Where is my partner and what is he doing?
To you who want to get married or think that you absolutely must get married

This book guides Christians considering dating and marriage to prepare for a healthy love based on biblical values.
The author, who says, “The purpose of dating is marriage,” offers practical advice on how to discern and prepare for the encounter God has prepared for us, rather than simply being driven by emotions and dating and marrying.
It consists of a total of five parts.
Starting with considering the purpose of dating, it goes into detail about what preparations are needed to become a good spouse, what attitude should be taken during flirting and dating, what responsible love is, and what religious decisions should be made for marriage.
In particular, by following the story of the Book of Ruth and the relationships between Ruth, Boaz, and Naomi, we reflect on the meaning of marriage as planned by God and provide biblical and realistic advice on 'Christian dating and love.'


The author, who communicates with many Christians through “Sanna’s Word of God” and “Sanna Link,” speaks in a friendly and fun tone, as if she were a church sister talking to her younger siblings.
It is neither stiff nor boring, so it can be read in one sitting from the first page to the last, and especially, the sharing questions included for each topic provide room for serious reflection that goes beyond simple reading and fits one's own situation.

This book, filled with the author's warm perspective and practical advice, will serve as a solid guide for many young people who dream of love but are burdened with vague anxieties and worries.

The man ordered hot chocolate and the woman ordered a latte.
One person can't stand bitter coffee, and one person drinks coffee with the taste of milk.
I don't know much about coffee, but I know a little about love.
Because right now, their eyes are filled only with each other.
All senses are focused on the other person's voice, facial expressions, and gestures.
It seems like he's trying to capture everything about his opponent.
It makes me happy to see couples like this.
I pray for the family they will build.
I hope that the love that can be felt at the next table will become deeper and stronger.


Why is it so serious when it's just a man and a woman dating in a coffee shop? Because I'm serious about love.
For me, dating isn't something I do to gain experience with the opposite sex, because my side hurts, or because I want to be physically intimate.
Love has a clear purpose.
The purpose of love is marriage.
Dating is something you do with someone you plan to marry.
Of course, you can break up during a relationship, but the clear purpose of starting a relationship is only marriage.
When the purpose is clear, the process becomes organized.
People who have no intention of getting married are prohibited from dating.
I hope that kind of person stays out of the dating market.
Because it causes confusion in the market.
We cannot tolerate people who only want to date and not get married.

--- p.12~13

When? Back in my school days, when I hadn't studied at all the day before a final exam, or when I had to give a major presentation at work the next day but hadn't even properly prepared my materials, let alone practiced, I would invariably pray this prayer the night before.
“Lord, come quickly!” But I have never prayed like this.
Because I was afraid of facing tomorrow, but it was a shame to see the end without getting married.
Instead, I prayed like this:
“Maranatha, come, our Lord.
But if I'm going to do it, I'd like to get married before the Lord comes." For me, getting married was something I really wanted to do.
Thinking back now, I wonder if I really wanted to get married that badly, but if I were to go back in time, I would have prayed the same way.
Some people may ask me why I wanted to get married when it was so difficult.
You could say that living alone is much more beneficial to life than fighting and arguing with strangers, and why go to such great lengths to sacrifice and dedicate oneself to others?


But I would like to ask those people a question instead.
How can you say marriage is hard without ever experiencing it? How did you know that living alone is so much more beneficial to your life? How did you come to the wise conclusion that it's a difficult and arduous journey without even experiencing it yourself? What's the secret to becoming someone so determined to overcome the gaze of adults and the barrage of cliches, and live alone? I have so many questions for you.
Among them, this is the one I want to ask first.
Don't you sometimes feel lonely? Don't you want to be loved?
--- p.20~22

I feel a little lonely.
When a close friend gets a lover and they start flirting, a fire starts to burn in your heart.
Besides, when my friends start getting married one by one, I get anxious.
I think I should start the engine too.
But I don't know how.
Where the hell is my other half? Where on earth should I go to find my love? If you've been thinking about moving to meet your spouse, let's leave that as a last resort.
It is the last, most recent method that can be used.
There are things that need to be done first.
You have to be a good person where you are now.
Let's take a look at the position I belong to.
There will be family, work, sports groups, church, etc.
Being a good person comes first there.
If you do something you've never done before because you want to be a good person, you might hear annoying comments from people around you like, "Are you sick? Why are you doing something you've never done before?"
Don't be discouraged when you hear things like that.
At first, people around you will think, 'Did I see something wrong?', and when they see you a second time, they will say, 'That's strange?', but when they see you a third time, they will think, 'He really has changed!'
So let's never stop challenging ourselves to become good people.
The Lord has already begun a new work in you.
--- p.50~59

What past do you have? Are there obstacles preventing you from starting anew? Are you still struggling with unresolved emotions? Are there worries holding you back? God does not let any life pass by unchecked.
Just as no two people look the same, each person's life path is different.
Do you still not understand the God who plans and directs your life? If you're just complaining, asking why He's doing this to you, I will give you the wisdom to navigate your life.
First of all, I want you to gather all the shitty experiences, past, and emotions in your life.
The very things that make your life feel like crap are actually the things that make your life shine.
That shit is what makes your life different from others.
If you've been working hard to collect poop, now is the time to turn that poop into fertilizer.
Because your specialness starts where you treat that shit.
Everything in the world has two sides like this.
Shit and manure are no different.
It's like two sides of a coin.
If it were left lying on the road, it would be dung that people would have to avoid, but if you collect it and throw it in the field, it becomes fertilizer.
If there's any shit in your life, I want you to gather it up and throw it in the field.
--- p.81~82

What do you think you need to do, what do you need to accomplish before you start dating? After you've done everything, it's too late.
If you're a teenager, I'd advise you to prioritize what you need to do now over dating, but if you're past that age and in your twenties, then definitely think of now as the perfect time to date.
Honestly, most people in their 20s don't have money.
The future is uncertain and the path is vague.
If so, you can put dating on hold for a while and hone your skills and techniques.
But will things get better in your 30s? The job you finally land after a long, narrow journey demands 24-hour work.
That doesn't mean you can run away from work.
People who work so hard are surrounding me.
Do they just work? Even amidst their busy schedules, they still find time to study to develop their skills.
If you spend your 30s working hard like a hamster on a wheel, your 40s will come quickly.


The busier you are, the more time passes in the blink of an eye.
In your 40s, you are much more stable than in your 20s.
I have money and a job.
But now I can't see anyone.
Most people around me are married.
I thought I should get married now, but they keep adding conditions.
When I see my friends around me having two children and building healthy families, I feel a bit discouraged about living a simple married life.
So the more I try to find a marriage partner, the more my head hurts.
But that doesn't mean we can give up.
If you're in your 40s now, you're better off than in your 50s.
Are you in your 50s? Of all the days you'll live, today is the youngest you'll ever be.
Besides, these days, life expectancy is 100 years.
I've only lived half my life.
Now is always the right time.
Let's not procrastinate any longer and keep an open mind.
No matter what your age, your love life will be as vibrant and fresh as when you were in your 20s.

--- p.117~118