Prologue: Moms, Be More Shameless
Why a "60-Point Mom" ​​Is Better for Your Child Than a "100-Point Mom"
Parenting: Don't overwork yourself, it won't affect the trend.
Let's be a 'mother that children love', not a 'good mother'

Chapter 1: 10 Years of Mom Lessons That Completely Changed Me
1.
The statement, "It's because Mom didn't try hard enough," is wrong.
2.
Most of the worries about children never helped them.
3.
A "good mother" who does everything for her child ends up ruining her.
4.
For the sake of the child, it would be better to do nothing.
5.
When the mother is sad, the child is sadder.
6.
Even before becoming a mother, a mother is just an awkward person.
7.
I had to pay more attention to my own feelings than to my child's.
8.
There is no "critical period" in parenting; children are much stronger and wiser.

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① If you are complaining about your situation in front of your child as if it were a habit
② If you are crushed by endless labor
③ If you are tired, lonely, and depressed
④If you think, ‘As a mother, I should definitely do this much’
⑤ If you feel like you've lost yourself because of your child

Chapter 2 I Decided to Become a Shameless Mom
1.
Don't ruin your family's day by worrying about your child's future.
2.
Anyway, I have no doubt that the child will grow up well.
3.
Boldly give up what you can't do and willingly comply.
4.
Let go of the idea that "a mother should know this much."
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Don't be swayed by the logic that "that's how the world works, everyone else is doing it."
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Don't relieve your anxiety with nagging
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Mothers are the first to free themselves from the approval and praise of others.
8.
Never be kind to wrongdoings
9.
Don't carelessly give your child the life tasks that he or she must shoulder on his or her own.

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① If you are not confident in raising children and are constantly anxious
② If you are mistaken in thinking, ‘I know everything about my child’
③ If you are worried about your child’s future
④ If you feel frustrated because your child is too slow
⑤ If you can't escape the guilt that your child is sick,

Chapter 3: The first person a mother should love and cherish is herself.
1.
The first person a mother should love and cherish is herself.
2.
A lazy mom is much better than a depressed mom.
3.
A mother who doesn't lose sight of herself also has a good relationship with her child.
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Become a shameless mother who asks for help without thinking
5.
Trauma, if you don't want to pass it on, you have to somehow sort it out and move on.
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A humorous mother never clashes with her child.
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When you can't see ahead, just trust in your child's vitality.
8.
No matter what the world says, I never lose my confidence as a mother.

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① If you have too much to do and can't ask for help,
② If you feel that you need to solve your child's problem yourself
③ If you want to say something that will really help your child
④ If you left your child with your parents or in-laws
⑤ If you are currently on a career break

Chapter 4: The Art of Parenting: How Mother and Child Can Be Happy Together Without Sacrificing Anyone
1.
[Play] Let go of the idea that you have to play for your child.
2.
[Praise] One admiring glance toward a child is better than a hundred forced words of praise.
3.
[Learning] Develop your child's strengths rather than trying to fix their weaknesses.
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[Training] Remember that even children who throw tantrums actually want to do well.
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[Conversation] Give up the desire to change your child with just a few words.
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[Autonomy] Don't take the initiative, and let your child solve most problems on his or her own.
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[Attitude] Practice dealing with your child slowly and leisurely.
8.
[Education] Before your child enters school, establish an educational philosophy at least once.
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[Faith] No matter what kind of life you lead, I unconditionally support my child.

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① If you don’t know how to talk to your child
② If you want to raise a child with high self-esteem
③ If you keep failing to train yourself to develop good lifestyle habits
④ If your child is very sick
⑤ If you are thinking about whether to have more children or not

“It’s okay to be a little lazy, a little lacking, and sometimes selfish.”
How to escape the parenting trap where the more you try to be a "good mom," the more guilt and anxiety you feel.

When mothers were asked to rate their own mothering, what was the most common score? It was 60.
Mothers don't even expect 100 points, and even 80 points would be nice, but in reality, they only get about 60 points, and they always feel sorry for their children.
Mothers devalue everything they do because they live up to the imaginary "mother mold."
In other words, you have to raise your child to be smart by taking care of everything, managing the household, never expressing negative emotions to your child, never yelling at them, and not pushing them too hard. However, as a mother in reality, I cannot even cook properly, am always tired from working and doing housework, and instead of empathizing, I end up getting irritated with my child unintentionally, and I am a 'very inadequate mother'.

However, 60 points is by no means an insufficient score.
The average passing score on the certification exam is 60 points.
The purpose of the certification exam is that you cannot get a score below 40 in any subject, but you are only "qualified" if the average of all subjects combined is over 60, and the rest is filled in with experience.
Motherhood is similar to this.
As long as you keep to the minimum standards that you must not exceed as a mother, and put in a little effort to get an average score of 60, then you can do the rest of the mothering to the best of your ability and circumstances, according to your own standards.
There is no such thing as a "perfect mother" that everyone recognizes. We all set our own standards for what it means to be a "good mother" based on our own experiences and values, and we all live our lives doing our best according to those standards.
So, a 60-point mom is enough.
Loving and caring for a child this much is by no means easy, so there is no reason to become a perfect mother according to standards set by others or imaginary standards that do not even exist.

“The first person a mother should love and cherish is herself.”
My nine-year-old son, who was diagnosed with a gifted disease, was diagnosed with a rare cancer with a 5% survival rate.
What I Learned From 10 Years of Extreme Mom Training to Regain My Health

Nevertheless, the reason mothers dream of being a '100-point mother' is because they believe that 'the child's future lies in the mother's hands.'
The author was the same.
The author had her first child while working as a parenting reporter, and after absorbing all the information about what's good for children, she was confident that she would raise her child better than anyone else.
Perhaps that's why the child was diagnosed as gifted at a young age, and with the mother's information and support, the child's life was sure to be smooth sailing.
However, when the child was nine years old, he was diagnosed with a rare cancer with a five-year survival rate of only 5%, and he had a difficult ten-year battle with the disease, repeating recovery and relapse.

When the child became seriously ill, the author fell into a swamp of guilt, wondering, "What did I do wrong?" and anxiety, wondering, "What will I do if something goes wrong with the child?"
As my guilt and anxiety grew, I constantly criticized myself for my shortcomings as a mother, and my interference and nagging towards my child increased.
As this happened, the relationship with the child deteriorated, and the mother herself became exhausted.


Eventually, despite all the efforts a mother could make, the child relapsed, forcing the author to accept the painful truth that "a mother cannot change her child's fate."
No matter how hard a mother tries, she cannot prevent the things that happen to her child, and she is not a powerful force that influences her child's life, but rather a person who can only be there for her child as he or she faces his or her own destiny.

From then on, the author boldly gave up on things she couldn't do as a mother.
Then a miracle happened.
As I stopped struggling unnecessarily, my role as a mother, which had been filled with guilt and anxiety, became more comfortable and enjoyable.
As the mother became more relaxed, the child began to unfold himself in the empty space.
Finally, the dark shadow surrounding the mother and child was lifted, and the child began to live his life with courage.

So the author speaks to mothers who spend each day struggling to become a '100-point mother'.
Don't try to be a 'good mother', try to be a 'cool adult'.
When a mother loves and cherishes herself, her child will also love and cherish himself.
When a mother values ​​her own life, her child will also live his or her life to the fullest.
Living your own life diligently and showing your child that 'there is a life like this too' is the only way for mother and child to breathe and grow together.


"This is how shameless mothers raise their children."

The author, who has worked as a parenting journalist and editor for 10 years and as a speech therapist and counselor for 11 years, has compiled 34 parenting techniques for mothers who constantly get angry in the face of the difficult task of parenting.
This book contains 34 parenting techniques that will make mothers feel comfortable and children happy, such as ‘don’t feel sorry for your child without a reason’, ‘make time to rest first’, ‘don’t ruin your family’s day by worrying about your child’s future’, ‘trust your child’s vitality more than your mother’s information power’, ‘ask anyone for help confidently when needed’, ‘a lazy mother is much better than a depressed mother’, and ‘never lose confidence as a mother no matter what the world says’.
In addition, it contains answers to frequently asked questions from mothers, such as how to raise a child with high self-esteem, how to train children to develop good habits, and how to raise a child who is slower than others, as well as 20 parenting solutions that can be applied immediately in the field of parenting.
This will be helpful to mothers who want to raise their children comfortably and enjoyably, free from the stress of parenting, and to mothers who want to fill every moment with their children with joy, not irritation and nagging.