{"product_id":"164487","title":"The Surprising Purpose of Anger ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/3jYFtqXMtsLGiwU3v3I7QJRpJkHBst.png?v=1764973738\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e The Surprising Purpose of Anger \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd 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style=\"line-height:1.2em;text-align:center;font-size:18px;color:black;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px;\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/goods\/45069085\/XL\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;{split_style6}padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e Description \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e The fifth book in the 'Nonviolent Communication Small Book Series' published by the Korea NVC Center (Korea Center for Nonviolent Communication).\u003cbr\u003e Marshall Rosenberg, author of Nonviolent Communication, guides us on how to properly handle and fully express anger.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Introduction\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 1: What is Nonviolent Communication?\u003cbr\u003e Anger and Nonviolent Communication\u003cbr\u003e It works even if it's just one person\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 2: Steps to Dealing with Anger\u003cbr\u003e First and second steps \u003cbr\u003eEvaluation provokes anger\u003cbr\u003e Stimulus vs.\u003cbr\u003e cause\u003cbr\u003e Comparison of stimulus and cause\u003cbr\u003e Third step\u003cbr\u003e judgment\u003cbr\u003e Developing a Vocabulary of Needs\u003cbr\u003e Fourth step\u003cbr\u003e Punishment and anger\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 3: Murder is too superficial\u003cbr\u003e At the workshop\u003cbr\u003e From the philosophical to the methodological and practical\u003cbr\u003e Case: A woman's anger\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 4: How to Make Others Understand Our Feelings and Desires\u003cbr\u003e Enjoy the 'judgment show' going on in your head\u003cbr\u003e Take your time\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Summary: Thoughts on Anger\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e supplement\u003cbr\u003e How to Apply NVC\u003cbr\u003e List of Feelings (Examples)\u003cbr\u003e List of universal desires\u003cbr\u003e About CNVC and the Korea NVC Center (Korea Center for Nonviolent Communication)\u003cbr\u003e Books and teaching aids published by the Korea NVC Center\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Anger is a precious gift\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When anger comes, we feel it.\u003cbr\u003e The face becomes red and the field of vision narrows.\u003cbr\u003e All kinds of judgments swirl around in my mind, making my heart beat faster.\u003cbr\u003e Eventually, our anger explodes, and we say or do something that makes the situation worse. \u003cbr\u003eAnger breeds anger, and arguments lead to fistfights.\u003cbr\u003e The hatred and disgust that are widespread in our society also have their roots in anger.\u003cbr\u003e Because anger often leads to negative outcomes, people tend to view anger as something to be suppressed or denied.\u003cbr\u003e I see it as a sign of lack of self-control and an immature personality.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Author Marshall Rosenberg challenges the conventional wisdom that anger must be suppressed.\u003cbr\u003e Anger is an alarm that tells us that our needs are not being met, and therefore a gift that leads us to connect with what is precious within.\u003cbr\u003e How can we achieve this \"amazing purpose\" of anger? Simply follow the four-step process the author outlines.\u003cbr\u003e Marshall Rosenberg teaches a process of peacefully resolving problems by applying the principles of nonviolent communication—observation, feeling, need, request—to dealing with anger. \u003cbr\u003eWe provide concrete guidance on the method through real-life examples and clearly answer questions from workshop attendees.\u003cbr\u003e This is a much-needed book in today's world, where anger is rampant.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e In \"The Surprising Purpose of Anger,\" Marshall Rosenberg shares his unique insights into the role anger can play in our lives.\u003cbr\u003e He challenges our idea that anger must be suppressed, saying that anger is actually a gift.\u003cbr\u003e It is a gift that leads us to connect with our unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Nonviolent Communication (NVC) emphasizes that it is dangerous to view anger as something to be suppressed or as something bad.\u003cbr\u003e When we see anger as something that happened because of our own fault, we tend to suppress it and try to avoid it.\u003cbr\u003e When we suppress and deny our anger like that, it's easy to express it in ways that are very harmful to ourselves and others.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThe first step to managing anger using NVC is to recognize that what triggers our anger and what causes it are different things.\u003cbr\u003e What I'm saying is that we don't get angry because of what the other person did, but because of something inside us that reacts to it.\u003cbr\u003e Therefore, we must be able to distinguish between stimulus and cause.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The first step in expressing anger and managing it in accordance with NVC principles is to identify what triggered our anger without judging it.\u003cbr\u003e The second step is to recognize that our evaluation of the other person, expressed in judgments that imply fault, is the very cause of our anger.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The third step is to find the desire that is the root of the anger.\u003cbr\u003e The underlying assumption is that we get angry because our needs are not being met. \u003cbr\u003eThe problem is that we are not connected to our desires.\u003cbr\u003e Instead of connecting directly with our needs, we go into our heads and start blaming the other person for what they did wrong in relation to our unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e The judgments we make about others are the source of our anger, which is in reality a 'tragic expression of unmet needs.'\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The natural function of emotions is to stimulate us to fulfill our needs.\u003cbr\u003e But anger is triggered by anything that diverts our attention.\u003cbr\u003e When we are angry, we are disconnected from the desires that naturally drive us to seek fulfillment.\u003cbr\u003e As I mentioned earlier, anger is triggered by the belief that someone else is at fault, which then shifts the energy from seeking to satisfy our needs to blaming and punishing others.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eIn the fourth step, we tell the other person four pieces of information.\u003cbr\u003e First, identify what the stimulus is.\u003cbr\u003e It's about uncovering what our unmet needs were and what the other person's behavior was that caused the conflict.\u003cbr\u003e Second, it expresses our feelings.\u003cbr\u003e Please note that we are not suppressing our anger at this point.\u003cbr\u003e Anger turned into feelings like sadness, pain, fear, and frustration.\u003cbr\u003e Third, after expressing our feelings, we reveal our unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e And following the three pieces of information above, we make 'clear and practical requests of what we want from the other person' in relation to our feelings and unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Expressing anger fully means not only revealing the deep emotions behind it, but also making sure the other person understands them. \u003cbr\u003eWe need to acquire some skills to do the job.\u003cbr\u003e I need to develop some skills.\u003cbr\u003e For example, when you want to gain understanding from someone, the best way is to empathize with them first.\u003cbr\u003e The more I empathize with what led the other person to act the way they did, the more likely I am to fully listen and understand the depth of my experience with them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Take your time.\u003cbr\u003e Yes, sometimes it feels awkward to not act the way I was taught, but I want to take my time and live a life that aligns with the values ​​I hold dear, rather than a robotic life where I automatically follow the programs our culture has instilled in me.\u003cbr\u003e So take your time and take it slow.\u003cbr\u003e It may feel awkward, but that's just how I live. \u003cbr\u003eTo live the life I want, I will take my time and do it slowly.\u003cbr\u003e Even if it makes me look like an idiot.\u003cbr\u003e In \"The Surprising Purpose of Anger,\" Marshall Rosenberg shares his unique insights into the role anger can play in our lives.\u003cbr\u003e He challenges our idea that anger must be suppressed, saying that anger is actually a gift.\u003cbr\u003e It is a gift that leads us to connect with our unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Nonviolent Communication (NVC) emphasizes that it is dangerous to suppress anger or to view it as something bad.\u003cbr\u003e When we see anger as something that happened because of our own fault, we tend to suppress it and try to avoid it.\u003cbr\u003e When we suppress and deny our anger like that, it's easy to express it in ways that are very harmful to ourselves and others.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThe first step to managing anger using NVC is to recognize that what triggers our anger and what causes it are different things.\u003cbr\u003e What I'm saying is that we don't get angry because of what the other person did, but because of something inside us that reacts to it.\u003cbr\u003e Therefore, we must be able to distinguish between stimulus and cause.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The first step in expressing anger and managing it in accordance with NVC principles is to identify what triggered our anger without judging it.\u003cbr\u003e The second step is to recognize that our evaluation of the other person, expressed in judgments that imply fault, is the very cause of our anger.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The third step is to find the desire that is the root of the anger.\u003cbr\u003e The underlying assumption is that we get angry because our needs are not being met. \u003cbr\u003eThe problem is that we are not connected to our desires.\u003cbr\u003e Instead of connecting directly with our needs, we go into our heads and start blaming the other person for what they did wrong in relation to our unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e The judgments we make about others are the source of our anger, which is in reality a 'tragic expression of unmet needs.'\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The natural function of emotions is to stimulate us to fulfill our needs.\u003cbr\u003e But anger is triggered by anything that diverts our attention.\u003cbr\u003e When we are angry, we are disconnected from the desires that naturally drive us to seek fulfillment.\u003cbr\u003e As I mentioned earlier, anger is triggered by the belief that someone else is at fault, which then shifts the energy from seeking to satisfy our needs to blaming and punishing others.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eIn the fourth step, we tell the other person four pieces of information.\u003cbr\u003e First, identify what the stimulus is.\u003cbr\u003e It's about uncovering what our unmet needs were and what the other person's behavior was that caused the conflict.\u003cbr\u003e Second, it expresses our feelings.\u003cbr\u003e Please note that we are not suppressing our anger at this point.\u003cbr\u003e Anger turned into feelings like sadness, pain, fear, and frustration.\u003cbr\u003e Third, after expressing our feelings, we reveal our unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e And following the three pieces of information above, we make 'clear and practical requests of what we want from the other person' in relation to our feelings and unmet needs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Expressing anger fully means not only revealing the deep emotions behind it, but also making sure the other person understands them. \u003cbr\u003eWe need to acquire some skills to do the job.\u003cbr\u003e I need to develop some skills.\u003cbr\u003e For example, when you want to gain understanding from someone, the best way is to empathize with them first.\u003cbr\u003e The more I empathize with what led the other person to act the way they did, the more likely I am to fully listen and understand the depth of my experience with them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Take your time.\u003cbr\u003e Yes, sometimes it feels awkward to not act the way I was taught, but I want to take my time and live a life that aligns with the values ​​I hold dear, rather than a robotic life where I automatically follow the programs our culture has instilled in me.\u003cbr\u003e So take your time and take it slow.\u003cbr\u003e It may feel awkward, but that's just how I live. \u003cbr\u003eTo live the life I want, I will take my time and do it slowly.\u003cbr\u003e Even if it makes me look like an idiot.\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv 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