prolog
Research for Sensitive People
What kind of people are highly sensitive?

Part 1: Anxiety: "I can't sleep because my worries keep coming back to me."

Can the sensitive Youngmi and the meticulous Jeongsik live together?
My heart sinks whenever I see that impatient boss.
A person who cannot make eye contact with others and cannot write when someone sees them
A person who gets lost in thought without realizing it
A person who gets dizzy when stressed
A person who worries about even a 1 in 100,000 chance
People who worry about cerebral hemorrhage every time they get a headache
Delirium, a disease that comes around sunset
My son dropped out of school and decided to become a professional gamer.
People with a universal perspective vs. people with a unique perspective

Part 2: Depression: "I Don't Know Why I Live"

The crisis of a person who has lived to be well-received by others
A college student on leave who doesn't come out of his room
The woman who is the head of the household vs. the man who is obsessed with her
A man who saw heaven, a memory of cardiac arrest
The voices of my children and my father, the goose
The husband who doesn't have dementia and the wife who has depression
The anxiety of living with a family member who is in a vegetative state
The Difference Between Delusion and Creativity: A New Drug Development Leader and Elon Musk
The Wrong Choice for Weight Loss: Narcotic Appetite Suppressants
Fear and depression about going bald
What a Couple Who Valued Individualism Learned After Losing Their Health

Part 3: Trauma: "Memories I Want to Forget Keep Coming Back"

A young man who grew up and found his own heart as an adult
Lethargy following the sudden death of her husband
Comforting words for those who have experienced extreme choices made by family members.
Memories of a "scary dad" revived by a bullying customer
A grandmother obsesses over her grandson because of memories of dating violence.
The trauma of bereaved families whose children have made extreme choices
27 Years After the IMF Foreign Exchange Crisis: A Story of Two Brothers
My boss imitated my stuttering at a drinking party.
Autism spectrum disorder discovered in my 20s
You can only love yourself if you have experienced respect.

Part 4: Anger: "I get angry for no reason and can't control my emotions."

A person who suddenly loses control of their anger after suffering a head injury
A man who screams, punches, and kicks while sleeping
A young man who grew up hearing a lot of verbal abuse as a child
Attack on my smart device
A man in his 50s who suddenly became stubborn and harsh in his speech.
A person who has a tendency to criticize himself
Why You Should Create Good Memories for Your Children
A man who continues to have diarrhea despite having no abnormalities in his intestines
A person who tries too hard to look good to his superiors
A leader who enjoys risky actions with overflowing energy

Part 5: Practical Application: Let's Turn Sensitivity into Your Strength

Let's create our own good automatic thoughts.
Let's upgrade my energy management
Let's create a safe base
Let's create good memories to replace bad ones.
Let's create a good life rhythm - Common Edition
Let's Create a Good Life Rhythm - Youth Edition
Let's Create a Good Life Rhythm - Middle Age Edition
Let's Create a Good Life Rhythm - Middle and Old Age Edition
Let's find out your defense mechanisms.
Let's try to separate ourselves from our families
Overcoming the loss of a spouse and depression

In conclusion
supplement

Meet the four keywords: anxiety, depression, trauma, and anger.
41 Case Studies of Sensitivity Counseling

Part 1 of this book, "Anxiety," tells the stories of people who experience anxiety because they are sensitive to the subtle differences in external stimuli.
Sensitive people are much more sensitive to sounds and visuals than those who are not, and the couple Youngmi and her husband in their 40s are a good example of this.
Youngmi, who has been emotionally rich since childhood and easily empathizes with the emotions of others, has been prone to mood swings, and after meeting Jeongsik, who is a perfectionist and meticulous, her anxiety has grown significantly.
Mr. Jeong would yell at Young-mi whenever the house was even slightly messy, and one day, Young-mi suddenly had difficulty breathing and felt very dizzy, and collapsed on the spot.
There were no problems with the brain MRI test, but after consulting with a psychiatrist, Youngmi was diagnosed with panic attacks.
What couples commonly struggle with is their ‘sensitive mind.’
I told Mr. Jeong to keep his voice as low as possible and not clean outside of certain hours to reduce his obsession with cleanliness.
When Youngmi had a panic attack, she would sit down, close her eyes, close her mouth, and breathe slowly through her abdomen to calm the symptoms. When she felt anxious, she would go outside with Jeongsik and have fun to distract herself.
Afterwards, the couple was able to reduce a lot of energy consumed by unnecessary tension.

Part 2, 'Depression', tells the story of Kang Hee, a man in his 30s who has been living in tension trying to be well-received by others, but ends up suffering from depression.
He was a man who graduated from a good university, law school, entered a famous law firm, and lived a decent life.
Then one day, I quit the company I had worked so hard to get into and for over half a year, I lived alone in my house, avoiding people and not leaving.
The reason was that while working at a law firm, I experienced excessive competition that I had never experienced before.
People like Kang Hee who were accustomed to receiving constant praise from their teachers during their school days are prone to depression if they constantly feel like they are falling behind in competition with others.
Kang Hee had a 'hysterical personality' and 'bipolar depression', which caused her to exaggerate her emotions and seek attention from those around her, and to maintain this, she exaggerated her self-expression even more.
With the help of a specialist, he realized that his life up until now had been lived to be well-received by others. He looked back on the days when he had unconsciously tried too hard to please others and avoid being abandoned, and took the time to rediscover his own worth.

Part 3, 'Trauma', tells the stories of people hiding painful memories behind actions that others may find incomprehensible.
Ms. Youngju, a woman in her 50s, had been suffering from severe tongue pain for five years. However, when she was examined by an ENT clinic, there was no abnormality in her tongue or brain.
Then, after a visit to the psychiatric department, he was diagnosed with ‘severe depression with psychotic symptoms’, ‘somatization disorder’, and ‘alexithymia’.
As it turns out, the couple suffered a great loss five years ago.
The eldest son, who had been a good and exemplary son, suddenly made an extreme choice.
One day, the son quit school and spent several months in his room. One day, when Young-ju scolded him to clean up his room and threw away all the bottles of alcohol, an accident occurred.
Youngju was so shocked that she acted as if her son was still alive, and her husband, unable to bear it any longer, shouted in anger, “It’s your fault that my son is dead.”
From then on, Youngju began to feel guilty about scolding her son on her tongue, and her tongue began to become paralyzed.
The psychiatrist in charge conducted a 'psychological autopsy' and found that Young-ju had nothing to do with her son's death, and the couple is overcoming the trauma by sharing their feelings with each other and attending a support group for families of suicide victims to receive help.

Part 4, “Anger,” explores anger directed at oneself or others.
The author says that the emotion of anger is important in terms of the perspective of 'how others think of me', and that if others look down on me or ignore me, my self-esteem is hurt and I become angry.
Dong-ju, a young man in his 20s, felt very uncomfortable around his seniors at work and would quit immediately if he felt even the slightest bit of an authoritarian atmosphere. He continued to feel inexplicable feelings of helplessness, depression, and anger, and so he sought psychiatric treatment.
Because of the verbal abuse he received from his school teachers and parents as a child, even now as an adult, whenever he works with people, the anger that was subconsciously there rises to the surface and he re-experiences the anger from the past towards his superiors and colleagues.
Dong-ju tried to free herself from the anger she felt about her childhood through consultations with a specialist, and as the doctor in charge acted as a 'safe base', she gradually began to feel more at ease.


“Let’s make sensitivity our own ability.”
People who are sensitive and get discharged vs. people who use their sensitivity well

According to the author, the world seen by highly sensitive people is like “a computer equipped with a high-performance camera and microphone and loaded with many very complex programs.”
Sensitive people are often "idea banks" because they see things others don't see and hear things others don't hear.
These characteristics can also be used to demonstrate excellent abilities in fields that require delicate skills, such as fashion, design, and advertising.
Additionally, because they are good at catching other people's emotions, are meticulous and careful, and hate causing trouble to others, this can be an advantage in company life.
The point is that if you can manage and control your own sensitivity well, it can help you in life.


Part 5, "Let's Turn Sensitivity into Your Strength," is full of concrete solutions that you can easily try on your own in your daily life, such as how to turn sensitivity into delicacy, how to overcome trauma, how to create a safe base, how to create a good life rhythm, and how to cut out bad memories.
The appendix, “Let’s create my own good automatic thoughts,” “How to create good lifestyle habits,” “Systematic desensitization training,” and “Psychomotor speed test,” can also be of great help in controlling sensitivity.
However, the author explains that these ideas can only be put into practice if you have energy left, and if you are overly sensitive to everything, your brain will become overloaded, leading to symptoms such as depression, panic disorder, and agoraphobia.
This is something to keep in mind to become a 'person who utilizes sensitivity well' rather than a 'person who is sensitive and gets discharged'.


Understanding the sensitivities of yourself, your family, and others
It can broaden your perspective on the world.

The author also introduces people with unique stories, such as those suffering from dementia, alopecia, autism spectrum disorder, stuttering, side effects from diet pills, and auditory hallucinations.
In addition to individual psychological problems, the book also explores various issues of social sensitivity, such as 'caregiving', 'survivors of suicide', 'elderly alienation', 'workplace bullying', and 'reclusive loners', revealing his deep insight as a specialist who has expanded his research on sensitivity.
The psychological problems of individuals are aggravated by a social structure that does not recognize the differences between me and others and is overly obsessed with external appearances or pursues only normality.
He emphasizes that while individual efforts to seek treatment when psychological problems arise are necessary, society must also take care of each individual's right to be respected as a human being, and that society must no longer sacrifice individual hearts for the sake of collective goals.
In a society that demands endless sensitivity and makes it difficult to survive if you are highly sensitive, you will find the answer to how to safely take care of yourself in this book.