The difference in how men and women choose mates is a survival and reproduction instinct deeply engraved in human DNA.

The author is a popular blogger who writes under the pseudonym Rollo Tomasi and has tens of millions of readers worldwide.
The author's provocative view on love, which exposes the truth about the unspoken relationships between men and women in our society and stands at the center of controversy over both men's enthusiastic support and misogyny, develops by connecting behavioral psychology to the dynamics of male-female relationships.

First, we begin with evolutionary biological theories about how men and women choose mates.
Although women may seem more complex in their method of choosing a mate than men, it is still firmly established in their subconscious as an undeniable instinct.
Men instinctively want to have relationships with multiple women to produce as many offspring as possible, and women want men with social status who can pass on superior genes to their offspring and ensure a stable life.
These male and female instincts clash with each other in reality, and in the course of evolution, humans chose monogamous marriage to provide a stable home for their offspring.
The author argues that marriage is an institution created to conform to women's instincts and social order, and in the process, it has tilted toward controlling men's instincts.

It is time for a new paradigm in men's love and marriage.
Marriage is a choice! Dating is a necessity! Gone are the days when dating was the process that led to marriage.


The global economic outlook is bleak and human life expectancy is increasing.
While the marriage rate is decreasing every year, the divorce rate is skyrocketing.
Moreover, men are being pushed out by alpha girls as women become more active in society.
However, the author believes that our awareness and values ​​regarding the roles of men and women and marriage are not keeping up with the changing times.
Despite the various social problems that arise from the gap between ideals and reality, public perception and customs surrounding the way men and women meet, start a family, and live together remain stagnant.
Eventually, when the time called 'marriageable age' arrives, both men and women begin to feel burdened about dating.


However, the marriageable age that we know is not the right time to get married considering the reality of the times.
Moreover, in our country, a term called the "3-po generation" has emerged, referring to young people giving up on dating, marriage, and childcare due to the difficulty in finding a job, soaring housing costs, and meager salaries.
Many young people are postponing marriage, either voluntarily or involuntarily.
Things that were once considered essential tasks, such as getting married and starting a family, have now become a 'choice'.

But what we cannot and should not give up is love in our youth.
Love is a source of vitality in our lives.
It is now time for a new paradigm to be adopted in the way we have taken love and marriage for granted for so long.

A man's prime is in his late 30s.
Men, restore your confident and positive masculinity.

Dating isn't difficult if you don't plan on getting married.
It is not too late to get married when a man is confident that he can live as the master of his own life.
Restore the value of masculinity and stop being a man who is convenient for women.
The purpose of a man's life is not marriage.


Follow your dreams, not your women! And women will naturally follow.
Marriage should be the result of love, not its purpose.
When dating, you need to get out of the mindset of settling down with one woman.
As men grow older and gain experience, they develop a discerning eye for choosing a life partner.
A man's value can continue to rise until his late 30s, putting him in a much better position to choose the woman he wants.
Choosing a lifelong companion carefully is not a calculation, but rather a reasonable decision.

Above all, it is necessary to restore the positive values ​​of challenging and creative masculinity.
Historically, men have been able to revolutionize human culture as builders of empires, conquerors, creators, and destroyers.
In modern times, many men feel negative about their own masculinity and are intimidated.
It is also true that men feel that the duties and responsibilities given to men in our society and family are heavy, but the evaluation of masculinity is harsh.


While the reader is left to decide for himself whether to judge this book, the author hopes, above all, to help young people develop a life plan that will empower them to realize their potential.
It focuses specifically on helping men break free from common beliefs that lead them to act against their personal happiness in relationships.
The author published "The Rational Man 2" on the strength of the success of this book.

You can't blame a hungry wolf for eating a beautiful elk.
Animals and humans alike act according to the instincts created by nature in order to survive.
It's also true that women are always ready to transfer their affections to a man with better conditions.
The reason women can do calculated flirting tests or leave a boyfriend without looking back is because of this primal self-defense mechanism within women.
There is a psychological disorder called Stockholm Syndrome, which refers to feeling positive emotions, such as empathy or compassion, toward a perpetrator who threatens one's life.
In extreme situations like hostage situations, the victims, due to stress and fear, may begin to feel compassion for the hostage takers over time, and eventually develop antipathy towards those who try to rescue them.
The finding that this abnormal psychology is much more pronounced in women suggests that women tend to shift their emotional investments more easily.
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In a relationship between a man and a woman, it is normal for power to shift from one side to the other according to the needs and will of both people.
The two occasionally argue, but they reaffirm their affection.
However, it is not a healthy relationship when one side always takes the lead and manipulates the other.
When a woman is abused and cannot leave the man, thinking that he will change someday, or when a man unconditionally gives in to the woman for peace and stability, it is because one of them has voluntarily given in.
Men and women alike must understand that compromising by selling themselves cheaply and giving up everything just to maintain a relationship is dangerous.
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--- pp.61-62

True power is not in controlling and deceiving others, but in taking charge of our own lives and becoming their masters.
When you become attached to something, your freedom is bound to be limited.
Because when you open one door and go in, the other doors close at that moment.
Make a promise to yourself that you will not rush into marriage because of useless sentiments or pressure from those around you.
We need to throw away the myths that were created to bind men and be able to make rational decisions about love and marriage.
You should wait until you are sure about marriage so that you do not ruin your entire life by ignoring or overlooking a woman's personality flaws.
Let's gain experience by meeting women with various personalities and conditions.
Based on such experiences, you can maintain more stable and happy relationships later on.
--- pp.76-77

When I started serializing "A Man's Rational Dating Guidelines" on my blog, I received a flood of criticism, all of whom sided with women and questioned my sanity.
It was as expected.
Nonetheless, I steadfastly advise men to develop practical dating strategies.
For example, think about how many dates you have sex on.
I think after at least three dates, you should be able to judge how much a girl wants you.
If you have sex on the first date, she's already crazy about you.
If you had sex on the second or third date, the girl probably really liked you from the start, but didn't want to seem like an "easy" girl.
And the woman will want to keep seeing you.
But if you go on more than five dates and the woman keeps saying, “I want to wait a little longer,”
If you've been putting off sex with the words "After we get to know each other..." you've probably been seeing each other for close to two months and it's time to call it quits.

--- pp.176-177