“Why do I get so upset about a wrinkle on your wrist?”
The surprising possibilities of love explored in "Chungko's Philosophy."
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We're surrounded by a plethora of content about love. Numerous romantic programs on TV and OTT platforms are wildly popular, creating daily buzz.
Even on YouTube, content offering love advice garners millions of views.
It is truly an era overflowing with the desire for love.
But paradoxically, it is said that more than two-thirds of today's 2030 generation of young people are not in love.
What does this gap mean? Why, and when, did our love become so difficult?

Philosopher Lee Chung-nyeong, who runs the YouTube channel [Chungko's Philosophy] that explores various issues in life, talks about the reality that everyone is crazy about love, but paradoxically, it is becoming increasingly difficult to love.
Love is not about figuring out how to win the other person's heart 'efficiently' or how to avoid 'losing' in a relationship, but rather feeling moved by even a single wrinkle on the other person's wrist.
What we need now is not a technique or a correct answer to love 'efficiently', but a proper understanding of love.


"A Tender Philosophy Book for the Most Private Relationships" is a humanities book that philosophically examines and understands the various aspects of love.
Through the author's deeply personal experiences as well as deep intellectual exploration that crosses over philosophy, psychology, literature, and art, the book explores the infinite possibilities of love.
Along this journey, you will come to realize the true meaning of love as perceived by yourself, not by society or others.

What is love? The value of love lies at a deeper level than sensual pleasure or emotional satisfaction.
It is the journey of a being exiled from a primordial paradise of ignorance and meaninglessness, facing the harsh world together with other beings who have suffered a similar fate.
It is a process of you and I walking this difficult path together, discovering the meaning of this world and our lives that we would never have realized on our own.

--- 「1.
From “Exile and Possibility”

The freedom we can enjoy in reality is not pure individual freedom.
It's always freedom in relationships.
A person blinded by selfishness perceives this relationship as a limitation, a restraint, a constraint.
Just as an irresponsible person finds the relationships and obligations that come with love frustrating.
On the other hand, a person who loves someone responsibly knows that only when he stands on the foundation of this relationship and obligation can he realize what he 'truly' desires.
What I want and what the other person wants are not in conflict, but rather in harmony.

--- 「2.
From "Does Love Constrain Freedom?"

Schopenhauer said, “When alone, a small-minded person feels his incompetence and worthlessness, but a great person feels his greatness more clearly.” But in reality, most of us, ordinary people, choose to continue to be ‘connected’ with others, even if it means experiencing some discomfort.
Because that is a much more convenient way to achieve moderate happiness.
But the experience of going through the death of a loved one makes such comparisons meaningless.
Regardless of what others say, it becomes much more important to think about the unique possibilities given to 'us' and to realize those possibilities.

--- 「10.
From "If you love, it is better to think about death"

Beauvoir identified narcissism and devotion as two aspects of failed love.
Narcissism is loving for self-gratification.
On the other hand, devotion is loving only for the satisfaction of the other person.
Although these two loves seem diametrically opposed, they both have something in common: they erase subjectivity.
A narcissistic love erases the subjectivity of the other person.
Committed love erases one's own subjectivity. The modern public's intense interest in typologies like the MBTI reflects a mixture of these two failed loves.

--- 「11.
From "What is your MBTI?"

Misconduct, pornography, and adultery all have one thing in common: they involve an imaginary relationship with the object.
A miser values ​​his treasures more than they really are.
People who watch pornography exaggerate their image as sexual objects to an extreme.
People who commit adultery often mistake the relationship for something newer and more exciting than it really is.
But the moment imagination loses its power, these relationships quickly fall apart.
True love still feels beautiful even when faced with a partner who is different from what one expected, but relationships based on imagination are disappointed and feel betrayed when faced with this truth.
But the main culprit of this betrayal is always oneself.
My imagination is betraying me.

--- 「12.
From "What Misers, Pornography, and Adultery Have in Common"

We need to note that transfer is an expression that indicates a first-person experience.
I am the subject of the transfer.
This expression contains an attitude of not considering the other person as an equal subject.
There is no indication of an experience in which two different people meet and become one new subject.
As we use such self-centered words naturally, and as we live in a modern society where everything is fluid and interchangeable, we increasingly lose the ability to regard others as subjects rather than means.

--- 「18.
From "Why Transfer Romance is Exciting"

The foolish drifter character in the film "City Lights" shows the possibility of love outside the capitalist framework.
He is so stupid that he cannot follow the demands of society.
They may not know how to act in accordance with the common sense of the times and pursue profit.
But that's why I love differently from others.
He finds his own happiness in working for the happiness of those he loves.
Happiness comes as a secondary consequence of striving for that goal.
He doesn't know how to trade.
I don't even know what the loss is.
Because of this ignorance, he is free from the compulsive anxiety of modern man to avoid loss.

--- 「20.
From "How to Learn Love from a Fool"

We must preserve the diverse possibilities of love.
We must recall the various forms of love that are increasingly being forgotten, and capture the phenomenon of love being pushed out of society.
The love we think is impossible will actually turn out to be impossible.
Only the love that is believed to be possible will actually be possible.
So, what kind of love do you dream of now?

--- 「In conclusion.
From "May all possibilities of love come true"