"Middle School Students' Language Study" is a book filled with love and trust for middle school students.
The author, who has worked as a middle school teacher for 30 years, changed the paradigm for middle school students by publishing “Middle School Students, the Age That Calls for Miracles,” which supports the special growth of middle school students.
The author has worked as a middle school education expert for 10 years, meeting parents, teachers, and youth across the country.
Teenagers want to laugh and chat with their friends and become closer, but sometimes they feel embarrassed because they don't know what to say.
When talking to parents, teachers, or other adults, you may feel frustrated or upset because you can't communicate.


"Middle School Students' Language Study" is a book that offers a warm answer to these concerns of young people.
This book focuses on providing practical methods for middle school students to communicate with friends and parents, understand others' feelings, and express their thoughts concretely in the various situations they face every day.
In this book, the author respects middle school students as masters of their own lives and suggests that they study speaking.
I encourage middle school students by saying, “You have grown enough to be able to talk to yourself and others.”
In this book, you can learn case-specific conversation techniques for various situations, such as conversation techniques to improve relationships that we experience in daily life, conversation techniques when apologizing, and conversation techniques when rejecting someone.


The primary readers of this book are middle school students.
The author completed the first draft after conducting several years of case studies and meeting with middle school students. He then met with the book's primary readers—middle school students, high school students, parents of teenagers, and teachers—to discuss and receive feedback, and faithfully reflected the content in publishing the book.
Therefore, this book has the great advantage of vividly bringing voices from the field and real-world examples to life within the text.
Middle school is a time of growth and change at an incredible pace.
The wide range of emotional changes can be difficult for family members who share daily life with them, but if you wait a little, their ability to sort things out on their own is amazing.
Above all, it is a period of great absorbency like a sponge, so it is characterized by good learning.
We believe and expect that teenagers will develop great relationships with their peers and grow significantly through 『Middle School Students' Language Study』.
I support middle school students' language studies.

For example, adolescent girls have language skills that are about twice as good as adolescent boys of the same age.
You can think of it as growing up about two years faster.
The ability to understand language and the ability to express language are both the same.
The fact that female students take the initiative in expressing opinions, persuading, and pushing forward in class meetings and club projects is also due to the difference in growth rates.
The same thing happens when boys and girls of the same age argue.
Female students speak more logically and faster.
On the other hand, male students appear to be a bit hesitant.
However, boys' ability to explore and perceive new spaces develops faster than girls'.
When entering a new space, boys are quicker to identify locations and are more curious and interested in the objects that make up the space (of course, there are individual differences here as well).
I am very interested in space, so I like to go there and look around and observe.
Perhaps that's why male teenagers are often criticized for being distracted or restless.
After puberty, around the third year of middle school, girls and boys develop similarly and in a balanced manner, including cognitive abilities such as language comprehension and language expression, as well as spatial exploration and perception.
When I meet my classmates from my first year at a co-ed school again in my third year, I am impressed by their mature appearance.
I also wonder, “Is this really that kid?”
Then, when they reach high school, developmental differences based on gender become almost invisible.
From this point on, differences between individuals, not just gender differences, are starting to appear.
It is about growing according to each person's individuality.
As your ability to form social relationships improves, your ability to move beyond self-centeredness and consider others' perspectives also increases.
--- From "Characteristics of Adolescent Brain Development"

One day, ○○ decided to reduce the time he spent looking at his smartphone and exercise to build muscle.
I've heard that if you're healthy, you can endure difficult situations relatively well.
Rather than doing anything special, I decided to use the time I spent commuting to and from school.
In the morning, I stand on the bus and keep raising and lowering my heels, and when I go home from school, I get off two stops early and walk home.
○○ has been keeping this resolution for three weeks now.
However, when □□ found out about this, he said this.
“Hey, do you think that’ll make you a muscular man? You should just quit going to the gym!”
○○ suddenly felt very hurt.
I've been consistently working on a plan for change for a while, but it might not seem like much to others.
Because everyone evaluates others from their own perspective and position.
They may disparage me by saying, "I'm trying in vain," because they don't know what kind of determination I have and how hard I'm working.
But other people don't know anything about me.
I have no idea why I made that decision or what purpose it serves.
So, I don't have to worry too much about other people unilaterally defining and evaluating me, right?
--- From "If you want to ruin a relationship, do this"

Through this experiment, researchers found that when the human brain is cursed, it becomes tense and activates areas of emotion and anger, while areas of reason become less active.
As we can see from the study, when we hear other words along with a curse, the curse is left as the strongest impression on the human brain, and it is remembered for a long time, strengthening the brain cells in that area.
Memories of other vocabulary words heard together do not last long and become weak.
It has been specifically revealed that swearing a lot ultimately weakens one's ability to understand sentences and express oneself in language.
Considering that the growth and development of the human brain is closely related to language ability, it is understandable to nod in agreement with the research results that show that the more you swear, the weaker your thinking ability becomes, ultimately leading to lower intelligence.
Students who are friends with a child who swears usually defend their friend by saying that he or she is a good person.
“He’s a good kid by nature.
“I just swear.” That’s what it means.
But there is a strange characteristic to ‘swearing’.
The point is that if you do it, you will do it more often and you will swear more and more harshly.
Because of this, I often end up swearing out of habit and leading to unnecessary misunderstandings.
Cursing is a form of violence that expresses anger, rage, dissatisfaction, and feelings of disregard or contempt for the other person.
It's a precursor to physical violence.
If you are swearing and speaking in a commanding tone, you can quickly turn violent if the other person does not do as you wish.
This is why you shouldn't ignore the curse.
People who swear often often harbor feelings of anger, dissatisfaction, and resentment inside.
Without even realizing it, these negative emotions build up deep inside your heart.
It would be a good idea to try not to express your feelings directly in your daily life.
--- From "How to Talk About Violence"

It doesn't feel good when my parents praise other people or my siblings in my presence.
I also start to think, 'What, are you expecting me to listen to this?' and I feel like I'm being secretly compared to you, which makes me feel uncomfortable.
I want to tell them not to keep comparing themselves, but I'm afraid I'll be accused of being narrow-minded, so I'll just hold back.
If this happens two or three times, you may start to feel resentful towards your parents.
In such cases, instead of venting your frustrations in front of other family members, I recommend having a more formal and objective conversation, such as, “Mom, would you like to go on a date with me this weekend?”
It's nice to talk while taking a walk in the park, or it's nice to chat over a cup of tea at a local teahouse.
“I was very upset when my mom compared me to ◇◇.”
“If you have any requests for me, please let me know directly.”
“Please don’t compare me to ◇◇.
“I’m also trying my best.”
“I’m really interested in game stories these days.
I think games are more fun when they add imagination to the legends and historical facts we know.
I'm very interested in that field these days, so I'm researching and digging up information about it.
But to my mom, it might seem like I don't study and only like playing games."
Speaking honestly like this also puts my parents' minds at ease.
You might think that you have grown a lot without realizing it.
By expressing your dissatisfaction in this way rather than avoiding the situation, you will also strengthen your own mind.
As I said before, words not only convey thoughts, but also allow us to come up with new ideas and gain the power to think.
--- From "When Parents Make Comparisons"

A marked the answer sheet incorrectly.
I failed the test because I was pushed back one line at a time.
B sprained his ankle during gym class and was unable to attend an important camp.
C borrowed a valuable instrument from a friend, but he dropped it and ended up paying the money without being able to perform.
Anyone can find themselves in a dark situation due to an unexpected mistake.
And some days, bad luck comes all at once, to the point where you can't tell if it's a dream or reality.
I'm going crazy thinking, 'I'm so unlucky!', but my mom just sighs when she sees me like that.
Even in these circumstances, I inevitably get hungry when the time comes.
I was taking food out of the fridge and eating it when my mom sat down next to me.
I felt embarrassed and smiled at my mom, but she scolded me, saying, “Are you out of your mind?”
“You didn’t do it on purpose.” “I know that.” “So what?” the words rise to the top of my lungs.
I feel like throwing everything away.
What should you do in this situation? Tell your parents honestly, "I'm having a hard time right now, too." or "I'd like to talk to you after I rest for a bit."
You can say, “I tried to do my best, but I caused you concern.”
By saying this, you will be able to calm down and your parents will understand your feelings.
Then go outside and move your body and walk around a bit.
Looking at the sky, looking at the trees… Instead of closing the door and lying down in the room, going outside and starting to walk will heal your broken heart.
New energy slowly rises from deep within.
Then that's it.
Even though it's hard, time passes and life goes on.
When you're hungry, you have to eat, and when morning comes, another day begins.

--- From "It's Okay, Everything's Okay"