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The only love classic of the 21st century, following in the footsteps of "The Art of Loving."
"All About Love" is considered the only classic work on love of the 21st century, following Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving." It is also considered the most popular and representative work of bell hooks, who had the greatest influence on feminism in this century, and a culmination of her thoughts.
Bell hooks served as a professor of English at Yale University and Oberlin College, and is currently a Distinguished Professor of English at the City University of New York.
She writes on a variety of topics including class, race, women, gender, peace, and education, and was selected as one of the '100 Intellectuals Who Will Change Your Life' by the global alternative media outlet [Uton Leader].
Bell hooks points out that despite the fact that many psychoanalysts, from Erich Fromm in the 1950s to Scott Peck today, have critiqued the concept of "falling in love," we still cling to the illusion because "falling in love" is much easier than "choosing love with will."
Furthermore, he emphasizes that education about love must begin with a correct definition of the word love, and that this will serve as a map to guide us on our journey toward love.
The book is a textbook on love for the unfortunate illiterate members of our generation who have not learned about love.
Love transforms a person's entire life.
In this sense, true love is like a ‘revolution.’
However, modern society prioritizes material things over people, and materialism makes people obsessed only with owning and consuming more.
The space that should be filled with warm relationships with others is filled with material greed and the desire for overconsumption.
That's why Hooks argues that to find love again, you must live a simple life without greed.
Therefore, he argues that the world we live in cannot be completely filled with love unless we improve the social environment and institutions surrounding individuals, including the current patriarchal and materialistic culture.
"All About Love" is considered the only classic work on love of the 21st century, following Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving." It is also considered the most popular and representative work of bell hooks, who had the greatest influence on feminism in this century, and a culmination of her thoughts.
Bell hooks served as a professor of English at Yale University and Oberlin College, and is currently a Distinguished Professor of English at the City University of New York.
She writes on a variety of topics including class, race, women, gender, peace, and education, and was selected as one of the '100 Intellectuals Who Will Change Your Life' by the global alternative media outlet [Uton Leader].
Bell hooks points out that despite the fact that many psychoanalysts, from Erich Fromm in the 1950s to Scott Peck today, have critiqued the concept of "falling in love," we still cling to the illusion because "falling in love" is much easier than "choosing love with will."
Furthermore, he emphasizes that education about love must begin with a correct definition of the word love, and that this will serve as a map to guide us on our journey toward love.
The book is a textbook on love for the unfortunate illiterate members of our generation who have not learned about love.
Love transforms a person's entire life.
In this sense, true love is like a ‘revolution.’
However, modern society prioritizes material things over people, and materialism makes people obsessed only with owning and consuming more.
The space that should be filled with warm relationships with others is filled with material greed and the desire for overconsumption.
That's why Hooks argues that to find love again, you must live a simple life without greed.
Therefore, he argues that the world we live in cannot be completely filled with love unless we improve the social environment and institutions surrounding individuals, including the current patriarchal and materialistic culture.
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introduction.
The Joy of Love
Declaration / The Age of Cynicism / Return / Two Perspectives on Love / Hope / To Reclaim Love
Chapter 1.
Clarity: Define Love
Defining / The Difference Between Affection and Love / Violence in the Name of Love / True Love Love is an Action, Not an Emotion
Chapter 2.
Fairness: A Lesson in Love
Contradiction / Misunderstanding / Abuse and Love Punishment and Respect
Chapter 3.
Honesty: Being True to Love
The Beginning of Lies / Manufactured Masculinity and Lies / Fair Love / Patriarchy and Women's Lies / Secrecy / Stopping the Lies
Chapter 4.
Dedication: Love with love
Self-love / Responsibility and confidence / The limits of self-deception / Work and career / Find the love you desire from others within yourself
Chapter 5.
Spirituality: Divine Love
The Hunger of the Soul / Secret and Mysterious Power / The Deepest Recesses of Everyday Life / The Awakening of the Soul
Chapter 6.
Values: Ethics of Love
There are no exceptions / Whose words will you believe / The ethics of love
Chapter 7.
Greed: Love Simply
The Shell of Life / A Vision Traded for Money / Another Name for Deficiency: Addiction / Materialized Love / Still, Money Can't Buy It / What to Risk / How to Turn Off Desire
Chapter 8.
Community: Communicating Love
The First Community to Experience Love / Friendship; The Foundation of Relationships / Empathize with Compassion and Respect with Forgiveness / Time for Alone / Service and Sacrifice / What You Can Do Now
Chapter 9.
Respect: The Essence of Love
The Order of Love vs. the Order of Power / Women and Men / The First Gate / There is No Love Without Pain / Beyond the Realm of Emotions
Chapter 10.
Romance: Sweet Love
The Trap of Romantic Love / Choose with Will / Longing for Sex, Longing for Love / Change the Language of Love / Complete Passion and True Love / True Love is Like a Revolution
Chapter 11.
Loss: Life, Death, and Love
The cult of death / Death is a part of life / Solace from grief / What it means to be alive 'here and now'
Chapter 12.
Healing: The Power of Love
Saving ourselves / Saving each other / Talking to the God within / Love knows no fear
Chapter 13.
Destiny: When Angels Speak of Love
Longing for Paradise / Fight or Flight / Facing the Wounds of Childhood / Love is the Fate of Man
Translator's Note
The Joy of Love
Declaration / The Age of Cynicism / Return / Two Perspectives on Love / Hope / To Reclaim Love
Chapter 1.
Clarity: Define Love
Defining / The Difference Between Affection and Love / Violence in the Name of Love / True Love Love is an Action, Not an Emotion
Chapter 2.
Fairness: A Lesson in Love
Contradiction / Misunderstanding / Abuse and Love Punishment and Respect
Chapter 3.
Honesty: Being True to Love
The Beginning of Lies / Manufactured Masculinity and Lies / Fair Love / Patriarchy and Women's Lies / Secrecy / Stopping the Lies
Chapter 4.
Dedication: Love with love
Self-love / Responsibility and confidence / The limits of self-deception / Work and career / Find the love you desire from others within yourself
Chapter 5.
Spirituality: Divine Love
The Hunger of the Soul / Secret and Mysterious Power / The Deepest Recesses of Everyday Life / The Awakening of the Soul
Chapter 6.
Values: Ethics of Love
There are no exceptions / Whose words will you believe / The ethics of love
Chapter 7.
Greed: Love Simply
The Shell of Life / A Vision Traded for Money / Another Name for Deficiency: Addiction / Materialized Love / Still, Money Can't Buy It / What to Risk / How to Turn Off Desire
Chapter 8.
Community: Communicating Love
The First Community to Experience Love / Friendship; The Foundation of Relationships / Empathize with Compassion and Respect with Forgiveness / Time for Alone / Service and Sacrifice / What You Can Do Now
Chapter 9.
Respect: The Essence of Love
The Order of Love vs. the Order of Power / Women and Men / The First Gate / There is No Love Without Pain / Beyond the Realm of Emotions
Chapter 10.
Romance: Sweet Love
The Trap of Romantic Love / Choose with Will / Longing for Sex, Longing for Love / Change the Language of Love / Complete Passion and True Love / True Love is Like a Revolution
Chapter 11.
Loss: Life, Death, and Love
The cult of death / Death is a part of life / Solace from grief / What it means to be alive 'here and now'
Chapter 12.
Healing: The Power of Love
Saving ourselves / Saving each other / Talking to the God within / Love knows no fear
Chapter 13.
Destiny: When Angels Speak of Love
Longing for Paradise / Fight or Flight / Facing the Wounds of Childhood / Love is the Fate of Man
Translator's Note
Into the book
Just as we need to plan our itinerary and mark our stops on a map to get to our desired destination when traveling, we also need a map to guide us on our journey toward love.
And the starting point is knowing exactly what we mean when we talk about love.
---「Chapter 1.
From "Clarity: Defining Love"
People don't think it's necessary to teach children how to love.
Children instinctively know the art of love.
But this is a misunderstanding among people.
It is true that newborn babies have an inherent will to love, but that does not mean they know how to love.
That is why adults must be guides of love to children.
---「Chapter 2.
From "Fairness: Lessons of Love"
Although they outwardly disguise themselves as patriarchal masculinity, many men actually consider themselves victims of a society bereft of love.
They, too, were taught as children to believe that their future lives would be filled with love, just like women.
They learn to act like love isn't that important, but deep down they crave it.
Such longings do not disappear just because you become an adult.
Perhaps lying is a way of expressing anger at the unrequited love.
They had to give up their longing for love in exchange for accepting patriarchy.
---「Chapter 3.
From "Honesty: Being True to Love"
Thrown into a narcissistic culture, we are obsessed with how to consume, without any concern for others.
Only greed and the ethics of domination that exploit others prevail.
As a result, alienation and the absence of love have become commonplace in our society.
The absence of spirituality and human emotions is filled with material greed and the desire for excessive consumption.
In a world without love, the desire to connect with others is inevitably overshadowed by the passion for possession.
---「Chapter 7.
Greed: From "Love Simply"
Love is helping others grow spiritually as well as oneself through mutual concern, respect, understanding, and responsibility for one another.
If we accept this definition of love, then we can say that the foundation of any love is the same.
There's nothing special about romantic love.
Whether you love yourself, your family, a friend, a lover, or someone else, the spirit of love is the same.
Of course, the degree of action and commitment will vary depending on the nature of the relationship, but it remains true that all actions must be based on the ethics of love.
---「Chapter 8.
Community: From “Community: Love in Sympathy”
In a society that discriminates between men and women, with the phrase "men are from Mars, women are from Venus," men are structured to inevitably desire power, while women are structured to desire emotional intimacy and connection.
In this world, no one has the opportunity to truly understand love.
Because the order of this world is power relations, not love.
For boys and girls, men and women who grow up receiving this kind of education, love is not important, and even if it were, it is relegated to nothing compared to holding power, dominating, and taking the lead.
---「Chapter 9.
From "Respect: The Essence of Love"
We often mistake perfect passion for perfect love.
'Perfect passion' happens when you meet a partner who seems to have everything you want.
I say 'seemingly' because when you feel strongly connected to someone, you get blindfolded.
---「Chapter 10.
From "Romance: Sweet Love"
The reason we crave love so much but then turn away from it is because we fear that if we believe in the truth of love and make it the guide of our lives, we will be hit in the back of the head later.
Of course, you can be betrayed while in love.
But love has the power to face betrayal with courage and not be discouraged.
In this way, it re-arms our souls and enables us to love again.
And the starting point is knowing exactly what we mean when we talk about love.
---「Chapter 1.
From "Clarity: Defining Love"
People don't think it's necessary to teach children how to love.
Children instinctively know the art of love.
But this is a misunderstanding among people.
It is true that newborn babies have an inherent will to love, but that does not mean they know how to love.
That is why adults must be guides of love to children.
---「Chapter 2.
From "Fairness: Lessons of Love"
Although they outwardly disguise themselves as patriarchal masculinity, many men actually consider themselves victims of a society bereft of love.
They, too, were taught as children to believe that their future lives would be filled with love, just like women.
They learn to act like love isn't that important, but deep down they crave it.
Such longings do not disappear just because you become an adult.
Perhaps lying is a way of expressing anger at the unrequited love.
They had to give up their longing for love in exchange for accepting patriarchy.
---「Chapter 3.
From "Honesty: Being True to Love"
Thrown into a narcissistic culture, we are obsessed with how to consume, without any concern for others.
Only greed and the ethics of domination that exploit others prevail.
As a result, alienation and the absence of love have become commonplace in our society.
The absence of spirituality and human emotions is filled with material greed and the desire for excessive consumption.
In a world without love, the desire to connect with others is inevitably overshadowed by the passion for possession.
---「Chapter 7.
Greed: From "Love Simply"
Love is helping others grow spiritually as well as oneself through mutual concern, respect, understanding, and responsibility for one another.
If we accept this definition of love, then we can say that the foundation of any love is the same.
There's nothing special about romantic love.
Whether you love yourself, your family, a friend, a lover, or someone else, the spirit of love is the same.
Of course, the degree of action and commitment will vary depending on the nature of the relationship, but it remains true that all actions must be based on the ethics of love.
---「Chapter 8.
Community: From “Community: Love in Sympathy”
In a society that discriminates between men and women, with the phrase "men are from Mars, women are from Venus," men are structured to inevitably desire power, while women are structured to desire emotional intimacy and connection.
In this world, no one has the opportunity to truly understand love.
Because the order of this world is power relations, not love.
For boys and girls, men and women who grow up receiving this kind of education, love is not important, and even if it were, it is relegated to nothing compared to holding power, dominating, and taking the lead.
---「Chapter 9.
From "Respect: The Essence of Love"
We often mistake perfect passion for perfect love.
'Perfect passion' happens when you meet a partner who seems to have everything you want.
I say 'seemingly' because when you feel strongly connected to someone, you get blindfolded.
---「Chapter 10.
From "Romance: Sweet Love"
The reason we crave love so much but then turn away from it is because we fear that if we believe in the truth of love and make it the guide of our lives, we will be hit in the back of the head later.
Of course, you can be betrayed while in love.
But love has the power to face betrayal with courage and not be discouraged.
In this way, it re-arms our souls and enables us to love again.
---「Chapter 13.
From "Fate: When Angels Speak of Love"
From "Fate: When Angels Speak of Love"
Publisher's Review
1.
The only love classic of the 21st century, following Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving.
"All About Love" is considered the only classic work on love of the 21st century, following Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving." It is also considered the most popular and representative work of bell hooks, who had the greatest influence on feminism in this century, and a culmination of her thoughts.
Bell hooks points out that despite the fact that many psychoanalysts, from Erich Fromm in the 1950s to Scott Peck today, have critiqued the concept of "falling in love," we still cling to the illusion because "falling in love" is much easier than "choosing love with will."
Furthermore, he emphasizes that education about love must begin with a correct definition of the word love, and that this will serve as a map to guide us on our journey toward love.
The book is a textbook on love for the unfortunate illiterate members of our generation who have not learned about love.
2.
One of the 100 intellectuals who will change your life, bell hooks' clear answers about love.
Bell hooks served as a professor of English at Yale University and Oberlin College, and is currently a Distinguished Professor of English at the City University of New York.
She writes on a variety of topics including class, race, women, gender, peace, and education, and was selected as one of the '100 Intellectuals Who Will Change Your Life' by the global alternative media outlet [Uton Leader].
[The Atlantic Monthly] cited bell hooks as a new intellectual with both moral imagination and critical knowledge.
As a black woman, bell hooks has long suffered from the scars of discrimination and heartbreak.
And while struggling with illness, he began to delve into the topic of true love, and as a result of his own experiences, he published this book, “All About Love.”
The book criticizes the prejudices and distortions about love that the world imposes.
And it reveals the true meaning of love by examining our love today through 13 frames, including love between lovers, love between parents and children, friendship, community, and spirituality.
3.
Desire, obsession, hurt, anxiety, jealousy, cynicism, dominance…
A Healing Philosophy for Those Suffering from Distorted Love
We long for love, but we lack the courage to take risks to get it.
While obsessively clinging to the desire to love and be loved, they often lead a reasonably satisfying and comfortable life.
Sometimes, we mistake unconditional affection for someone for love, and sometimes we mistake a situation where we fall deeply emotionally for someone and cannot get out of it for love.
Bell hooks says that the reason we are so obsessed with love, and ultimately fear and cynical about it, is because we have never been properly guided on the path of love in our lives.
I wonder how different the world would be if we had learned to love from a young age.
He defines love as the will to expand the self for the spiritual growth of oneself and others, and suggests that affection is only one element of love, and that in order to truly love, one must possess all the conditions of love, including interest and care for the other person, an attitude of acknowledging and respecting the other person, trust and devotion toward the other person, and honest and open communication.
4.
To love is to find oneself in the other.
To love is to be connected to others, to discover oneself in the other.
The author says that, contrary to popular belief, love is not a 'connection of heart and heart' but a 'connection of soul and soul'.
'Soul-to-soul connection' is about discovering the essential beauty hidden behind the appearance of a loved one, and suggests 'acceptance of who we are' as a prerequisite for this.
However, he says that this 'soul-to-soul connection' requires the courage to reject the existing position that talks about the essential differences between men and women and ultimately forces women to accept male characteristics, as in books like 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'.
It also emphasizes that realizing how much love is missing within ourselves and confessing that absence, even if it is painful, is one way we can get back on the path to love.
5.
Love is a 'revolution' that transforms your entire life.
And love is the most revolutionary idea
Love transforms a person's entire life.
In this sense, true love is like a ‘revolution.’
However, modern society prioritizes material things over people, and materialism makes people obsessed only with owning and consuming more.
The space that should be filled with warm relationships with others is filled with material greed and the desire for overconsumption.
Greed robs us of love and solidarity between people.
That's why Hooks argues that to find love again, you must live a simple life without greed.
Therefore, he argues that the world we live in cannot be completely filled with love unless we improve the social environment and institutions surrounding individuals, including the current patriarchal and materialistic culture.
She claims.
In a society where love is impoverished, people will turn a blind eye to the poverty, suffering, and illness of others, and will ultimately feel a sense of endless emptiness and be left to suffer.
The only love classic of the 21st century, following Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving.
"All About Love" is considered the only classic work on love of the 21st century, following Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving." It is also considered the most popular and representative work of bell hooks, who had the greatest influence on feminism in this century, and a culmination of her thoughts.
Bell hooks points out that despite the fact that many psychoanalysts, from Erich Fromm in the 1950s to Scott Peck today, have critiqued the concept of "falling in love," we still cling to the illusion because "falling in love" is much easier than "choosing love with will."
Furthermore, he emphasizes that education about love must begin with a correct definition of the word love, and that this will serve as a map to guide us on our journey toward love.
The book is a textbook on love for the unfortunate illiterate members of our generation who have not learned about love.
2.
One of the 100 intellectuals who will change your life, bell hooks' clear answers about love.
Bell hooks served as a professor of English at Yale University and Oberlin College, and is currently a Distinguished Professor of English at the City University of New York.
She writes on a variety of topics including class, race, women, gender, peace, and education, and was selected as one of the '100 Intellectuals Who Will Change Your Life' by the global alternative media outlet [Uton Leader].
[The Atlantic Monthly] cited bell hooks as a new intellectual with both moral imagination and critical knowledge.
As a black woman, bell hooks has long suffered from the scars of discrimination and heartbreak.
And while struggling with illness, he began to delve into the topic of true love, and as a result of his own experiences, he published this book, “All About Love.”
The book criticizes the prejudices and distortions about love that the world imposes.
And it reveals the true meaning of love by examining our love today through 13 frames, including love between lovers, love between parents and children, friendship, community, and spirituality.
3.
Desire, obsession, hurt, anxiety, jealousy, cynicism, dominance…
A Healing Philosophy for Those Suffering from Distorted Love
We long for love, but we lack the courage to take risks to get it.
While obsessively clinging to the desire to love and be loved, they often lead a reasonably satisfying and comfortable life.
Sometimes, we mistake unconditional affection for someone for love, and sometimes we mistake a situation where we fall deeply emotionally for someone and cannot get out of it for love.
Bell hooks says that the reason we are so obsessed with love, and ultimately fear and cynical about it, is because we have never been properly guided on the path of love in our lives.
I wonder how different the world would be if we had learned to love from a young age.
He defines love as the will to expand the self for the spiritual growth of oneself and others, and suggests that affection is only one element of love, and that in order to truly love, one must possess all the conditions of love, including interest and care for the other person, an attitude of acknowledging and respecting the other person, trust and devotion toward the other person, and honest and open communication.
4.
To love is to find oneself in the other.
To love is to be connected to others, to discover oneself in the other.
The author says that, contrary to popular belief, love is not a 'connection of heart and heart' but a 'connection of soul and soul'.
'Soul-to-soul connection' is about discovering the essential beauty hidden behind the appearance of a loved one, and suggests 'acceptance of who we are' as a prerequisite for this.
However, he says that this 'soul-to-soul connection' requires the courage to reject the existing position that talks about the essential differences between men and women and ultimately forces women to accept male characteristics, as in books like 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'.
It also emphasizes that realizing how much love is missing within ourselves and confessing that absence, even if it is painful, is one way we can get back on the path to love.
5.
Love is a 'revolution' that transforms your entire life.
And love is the most revolutionary idea
Love transforms a person's entire life.
In this sense, true love is like a ‘revolution.’
However, modern society prioritizes material things over people, and materialism makes people obsessed only with owning and consuming more.
The space that should be filled with warm relationships with others is filled with material greed and the desire for overconsumption.
Greed robs us of love and solidarity between people.
That's why Hooks argues that to find love again, you must live a simple life without greed.
Therefore, he argues that the world we live in cannot be completely filled with love unless we improve the social environment and institutions surrounding individuals, including the current patriarchal and materialistic culture.
She claims.
In a society where love is impoverished, people will turn a blind eye to the poverty, suffering, and illness of others, and will ultimately feel a sense of endless emptiness and be left to suffer.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of publication: October 19, 2012
- Page count, weight, size: 302 pages | 440g | 146*220*30mm
- ISBN13: 9788962604221
- ISBN10: 8962604221
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