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Book Introduction
“Rewrite the script of your life.”
Eric Berne, the founder of transactional analysis, tells us
How to let go of negative emotions and live as your true self
Why are my relationships so messed up?
'Why am I still having the same worries I had last year?'
'I'm working hard, but I'm not satisfied with the repetitive, hamster-wheel life!'
The reason the problem keeps repeating itself is because we don't know our 'present self'.
Eric Berne, an American psychiatrist and psychologist, created transactional analysis in 1957 based on over 30 years of psychotherapy experience.
In transactional analysis, the beliefs that we have developed without even realizing it are called our 'life script.'
If you don't know yourself well, you will apply the life script you wrote as a child to your current problems.
In the end, no matter what situation arises, we have no choice but to choose the same ending.
Transactional analysis is an excellent psychological theory for correcting the interaction patterns between oneself and others, life patterns that one was unaware of, and increasing life satisfaction.
Until now, there has been no book that summarizes Eric Byrne's transactional analysis in an easy and practical way.
Author Kim Jeong-hyeon, recognized as an expert in counseling and psychotherapy by the Korean Transactional Analysis Counseling Association and whose mission is to easily spread transactional analysis to the public, recommends having the "courage to step over the past and look into the present moment."
If you realize that old beliefs from the past no longer apply and rewrite your life script to fit your current self, you can live a positive and authentic life.
In this book you will learn five key concepts:
The first is ‘Life Script’.
Learn to recognize the excessive beliefs that make life unstable and accept yourself as you are.
The second is the ‘process script’.
Find out why you keep repeating unsatisfactory patterns in your life and practice breaking free from them.
The third is ‘racket feeling’.
Realize the fake emotions you were created to survive in childhood and regain your true emotions that can solve your problems.
The fourth is the 'psychological game' of repeating bad relationships.
Realize the cause of your frustrating relationships and create better ones.
The fifth and final one is the 'discount', which ignores the problem.
By facing the problems you've been ignoring because you're afraid to embrace them or find it difficult to change your behavior, you can achieve true change in your life.
If you suddenly find yourself questioning whether you're truly living well, if you want to overcome past wounds and start a new life, if you want to escape recurring relationship conflicts, look into yourself right now, at this very moment.
To let go of negative emotions and live as my true self, I need to know myself properly.
With this book, you will be able to live a life that is rewarding for your hard work, a life that creates the future you desire, a life filled with positive relationships, and a life that you can be satisfied with.
Eric Berne, the founder of transactional analysis, tells us
How to let go of negative emotions and live as your true self
Why are my relationships so messed up?
'Why am I still having the same worries I had last year?'
'I'm working hard, but I'm not satisfied with the repetitive, hamster-wheel life!'
The reason the problem keeps repeating itself is because we don't know our 'present self'.
Eric Berne, an American psychiatrist and psychologist, created transactional analysis in 1957 based on over 30 years of psychotherapy experience.
In transactional analysis, the beliefs that we have developed without even realizing it are called our 'life script.'
If you don't know yourself well, you will apply the life script you wrote as a child to your current problems.
In the end, no matter what situation arises, we have no choice but to choose the same ending.
Transactional analysis is an excellent psychological theory for correcting the interaction patterns between oneself and others, life patterns that one was unaware of, and increasing life satisfaction.
Until now, there has been no book that summarizes Eric Byrne's transactional analysis in an easy and practical way.
Author Kim Jeong-hyeon, recognized as an expert in counseling and psychotherapy by the Korean Transactional Analysis Counseling Association and whose mission is to easily spread transactional analysis to the public, recommends having the "courage to step over the past and look into the present moment."
If you realize that old beliefs from the past no longer apply and rewrite your life script to fit your current self, you can live a positive and authentic life.
In this book you will learn five key concepts:
The first is ‘Life Script’.
Learn to recognize the excessive beliefs that make life unstable and accept yourself as you are.
The second is the ‘process script’.
Find out why you keep repeating unsatisfactory patterns in your life and practice breaking free from them.
The third is ‘racket feeling’.
Realize the fake emotions you were created to survive in childhood and regain your true emotions that can solve your problems.
The fourth is the 'psychological game' of repeating bad relationships.
Realize the cause of your frustrating relationships and create better ones.
The fifth and final one is the 'discount', which ignores the problem.
By facing the problems you've been ignoring because you're afraid to embrace them or find it difficult to change your behavior, you can achieve true change in your life.
If you suddenly find yourself questioning whether you're truly living well, if you want to overcome past wounds and start a new life, if you want to escape recurring relationship conflicts, look into yourself right now, at this very moment.
To let go of negative emotions and live as my true self, I need to know myself properly.
With this book, you will be able to live a life that is rewarding for your hard work, a life that creates the future you desire, a life filled with positive relationships, and a life that you can be satisfied with.
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Introduction: Am I living well?
Prologue: A satisfying life begins with knowing myself.
Chapter 1.
What kind of person am I? _Life Script
The harder you work, the more anxious you become.
A state of self-discrepancy where there is no true self
Me who has to be perfect anytime, anywhere
I'm rich in people and connections, but I'm always lonely.
I can neither feel nor speak of pain
I work hard at everything, but I'm not particularly good at anything.
I'm in a hurry, but I'm not making any progress.
Chapter 2.
To you who are anxious even though you live hard
Moderation is key to any belief.
Now is the time to overturn distorted beliefs.
Right then, wrong now
Don't be anxious and don't be concerned
Chapter 3.
What kind of person am I repeating my life? _Process Script
6 Greek Mythological Stories That Show Human Nature
"No Rest Until the Twelve Labors of Hercules"
The Rock of Sisyphus: “An Endless Emptiness”
The Story of Arachne: "Always, Always the Same"
"I'm worried about what happens next" Damocles and the weight of the king
The Curse of Tantalus: “You Can Do Nothing”
"I just want to live and die like this" Philemon and Baucis
Chapter 4.
To you who repeats life while waiting for the sunshine of life
"Will the sun shine someday?" If you just think about it, it won't come.
You have to prioritize to achieve it.
Sometimes we live selfishly, seeing only what we want to see
Chapter 5.
Why do I feel stifled when I express my emotions? _Racket Emotions
He said, "Don't cry when you're sad, and don't laugh when you're happy."
What emotional buttons do I press most often?
The moment when false emotions become a life strategy
There are no bad feelings in the world.
There are just problematic emotions
Why Problematic Emotions Are a Problem
The representative racket emotion that incites us
Chapter 6.
To you who can't feel better even if you get angry and cry
The "I should have done better" guilt racket
"I'm afraid of being stabbed in the back by the axe I trust." Shame rackets, betrayal rackets.
The "I'm not satisfied with my accomplishments" inferiority complex racket
"I'll be alone anyway" - The Loneliness Racket
Why I Need to Be Aware of My Emotions
The courage to look into your true feelings and the right to reclaim them.
6 Ways to Reclaim Your True Feelings ①
6 Ways to Reclaim Your True Feelings ②
Chapter 7.
What Roles Do I Repeat in Relationships? _Psychological Games
Why on earth are you doing this to me?
“It wasn’t my fault, I’m sorry” victim
"Even if you do good, you get cursed at" - Persecutor
"Everyone seems to need my help" Savior
For humans, a warm embrace is more important than food.
Where do these always tangled human relationships go wrong?
Chapter 8.
To you who are full of people who bother me
The formula for a psychological game that instantly identifies a bad relationship
The formula for psychological games hidden everywhere in everyday life
How do psychological gamers recognize each other?
Could it be that I created this game?
There's a psychological game within a psychological game.
A bad relationship can only end if you cut ties.
Chapter 9.
Technology for Dealing with Invisible Problems _Discount
Things you can never see even with your eyes open
That's not the point of the problem
The clue to discounting lies in passive behavior.
A frame of reference that insists on doing things my way
Prejudices and delusions that hinder change and growth
Skills for facing life's big and small issues
3 Types of Discounts
3 Techniques to Correct Points for Change and Growth
References
Prologue: A satisfying life begins with knowing myself.
Chapter 1.
What kind of person am I? _Life Script
The harder you work, the more anxious you become.
A state of self-discrepancy where there is no true self
Me who has to be perfect anytime, anywhere
I'm rich in people and connections, but I'm always lonely.
I can neither feel nor speak of pain
I work hard at everything, but I'm not particularly good at anything.
I'm in a hurry, but I'm not making any progress.
Chapter 2.
To you who are anxious even though you live hard
Moderation is key to any belief.
Now is the time to overturn distorted beliefs.
Right then, wrong now
Don't be anxious and don't be concerned
Chapter 3.
What kind of person am I repeating my life? _Process Script
6 Greek Mythological Stories That Show Human Nature
"No Rest Until the Twelve Labors of Hercules"
The Rock of Sisyphus: “An Endless Emptiness”
The Story of Arachne: "Always, Always the Same"
"I'm worried about what happens next" Damocles and the weight of the king
The Curse of Tantalus: “You Can Do Nothing”
"I just want to live and die like this" Philemon and Baucis
Chapter 4.
To you who repeats life while waiting for the sunshine of life
"Will the sun shine someday?" If you just think about it, it won't come.
You have to prioritize to achieve it.
Sometimes we live selfishly, seeing only what we want to see
Chapter 5.
Why do I feel stifled when I express my emotions? _Racket Emotions
He said, "Don't cry when you're sad, and don't laugh when you're happy."
What emotional buttons do I press most often?
The moment when false emotions become a life strategy
There are no bad feelings in the world.
There are just problematic emotions
Why Problematic Emotions Are a Problem
The representative racket emotion that incites us
Chapter 6.
To you who can't feel better even if you get angry and cry
The "I should have done better" guilt racket
"I'm afraid of being stabbed in the back by the axe I trust." Shame rackets, betrayal rackets.
The "I'm not satisfied with my accomplishments" inferiority complex racket
"I'll be alone anyway" - The Loneliness Racket
Why I Need to Be Aware of My Emotions
The courage to look into your true feelings and the right to reclaim them.
6 Ways to Reclaim Your True Feelings ①
6 Ways to Reclaim Your True Feelings ②
Chapter 7.
What Roles Do I Repeat in Relationships? _Psychological Games
Why on earth are you doing this to me?
“It wasn’t my fault, I’m sorry” victim
"Even if you do good, you get cursed at" - Persecutor
"Everyone seems to need my help" Savior
For humans, a warm embrace is more important than food.
Where do these always tangled human relationships go wrong?
Chapter 8.
To you who are full of people who bother me
The formula for a psychological game that instantly identifies a bad relationship
The formula for psychological games hidden everywhere in everyday life
How do psychological gamers recognize each other?
Could it be that I created this game?
There's a psychological game within a psychological game.
A bad relationship can only end if you cut ties.
Chapter 9.
Technology for Dealing with Invisible Problems _Discount
Things you can never see even with your eyes open
That's not the point of the problem
The clue to discounting lies in passive behavior.
A frame of reference that insists on doing things my way
Prejudices and delusions that hinder change and growth
Skills for facing life's big and small issues
3 Types of Discounts
3 Techniques to Correct Points for Change and Growth
References
Detailed image
Into the book
There are times when you want to show your heart to someone, but you need to look at your situation and emotions clearly at that time.
It's a signal that a red light has come on inside me.
The reason I am not satisfied with my life is because I do not know myself well.
Now is the time for me to understand my heart first, rather than expecting others to understand it.
--- p.9, from “Am I living well?”
Transactional Analysis (TA) is an excellent theory for self-awareness and acceptance.
It's a psychological theory that clearly shows which part of me is working here and now.
Especially in stressful situations, I can closely observe what thoughts, feelings, and behaviors frequently occur within me when I am stimulated.
The 'self' that has realized and accepted this now makes the right choice about what to do.
--- p.11, from “A satisfying life begins with knowing myself”
The same goes for our emotions.
When you work hard but still feel anxious, or when you are somewhat satisfied with life but suddenly feel a lump in your throat, the first thing you should look into is your own heart.
Especially if it's a recurring situation, you need to look into the source.
--- p.62, from “Now is the time to overturn distorted beliefs”
Some people feel pain or loss from someone important to them, some people feel sadness at not having their honest feelings accepted, and some people feel a reluctance to let down their family's expectations...
Everyone just chose to live their lives the best way they could.
--- p.67, from “It Was Right Then, It’s Wrong Now”
Is there anything more convenient than knowing exactly what you want in life? When we consider the essence of what we do and establish our standards and priorities, our choices become easier and we gain the power to take action.
--- p.117, from “You can achieve something only if you set priorities”
Every choice is a responsibility to discard.
On the other hand, if you don't choose to take responsibility for anything, you will just keep repeating the same old script.
The challenge of wearing clothes you've never worn before and taking a path you've never taken before is unfamiliar and scary.
Maybe it's a fight with myself.
But giving up the way I've lived so far for a better life is a very important task for my life and my happiness, not for anyone else.
--- p.121, from “Sometimes we live selfishly, seeing only what we want to see”
In transactional analysis, there is a concept called 'racket'.
A racket is a tool used to manipulate the environment without the person's knowledge, initially learned and encouraged in the home, and then used in an exploitative manner as an adult.
And the feeling you get at this time is called the 'racket feeling'.
Racket emotions are feelings that replace emotions that were forbidden in childhood, familiar emotions that we often experience in stressful situations, and that we feel without being conscious of it.
--- p.139, “There are no bad emotions in the world.
From "There are only problematic emotions"
Someone said this:
There is no emotion without a reason.
And it expresses itself in some way.' If I eventually find the reason for my feelings and stay there long enough to comfort myself for having to do so, my heart might feel a lot lighter.
If you are looking for 'true feelings'.
--- p.178, from “The Courage to Look into True Feelings and the Right to Reclaim Them”
Steven Karpman proposed the 'drama triangle', a representative theory of psychological games.
The drama triangle is a psychological game where anyone who starts the game is assigned one of three scripted roles: 'victim', 'persecutor', or 'savior'.
The victim plays the role of making concessions and sacrifices in human relationships, the persecutor plays the role of oppressing or directing the other person from a position of power, and the savior plays the role of reconciling or mediating between the persecutor and the victim.
--- p.195, from “Why on earth are you doing this to me?”
We encounter various issues at crossroads in life.
This encompasses all aspects of my life, including my personal habits, lifestyle, relationships, work, health, and even my public life.
While some of these issues need to be addressed immediately, others can be left alone without much of a problem.
Because it's not urgent, it gets pushed back, and because it's not a big deal if you don't change it right away, it gets pushed down the priority list.
It's a signal that a red light has come on inside me.
The reason I am not satisfied with my life is because I do not know myself well.
Now is the time for me to understand my heart first, rather than expecting others to understand it.
--- p.9, from “Am I living well?”
Transactional Analysis (TA) is an excellent theory for self-awareness and acceptance.
It's a psychological theory that clearly shows which part of me is working here and now.
Especially in stressful situations, I can closely observe what thoughts, feelings, and behaviors frequently occur within me when I am stimulated.
The 'self' that has realized and accepted this now makes the right choice about what to do.
--- p.11, from “A satisfying life begins with knowing myself”
The same goes for our emotions.
When you work hard but still feel anxious, or when you are somewhat satisfied with life but suddenly feel a lump in your throat, the first thing you should look into is your own heart.
Especially if it's a recurring situation, you need to look into the source.
--- p.62, from “Now is the time to overturn distorted beliefs”
Some people feel pain or loss from someone important to them, some people feel sadness at not having their honest feelings accepted, and some people feel a reluctance to let down their family's expectations...
Everyone just chose to live their lives the best way they could.
--- p.67, from “It Was Right Then, It’s Wrong Now”
Is there anything more convenient than knowing exactly what you want in life? When we consider the essence of what we do and establish our standards and priorities, our choices become easier and we gain the power to take action.
--- p.117, from “You can achieve something only if you set priorities”
Every choice is a responsibility to discard.
On the other hand, if you don't choose to take responsibility for anything, you will just keep repeating the same old script.
The challenge of wearing clothes you've never worn before and taking a path you've never taken before is unfamiliar and scary.
Maybe it's a fight with myself.
But giving up the way I've lived so far for a better life is a very important task for my life and my happiness, not for anyone else.
--- p.121, from “Sometimes we live selfishly, seeing only what we want to see”
In transactional analysis, there is a concept called 'racket'.
A racket is a tool used to manipulate the environment without the person's knowledge, initially learned and encouraged in the home, and then used in an exploitative manner as an adult.
And the feeling you get at this time is called the 'racket feeling'.
Racket emotions are feelings that replace emotions that were forbidden in childhood, familiar emotions that we often experience in stressful situations, and that we feel without being conscious of it.
--- p.139, “There are no bad emotions in the world.
From "There are only problematic emotions"
Someone said this:
There is no emotion without a reason.
And it expresses itself in some way.' If I eventually find the reason for my feelings and stay there long enough to comfort myself for having to do so, my heart might feel a lot lighter.
If you are looking for 'true feelings'.
--- p.178, from “The Courage to Look into True Feelings and the Right to Reclaim Them”
Steven Karpman proposed the 'drama triangle', a representative theory of psychological games.
The drama triangle is a psychological game where anyone who starts the game is assigned one of three scripted roles: 'victim', 'persecutor', or 'savior'.
The victim plays the role of making concessions and sacrifices in human relationships, the persecutor plays the role of oppressing or directing the other person from a position of power, and the savior plays the role of reconciling or mediating between the persecutor and the victim.
--- p.195, from “Why on earth are you doing this to me?”
We encounter various issues at crossroads in life.
This encompasses all aspects of my life, including my personal habits, lifestyle, relationships, work, health, and even my public life.
While some of these issues need to be addressed immediately, others can be left alone without much of a problem.
Because it's not urgent, it gets pushed back, and because it's not a big deal if you don't change it right away, it gets pushed down the priority list.
--- p.260, from “That’s not the point of the problem”
Publisher's Review
“Am I living well?”
To you who are not satisfied with life
Even when I'm living well, I sometimes wonder, 'Am I really living well?'
Even though I have many connections, I feel lonely and empty. Even though I try my best in everything, I see no results. Even though others seem to be doing well, I am the only one who experiences repeated hardships.
I feel frustrated because life isn't going the way I want it to.
I feel like I'm working hard, but why am I so dissatisfied with my life? If I want to change from yesterday, I need to start by understanding myself.
Only when I take a good look at my situation and emotions can positive change come.
How well do I really know myself? Where do the responsibilities of being the eldest child, the pressure to support the family, the pressure to be perfect in everything, the anxiety that I'll fall behind if I don't constantly improve myself come from? Is it just coincidence that every conversation with that person always ends in an awkward way, and that I keep fighting with my partner over the same issues? Recurring problems aren't just bad luck or a coincidence.
If we don't have a process to trace where our thoughts, feelings, and values come from and where they are headed, unhappiness is bound to repeat itself.
The reason why life is unsatisfactory is because we do not know our present and past selves.
Author Kim Jeong-hyeon says transactional analysis is an excellent theory for facing the true self that one was unaware of and solving problems surrounding the world.
You may face obsessive beliefs that you may not have known about, negative thoughts and behaviors that have become habits, true feelings that you hide from others, inconsistent communication styles, and unconscious attitudes that ignore problems.
Knowing myself allows me to create the life I truly desire.
Everyone has their own writing
Living life according to the script
Eric Berne likens life to a 'play' and says that people live according to the 'life script' they wrote.
The problem arises when adults try to resolve conflicts using the life scripts they wrote as children.
There is a saying that 'human greed is endless and they repeat the same mistakes.'
When we're in a stressful situation, we tend to make the same choices over and over again, even though they don't necessarily help us solve the problem.
If you truly want to solve your problems, you need to rewrite your life script to fit your current self.
To do that, I must first start by knowing myself properly.
In Chapters 1 and 2, we will explore why people who always strive for perfection, who extremely dislike discomfort in relationships, who never share their worries, who only try hard, and who are always impatient are bound to be anxious, and we will rewrite the 'life script' that suits us.
In chapters 3 and 4, we will explore the "process script" that leads to a repetitive, unsatisfactory life, including an obsession with one thing, endless self-improvement, a habit of complaining, excessive anxiety about an unfulfilled future, and apathy for not having anything to do, and seek to change it.
Chapters 5 and 6 explore the recurring feelings of guilt, shame, inferiority, loneliness, and betrayal.
It refills the "racket emotions" - fake emotions that have been distorted throughout life, such as why I feel more sorry for my colleagues' mistakes or why I don't feel happy when I hear compliments - with real emotions.
In chapters 7 and 8, you will learn how to distinguish between the formula for bad human relationships that has always been uncomfortable and the 'psychological games' that are different on the outside and inside.
Finally, in Chapter 9, you'll learn the art of confronting the "discount"—the real reason you've failed at dieting for years or haven't made progress on a company project—and learn how to transform your life into something more fulfilling.
If you have the courage to look at yourself properly like this, your life can change positively.
Stepping over the past and starting each day anew
Look into me now, at this moment.
The reason why I feel frustrated and my life feels meaningless even though I'm working hard and things aren't going well is because I'm solving problems in a way that doesn't suit me.
If this continues, you will eventually become dissatisfied with your life, compare yourself to others, and fall into endless self-pity.
But we have the power to change our lives.
It's just that I didn't know myself well enough to repeat the wrong method.
If you want your life to change for the better, you have to let go of the illusion that you know yourself well.
Because the random strategies we discover in childhood become our unconscious attitudes toward life.
An old strategy may have been right then, but it's wrong now.
Because life doesn't stop at that moment.
We need to find ways to cope with the various situations we face in life and redefine our attitude toward life to suit us at this very moment.
The reason I am not satisfied with my life is because I did not know myself.
If you rewrite your life script and find a new attitude toward life, your work, your relationships, and your life can all change positively.
If you are tired of living a life that feels unstable and repetitive, like a hamster wheel, even though you work hard, it is time to understand yourself properly.
If you console yourself, who is full of past wounds, and face aspects of yourself that you didn't know existed, your life will begin to change.
You will be able to welcome each new day with a more satisfying today than yesterday.
To you who are not satisfied with life
Even when I'm living well, I sometimes wonder, 'Am I really living well?'
Even though I have many connections, I feel lonely and empty. Even though I try my best in everything, I see no results. Even though others seem to be doing well, I am the only one who experiences repeated hardships.
I feel frustrated because life isn't going the way I want it to.
I feel like I'm working hard, but why am I so dissatisfied with my life? If I want to change from yesterday, I need to start by understanding myself.
Only when I take a good look at my situation and emotions can positive change come.
How well do I really know myself? Where do the responsibilities of being the eldest child, the pressure to support the family, the pressure to be perfect in everything, the anxiety that I'll fall behind if I don't constantly improve myself come from? Is it just coincidence that every conversation with that person always ends in an awkward way, and that I keep fighting with my partner over the same issues? Recurring problems aren't just bad luck or a coincidence.
If we don't have a process to trace where our thoughts, feelings, and values come from and where they are headed, unhappiness is bound to repeat itself.
The reason why life is unsatisfactory is because we do not know our present and past selves.
Author Kim Jeong-hyeon says transactional analysis is an excellent theory for facing the true self that one was unaware of and solving problems surrounding the world.
You may face obsessive beliefs that you may not have known about, negative thoughts and behaviors that have become habits, true feelings that you hide from others, inconsistent communication styles, and unconscious attitudes that ignore problems.
Knowing myself allows me to create the life I truly desire.
Everyone has their own writing
Living life according to the script
Eric Berne likens life to a 'play' and says that people live according to the 'life script' they wrote.
The problem arises when adults try to resolve conflicts using the life scripts they wrote as children.
There is a saying that 'human greed is endless and they repeat the same mistakes.'
When we're in a stressful situation, we tend to make the same choices over and over again, even though they don't necessarily help us solve the problem.
If you truly want to solve your problems, you need to rewrite your life script to fit your current self.
To do that, I must first start by knowing myself properly.
In Chapters 1 and 2, we will explore why people who always strive for perfection, who extremely dislike discomfort in relationships, who never share their worries, who only try hard, and who are always impatient are bound to be anxious, and we will rewrite the 'life script' that suits us.
In chapters 3 and 4, we will explore the "process script" that leads to a repetitive, unsatisfactory life, including an obsession with one thing, endless self-improvement, a habit of complaining, excessive anxiety about an unfulfilled future, and apathy for not having anything to do, and seek to change it.
Chapters 5 and 6 explore the recurring feelings of guilt, shame, inferiority, loneliness, and betrayal.
It refills the "racket emotions" - fake emotions that have been distorted throughout life, such as why I feel more sorry for my colleagues' mistakes or why I don't feel happy when I hear compliments - with real emotions.
In chapters 7 and 8, you will learn how to distinguish between the formula for bad human relationships that has always been uncomfortable and the 'psychological games' that are different on the outside and inside.
Finally, in Chapter 9, you'll learn the art of confronting the "discount"—the real reason you've failed at dieting for years or haven't made progress on a company project—and learn how to transform your life into something more fulfilling.
If you have the courage to look at yourself properly like this, your life can change positively.
Stepping over the past and starting each day anew
Look into me now, at this moment.
The reason why I feel frustrated and my life feels meaningless even though I'm working hard and things aren't going well is because I'm solving problems in a way that doesn't suit me.
If this continues, you will eventually become dissatisfied with your life, compare yourself to others, and fall into endless self-pity.
But we have the power to change our lives.
It's just that I didn't know myself well enough to repeat the wrong method.
If you want your life to change for the better, you have to let go of the illusion that you know yourself well.
Because the random strategies we discover in childhood become our unconscious attitudes toward life.
An old strategy may have been right then, but it's wrong now.
Because life doesn't stop at that moment.
We need to find ways to cope with the various situations we face in life and redefine our attitude toward life to suit us at this very moment.
The reason I am not satisfied with my life is because I did not know myself.
If you rewrite your life script and find a new attitude toward life, your work, your relationships, and your life can all change positively.
If you are tired of living a life that feels unstable and repetitive, like a hamster wheel, even though you work hard, it is time to understand yourself properly.
If you console yourself, who is full of past wounds, and face aspects of yourself that you didn't know existed, your life will begin to change.
You will be able to welcome each new day with a more satisfying today than yesterday.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Publication date: April 27, 2020
- Page count, weight, size: 288 pages | 392g | 142*210*20mm
- ISBN13: 9791196990756
- ISBN10: 1196990751
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