{"product_id":"153103","title":"To bear the unbearable ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/WQt5mXPRTlTBLvDepi7ewS.png?v=1764956627\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e To bear the unbearable \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd 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style=\"line-height:1.2em;text-align:center;font-size:18px;color:black;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px;\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/goods\/142231871\/XL\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;{split_style6}padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e Description \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e  \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e“How can we endure life when we are shattered?”\u003cbr\u003e Psychology classes to understand and manage emotions after loss\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The grief of loss comes to everyone.\u003cbr\u003e No one can escape it.\u003cbr\u003e Especially when a loved one dies suddenly or is tragically killed, the burden of life can become unbearable for those left behind.\u003cbr\u003e Those who have experienced loss experience a range of emotions that can be utterly foreign and eerily painful, a persistent pain that wells up from deep within.\u003cbr\u003e Yet life and death demand that we endure.\u003cbr\u003e But what can we do in the face of unbearable pain, pain that will never go away?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Enduring the Unendurable\" is a book filled with honest reflections and comfort on the common human experiences of love, death, loss, and mourning. \u003cbr\u003eAuthor Joanne Cacciatore is a psychotherapist specializing in traumatic loss and grief.\u003cbr\u003e He suffered deeply from the death of his newborn daughter, and has been working with people struggling with bereavement trauma for over 20 years.\u003cbr\u003e He shares his experience of traumatic grief and the healing principles he learned from it through various examples, and conveys his understanding of the deep inner self of humanity, which he realized through the process of comforting the pain of others.\u003cbr\u003e This book contains vivid wisdom that only those who have experienced suffering can attain.\u003cbr\u003e It offers empathetic and realistic coping strategies for those who have lost a loved one, mental health professionals, psychotherapists, and those who wish to understand their own grief and the grief of others more deeply and live with greater compassion.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e“I hope this book is used to provide a safe space to feel our emotions fully, and to be with those who have been shattered.\u003cbr\u003e This book is an invitation not to turn away from the profound sorrow, to stay in the dark night of the soul that has lost a loved one, and to live in the present, no matter how difficult and painful it may be.” - Page 11\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cul\u003e\u003cli\u003e You can preview some of the book's contents.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cspan\u003ePreview\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/li\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Author's Note 9\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 01 Attitude toward mourners 23\u003cbr\u003e 02 Public and Private Mourning 29\u003cbr\u003e 03 Expressing Grief Through Art 33\u003cbr\u003e 04 Early Grief Reactions after Bereavement 38\u003cbr\u003e 05 The Right to Grieve 47\u003cbr\u003e 06 Differences in Mourning Culture 51\u003cbr\u003e 07 Vacant Seat 59\u003cbr\u003e 08 Pause, Reflect, and Feel the Meaning 64\u003cbr\u003e 09 Fear Under Fear 69\u003cbr\u003e 10 Love and Pain Are One 72\u003cbr\u003e 11 To bypass sorrow, you must also bypass love. 78\u003cbr\u003e 12 Intensity of Grief and Coping Abilities 83\u003cbr\u003e 13 Contraction and Expansion 86 \u003cbr\u003e14 The Clash of Love and Loss 92\u003cbr\u003e 15 Infinite and Eternal Love 97\u003cbr\u003e 16 Personifying Sadness 100\u003cbr\u003e 17 Pausing with Sadness 104\u003cbr\u003e 18 Exercises with Emotions 109\u003cbr\u003e 19 My heart shed many tears. 112\u003cbr\u003e 20 Walking Barefoot 119\u003cbr\u003e 21 The Importance of Self-Care 122\u003cbr\u003e 22 Self-Care and Sleep 125\u003cbr\u003e 23 How to Take Care of Yourself 130\u003cbr\u003e 24 Tell your family and friends what you need 135\u003cbr\u003e 25 When Self-Care Becomes an Escape Tool 140\u003cbr\u003e 26 Learn, adapt, and trust your instincts 142\u003cbr\u003e 27 Jaeae Island 146\u003cbr\u003e 28 Adapting to Grief 148\u003cbr\u003e 29 When We Are Shattered 154\u003cbr\u003e 30 Duration of Grief 157\u003cbr\u003e 31 The Courage to Remember 160\u003cbr\u003e 32 Grief is not a disease 164\u003cbr\u003e 33 The Power of Unprocessed Traumatic Grief 168\u003cbr\u003e 34 A Long Silent Sorrow 173\u003cbr\u003e 35 Guilt and Shame 178\u003cbr\u003e 36 Empathy and Compassion 184\u003cbr\u003e 37 Remember with Love 189\u003cbr\u003e 38 Waves of Sorrow 193\u003cbr\u003e 39 Remember Me 196\u003cbr\u003e 40 Minor Condolences 200\u003cbr\u003e 41 Finding Meaning in Life through Compassion 206\u003cbr\u003e 42 Kindness Project 208\u003cbr\u003e 43 By knowing suffering 213 \u003cbr\u003e44 Fierce Compassion 216\u003cbr\u003e 45 Life-Saving Work 219\u003cbr\u003e 46 The Price of Not Recognizing Grief and Trauma 226\u003cbr\u003e 47 Inherited Sorrow 231\u003cbr\u003e 48 Grief is like soup 236\u003cbr\u003e 49 The Gift of Darkness 242\u003cbr\u003e 50 Right here, right now 247\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Recommendation 252\u003cbr\u003e Search 256\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eDetailed image\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/momo\/TopCate5132\/MidCate009\/513187740.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Detailed Image 1\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eInto the book\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e When we are afraid and in pain, we need someone to listen to our honest feelings.\u003cbr\u003e We need someone who can go down to the bottom of the abyss with us again and again.\u003cbr\u003e We need someone who will hold our hand reliably, without judging us too quickly, without blocking or avoiding our pain.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"Public and Private Mourning\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e As the shock of loss begins to lift the veil and the paralysis begins to lift, an indescribable pain wells up from deep within.\u003cbr\u003e A whole new set of emotions, completely unfamiliar and eerily painful, also come to visit. \u003cbr\u003eEverything within us tries to escape the reality of loss, but pain stubbornly asserts its presence.\u003cbr\u003e It forces us to look back and look again at each loss.\u003cbr\u003e In a sense, the mourning process can be said to be an expression of love for the lost object.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"Early Grief Reactions after Bereavement\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Traumatic deaths cause traumatic grief.\u003cbr\u003e Traumatic deaths include sudden, unexpected deaths, violent or mutilated deaths, deaths after prolonged suffering, suicide, homicide, and deaths of children of any age or cause.\u003cbr\u003e When a loved one dies in such a way, we feel like a tree uprooted, terrified, overwhelmed by great anxiety, and our faith in the world is seriously shaken.\u003cbr\u003e And it really shakes things up.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"Differences in Mourning Culture\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThe more you practice staying with the emotions that seem to consume you, the more you will be able to trust your own abilities and fully embrace your grief.\u003cbr\u003e Once we accept it, we can more comfortably stay with our emotions and allow them to flow through us.\u003cbr\u003e Through this cycle, we accept our true feelings without losing self-respect, self-trust, or self-compassion.\u003cbr\u003e Whenever sadness arises, a space is created within us to contain it.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"Pausing with Sadness\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Self-care is crucial for those who are grieving.\u003cbr\u003e It must be done without compromise.\u003cbr\u003e When you disconnect from your emotions, you can also disconnect from your body.\u003cbr\u003e The opposite is also true.\u003cbr\u003e Emotions are not just isolated emotional sensations.\u003cbr\u003e Emotions influence our bodily sensations, cognitive processes, social interactions, the expression of existential anxiety, and even our thoughts about emotions. \u003cbr\u003e--- From \"The Importance of Self-Care\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Grieving itself is a learning process.\u003cbr\u003e In mourning, we learn a lot about ourselves.\u003cbr\u003e Maybe even things you didn't want to know.\u003cbr\u003e The more I learn about grief, the less scary it becomes, and the more grounded I feel inside.\u003cbr\u003e Grieving is also a process of adaptation.\u003cbr\u003e We find ways to adapt to a life we ​​never expected or wanted.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"Learn, Adapt, Trust Your Intuition\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Practicing grieving means intentionally approaching and re-engaging with grief at every stage of life.\u003cbr\u003e He becomes acutely aware that he is in the grip of grief and accepts the absence of his loved one as an undeniable reality.\u003cbr\u003e I understand that the reason I feel such immense sadness now is because of the time I spent with them.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"Adapting to Grief\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eWe must consider it a serious duty to look at the shattered fragments of ourselves and to accept the pain with dignity.\u003cbr\u003e When we remember our loved ones, the time and space between us and them connects, and they return to our lives.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"The Duration of Sorrow\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Ritual serves to pay homage to the love and suffering contained in our hearts.\u003cbr\u003e Every society has rituals related to death and mourning.\u003cbr\u003e Through these rituals, we can get closer to our loved ones and continue our bond.\u003cbr\u003e By expressing our emotions, we regain control, find meaning in our lives, and strengthen the foundations of community, enabling us to cope with loss.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e --- From \"Small Ceremonies of Condolence in Daily Life\"\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003eThe Impact of Grief on Emotions\u003cbr\u003e “Still, we slowly learn to live with the pain.”\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThe author approaches trauma and grief from a psychotherapeutic perspective, drawing on clinical experience, research findings, the wisdom of religious saints, and Western psychology to illuminate the emotional impact of bereavement.\u003cbr\u003e Through 50 stories, he explores themes such as the conflict between love and loss, guilt and shame, adapting to grief, the cost of not recognizing grief and trauma, inherited grief, mourning rituals in everyday life, and the importance of self-care.\u003cbr\u003e It presents various cases of people who have suffered the pain of loss and discusses what is needed to heal the body and mind.\u003cbr\u003e We also critically examine the social and cultural structures that lack compassion, are addicted to happiness, and treat the grief of loss as a disease, and consider how we should treat mourners.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Accepting the death of a child, parent, spouse, lover, or pet is difficult. \u003cbr\u003eStill, by learning to understand and accept the emotions that follow a loss, the magnitude and depth of the pain, its meaning and depth, we can gradually move toward healing.\u003cbr\u003e The emotions humans experience during death and mourning are very deep and complex.\u003cbr\u003e Painful emotions such as deep despair, agitation, anxiety, numbness, loss of pleasure, fear, anxiety, excessive worry, guilt and shame, and loneliness are normal and common for those grieving a significant loss.\u003cbr\u003e Grief reactions can also manifest in dramatic behaviors, often when a person rejects the emotions they are supposed to feel during the grieving process.\u003cbr\u003e The author emphasizes the importance of understanding and accepting the emotions of grief through the case of a client who experienced substance abuse, gambling, overspending, promiscuous sex, unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships, reckless behavior, and self-harm after bereavement.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eHow do we face and comfort the feelings of loss?\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThe right to mourn, the courage to remember, the need for fierce compassion\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “To fully embrace the grief of loss means to embrace the profoundly mysterious paradox that one can become whole only by being shattered by the experience of loss.\u003cbr\u003e Grief empties us, but fills us with emotion.\u003cbr\u003e Fear paralyzes us, but we can give courage to others.\u003cbr\u003e We mourn the absence of our loved ones and wish for their presence.\u003cbr\u003e The old us disappears and a more complete us becomes.\u003cbr\u003e Knowing the darkest night, we can illuminate the world with the light of our loved ones.\u003cbr\u003e We are contradictory beings.\u003cbr\u003e “We are enduring the unbearable.” —Page 13\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThrough his daughter's untimely death, the author learned that along with the natural human instinct to escape pain, we also have the desire to accept pain as it is and experience it fully.\u003cbr\u003e Only after the pain has been deeply and repeatedly felt does the healing process begin.\u003cbr\u003e As the author explains, this healing is a very mysterious process.\u003cbr\u003e Pain remains constant, but paradoxically, it is precisely in that constantness that pain is transformed into healing.\u003cbr\u003e Therefore, 'enduring the unbearable' is not an impossible task.\u003cbr\u003e Rather, it is the only path to healing. \u003cbr\u003eSo how exactly does healing occur? The author argues that through fully experiencing unbearable pain, we come to accept the inevitability of suffering and the helplessness we feel within it. This acceptance, in turn, fosters a renewed sense of compassion for ourselves and all other suffering people.\u003cbr\u003e To heal, you must learn to feel pain and sorrow, have the courage to remember the one who has passed away, and learn to express those feelings to someone who understands, accepts, and empathizes with them.\u003cbr\u003e The author emphasizes that one cannot and should not bear great pain alone.\u003cbr\u003e I keep saying that as long as the pain doesn't go away for weeks, months, or years, we need someone by our side who can understand and accept those feelings with empathy and compassion. \u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e GOODS SPECIFICS \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003eDate of issue:\u003c\/strong\u003e February 7, 2025\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n \u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e- \u003cstrong\u003ePage count, weight, size:\u003c\/strong\u003e 260 pages | 394g | 138*210*18mm\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003eISBN13:\u003c\/strong\u003e 9791197826160\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003eISBN10:\u003c\/strong\u003e 1197826165 \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cspan\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/center\u003e","brand":"LIBRAIRIE COREENNE","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":43894414213162,"sku":"153103","price":25.0,"currency_code":"EUR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0683\/2750\/5962\/files\/d730a3470c78ed6dbb2de560e0b36e0f.jpg?v=1765432853","url":"https:\/\/librairie.coreenne.fr\/en\/products\/153103","provider":"LIBRAIRIE COREENNE","version":"1.0","type":"link"}