{"product_id":"157305","title":"I'm willing to be noisy and affectionate ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/WQt5m5TxI6zR6It4TgsjSH.png?v=1764851739\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e I'm willing to be noisy and affectionate \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd 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style=\"line-height:1.2em;text-align:center;font-size:18px;color:black;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px;\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/goods\/146657702\/XL\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;{split_style6}padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e Description \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e  \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e“You are someone who has already been deeply loved.”\u003cbr\u003e A book that helps me discover myself and find the courage to be kind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Essay on the Mind by Dr. Sooyeon Cho, an expert in object relations theory and counseling psychology.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e A book that reaches out to those who pursue \"harmless relationships\" and \"a decent life alone,\" encouraging them to be kind and to love noisily.\u003cbr\u003e The author, a counseling psychologist, recommends that even if you are afraid of the busyness and pain that comes with being in a relationship, you ultimately go with someone.\u003cbr\u003e If you want to move towards the decent adult, affectionate daily life, and upright life you desire, you must face the self that is touched in 'relationships', and only after going through that process can you grow.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Meeting someone in a crowded setting is definitely not an efficient use of time.\u003cbr\u003e Two people do things together that could be done alone.\u003cbr\u003e You can eat and watch a movie alone, but two people meet, face each other, and talk. \u003cbr\u003eEven things that can be done well by oneself are given the opportunity to be done first by the other person.\u003cbr\u003e Choosing to do something you don't have to do every day is affection and love.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The point of this book is that, strangely enough, the process is actually a joy rather than a burden.\u003cbr\u003e We have all been deeply loved by someone, and we have the power to pass that love on.\u003cbr\u003e This book confirms the courage to be affectionate and to love within us.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e If you hesitate to meet new people because of past pain and wounds, or if you meet someone you want to show affection to but are hesitant, I recommend this book.\u003cbr\u003e As an expert in object relations theory, I will convince you of the nourishment that past and future affections can bring to our lives.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cul\u003e\u003cli\u003e You can preview some of the book's contents.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cspan\u003ePreview\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/li\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e  \u003cdiv\u003ePrologue: You have already been deeply loved.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eChapter 1.\u003cbr\u003e Love makes me shiver\u003cbr\u003e : The first step toward intimacy\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Love begins when emotions surge\u003cbr\u003e Small daily events accumulate to form the heart.\u003cbr\u003e Not because it's trustworthy, but because it's a heart that trusts\u003cbr\u003e Why I Want to Love Again Even Though I'm Anxious\u003cbr\u003e Love can move at different speeds, practice adjusting accordingly.\u003cbr\u003e Fighting doesn't make you grow apart, the art of recovery\u003cbr\u003e There are moments when it feels good to love, even if it seems like a loss.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eChapter 2.\u003cbr\u003e What do I look like when I am reflected in love?\u003cbr\u003e : A time of affection for me\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The me that is only revealed in a relationship\u003cbr\u003e Time to slowly write the manual of my heart\u003cbr\u003e This is a must! Three values ​​that protect me: My User Manual 1\u003cbr\u003e How to Feel Love, Five Languages: My User Manual 2\u003cbr\u003e A Heart That Finds It Difficult to Rely on Others: My User Manual 3\u003cbr\u003e Wanting to Love Differently: My User Manual 4  \u003cbr\u003eMy Temperament is a Clue to Understanding Me: My User Manual 5\u003cbr\u003e When My Insecurities Block Intimacy: My User Manual 6\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eChapter 3.\u003cbr\u003e Are we communicating well?\u003cbr\u003e : Time to be affectionate to you\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Good communication\" is the beginning of empathy and a connection of interests.\u003cbr\u003e Do we need to know everything about each other? Something, not everything.\u003cbr\u003e We need to practice speaking our true desires.\u003cbr\u003e A sharp but cold conversation: Choi Seong-hyeong\u003cbr\u003e I'm sorry for everything: Avoidant\u003cbr\u003e “It’s all your fault” I feel a lot of resentment: Blaming\u003cbr\u003e Me, who talks nonsense to avoid conflict: the distracted type\u003cbr\u003e Me who thinks both you and I are important: Matching type\u003cbr\u003e A relationship that listens well never breaks\u003cbr\u003e You have to be able to say no to love for a long time.\u003cbr\u003e You know even without me saying it? That kind of relationship doesn't exist.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eChapter 4.\u003cbr\u003e If there is a loving way to break up\u003cbr\u003e : Our affectionate times\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Let's fight, but don't let it hurt too much.\u003cbr\u003e Emotions should be dealt with, not hidden.  \u003cbr\u003eThe reason we collide, the courage to face it\u003cbr\u003e Saying sorry, saying it's okay, words that must be said even if it's awkward\u003cbr\u003e There are relationships that can't last long.\u003cbr\u003e The back of the parting I want to leave behind\u003cbr\u003e The memories of being loved and received without reservation remain.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Epilogue: All that affection ultimately becomes the time that nurtures me.\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eDetailed image\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/momo\/TopCate5332\/MidCate006\/533157428.png\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Detailed Image 1\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eInto the book\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e These days, we live in an era that pursues 'harmless relationships'.\u003cbr\u003e We've become accustomed to keeping our distance and closing our hearts to avoid getting hurt.\u003cbr\u003e I did the same.\u003cbr\u003e I was sharp and sensitive, easily hurt, and often lonely.\u003cbr\u003e Relationships aren't easy.\u003cbr\u003e Giving and receiving love is more difficult.\u003cbr\u003e Yet, I dare to lead you into a loving, intimate relationship.\u003cbr\u003e I want to tell you that the road is not as scary as you think, because you have already been down it once. \u003cbr\u003eWhether it's family, friends, or lovers - we've lived giving our hearts to someone, and we've lived receiving hearts from someone.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Rather than receiving messages like, \"Let's build good relationships\" or \"Let's love well,\" I hope this book will help you recall memories of loving and being loved throughout your life.\u003cbr\u003e We want to help you discover memories of those who loved and were loved, such as the heartwarming experience of receiving a small piece of candy, the face of someone who smiled brightly at my insignificant note, and someone who listened to my boring words.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e May you be willing to make a fuss, and through that fuss, encounter love, and ultimately, may the comfort, strength, fulfillment, and unparalleled joy that intimacy brings flow into your life.\u003cbr\u003e I believe that it will ultimately lead you to a more authentic and happier life.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e--- From \"Prologue_You are a being who has already been deeply loved\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In social relationships, my emotions are calm.\u003cbr\u003e Expectations are not high, so the waves are calm.\u003cbr\u003e Even the emotions I felt momentarily do not linger in my mind for long and quickly subside without shaking me.\u003cbr\u003e But why do our emotions fluctuate so much when we meet someone close to us, especially someone we love?\u003cbr\u003e Perhaps it was the wave of a signal sent by the sincerity and effort of my heart toward that person, or perhaps it was because my things were conveyed, that person became mine, and that person no longer felt like a stranger, but rather me.\u003cbr\u003e The excitement, joy, jealousy, sadness, and anxiety that become clearer when you have a precious person you love...\u003cbr\u003e There is always something precious buried at the source of those emotions. \u003cbr\u003eIt could be a memory, a wound, or a piece of myself that I thought I had long forgotten.\u003cbr\u003e Emotions are like a storehouse of memories, and the most intense emotions contain the oldest stories of my life.\u003cbr\u003e When emotions fluctuate, it's a sign that something important has been touched within me.\u003cbr\u003e It's an opportunity to get to know myself, and it might be a gateway to growth.\u003cbr\u003e Emotions I would have ignored if I were alone.\u003cbr\u003e These are the moments when you finally face someone you love.\u003cbr\u003e It's not that the person touched me, but it's that the feeling was always inside me, and now I'm discovering it thanks to the person I love, and it becomes a meaningful moment.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e --- 「Chapter 1.\u003cbr\u003e From \"When does love make me tremble?\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We often break down when we give love and don't receive it in return.\u003cbr\u003e It feels unfair, sad, and lonely because it feels like I'm the only one who's put in the effort and it feels like I'm the only one who's worked hard. \u003cbr\u003eBut at some point, you suddenly realize.\u003cbr\u003e That the traces of my experience of love remain meaningful.\u003cbr\u003e That the time I loved never faded away, and ultimately made me a deeper and stronger person.\u003cbr\u003e Although breakups are always painful, they can also serve as a springboard for growth and serve as important milestones in our lives and a criterion for making choices.\u003cbr\u003e In the despair of 'I don't want to be hurt like this again', we instead make a promise to ourselves, 'From now on, I will love in a way that doesn't hurt me.'\u003cbr\u003e Love changes the way I see myself, and relationships make me question who I am.\u003cbr\u003e All those 'question and answer times' were ultimately the strength that made me live as myself.\u003cbr\u003e It was an opportunity to expand my depth and breadth, something that would be difficult to achieve alone.\u003cbr\u003e “I was a person who was easily hurt. \u003cbr\u003eHowever, he was also a person who did not give up easily.”\u003cbr\u003e “I was willing to be affectionate, and in the end, that affection saved me.”\u003cbr\u003e “I was clumsy at love, but I chose love anyway, so I have no regrets.”\u003cbr\u003e I hope you can quietly say these sentences to yourself and to someone else.\u003cbr\u003e And finally, I would like to say this.\u003cbr\u003e “No matter how tumultuous your life may be, may it ultimately be filled with tender moments.”\u003cbr\u003e “May the moments we have lovingly written remain in your life as a trace of your own love and life.”\u003cbr\u003e So that you can choose not to give up and avoid love\u003cbr\u003e I would like to express my deepest gratitude to the countless people who have walked alongside me in my life and to those I am with now.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e --- From \"Epilogue_All those affectionate hearts, in the end, become the time that nurtures me\"\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e  \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eWhy we should choose a noisy affection over a quiet daily life\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e There are moments when I hide my 'nice' self while maintaining an appropriate distance and appropriate emotional line.\u003cbr\u003e In the presence of someone close to us, we let go of the bonds of social tension for a moment.\u003cbr\u003e I appear somewhat childish and somewhat noisy.\u003cbr\u003e There are times when things get weird for no reason.\u003cbr\u003e I laugh for no reason, get upset for no reason, and do things I normally don't do.\u003cbr\u003e That's when you like someone.\u003cbr\u003e Even in front of my family and friends, the unfamiliar me that I never saw before is slowly coming out.\u003cbr\u003e Even the best businessman would find it difficult to lower the corners of his mouth when he sees someone he likes.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This book says that ignoring such emotions and living 'calmly' is by no means mature. \u003cbr\u003eTo become the adult we imagine as 'upright,' 'calm,' and 'self-sufficient,' and even 'affectionate,' 'gentle,' and 'elegant,' one must actually be able to take good care of one's inner self.\u003cbr\u003e But our inner selves are discovered and dealt with only when they are touched in relationships, not when they are hidden in social tensions.\u003cbr\u003e The same goes for negative emotions.\u003cbr\u003e Just as it's important to know what I like and what I look like, it's equally important to know what I find uncomfortable and what I reject, because it's through the emotions that are stirred in relationships that these things are discovered.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This book gives you the 'courage to be affectionate'.\u003cbr\u003e With that courage, I encourage you to move forward into a 'willingly noisy' relationship. \u003cbr\u003eBecause that will lead you to the solid growth and upright adulthood you ultimately desire.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eDiscovering Yourself and Rediscovering Relationships with a Counseling Psychology Expert\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Object relations theory is a theory that guides people to discover their anxiety in relationships and become aware of their own gaze.\u003cbr\u003e In this book, Dr. Sooyeon Cho, an expert in object relations theory and a supervisor who trains counselors, guides us to face our fears of relationships and take a step forward from those fears.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In addition, you can discover yourself in relationships, but it also covers a 'user manual for yourself' so that you can discover and read yourself today.\u003cbr\u003e By answering the numerous questions in this book, I can discover what kind of person I am, what direction I am heading, and what kind of relationships I pursue. \u003cbr\u003eAbove all, by discovering the values ​​you can't afford to lose in life, you can also establish guidelines for what to avoid and what to be cautious about in future relationships.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When meeting someone, it is important to know how to talk well, but it is also important to know how to fight well and how to break up well.\u003cbr\u003e This book also deals with attitudes during fights and breakups. It does not simply give the obvious message of showing your best side, but rather shares advice on how to deal with your own feelings that explode during fights and breakups, how to view the other person, and how to get through those times as an active self rather than a passive \"hurt me.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The object of affection and love discussed in this book is not only the other person, but also myself. \u003cbr\u003eThrough this book, we will discover the strength to share the kindness within us and the will to make a fuss. \u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e GOODS SPECIFICS \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003eDate of issue:\u003c\/strong\u003e June 15, 2025\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003ePage count, weight, size:\u003c\/strong\u003e 240 pages | 380g | 145*210*18mm\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003eISBN13:\u003c\/strong\u003e 9791190488594\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:100%;margin-bottom:5px;line-height:1.6em;font-size:14px\"\u003e - \u003cstrong\u003eISBN10:\u003c\/strong\u003e 1190488590 \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cspan\u003e\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/center\u003e","brand":"LIBRAIRIE COREENNE","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":43888978067498,"sku":"157305","price":24.0,"currency_code":"EUR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0683\/2750\/5962\/files\/2dafa01ba6bdfaae0027608617a7444e.jpg?v=1765218459","url":"https:\/\/librairie.coreenne.fr\/en\/products\/157305","provider":"LIBRAIRIE COREENNE","version":"1.0","type":"link"}