This is the first self-help book by renowned history instructor Lee Da-ji, who holds titles such as #1 in Megastudy history sales, #1 star instructor chosen by Yonsei University students, #1 most recommended mentor to juniors, and #1 instructor who helped improve history grades most by freshmen at Seoul National University, Yonsei University, Korea University, and other major universities.
It tells a story about 'dreams and life'.
Teacher Idaji, who made millions of people from their teens to their fifties cry with her legendary lecture, “Everyone, not all flowers bloom in spring,” generously shares all of her know-how, including anecdotes from difficult times, words of courage that helped her get back on her feet, study strategies from scratch, mental management methods to protect herself, and even a schedule recording method.
“I may have made mistakes and failed in the past.
But my future self is different.
Our lives don't end with dots.
Don't forget that you are standing in the middle of a long, long line." This book will be a strong supporter not only for teenage students preparing for college entrance exams, but also for countless adults who are belatedly challenging their dreams, helping them shake off comparisons with others, anxiety about the future, self-reproach, and frustration, and boldly walk their own path.

So the plan we came up with was to memorize 80 percent of the material during class.
I placed a workbook next to my textbook and memorized it on the spot, writing down what the teacher said in class.
If you do that, your grades will go up.
Finally, the 'magic' I had been waiting for began to manifest.
But it went up very slowly.
The effort is like a dramatic drama, but the grades go up slowly and like a boring documentary.
Every time, there is something I tell myself.
“I have good stamina.” Among baseball players, those who perform poorly at the beginning of the season but show stamina as the games progress are called “slow starters.”
That's when I thought I was a slow starter.

---From “I chose to succeed through studying”

When you say, “Decide now how you will succeed,” eight out of ten people respond like this.
“I’m not as good at studying as my teacher, and I don’t have any athletic ability or talent.
“Isn’t it a fantasy to live doing what you love?” This question follows me like a stalker.
No, guys.
It's not a fantasy to live doing what you love, it's a fantasy to discover what you love without doing anything.
The things you like to do must be thoroughly treated as 'objects of procedural knowledge'.
Just sitting at your desk and searching for random jobs that come to mind and checking the results won't get you anywhere.
You have to find a way to do it with a little bit of excessive work, not without work.
The definition of the job that comes up in a search isn't what's important.
You have to learn it through direct experience and breaking things.
---From "You can't just stumble upon something you love"

On the other hand, people who see the purpose are good at controlling ambiguous moments.
'Even if this project doesn't produce good results, it's okay because I've become closer with my team members.
When I think, 'Teamwork is an intangible asset, and that was one of the goals I wanted to achieve with this project,' I can't help but feel bad and my composure naturally stays.
A better reputation is a bonus.
Come to think of it, while the goal is a companion to emotional ups and downs, the purpose is a companion to maintaining composure.
What's your partner word? Goals and objectives differ in their meanings, tenses, and impact.
There is nothing similar about them except for the similar letters.

---From "If your goal is a short distance, your goal is a marathon"

There is a huge difference between studying hard and leaving a mark on your life and not doing so.
Let's engrave this trace once.
Then, you will not be swayed or mentally damaged by other people's reputation.
It's a study that you risk everything for in life.
I've done this before.
Once the confidence that you can do something if you put your mind to it is engraved in your history as a definite 'truth', confidence will automatically follow from then on.
This kind of person's center of gravity doesn't waver much unless something extraordinary happens.

---From "Everyone will have a day when studying is their destiny"

When giving up becomes a habit, you will hesitate even when faced with opportunities that should be yours.
That opportunity becomes someone else's.
Then I will always have the value '0'.
In this state, nothing is accumulated, just like multiplying 0 by 100 still results in 0.
It is important to start and somehow make it to 1.
If you multiply 1 by 10, you get 10, and if you multiply 1 by 100, you get 100.
Please keep in mind that the speed at which you gain results depends on how quickly you transition from 0 to 1.

---From "Just getting started is a talent"

However, rather than ending here, it is better to include some extra challenges in your plan.
To turn the trap of perfectionism into a sail for successful sailing, you must freely allow yourself the "right to fail."
I've always wondered.
If you're asked to make a plan, why only give it one chance? We're all beginners at some things.
Then shouldn't we give them two, three, or even ten chances?
Since you only get one chance, you'll focus on getting the perfect setup.
How could anyone succeed in one or two attempts if they weren't a god?

---From "Perfectionism is the decision to do nothing"

After entering the Department of History, I applied for a credit exchange class.
I was taking a class related to my major at a nearby university, and an older professor at that university said this.
“History is a man’s study.
“A woman majoring in history was something I couldn’t even imagine in my day.” At first, I couldn’t believe my ears.
I wondered, 'What does gender have to do with academics?' and even though the professor was from the past, I was surprised that he would say something like that so openly.
You know what's even more surprising? People like this still exist today.
I often get comments on my YouTube channel saying things like, “It’s a bit odd that a woman is teaching history.”

---From "Just getting started is a talent"

How is it?
If you draw a picture of the situation according to the seven scenarios of the "Table of Negative and Positive" scenario, doesn't the "Reality of Wishes" come across a little more clearly? If you write it this way, you'll be able to understand at least three things.
First, the thing that you most fear, the 'negative end', and the thing that you most hope for, the 'positive end', have very little chance of actually happening.
There is no need to worry about extreme conditions, so just throw it away as soon as possible.
Unless God intervenes, extreme situations will not occur.

---From "The Table of Negation and Affirmation"

If you can't avoid it, enjoy it, right?
If loneliness is unavoidable, I hope it is an active and enjoyable solitude, not a lonely and passive loneliness.
This is called 'Solitude'.
Theologian and philosopher Paul Tillich divided solitude into two types.
If loneliness is a 'solitude that is passively suffered' by being excluded by others, then solitude is a 'voluntary solitude' that is chosen by rejecting others even though they want it.
Solitude is a time of incubation, where you nurture the seeds of opportunity within you by watering and nurturing them with sunlight.

---From "When loneliness passes, flowers will bloom"

The first is the 'stagecoach-wheel effect'.
It refers to an optical illusion in which the wheels of a carriage appear to be turning backwards even though they are actually pointing in the right direction.
I think this kind of optical illusion happens when I look at life.
Even though I'm on the right path, when I see someone else's gorgeous flowers blooming, I suddenly start to doubt myself and think, 'Am I on the right path?'
Even if this moment is just a 'very brief moment', I can fall into the illusion that my life is slowing down and going backwards.
You must never get stuck here.
---From "Don't let jealousy eat you up"

If I can't receive something good from my family, I should give something good to myself.
I call this project 'Self object'.
Originally, self-object was a psychological term that referred to a mother who listened to all of her child's complaints and demands.
It doesn't have to be my mother who gave birth to me and raised me.
I hope that Jinju can become a mother who asks her what she needs and comforts her without worrying about what others think, in her own space.
I am becoming my own mother.
I think it's not too late to decide on your career path while doing this.

---From "If you don't do it at home, please be my mother"