“It’s not too late, so be thankful for the people by your side.
Listen to what that person has to say.

In the end, the person who will share the last moments of our lives with us and give meaning to our lives is
“It’s the person right next to you right now.”

When you stand at the end of life, you start to think about the meaning of things that are unseen.
The last gift from psychoanalyst Kim Hye-nam!
Psychology for those who feel empty and wonder why they are living.

Dr. Kim Hye-nam, a psychoanalyst who is said to have “lowered the threshold for psychiatric hospitals in Korea,” is one of the country’s top psychiatrists and a professor who supervises psychiatric residents. She has published several psychology books while going back and forth between her clinic and school, and has become a bestselling author.
But from this time on, the author suffered from Parkinson's disease and grew old along with the disease.
Now in his sixties, he no longer sees patients in his clinic and his health has deteriorated to the point where he can no longer write. However, he has come to understand and gain insight into the essence of life by distancing himself from the rigors of life.
This book is the last story written by author Kim Hye-nam, who has been loved by 1.3 million readers since her thirties. It sheds light on the psychology of human nature, which the author herself wanted to write about the most, through a film that contains the story of our lives, helping us understand ourselves and others, and conveying the meaning of life and the energy of life.

Sartre also pointed out the core of this dilemma that lovers feel.
'A lover wants to possess the other person as an object, but at the same time, he wants the other person to remain a free being and love him according to his own free will.'
If you try to manipulate what cannot be manipulated and force what cannot be forced, your love will unknowingly go in a strange direction rather than the exchange of a true relationship.
That may not be the final form of love we desire.
Every couple wants to have some degree of control over their partner, but they also want their partner to love them voluntarily, not through artificial means.
---From "The Trap of Pygmalion's Love"

Just as we experience an expansion of the self when we love, we feel a contraction and diminishment of the self when we lose love.
The fulfillment you feel when you are in love becomes empty and disappointing, as if it were an illusion.
The joy of unity felt during love, on the other hand, makes the lonely self after a breakup more vulnerable to hurt.
The world called 'us' that lovers created together is now reduced to the element called 'me'.
The happiness of thinking that you were the only one who loved someone disappears, and you are left alone, depleted, worthless, and meaningless.
Heartbreak is not simply the loss of a loved one; it strikes at the very core of a person's self, shattering and destroying it.
So the feelings of heartbreak are bound to become more complicated.

---From "When the End of Love Feels Like Death"

Claustrophobia is a condition in which a person feels extreme fear when in a narrow or confined space.
Due to their fear of enclosed spaces, patients cannot use elevators or subways, and if they are confined in such spaces, they may experience panic attacks due to extreme anxiety.
The feeling of being trapped in a confined space, suffocating, and never being able to escape is also related to the fear of being controlled.
From an analytical perspective, claustrophobia is interpreted as being linked to the fear of being trapped inside the mother's body and not being able to escape.
Moreover, those who suffer from claustrophobia desperately try to escape enclosed spaces because of the fear that their aggression will destroy their mother's body and soon return to them and destroy them as well.
---From "Can True Relationships Be Made in a Disconnected World?"

In this way, all people live connected to each other by various strings.
Some strings are tightly tied regardless of my will, and some strings, no matter how hard I try, are not firmly connected and keep slipping away.
Some strings just pass by, like a stone in the street that accidentally gets caught on the tip of my toe.
And our desires flow along those various strings.
In many cases, life is determined by the flow of that desire.
---From “Why do human relationships lead to wounds?”

Dreaming and taking action to achieve it is not an easy task, even for young people.
This is because we are accustomed to the experience of quickly giving up and resigning ourselves to even small failures.
Dreaming of dreams that seem impossible now seems more like a vain delusion than a romantic one.
But the moment you finally reach that dream brings a joy that cannot be traded for anything.
Even if you lived your whole life for five minutes to achieve your dream, it wouldn't be a waste. Life gives you the opportunity to enjoy that joy equally.
Regardless of age, there are opportunities for anyone who wants to do it.

---From "What Gives Meaning to Our Existence"

When we transcend ourselves and recognize our finiteness, that is, when we realize that we may soon die, we can overcome the nihilism that is creeping in and give meaning to our lives.
This is based on the belief that even after I die, life will continue through the next generation and the world will continue.
That is, we can look forward to the future by integrating our past and present experiences.
---From "Where Time Gathers to Form a Golden Lake"

Animals long to become human, and humans long to become animals.
There are no completely evil people or completely good people in the world, and everything flows and reincarnates without being able to go against the flow of time.
We often think that if we could turn back time, everything would be better, but ultimately, we are the beings we make through our own choices.
I will always have regrets about the paths I did not take.
Sometimes, we learn from our wrong choices and grow, becoming a better person today.
---From "If I could turn back time, would everything be different?"

Society refers to a group formed by many people coming together.
As people live in society, they sometimes project their inner conflicts onto other people, groups, or social ideologies.
And the external object created in this way is made to take on a function within one's own mind, which is called externalization in psychoanalytic terms.
Through these mechanisms, people's unconsciousness structures and moves society.
Therefore, a society can be said to be a place where the collective unconsciousness of the people living in that era is projected.
All societies, like individuals, have their own psychological structures and function according to the same laws.
That is, an individual can never be free from society, and society can never be free from the existence of an individual.
---From "When We Exist as a Group or as Individuals"

I think that in our society too, we need to make an effort to mature and stop regressing by having a more solid sense of self.
Even if it is painful, facing the numerous problems we have and accepting and acknowledging our true selves can be the starting point for solving them.
As if it were the beginning of all psychotherapy.
So, I hope that even in films that reflect our society, we can come out with a faint glimmer of hope rather than the sadistic pleasures of a regressive society.

---From "Why is our society so crazy about gangster movies?"