We must struggle to survive as truly free selves, to learn what survives as existence in the empty place of death where nothing remains.
On the path of that struggle, I must ponder what language I am organized in, whose desires I live by, and what causes the impulses that dominate me.
The process of thinking will open up a space where I can understand the desires of others, distance myself from their desires, and be myself.
---From “Who Are Women and What Do They Live By?”

There are two major characteristics that make women fall in love.
One is when you feel a self-identifying element.
There is an aspect of women who see themselves as infinitely weak and are particularly attracted to the weak, and an aspect of possessiveness where they are attracted to someone they think (fantasize) has qualities they do not have.
The former can go beyond narcissistic satisfaction and even turn women into fighters who throw themselves at the weak.
The latter will dedicate themselves to the desire for possession and control.
---From "'There is no me without the other?'"

If I go beyond simply building my own niche from the harsh, harsh gaze of others and the world through my own choices, and instead enjoy the loneliness and pain that comes from their misunderstanding and criticism, I can reach a point of unprecedented zenith.
So, although it is a choice that anyone can take and make, it is certainly not a path that everyone takes and a choice that everyone makes.
---From "Now is the Age of Loss"

True salvation, as Buddhism says, seems to be a state in which we are no longer caught up in impulses and desires.
The desires and impulses that form the layers within us are all social products, and the unconscious also originates from others.
So, it means that I am no longer a typist, but I am, and becoming me means that there is nothing left, that I am nothing.
It means losing everything.
Even in the midst of all this, we must survive.

---From "The Tug of War Between Happiness and Pain"

Some people are vaguely aware of the jealousy that arises between close relationships, such as between husband and wife, teacher and student, or children and parents.
Things aren't so bad this time.
Because in the process of analysis, it becomes possible to segment it and redirect the energy in different directions.
The problem isn't the energy that is expressed in jealousy itself, but how it is used that ultimately leads to conflict and pain in the relationship.
It is a problem that goes so deep that you are not even aware of it or should not be aware of it.
Unconscious jealousy creates various rationalizations and justifications on the surface, which in turn produces further suffering.

---From "Jealousy in the Place of Deficiency"

We say, as if it were a habit, 'accept it as it is', but it is also a fancy way of saying that if we just accept the world as it is, it will become like that even though the world we see is not as it is.
What we see with our eyes cannot be what is.
If my desires are not projected and I cannot separate the world from myself and leave a space between them, then the idea that things are as they are is nothing more than a distant illusion.
---From "'And Still, Love Blooms'"

There are women who can never be happy as mothers.
There are women who have already become wives, but can never be happy as wives.
Some women suffer from guilt when they discover that they are not capable of motherhood because they know that motherhood is a woman's nature and fundamental nature.
Not all women and not all men can live their lives surrendering to the roles and images demanded by society or family.
And the fact that I don't fit that image is not something that should be condemned.
However, if I could perceive what kind of person I am a little more delicately and closely, I might be able to live my life and the world around me in a different way.

---From "There Are No Women"

Couples and lovers come into close contact every day, and that contact is primarily achieved through conversation, that is, through the exchange of language.
Although physical contact and skinship are very important, there are couples who get along well without having an intimate physical relationship.
They have relatively smooth verbal communication and interaction.

Having a good conversation and understanding and comprehending each other's language are two different things.
These days, it is said that conversation and communication methods are very well developed, but I do not believe that verbal communication can be achieved only by refining and smoothing speaking skills.

---From "Broken Language, Broken Heart"

Couples and lovers are in the closest contact every day, and that contact is, above all, conversation. We always feel like we are sharing a certain gaze.
The gaze follows me, makes me conscious, makes me feel unnatural, and controls me.
It could be the parents' perspective, or it could simply be the world's perspective that a child who has never experienced it himself has indiscriminately accepted.

In a situation where I am placed under such a gaze, I must become the subject of the gaze.
It takes courage to separate and block out the gaze.
To do that, I have to constantly fight against the gazes that dominate me and constantly struggle to escape from them.
Then we have to re-enter that place of gaze.

---From "'There's a Bohemian in a Woman'"

The idea that happiness is nothing more than the harmony and comfort we believe to be, the warm evenings spent with our loved ones and family, may be nothing more than the happiness of others, governed by an ideology.
It might be happiness to just let myself be lonely, cold, insecure, hungry, and desolate.
It is from the “state of nothingness” where there is no influence from anyone or no reflection from anyone.

---From "Enjoying Freedom Alone"