Damon Zachariades, author of the #1 Amazon and bestselling Mental Strength: The Art of Mental Strength, reveals how to rebuild a shattered and fragmented mentality.

Failure in job search or job change, interpersonal relationship problems, crisis and conflict at work.
Past failures and losses, such as investment failures or the separation from a loved one, are difficult to overcome.
It's fortunate if it ends with just a day or two or a month or two of heartache, but it can also completely destroy your mentality and leave you unable to do anything.
Some people are stuck in the past for decades, or even their entire lives, unable to move forward even a single step.


This book proposes an active form of 'letting go' as a way to break free from a painful past.
Letting go helps me face my attachments and negative emotions toward the past, forgive myself, and boldly let go.
In particular, it concisely explains systematic strategies for letting go and provides practical training so that readers can practice and solve their own problems.
It is a hot topic on Amazon in the US, receiving rave reviews such as “This book saved my drifting life” and “I realized that just one book can change your life.”

Negative thoughts and emotions have a negative impact on your mindset, health, and relationships.
It prevents us from doing our best in everything, distorts our thinking, and causes us to hesitate when we should be running towards what we want.
A hopeless and defeatist attitude becomes a stumbling block on the path to happiness and success, lowering the quality of life.
That's why the first step toward mental recovery is to let go of the frustrations, regrets, and painful memories that weigh on your mind.
By breaking free from the chains that hold us back, we can experience emotional freedom.

---From "Entering, p.6"

'Letting go' or 'letting go' is sometimes misunderstood as avoiding uncomfortable feelings.
This is because it can be confused with not accepting negative thoughts and feelings and just giving up on them.
But this is not letting go.
Rather, it is a dangerous and unhealthy attitude that leads to a state of endless apathy.
This is because by ignoring uncomfortable feelings, we end up going beyond a state of emotionlessness and embracing a cold attitude.
On the surface, you may appear strong and well-off, but in reality, you are just barely holding on by piecing together a shattered mentality.

---From "Why Mental Recovery Begins with Letting Go, p.23"

If you can't recall the last time you were happy, you might be dwelling on a painful memory, a heartbreaking loss, or a choice you regret because of misplaced expectations.
With all your attention focused on the past, the little joys you can enjoy during the day may have faded.
If these feelings are left unaddressed, they can lead to depression or emotional and social isolation.

---From "Signs that it's time to come to your senses and take care of your mental health, p.30"

The more you dwell on choices or actions that you regret, the more afraid you become of repeating the same actions.
The problem is that as fear grows, it can become so severe that you can't make even the smallest decisions or take even a single step.
When we stop dwelling on past mistakes that are tormenting us, we can begin to rationally judge the consequences of our actions.
In most cases, the results are not as significant as we imagine.
Once you realize this, you can act more boldly in the future.
---From "Letting Go of Regret and Folly, What We Gain by Leaving the Past, p.35"

Failed relationships are hard to accept and forget.
We instinctively brood over failed relationships and try to pinpoint the reasons why they broke up.
Sometimes I blame myself.
Even though we tried everything possible to repair the relationship before making the decision to break up.
It's natural to have feelings for an ex, at least for a little while.
But in order to move on with life, you have to be able to let go of that relationship at some point.

---From "Twenty Problems You Must Let Go of, p.41"

People with low self-esteem are more likely to blame themselves for their business failures.
Focusing only on one's own bad choices without considering the influence of external factors.
If this happens, even though there are certainly lessons to be learned from the failure of a business, it cannot serve as a stepping stone for future success.
It is just proof of one's own lack of ability.
---From "All problems happened 'because of me', p.73"

Let's take an example of a situation where you feel angry because of a failed investment.
This anger is not an emotion isolated from the outside world.
It has a ripple effect, extending its influence to other areas of life.
Become an irritable person at work or take out your temper on your family.
He doesn't hide his irritable attitude even to strangers.
There is no room to smile at anyone.
You need to understand how distressing emotions affect your broader emotional state and how they influence your judgment of situations.
---「Strategy 2.
Understanding the extent of the influence of emotions, p.101

When we feel completely mentally broken and miserable because we can't let go of our obsession with something, we often isolate ourselves and wallow in pain.
The human brain becomes fixated on the cause of the painful emotion and ignores other activities.
In this state of mind, it is impossible to think of any other activities that bring joy.
That's when you need to immediately put enjoyable activities into practice.
If going to the park and people-watching is relaxing for you, you should get out, even if you're feeling depressed and don't feel like going to the park right now.

---「Strategy 3.
Find an outlet for negative emotions and change your mood, p.107

If you don't know your purpose in life, life becomes boring, empty, and anxious.
We even feel despair and listen to the false and harmful voice of our mind that says, “I lack agency.”
In other words, if you lack a sense of purpose, you become more fixated on the past.
The future seems arbitrary and meaningless, making the past seem far more important.

---「Strategy 5.
From "Finding the Purpose of My Life, p.116"

Why do you regret this matter? What actions of yours led to this regret? This question serves two purposes.
The first is to distinguish between issues we can control and those we cannot.
If it was a problem beyond our control, there's no reason to blame ourselves.
Second, if it was a problem we had control over, we can admit our mistakes.
This is an important step toward enlightenment through regret.

---From "Strategy 7: Finding Insights for the Future in Regret, p. 128"

The constant effort to please everyone only leaves us with suffering.
I lose myself in protecting their priorities.
I spend so much energy trying to fulfill other people's needs and wants that I can't think about what I truly want or how to be happy.

---「Strategy 12.
From “I don’t try to make everyone happy”, p.152

We want our lives to be predictable, but in reality, life is often random.
Bad things happen regardless of our choices or actions.
You may suddenly become ill, a loved one may pass away, or a seemingly healthy job may go bankrupt.
If we want to be free from the burden of negative thoughts and emotions, and thus regain our mental health, we must accept that we inherently lack control.
You can control your choices and thoughts.
(Omitted) However, we have only limited control over the environment, other people's actions, and events that are unfavorable to us.

---「Strategy 18.
“I admit that I can’t control everything,” p.184

Forgiving yourself has never been easier.
The reason it's hard to overlook your own mistakes is because deep down you believe, "I have to be perfect."
We set unreasonably high standards for ourselves.
It leaves no room for mistakes.
They don't allow themselves to be forgiven for their mistakes because they think it makes them weak.
But self-reproach doesn't make us stronger.
It just keeps attacking your self-esteem to the point where you feel like there's nothing you can do right.

---「Strategy 21.
From "Learning to forgive others as well as myself, p.202"