Difficult relationships, happiness and success that seem far away…
“I work hard, but why doesn’t anything get better?”

The heart mentor of the entire nation, Kim Kyung-il, conveys
Wisdom Thoughts on Freedom from People, Success, and Money

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Humans are social animals.
It is difficult to feel happy if we are not satisfied with any of the things that surround us, such as relationships, work, love, or money.
But ironically, no one lives their life perfectly fulfilling all the conditions.
Ultimately, it means that the conditions for happiness are determined by our mindset.

Professor Kim Kyung-il, who has stood tall as a national mentor by comforting the hearts of those who are tired and exhausted through tvN programs such as [Unexpected Adult] and [Sebashi], has collected various worries and anxieties that we face in life and classified them into seven keywords: people, happiness, work, love, money, success, and death in this book, [Wisdom of the Heart].
And based on the solid foundation he has built over 20 years as a cognitive psychologist, Professor Kim Kyung-il offers warm yet sophisticated empathy and advice on questions that everyone has probably thought about at least once, such as, “I’m worried about my introverted personality,” “How should I choose between what I like to do and what I’m good at?”, “Are there only those who become rich?”, and “When will I feel happy?”, by mixing his unique cheerfulness with the sensitivity of a psychologist.
And at the end of this book, it offers strong comfort and hope for those of us who must live long lives, regarding the frame through which we should view the world in the future.

There may not be a great answer that will clearly solve the countless problems in our lives.
But even when hope seems lost, frustration seems imminent, and we feel like giving up on everything time and again, small happinesses are building up in our hearts every day.
Just as Professor Kim Kyung-il said, “Even at this very moment, as we struggle through life, happiness is piling up,” this book will grow into a strong muscle of life that supports our daily lives, intertwined like a tough tendon within our hearts.

It's a clear misconception that introverts dislike people or are shy.
Regardless of whether we are introverted or extroverted, we all want to get along well with others within the limits of our resources.
It's just that introverts have fewer social resources to draw on than extroverts.
Instead, you can focus sufficiently on your inner self.
So, while you have time for yourself, you reflect on yourself and gain insight into the world.
By gaining focus through time alone, you can come back out into the world and work hard.
There are probably many introverted people among those working.
How difficult is it to take a company's entrance exam?
It's also an advantage for introverts to be able to overcome such high obstacles by using the focus of time spent alone.

--- pp.26~27

Even when I'm stressed because a big problem hasn't been resolved, I feel fulfilled when I hold my child in my arms. Even when I'm busy trying to deal with a flood of work, tears well up in my eyes when I hear a colleague's sincere thanks. Even when I'm angry about something that happened today, my heart is touched when I know that I have a friend who listens to my story over a drink.
Such good moments are everywhere, and we experience happiness every day.
Defining happiness is difficult, and talking about happiness is not easy.
But what is clear is that happiness is not a state of 'the absence of bad things', but a state of 'the presence of something good'.

--- p.54

There are people around us who, despite handling more work than others, never tire and always remain energetic.
Their defining characteristic is that they know how to change the type of work frequently, as if turning a switch on and off.
Cognitive psychologists call that ability the "voluntary switch."
People who are good at voluntary transitions are less prone to the lethargy associated with burnout.
On the other hand, there are people who consistently do one thing from the time they go to work until they leave work.
When you watch him from afar, he seems like a very strong-willed person.
But as a psychologist, I am concerned about his condition.
Because the time he works will be a process of suppressing pain.
Do you feel exhausted, both physically and mentally, like a wet cotton ball after work every evening? Then, consider how you approach your work.
Digging just one well isn't always a good idea.
Because sometimes you have to have the wisdom to turn the switch on and off voluntarily.

--- p.113

When we know someone for a long time, we tend to believe that the relationship is maintained because of the good things they bring to us.
But if you look closely, you'll find that in many cases, he's not the one who brings good things to me, but rather the one who prevents bad things from happening.
However, while people are very thankful and remember when good things happen, they mostly don't remember when something bad happens.
If someone needs to leave your company, even if it's on the level of a layoff, you can prepare for a beautiful and dignified farewell.
To do that, I want you to make sure to mention things that were prevented thanks to that person, and things that the organization didn't have to worry about because of that person's presence.
Parting is sad, and retirement is disappointing, but at least it gives me the feeling that the community I've been a part of for a long time remembers me well.

--- pp.155~156

I recently heard a very interesting definition of success from someone.
"Not being heard about my voice." When I first heard this, I thought, "Does this mean you want to be free from noise between floors?"
I asked and it turns out that's included in the deal.
Well, I guess I'd be successful if I had a space that was independent enough that others wouldn't feel uncomfortable because of the noise I made.
There are other hidden meanings as well.
I'm in a position where I don't hear people say, "You're wrong," or "Shut up," about my opinions.
This is also another form of success.
Why not discuss your definition of success with those around you? The mere fact that people with different goals and values ​​are striving to achieve it might give you the strength to move forward.

--- p.265

The future technologies we've been dreaming of, such as the Fourth Industrial Revolution, the Metaverse, and artificial intelligence, are already rapidly approaching.
It may seem complicated and difficult, but ultimately, all of this can be defined as 'feedback'.
Feedback science has become a game, and feedback systems have driven the Fourth Industrial Revolution.
Communication in the future will be about feedback between people, and good communication will require not just delivering good results, but also sharing the process and methods.
There is still a long, long life ahead of us.
I hope that you will grow by awakening your own perceptions, actions, and the hearts of others as you enjoy playing games to live a good life.
Because each of us can be a good person, even if we cannot become a great person.

--- p.395