Another reason emotional competence has become so important is our growing desire to be respected as individuals.
Today, we want to communicate with others as equals, as human beings, before we consider them family, friends, colleagues, or seniors and juniors.
It means that you want to express your feelings honestly and when this is suppressed, you become more stressed.
--- 「1.
From "Why am I the hardest person in the world to deal with?"

It's strange to even show that you're upset about something like this.
If I just understand and move on, I feel like I'm the only one being fooled.
"I thought I was really close to those two people, but maybe they weren't? Shouldn't friends at least avoid upsetting anyone? It was my friends who did something wrong, so why should I be the one who feels bad?"
--- 「2.
From “Why do we get hurt because we have different opinions”

Recognizing that there are other emotions within a person's emotions, such as primary and secondary emotions, improves human relationships.
Assuming that other people also have inner and outer feelings, you become more relaxed when dealing with people.

--- 「3.
From "If I want to figure out what I really want"

Even though we have the same position, there are people who feel uncomfortable when we talk to them.
These are people who only want to talk about themselves, without any regard for the psychological visibility of the other person.
But if you just make them feel like, 'I'm listening to your story,' there's no one they can't talk to.

--- 「4.
Is it really a good idea to keep your distance from people?

“That guy always complains at length.
It's only been a couple of times since I've listened to your story, but now it's annoying.
At first, he comforted me and gave me various advice.
“Sometimes, they brag about something really good that happened to them, and other times, they suddenly start crying.” This is one of the many stories I hear around me.
There are quite a few people like this among those who are good at their jobs and have good abilities.
This is when you think too much about yourself.

--- 「8.
From "Sometimes I Feel Like the Main Character in a Novel"

Yesterday he expressed his affection by saying, "I'm so grateful that you exist," but today he gets angry and says, "Why are you treating me so rudely?"
They are characterized by emotional instability and impulsiveness.
People sometimes mistake people with borderline personality disorder for those with depression.
However, in the case of patients with depression, they often quietly hide within themselves.
The criterion for distinguishing them is 'do they harass others?'

--- 「8.
From "Sometimes I Feel Like the Main Character in a Novel"

It is difficult for an average person to become a leader.
A leader must attract the hearts of others.
That is, there must be likes and dislikes.
That's how you create presence.
People like people who are clear about their emotions.
You have to feel that the character is clear to feel the appeal.

--- 「10.
From "It is difficult for an average person to become a leader"

To paraphrase loneliness, I'd say it's 'the feeling that my world is shrinking.'
The way to get rid of that loneliness is not to 'attach someone else's world to you', but to 'expand your own world and connect with other worlds.'
Loneliness does not go away in a way that invades my world and undermines its autonomy.

--- 「13.
From "I may be lonely, but I don't want to become helpless"

Many psychology books convey the message that negative emotions are valuable because they are your emotions.
But it is difficult to ‘cherish something you dislike.’
No one wants to be an angry person.
Telling someone that their feelings of anger are also valuable may provide comfort in the moment, but it doesn't provide a solution.

--- From "Epilogue_The Ultimate Goal is My Freedom"