Prologue: The starting point of everything in the world is the home.
Before we get started: Four Key Elements for Raising Self-Esteeming Children

Part 1: Self-Esteem: A Strong Self Will Make My Family Happy

Chapter 1_ Do you love your family?
Children from troubled families learn helplessness.
Children in nurturing families grow up to be their true selves.
Home is the starting point and final bastion of all things.

Chapter 2_ What's in Your Pot?
A story about self-esteem expressed through a 'pot'
The man with a full pot vs. the man with an empty pot
A child's self-esteem is entirely influenced by his or her family.

Chapter 3: Self-esteem, the source of personal energy
He who loves himself knows how to love others.
Humans are unique yet homogeneous beings.
How to Accept Your Family as They Are
Self-esteem is formed from birth.
Effective ways to boost your child's self-esteem

Chapter 4: A telescope that illuminates me from the inside out
The role of the eight limbs in forming the self
Guidelines for Overall Health

Part 2: Communicate freely without barriers

Chapter 5: Why do we communicate so poorly?
The process by which communication takes place
Practice activities to understand the communication process using the body
Practice activities to understand the communication process using distance and location.
The Core of Communication: Listening and Speaking
Some common pitfalls in communication

Chapter 6: How does self-esteem affect communication?
When words and body send signals separately
Four Types of Lame Communication
Ideal communication style: horizontal
Examples of five types of reactions

Chapter 7: Let's experience miscommunication through role-playing.
Preparing for Role Play
Let's role-play together as a family
Let's acknowledge and accept our own tendencies.
What are the consequences of miscommunication?
Once you understand, you can change.

Chapter 8: Let's Renew Family Rules
Let's get the whole family together and make a list of family rules.
Are there any restrictions on speaking?
Can you express anger?
Can you talk about sexual issues?
Are there any other taboos?

3. Laying the foundation, looking far ahead and being meticulous

Chapter 9: Family, Created by Two Different People Together
What does true love look like?
Do you remember the wishes you had when you got married?
Couples need both similarities and differences.
What is the difference between dating and marriage?
What makes love wither?

Chapter 10: What and How to Teach Your Children: A Family Blueprint
Prepared parents raise happy children.
How to wisely cope with environmental changes after the birth of a child
Things to keep in mind when modeling your parenting style
If you don't lose your sense of humor, you can get through any situation.
Let's look at parents through the eyes of a baby.
Babies learn about the world from the moment they are born.
When implementing a family blueprint, keep three things in mind:

Chapter 11: What Should Be Included in a Family Blueprint?
The learning stages that a person must go through from birth to adulthood
Let's recognize the uniqueness of each child.
Help your child develop a variety of strengths, including physical strength.
The home should be a place where children establish their sexual identity.
Let's create a home where dreams can be fulfilled
The problem of death that no one can avoid

Chapter 12: How should we manage our household?
Let's give our young children enough opportunities to do their part.
Let's use housework as an opportunity to boost self-esteem.
Both time alone and time together are important.
Don't rely on rumors, meet and experience for yourself.
The experience of owning something of your own is very important.

Part 4: Building Relationships, Flexible and Harmonious

Chapter 13: From Birth to Death, What Kind of Life Will We Live?
There are different skills to learn at each stage of life.
We need a new life cycle model based on wholeness.

Chapter 14_ If your child is going through puberty
A child's adolescence is a difficult time for the whole family.
We need encouragement, not control.
Let's also be honest about the fears parents feel.
Support your children's efforts and encourage their willingness to take on challenges.
Let's serve as guides so that our children can grow to their full potential.

Chapter 15: Old Age: Not the End, but a New Beginning
Five Things to Prepare for Old Age
Let's visualize our old age.
Like fine wine, wisdom comes with age.
Let's embrace the changing circumstances as an opportunity for challenge.
Let's set new life goals

Epilogue: The home should be a nest where whole people are raised.

“Children always observe their parents.”
The relationship between a couple determines the child's emotions and interpersonal relationships.

If your child is reluctant to express his or her feelings in relationships with friends, has difficulty approaching friends even when he or she wants to hang out with them, and sometimes feels anxious about even small things, you should start by examining the relationship between the couple.
Virginia Satir pointed out that there are so many families where marital relationships are not harmonious that many teenagers often say, “I don’t know how my parents got married in the first place,” and that this has a negative impact on the emotional development of children and the formation of later human relationships.

Unhappiness arises when countless parents try to be good parents but fail to become good couples.
If there is frequent discord and conflict between couples, resulting in tension and anxiety within the family, this will be passed on to the children.
Stress levels rise, emotional instability sets in, and feelings of depression and helplessness begin to creep in.
A child who grows up seeing the unstable relationship between his or her parents, the first relationship he or she encounters after being born, is bound to be awkward when forming relationships with others.

If you have to fight in front of your child for some unavoidable reason, sincerely apologize for it and reassure them by clearly explaining the reason for the conflict and how to resolve it.
Although arguments may arise because each person has different positions and views, we must also let them know that they can ultimately be resolved through conversations that help them understand each other or through affectionate physical contact.
Children are beings who always observe their parents and learn from their behavior even when their parents are not looking.
If you just remember that fact, you will be able to walk on the right path to parenting.


“Parenting isn’t about giving your child what he or she wants.”
The right attitude toward children, the most special guests in life, called parents.

Recently, the disciplinary methods of foreign parents became a hot topic on an entertainment program.
When the child behaved in a way that could cause harm to others, the parent stopped him, and when the spouse tried to comfort the child, the parent firmly replied, “Giving the child everything he wants is not the way to properly love him,” showing the correct parenting philosophy that children are not the property of their parents who must be showered with unconditional affection.


This book, "What Does a Child Grow Up To?" also delves deeply into the "essence" that should be given the highest priority among the numerous parenting methods.
It emphasizes that children should be viewed as 'absolute individuals' regardless of whether the parents gave birth to them or whether they are still children.
“Children should be raised with the perspective that they are the greatest ‘guests’ in the lives of their parents.”

If you want your child to do well in school, you should not force them to study, but help them learn independently. If you want your child to live bravely and boldly, you should first examine the fence called home to see if there are any problems and build a strong and solid foundation.
Perhaps the greatest task for parents is to plant seeds with sincerity and then watch and wait to see what kind of plant they will grow into.