Is this just my kids? For parents who are struggling to raise two children,
How to Raise Two Smart Children: Making Them Best Friends, Not Rivals

Sibling conflict and competition are common in families.
The eldest child, who had been receiving all the love and expectations of the family, experiences the transfer of love when a younger sibling is born.
The second child shares the parents' attention with the first child from birth.
Because they have never experienced the full love of their parents, they instinctively feel thirsty.


Despite their parents' wishes for their siblings to grow up to be best friends, tensions always exist between them.
This book examines how children develop their individual characteristics and self-initiative amidst jealousy and competition when raising two or more children, and introduces sibling parenting methods that minimize conflict between siblings while also fostering each child's individual talents.
Additionally, you can get hints on parenting methods for different types of siblings through columns written by parents raising twins, siblings, sisters, and brothers.

It is said that many second-born children sympathized with the main character Deok-seon in the drama "Reply 1988", who was alienated by her parents because she was the second-born child and expressed her anger.
Deok-seon has been celebrating her sister's birthday together with hers every year because their birthdays are only three days apart.
Even when eating delicious food like scrambled eggs or whole chicken, I always lose to my older sister.
Although she grew up like this at home, Deok-seon has a brighter personality than anyone else and is loved by everyone in the neighborhood as well as her school friends.
Second children like Deokseon are usually enterprising and have excellent collaborative skills.
The second is particularly strong in times of crisis.
I like situations where I can act immediately without waiting for instructions.
Compassion also shines brighter when we comfort someone in a difficult and desperate situation.
In constantly changing and urgent situations, the second child demonstrates excellent reflexes and problem-solving skills, which instill confidence in those in need.
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To the first child, the younger sibling is a fearful being.
There is also a fear that the attention and affection that you have been monopolizing may be taken away in an instant and you may be abandoned.
Although mothers want their children to naturally accept the fact that they are having a new sibling, they must not forget that the child is still a 'young child' who needs the mother's attention and love.
And from the moment of pregnancy, it is necessary to let the baby know about the existence of the younger sibling in the womb.
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Watching the children, I gained courage and a sense of adventure that I never had before.
When the kids started doing something, I jumped in without knowing what was going on.
I turned my entire house into a studio, and went anywhere in the country whenever I felt like it.
Things that were burdensome and difficult when I thought I had to do them, but when I just followed the children's thoughts and helped them, it became just fun.
There was nothing I couldn't do when I had children.
Rather, there were many things that were possible with children.

If I had only one child and could have done everything on my own, my parenting would have been different.
I may have gotten tired of giving and caring so much.
Raising two children has taught me to let go a little easier and to run a little braver.
And I am growing with my children every day.
_Raising Siblings Is Easy Because There Are Two, and Brave Because There Are Two_ (Little Home CEO Lee Na-yeon)

Comparing and praising not only has a negative impact on the child, but can also lead to ignoring other siblings.
When a child's parents praise another sibling, the child feels uncomfortable, as if he or she is being compared to another sibling.
Just because we live in an era of limitless competition doesn't mean we need to encourage competition at home.
If surviving in competition means fully exercising one's abilities to achieve one's goals, then this is entirely possible in an environment that fosters cooperation.
Moreover, if parents only give special treatment to the eldest child and do not take proper care of the younger siblings, the child is likely to grow up to be self-centered and lack empathy or cooperative tendencies.
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The most urgent need in raising siblings is ‘fairness.’
Generally, when we think of 'fairness', we think of giving things and love equally.
But sometimes treating everyone equally can be unfair.
Fairness means giving more to those who need it.
Just because you are the eldest, you should not force compromise and understanding, and just because you are the younger sibling, you should not demand that you have less than the eldest.
The basic principle is to share things, love, and time equally, but this should be done differently depending on the situation.
A newborn baby requires a lot of time and attention, and parenting requires a lot of time and attention.
On the other hand, for the first child who is able to communicate a little, it is necessary to utilize quality time to play and empathize with each other rather than quantity of time.
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The two children, who were so different in their appearance, mentality, speed of thought, and even eating habits, kept bickering when trying to stack them on sharp corners.
Just by listening to each other's stories and expressing gratitude, the two soon found themselves sitting side by side, reading books, talking, and hugging each other.
It seems that the job of a mother and her brothers is to tirelessly teach each other how precious they are.
Why are you saying it so cool? (Kim Soo-kyung, author of "Home, People")

Having already raised one child, I thought raising a second or third child would be easy, but in order to raise the second or third child, I had to quickly forget and erase the way I raised my first child.
From feeding methods to feeding well-fed baby food, playing methods, and even conversation methods, I had to change the way I spoke to my second child, and the way I spoke to my third child.
_Three sisters who never have a good day, but still like being together_What is needed for the coexistence of three sisters (Kim Na-young, author of "Ordinary Parenting" and "Ordinary Mom")

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