Opening remarks_
Growing up with a bowl of words

Part 1.
Children grow up in a bowl of words.


If you are still regretting what you said today,
Things that change when you stop for a moment
Why do I get the most angry in front of my child?
Either similar to me or very different from me
Three Characteristics of Mothers Who Have a Big Talking Bowl

Part 2.
Raising a Mother's Bowl of Words

Stop the horse's inheritance
In the place where parents' words passed
The self-image hidden in my heart
I am a good person

Mastering Inner Dialogue Patterns
What We Learn from Failed Conversations
Between stimulus and response
Five Links to Language
Stop, step back, and look

Coexisting with uncomfortable feelings
Characteristics of emotions
SOS, Emergency Treatment for Emotional Control
A harmonious dance with emotions

Part 3.
Mom's words as she starts again

Accepting words: positive and warm
“You are precious just the way you are.”
“You probably wanted to do well too.”
“If you don’t want to do it, it can be annoying.”
“Mom just really likes you.”

What we teach: Clearly and consistently
“You are learning now.”
“What method would be best?”
“Just remember this one thing.”
“I’m so angry I can’t stand it.”

Safe Talk: Be considerate and respectful of boundaries
“How did that make you feel?”
“I like my life.
“I am happier with you.”
"are you okay.
Sorry.
thank you."
“It’s not because of you.”

Part 4.
A Path of Communication Walked with Children

What the name Mom gave me
Even if it's a very small change
Mindfulness three times a day
When I hate my child
To the mothers who will live with love tomorrow too

Author's Note_
For a better life every day

“What should be different about what parents say?”
Beyond words of anxiety and worry, how to speak like a mature adult!

Adults who are good at talking are not necessarily good parents.
Even if you're polite and kind outside of the home, why do you often find yourself unknowingly speaking emotionally in front of your precious children? Why do you read countless communication books, only to find yourself repeating unpleasant words in front of your children?

Words are greatly influenced by the mind.
The anxieties, worries, and desires hidden deep within our hearts ultimately influence our words, and these words, burdened with emotions, are bound to be poured out most often on the children who are closest and most comfortable with us.
This will eventually create an emotional situation and lead back to guilt.
What should we keep in mind to break this painful cycle?

What's important is to know that it's not the words that come out of your mouth, but the heart that creates those words.
Let's say there are parents here who can't stand their child's tantrums.
At this time, the core of the problem is not the parent's sharp tone of voice, but rather 'Why do I feel so bad when my child gets upset?'
If you look into the history of your own speech, such as why you can't stand this situation in particular, or who taught you this phrase you use so often, you can control your mind, and the ultimate change in your speech will come after that.


Between parents and children,
Three Rules of Speech to Avoid Hurt

This book is divided into four parts.
Parts 1 and 2 contain time to look into one's inner self.
This course explores whether you have speech habits influenced by your family of origin, what they are, and what attitudes toward life they have led to.
It also includes exercises to help you become aware of the stimuli that you find particularly uncomfortable and the various phenomena that occur when you encounter such stimuli.


Also, in Part 3, which can be considered the core of this book, new words that mothers need are introduced when space is finally created in the language bowl.
The book outlines three principles of speech that parents should follow, including words that welcome and support the child's existence, such as "You are precious just the way you are," and "You must have wanted to do well too," words that discipline and change behavior, such as "Remember this one thing," and "You are learning now," and words that maintain a healthy distance, such as "How did that make you feel?" and "It's not because of you," and the book continues with a process of figuring out how to speak differently in the future.


The final chapter covers how to keep your mother's speech healthy.
This is because, rather than making fleeting changes, it takes small, consistent efforts to cultivate the mind in order to consistently use the language of a mature adult.


“A mother’s words are powerful!”
The one book to keep your mother's words that will give you strength for life.

Everyone has their own speaking bowl.
How much more comforting would it be if you filled it with words that would comfort and protect you on difficult days in life?
Parents have the ability to put such powerful words into their children's mouths.
A single word from a parent can truly change a child's world.

Let's remember how precious and beautiful we are by recalling one word our parents have said to us, and let's take good care of our mother's heart, filled with words, so that we can love ourselves again tomorrow. Let's give our children the words they need, the words that are appropriate for the situation.
It is time to practice the strong and warm words that come from a calm mind again with this book.