter 9: People with Special Talents
Overturning the Hypothesis About Sensitive People _A Mixture of Different Traits _Both Temperament and Environment Matter _They Are Special Because They Are Different

Epilogue
Acknowledgements
List of activities
Self-test
reference book

“You are probably more sensitive than others.
“I would never have learned how to love.”
Being more sensitive and reactive than others carries with it both many possibilities and limitations.
You've probably heard countless times throughout your life, "Don't worry so much," "You need to get stronger," and "Learn to have fun like everyone else."
In a world that constantly pressures us to change, we may not have learned how to love ourselves, who are more sensitive than others.
And you would have constantly tried to change yourself to meet other people's expectations.

But you have to accept yourself as you are.
To do that, you must learn to measure yourself by quality rather than quantity.
You may not be as productive or efficient as others, but you can produce quality work, and what you lack in breadth you can compensate for with depth.
Sensitive people know how painful it is to dwell on their own shortcomings.
Perhaps, to your eyes, only that aspect will be magnified.
Ilja Sand, one of the most sensitive people, admits that for a long time she constantly compared herself to others, and was frustrated when she realized she could never keep up with them.
And at the same time, when you learn and master how to shift your focus from what you can't do to what you do have, you say you are able to love yourself.


Most sensitive people
You don't know what amazing abilities you have.
The creativity, insight, and passion that our society values ​​are based on the gift of sensitivity.
But unfortunately, most sensitive people don't know what an amazing ability they have.
Ilja Sand, a leading authority on sensitivity research, has attracted the attention of the psychological world by revealing that these three abilities arise from sensitivity based on the results of counseling thousands of sensitive people around the world.

Creativity, the ability to create something new, is born from the process of combining, changing, and twisting existing things.
Sensitive people have a special nervous system that does this unconsciously.
People who are more sensitive than others see, hear, and feel more, and this numerous inputs lead to countless associations and thoughts in their heads.
It's no coincidence that many creative artists and free thinkers are sensitive people.

Also, a sensitive person can see many different aspects of one phenomenon.
Sensitive people have a strong ability to empathize with others, so they often work in professions that involve helping or supporting others.
This is thanks to the insight that allows us to perceive what others cannot see.

Finally, sensitive people have a richer inner world than anyone else and know how to focus on themselves.
This leads to passion, an attitude of loving and doing one's best in the work given to oneself.
Sensitive people often achieve success in organizations or groups and are recognized as the best in their fields.
This is thanks to his sensitive yet delicate nature, which includes having strict standards for himself and a high sense of purpose, and doing his best in everything.


Sensitivity is not a flaw
It's the best sense God has given us.

“Extreme sensitivity enriches the personality.
Only in unusual and difficult circumstances do these advantages turn into very serious disadvantages.
This is because the calm and cautious nature of sensitive people is often confused by sudden situations.
However, it would be a serious mistake to regard extreme sensitivity as an inherently pathological component of personality.
If so, we may have to define a quarter of humanity as pathological.”
-Carl Gustav Jung

People who are more sensitive than others are perceived as 'difficult, unsociable, and reluctant to reveal their true feelings.'
In an age where people who are energetic, have a wide range of relationships, and engage in a variety of activities are considered the best, these characteristics of people who are more sensitive than others seem like flaws.
But they have more resources than anyone else.
You can accomplish in just two hours what would normally take an all-nighter, and when you're in a calm state, you feel a deeper sense of happiness even in small things.
"Sensitivity is not a defect, it's God's best sense," says Ilja Sand, a renowned Danish psychologist and bestselling author.
Her new book became a bestseller on various charts in Denmark and other Nordic countries immediately after its release, and received rave reviews from sensitive people around the world.
The self-test and list of activities to inspire sensitive people included in the latter part of the book will help you figure out just how sensitive you are and how you can transform that sensitivity into a remarkable talent.