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Book Introduction
Covert narcissists are the most difficult type to diagnose because they are so disguised and manipulative.
They are kind and cruel, affectionate and unpleasant.
Unlike the 'overt narcissists' who are outwardly visible, they hide their darker traits.
Overt narcissists brag about how great they are and are direct, whereas covert narcissists appear calm, rational, and humble.
They act in a way that makes people like them because they know exactly what people dislike.
They create the image of being a 'caring person' and a 'great caregiver', but it's all just an act.
It's common for people to be married to a covert narcissist for 10, 20, or even 40 years without realizing they're being abused, and children of covert narcissistic parents often don't see the other side until they're in their 30s.
Covert narcissists attack others with subtly irritating attitudes, snickering and belittling conversations, and inconsistent behavior.
Although there may be no visible scars, the psychological impact they have is so profound that victims face inexplicable fatigue, health problems, sexual confusion, loneliness, depression, and unhappiness.
Therefore, we must be aware of their presence, which is more dangerous because it is invisible and slowly saps our life force.
This book thoroughly describes the typical behavioral patterns and characteristics of covert narcissists, explaining how they control and manipulate their victims through their words and actions.
Based on real-life cases of victims who have lived with covert narcissists for a long time, it shows what they do when they are spouses, parents, and coworkers.
You will find that seeing through the surface of a covert narcissist is the first step to healing and breaking free from them.
They are kind and cruel, affectionate and unpleasant.
Unlike the 'overt narcissists' who are outwardly visible, they hide their darker traits.
Overt narcissists brag about how great they are and are direct, whereas covert narcissists appear calm, rational, and humble.
They act in a way that makes people like them because they know exactly what people dislike.
They create the image of being a 'caring person' and a 'great caregiver', but it's all just an act.
It's common for people to be married to a covert narcissist for 10, 20, or even 40 years without realizing they're being abused, and children of covert narcissistic parents often don't see the other side until they're in their 30s.
Covert narcissists attack others with subtly irritating attitudes, snickering and belittling conversations, and inconsistent behavior.
Although there may be no visible scars, the psychological impact they have is so profound that victims face inexplicable fatigue, health problems, sexual confusion, loneliness, depression, and unhappiness.
Therefore, we must be aware of their presence, which is more dangerous because it is invisible and slowly saps our life force.
This book thoroughly describes the typical behavioral patterns and characteristics of covert narcissists, explaining how they control and manipulate their victims through their words and actions.
Based on real-life cases of victims who have lived with covert narcissists for a long time, it shows what they do when they are spouses, parents, and coworkers.
You will find that seeing through the surface of a covert narcissist is the first step to healing and breaking free from them.
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index
Introduction_ I decided not to doubt myself anymore.
Entering_ When I knew him, he was an introverted narcissist
1.
Who are covert passive-aggressive narcissists?
2.
Three stages: affection offensive, belittlement, and abandonment.
3.
Target characteristics
4.
Characteristics of a Covert Narcissist
5.
Control and manipulation
6.
When parents are covert narcissists
7.
At work
8.
Sex Life with a Covert Narcissist
9.
Divorcing an Introverted Narcissist
10.
Why do they emotionally and psychologically abuse others?
11.
The most dangerous trait of all
12.
The Victim's Body Knows: Common Symptoms
13.
Feelings of a survivor
14.
The Path to Healing and Recovery
Acknowledgements
Translator's Note
References
Entering_ When I knew him, he was an introverted narcissist
1.
Who are covert passive-aggressive narcissists?
2.
Three stages: affection offensive, belittlement, and abandonment.
3.
Target characteristics
4.
Characteristics of a Covert Narcissist
5.
Control and manipulation
6.
When parents are covert narcissists
7.
At work
8.
Sex Life with a Covert Narcissist
9.
Divorcing an Introverted Narcissist
10.
Why do they emotionally and psychologically abuse others?
11.
The most dangerous trait of all
12.
The Victim's Body Knows: Common Symptoms
13.
Feelings of a survivor
14.
The Path to Healing and Recovery
Acknowledgements
Translator's Note
References
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They know that if their self-centered traits are revealed, people will not like them.
They believe they are 'special' and deserve to be treated well, but they know that if it is revealed, they will be ostracized.
He knows that he must appear humble to be loved and respected, and he also knows how to treat people and make them feel attracted.
In short, covert narcissists are masters of manipulation.
They lack empathy, but they act out how to act empathically.
--- 「1.
From "What Kind of People Are Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissists?"
A covert narcissist portrays you in a false way and makes you feel like that portrayal is true.
There are tiny grains of truth mixed in with the bizarre distortions of reality and the distorted statements about you that make you question whether they might be true.
Covert narcissists speak and act more aggressively than before, but only you can see it.
This situation makes you lose faith in yourself.
--- 「2.
From "Three Stages: Affection Offensive, Contempt, and Abandonment"
When a covert narcissist lies and you contradict them, they don't acknowledge your feelings, which is normal in a healthy relationship.
They never think from your perspective.
Instead, you divert your attention elsewhere, focusing negative attention on yourself and distracting yourself.
They claim that their bad behavior is your fault.
“You made me like that.
I did that because of you.
It's like, "It's your fault."
--- 「4.
From “Characteristics of an Introverted Narcissist”
If you feel hopeless, joyless, confused, frequently ruminate on your own judgments or thoughts, or wonder if you're being overly sensitive, you may be a victim of gaslighting.
If you can't figure out why you're so unhappy despite all the good things going on in your life, you may be exposed to this type of manipulation.
Maybe you're excusing the behavior of a narcissistic parent or partner to your friends or family.
All of these are signs that you have been exposed to gaslighting.
--- 「5.
From “Control and Manipulation”
Most of the targets are introspective people, so they think there may be something wrong with them.
It is the most difficult and strange thing in the world to realize that the people who 'care' about you and treat you well in so many ways are actually sabotaging and controlling you.
This is because it is a way of thinking that does not exist in the mind of a trustworthy, honest, and self-reflective person.
Covert narcissistic bosses and coworkers take a huge toll on your self-esteem, intuition, and intellectual abilities.
--- 「7.
From "At Work"
Sexual issues are always confusing when you're with an overt narcissist.
Because the victim never feels good.
I've talked to many victims, regardless of gender, and the story is always the same.
Not being able to orgasm was also a common theme among survivors.
When we are with someone we don't feel safe with, we can't relax and our natural flow can't continue.
Before our mind can grasp the situation, our body already knows.
--- 「8.
From "Sex Life with an Introverted Narcissist"
Covert narcissists have no interest in solving problems or finding harmonious solutions to conflicts that arise.
They control and manipulate you through conversation.
They will try to make you feel unstable and keep you in a state of constant disarray.
They want the victim to be unable to see or think clearly.
--- 「9.
From "Divorcing an Introverted Narcissist"
Explaining that there is a reason for their hurtful behavior keeps you in the abusive relationship and avoids taking full responsibility for their deserving actions.
Now is the time for us to address rather than try to understand abuse, both individually and socially.
--- 「10.
Why do they emotionally and psychologically abuse others?
They suck other people's energy because they don't have the energy to empathize.
They seek out people who are alive, connected, and know true love, and they feed off of them as a source of their own energy.
This is precisely why the covert narcissist in your life chose you, and why they quickly move on to someone else.
--- 「11.
Among all of them, the most dangerous trait is
Accept that you are strong.
To stand up to people, to go after what you really want.
You don't always have to be kind.
Instead, be picky about who you spend time with.
Don't let anyone treat you poorly anymore.
You can be completely yourself.
We need strong people with hearts like yours.
Give yourself the consideration and help you want from others first.
They believe they are 'special' and deserve to be treated well, but they know that if it is revealed, they will be ostracized.
He knows that he must appear humble to be loved and respected, and he also knows how to treat people and make them feel attracted.
In short, covert narcissists are masters of manipulation.
They lack empathy, but they act out how to act empathically.
--- 「1.
From "What Kind of People Are Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissists?"
A covert narcissist portrays you in a false way and makes you feel like that portrayal is true.
There are tiny grains of truth mixed in with the bizarre distortions of reality and the distorted statements about you that make you question whether they might be true.
Covert narcissists speak and act more aggressively than before, but only you can see it.
This situation makes you lose faith in yourself.
--- 「2.
From "Three Stages: Affection Offensive, Contempt, and Abandonment"
When a covert narcissist lies and you contradict them, they don't acknowledge your feelings, which is normal in a healthy relationship.
They never think from your perspective.
Instead, you divert your attention elsewhere, focusing negative attention on yourself and distracting yourself.
They claim that their bad behavior is your fault.
“You made me like that.
I did that because of you.
It's like, "It's your fault."
--- 「4.
From “Characteristics of an Introverted Narcissist”
If you feel hopeless, joyless, confused, frequently ruminate on your own judgments or thoughts, or wonder if you're being overly sensitive, you may be a victim of gaslighting.
If you can't figure out why you're so unhappy despite all the good things going on in your life, you may be exposed to this type of manipulation.
Maybe you're excusing the behavior of a narcissistic parent or partner to your friends or family.
All of these are signs that you have been exposed to gaslighting.
--- 「5.
From “Control and Manipulation”
Most of the targets are introspective people, so they think there may be something wrong with them.
It is the most difficult and strange thing in the world to realize that the people who 'care' about you and treat you well in so many ways are actually sabotaging and controlling you.
This is because it is a way of thinking that does not exist in the mind of a trustworthy, honest, and self-reflective person.
Covert narcissistic bosses and coworkers take a huge toll on your self-esteem, intuition, and intellectual abilities.
--- 「7.
From "At Work"
Sexual issues are always confusing when you're with an overt narcissist.
Because the victim never feels good.
I've talked to many victims, regardless of gender, and the story is always the same.
Not being able to orgasm was also a common theme among survivors.
When we are with someone we don't feel safe with, we can't relax and our natural flow can't continue.
Before our mind can grasp the situation, our body already knows.
--- 「8.
From "Sex Life with an Introverted Narcissist"
Covert narcissists have no interest in solving problems or finding harmonious solutions to conflicts that arise.
They control and manipulate you through conversation.
They will try to make you feel unstable and keep you in a state of constant disarray.
They want the victim to be unable to see or think clearly.
--- 「9.
From "Divorcing an Introverted Narcissist"
Explaining that there is a reason for their hurtful behavior keeps you in the abusive relationship and avoids taking full responsibility for their deserving actions.
Now is the time for us to address rather than try to understand abuse, both individually and socially.
--- 「10.
Why do they emotionally and psychologically abuse others?
They suck other people's energy because they don't have the energy to empathize.
They seek out people who are alive, connected, and know true love, and they feed off of them as a source of their own energy.
This is precisely why the covert narcissist in your life chose you, and why they quickly move on to someone else.
--- 「11.
Among all of them, the most dangerous trait is
Accept that you are strong.
To stand up to people, to go after what you really want.
You don't always have to be kind.
Instead, be picky about who you spend time with.
Don't let anyone treat you poorly anymore.
You can be completely yourself.
We need strong people with hearts like yours.
Give yourself the consideration and help you want from others first.
--- 「14.
From “The Path to Healing and Recovery”
From “The Path to Healing and Recovery”
Publisher's Review
“You have no reason to love him, nor to fear him.”
A nasty and affectionate introverted narcissist
A psychological guide to understanding and breaking free
Covert narcissists are the most difficult type to diagnose because they are so disguised and manipulative.
They are kind and cruel, affectionate and unpleasant.
Covert narcissists are the most vicious of all narcissists because their behavior is often abusive.
Unlike the 'overt narcissists' who are outwardly visible, they hide their darker traits.
Overt narcissists brag about how great they are and are direct, whereas covert narcissists appear calm, rational, and humble.
They act in a way that makes people like them because they know exactly what people dislike.
They create the image of being a 'caring person' and a 'great caregiver', but it's all just an act.
It's common for people to be married to a covert narcissist for 10, 20, or even 40 years without realizing they're being abused, and children of covert narcissistic parents often don't see the other side until they're in their 30s.
Covert narcissists attack others with subtly irritating attitudes, snickering and belittling conversations, and inconsistent behavior.
Although there may be no visible scars, the psychological impact they have is so profound that victims face inexplicable fatigue, health problems, sexual confusion, loneliness, depression, and unhappiness.
Therefore, we must be aware of their presence, which is more dangerous because it is invisible and slowly saps our life force.
“Don’t believe a single word they say.”
Characteristics of a Covert Narcissist
How they control and manipulate us
What kind of people are covert narcissists?
People around them who are not their targets describe them as 'attractive' and 'wonderful' people.
Many covert narcissists have impressive careers.
Pastors, spiritual leaders, counselors, non-profit organization representatives, politicians, etc.
People around them envy those who have them as husbands, mothers, lovers, and bosses at work.
But those who are targeted by covert narcissists see a very different reality.
To the covert narcissist, people exist not to be loved, but to be used.
They only form relationships for their own benefit.
They have no interest in trying to improve relationships or finding solutions when conflicts arise.
By placing all the blame on the target, you get away with it and leave the other person to feel guilty and punish themselves.
They don't want their target to be happy and strong, and they are jealous.
They are like empty shells.
I can't truly connect with anyone or form genuine relationships.
This book thoroughly describes the typical behavioral patterns and characteristics of covert narcissists, explaining how they control and manipulate their victims through their words and actions.
Based on real-life cases of victims who have lived with covert narcissists for a long time, it shows what they do when they are spouses, parents, and coworkers.
You will find that seeing through the surface of a covert narcissist is the first step to healing and breaking free from them.
“Keep this in mind.
Covert narcissists are completely different from what they appear on the outside.
They are not perfect.
Covert narcissists are not and cannot be truly happy.
They are filled with quiet anger and lack empathy.
“These two combinations can only produce artificial happiness, never deep, true happiness.” - Page 200
“I decided not to doubt myself anymore.”
How to Get Out of a Twisted and Confusing Relationship
Victims of covert narcissists are confused and distrustful of their own feelings and thoughts.
Because most victims are self-reflective, they often wonder, "Could it be that I really made that mistake?" when confronted with the narcissist's intentionally absurd criticisms and criticisms.
Also, despite your accurate intuition about narcissists, you may wonder if you are being overly sensitive or if you are exaggerating or misunderstanding the situation.
Covert narcissists cleverly manipulate their victims into feeling shame and blame.
Author Devi Mirza helps victims not minimize their experiences.
She too has witnessed covert narcissists in many relationships in her life.
Because it is a quiet and subtle form of bullying, even psychologists who deal with complex trauma have been unable to properly identify covert narcissists, and this type remains relatively unknown in the mental health field.
The author participated in a local support group, interviewing over 100 victims directly and helping them share their experiences.
The victims were finally able to confirm that they were “not crazy.”
This book reveals that a deeply unpleasant and affectionate form of abuse that has long been hidden from public discourse because it is rarely seen is none other than "passively aggressive covert narcissism."
Furthermore, by reminding survivors of the "right to clarity" and "right to be strong" in recognizing the manipulative behavior of covert narcissists, it provides survivors with an opportunity to reclaim their full selves.
A nasty and affectionate introverted narcissist
A psychological guide to understanding and breaking free
Covert narcissists are the most difficult type to diagnose because they are so disguised and manipulative.
They are kind and cruel, affectionate and unpleasant.
Covert narcissists are the most vicious of all narcissists because their behavior is often abusive.
Unlike the 'overt narcissists' who are outwardly visible, they hide their darker traits.
Overt narcissists brag about how great they are and are direct, whereas covert narcissists appear calm, rational, and humble.
They act in a way that makes people like them because they know exactly what people dislike.
They create the image of being a 'caring person' and a 'great caregiver', but it's all just an act.
It's common for people to be married to a covert narcissist for 10, 20, or even 40 years without realizing they're being abused, and children of covert narcissistic parents often don't see the other side until they're in their 30s.
Covert narcissists attack others with subtly irritating attitudes, snickering and belittling conversations, and inconsistent behavior.
Although there may be no visible scars, the psychological impact they have is so profound that victims face inexplicable fatigue, health problems, sexual confusion, loneliness, depression, and unhappiness.
Therefore, we must be aware of their presence, which is more dangerous because it is invisible and slowly saps our life force.
“Don’t believe a single word they say.”
Characteristics of a Covert Narcissist
How they control and manipulate us
What kind of people are covert narcissists?
People around them who are not their targets describe them as 'attractive' and 'wonderful' people.
Many covert narcissists have impressive careers.
Pastors, spiritual leaders, counselors, non-profit organization representatives, politicians, etc.
People around them envy those who have them as husbands, mothers, lovers, and bosses at work.
But those who are targeted by covert narcissists see a very different reality.
To the covert narcissist, people exist not to be loved, but to be used.
They only form relationships for their own benefit.
They have no interest in trying to improve relationships or finding solutions when conflicts arise.
By placing all the blame on the target, you get away with it and leave the other person to feel guilty and punish themselves.
They don't want their target to be happy and strong, and they are jealous.
They are like empty shells.
I can't truly connect with anyone or form genuine relationships.
This book thoroughly describes the typical behavioral patterns and characteristics of covert narcissists, explaining how they control and manipulate their victims through their words and actions.
Based on real-life cases of victims who have lived with covert narcissists for a long time, it shows what they do when they are spouses, parents, and coworkers.
You will find that seeing through the surface of a covert narcissist is the first step to healing and breaking free from them.
“Keep this in mind.
Covert narcissists are completely different from what they appear on the outside.
They are not perfect.
Covert narcissists are not and cannot be truly happy.
They are filled with quiet anger and lack empathy.
“These two combinations can only produce artificial happiness, never deep, true happiness.” - Page 200
“I decided not to doubt myself anymore.”
How to Get Out of a Twisted and Confusing Relationship
Victims of covert narcissists are confused and distrustful of their own feelings and thoughts.
Because most victims are self-reflective, they often wonder, "Could it be that I really made that mistake?" when confronted with the narcissist's intentionally absurd criticisms and criticisms.
Also, despite your accurate intuition about narcissists, you may wonder if you are being overly sensitive or if you are exaggerating or misunderstanding the situation.
Covert narcissists cleverly manipulate their victims into feeling shame and blame.
Author Devi Mirza helps victims not minimize their experiences.
She too has witnessed covert narcissists in many relationships in her life.
Because it is a quiet and subtle form of bullying, even psychologists who deal with complex trauma have been unable to properly identify covert narcissists, and this type remains relatively unknown in the mental health field.
The author participated in a local support group, interviewing over 100 victims directly and helping them share their experiences.
The victims were finally able to confirm that they were “not crazy.”
This book reveals that a deeply unpleasant and affectionate form of abuse that has long been hidden from public discourse because it is rarely seen is none other than "passively aggressive covert narcissism."
Furthermore, by reminding survivors of the "right to clarity" and "right to be strong" in recognizing the manipulative behavior of covert narcissists, it provides survivors with an opportunity to reclaim their full selves.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: January 22, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 308 pages | 486g | 140*205*22mm
- ISBN13: 9791193238530
- ISBN10: 1193238536
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