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Prologue You've done really well so far.

Chapter 1: Have I Been Raising Them Wrong? _The Emotions of Adolescence

The child who was obedient suddenly changed.
Speaking your mind is a sign of puberty | The attitude you need instead of "Where's your dare?"

I get angry like crazy over trivial things.
Let's not ask too many questions | Let's listen carefully even if we don't understand | Excessive attention is poison | Let's show that anger isn't a bad thing

Talking back is basic, behaving rudely
Imagine the turbulent mind of a child | The stability built in infancy determines adolescence | Let's gradually return control of our children's lives.

Is it normal for a child to swear?
Why do we swear? Understanding hidden emotions | Fun, belonging, and peer group language | Examining parenting styles

Is she ignoring me? Managing a mother's emotions
The most immature part of parents | The feeling that is enough to welcome and send off the child | To convey sincerity to the child

Are you having a hard time enduring puberty? It's time to change your perspective.
It's okay to argue and talk | Don't be strict with your standards | React to emotions, not react to them.

::: Practicing such loving words from a mother

Chapter 2: When a Relationship Is Broken, There's Nothing You Can Do _ Relationships in Adolescence

How to Wisely Cross the River of Adolescence
Let's acknowledge our own shortcomings | Let's persevere together, not alone | Let's spend more time observing our children.

Why on earth can't we talk?
A good relationship is essential for effective communication | Acknowledge and speak to your child's innate temperament | Prevent your child from being neglected for too long

I wish there was leadership
A Time When Self-Control Struggles | Parental Approval Is the Beginning of Leadership

I hope you can be a bit sly and charming.
A wise child rather than a good child | Minimal mother's intervention

Adolescent school life resembles social life.
Let's stop seeing ourselves as children | Develop the power of relationships

I hope I only make helpful friends.
How to Make Friends: Detailed Instructions | Maintaining a Safe Distance and Trusting

How to deal with bullying among friends?
What a mother should say to her child | Unexplained tantrums are a kind of signal | Pay attention to your child's feelings, not their behavior | A strong self-identity is a weapon

When will we talk about the level of household finances?
Don't think of yourself as an unlucky child | If you do it too quickly, your self-esteem may crumble

When Mother's Teachings Need to Change
Let's teach the basics of social life | Do we even need to teach this?

::: Practicing such loving words from a mother

Chapter 3: Talking Openly About Your Changing Body _ Appearance and Sexuality in Puberty

If you suddenly hate skinship and body play
Describing body changes in concrete terms | Don't celebrate becoming an "adult"

A Look at Acne and Bangs
The period when the occipital lobe, responsible for visual functions, develops | What a mother says that drives her child away

How to Talk to Your Child About Sex
The more comfortable and natural it is, the better. Be careful, but never control unconditionally.

Dating, should I allow it or not?
My Son's Girlfriend Story | Clearly Explaining the Reality of Bad Dating

When you discover your child's 'porn search history'
Don't shame or make them feel guilty | Talk about sex from elementary school onward

Why You Should Exercise During Puberty
A sensitive period for visible strength | Even when making them do exercises they don't want to do, comparisons are a no-no

Let's build confidence that goes beyond appearance.
A Mother's Words to Help You Discover Your Talent | "You Are Worthy"

To mothers who think that raising children is over now that they have raised their children
A child's physical size and growth are not proportional | Even mental growth is part of a mother's parenting.

::: Practicing such loving words from a mother

Chapter 4: Puberty is a Second Childhood - The Stress of Puberty

My child doesn't have any stress from studying.
Why I Sent My Son to an International School | The Inevitable Ranking System and the Unexpected Hidden Problem | 3 Ways to Deal with Study Stress

The stress of a mom walking around her apartment complex late at night
The better you communicate with your child, the less stress you'll experience | Practice communicating your feelings openly.

If you don't want your mother's words to become nagging
Leading by Example: A Difficult but Worthwhile Task | Home Isn't a Place for Nagging

The day I stole my son's diary
"It's all about you doing well." | I need to check if I'm forcing my desires on you.

The last time to check your attachment
The emotional hole that forms in infancy | It's not that mothers are wrong in their parenting.

Let's make good use of expert advice.
A mother's counseling session after her son's hair grew longer than hers | My son can't cut his own hair.

Let's read your child's mind through travel.
Travel to a place your child desires | A change of location is necessary to open a closed mind.

::: Practicing such loving words from a mother

Chapter 5: Between College Entrance Exams and Career Paths: What Mothers Must Do _ Adolescent Dreams and Career Paths

Should career path come first or should entrance exams come first?
The sooner the better. College entrance exams are simply a path toward a career path.

Anxious mother, peaceful child
An educational environment that makes you anxious without you even realizing it | Let's think deeply about what's more important.

Let them experience failure during adolescence.
The experience of failing while doing what you want is valuable | Let's give children back what they lack.

What we hoped for when we had a child
Whatever you do, I will always trust you | My beautiful baby in the guise of adolescence

Please be a mother who protects her child's dreams.
The moment I recklessly trampled on my son's dream | What values ​​are you running towards? | If I want my child to be happy

::: Practicing such loving words from a mother

Appendix: Frequently Asked Questions for Moms of Teenagers

Q1 My child doesn't want to go out and just stays at home.
Q2 Why do I always get annoyed when people ask me questions?
Q3 Lock the door and don't let anyone in.
Q4 My child wears earphones all day long. Can I leave them alone?
Q5 I feel embarrassed because my child swears at the end of every sentence.
Q6 I live by the saying, “I’ll take care of it.”
Q7 I'm worried about my child walking around alone because he/she says he/she has no friends to play with.
Q8 I feel frustrated because my child has nothing he wants to do or become.
Q9 I feel heavy-hearted when I hear, "You won't believe me anyway."
Q10 When I ask them to work harder, they feel wronged and say, "I'm working hard."
Q11 I'm so irritable in the morning that I'm afraid to wake up.
Q12 I don't want to move away, but my child says he doesn't want to.
Q13 My child asks me to buy him luxury items because he doesn't have any. Should I buy them for him?
Q14 I feel suffocated when my mom is in the living room.
Q15 Is it okay for a child to be obsessed with ‘likes’ on social media?
Q16 My child is having a hard time because he or she is excluded from group activities.
Q17 My child keeps putting off things. Is it my fault for not helping them develop the habit?
Q18 I spend too much time on my appearance
Q19 My pride is hurt by my child's words, "Even Mom doesn't know."
Q20 What should I do with a child who wants to become a celebrity?

“You’ve done really well so far.”
A book that heals a mother's wounds and restores her relationship with her child.

Professor Lee Jeong-ah, who has been teaching students in the classroom since completing her master's and doctoral degrees in education, has published "Such a Kind Adolescence Counseling Center" after gaining 12 years of field experience as a kindergarten teacher and after-school teacher, and her passion for education has deepened.
This book is a 'friendly guide to adolescence' that comforts mothers who have been hurt by the harsh words and actions of their adolescent children and helps them regain their shaken parenting confidence.


There have been several books published to explain the difficult-to-understand nature of puberty.
There were books that described it from the perspective of brain development, and books that interpreted youth slang.
However, the gap between parents and children remained, and daily life was difficult.
The mother's own suffering and loneliness were so great that it was difficult for her to open her heart to her adolescent child.
This book warmly embraces the hearts of such mothers, comforting them by saying, “You’ve done so well so far,” and suggesting the right direction for raising children during adolescence.

Even the author, an education expert with 25 years of experience, experienced countless trials and errors when facing his son's adolescence for the first time.
He emphasizes that the feeling of despair and disappointment he felt at that time is something everyone experiences, and draws empathy by sharing his own parenting experience and the cases of mothers and children he has counseled.
I hope that mothers who wander their apartment complex alone late at night, blaming themselves for children who don't follow their lead and conversations that don't go as planned, will find comfort in this book and find solutions to their relationships.

Second childhood,
A New Perspective on Adolescence

No matter how well you understand developmental theory and practical tips for dealing with adolescents, it's not easy to change your child in real life.
Because if the mother's heart is closed, the child's heart cannot open either.
This is why this book first comforts the hearts of mothers of adolescents.

Next, I suggest changing the way you look at adolescent children.
He says that in order to wisely cross the deep and wide river of adolescence, you must break away from the frame of 'a big kid' and have the perspective of 'my baby who is still small and pretty.'
In other words, the view is that “puberty is the second childhood.”
Adolescence is the last period in which the attachment gap created during infancy can be filled, and the irritability and anger that often appear during adolescence resemble those of infancy.
If you think, "Why doesn't my child know such basic things even though he's grown up?", the conflict with him will only deepen.
We must learn to listen to the inner thoughts of a child who cries out, “Mom, I’m still growing physically and mentally,” “Please understand me,” and “I’m a good child.”
By recognizing that your role as a mother extends to your child's emotional maturity and providing consistent love and support to your adolescent child, who still craves affection and recognition, you will be able to navigate this period more comfortably.


Another thing that Mom emphasizes is patience.
It does not have the limited meaning of waiting patiently for a child's problem behavior, but rather has the expanded meaning of acknowledging that one is a lacking mother and making an effort to grow.
For example, it is important to open the door to communication by honestly expressing your feelings, such as, “I know it’s hard for you too, but I’m trying to wait for you,” or “I feel anxious when you act like this.”
One-sided patience without communication becomes self-sacrifice, leaving a scar on the mother's heart and becoming an obstacle in the relationship between parent and child later on.

Made with a single word and a kind heart
Better relationships with children

This book is divided into 35 themes, including emotions, relationships, appearance and sex, dreams and career paths during adolescence, and provides essential mindsets that mothers must know.
At the end of each chapter, there is a section called 'Practice the Words of Such Affectionate Mothers' that provides specific guidance on mothers' words for adolescents.

The principles of motherhood for teenagers are to not ask too many questions, to listen even if they don't understand, and to let them know that emotions can be expressed.
The appendix contains 20 solutions to the most frequently asked questions from mothers of adolescents, based on the author's experience with over 2,000 consultations.
“When I ask my child to try harder, he feels wronged, saying he is trying too hard”, “What should I do with my child who wants to be a celebrity?”, etc. It contains the real concerns and practical advice of today’s mothers, so it is worth keeping by your side and referring to when solving problems with your adolescent child.


Now the author's son has gone through the passionate adolescence and is in his second year of high school.
He is working hard to prepare for the entrance exam to draw the future he wants and achieve his dreams.
And the son kept his mother's warm love deep in his heart.
The son's words, "Mom and Dad, I know how devoted and good you have been to me so far, and I am truly grateful," will bring tears to the eyes of even the readers of this book.


Adolescence is a challenging time for both children and parents.
But one thing is certain.
The truth is that if you spend this time wisely, even if it is full of wandering and wavering, both the child and the mother will grow greatly.
Re-establish your relationship with your adolescent child with this book.
A parent's small beginning is always like the beginning of a great miracle that a child will achieve.