· Introduction

Chapter 1: Sam Sang-mi's Story
“You have to believe in yourself to achieve your dreams.”

· Special Lecture 1: Pain Will Someday Become a Specification
· Special Lecture 2: A Miracle Happens When You Pour Water into a Bottomless Jar
· Special Lecture 3: Knowing the True Meaning of "Career" Will Make You Want to Make Money

Chapter 2: The Wise Emotional Life of Adolescents
“Know yourself to nurture yourself.”

· Secrets of the Adolescent Brain
-Remodeling my brain
-You need to know the secrets of the adolescent brain.
· Watch this when you have a hard time controlling your anger
· Watch this when you want to put your anger into action
· Watch this when you want revenge
· Watch this when you're angry and annoyed
-The other person doesn't change
-There's a way to get angry wisely.
-Why do people get so angry?
-There are characteristics of people who get angry easily.
-'Ignore' is the answer.
There are ways to get along with people who are difficult to get along with.
· I can be the master of my emotions
- Practice emotional regulation
-I'll teach you how to talk to your feelings.
-Let me name my feelings.

Chapter 3: The Secret Room: The Counseling Room
“I grow my own heart muscles.”

· Watch this when you feel like dying
· Look at this when you are hurt by someone else's words
· Watch this when you want to train your heart, which is easily hurt and unable to speak.
· Watch this when you want to be loved
· Watch this when you feel lethargic and don't want to do anything.
-Lethargy and laziness have different roots.
· Watch this when you are struggling due to inferiority complex
· Watch this when you want to be happy
· Finding my aptitude and dream is the same as dating.
-I search for friends of the opposite sex with excitement.
-Perseverance is more important than environment, talent, or intelligence.
-Study hard and practice to develop your own abilities.
How many years does it take to become an expert in a field?
· When I see everyone doing well on Instagram, I watch it when I feel depressed.
· Is it innate nature or habit that makes you stronger?
· Watch this when you are feeling tired and having a hard time
-My brain likes me wearing sneakers.
-Dreams come true with physical strength.
· Watch games and porn when you can't stop
· If you're wondering which friends you should be close with, read this
· Look at my life when you think it's already too late
· Sex with a friend of the opposite sex… … Watch this when you feel anxious
· I can't forget the scars of sexual assault I suffered as a child.

Chapter 4: The Young Men Who Achieved Their Dreams, Encountered by Sam Sang-mi
“Focus on me and the path will open.”

BTS: "We Learned to Love Ourselves"

Chapter 5: Youth Asks and Sam Sang-mi Answers
“If you knock earnestly, the door will open.”

· Sam Sang-mi, tell us about yourself.

Book structure

Chapter 1 features special lectures by Professor Park Sang-mi, currently a beloved YouTuber. These lectures include "When Scars Become Patterns" and "The Healing Power of Film," given on CBS's "15 Minutes to Change the World," as well as the "Dream-Over-Dream Career Lecture" given by the Seoul Metropolitan Office of Education.
It was also shared so that it can be viewed through the QR code in the book and the YouTube URL.

Chapter 2, A Wise Emotional Lifestyle for Teenagers - "Knowing Myself to Grow Myself" reveals the secrets of the brain as to why teenagers inevitably experience emotional ups and downs, and shares solutions for how teenagers can communicate with their parents.
It also provides solutions to deal with feeling angry and irritated for no reason.

Chapter 3, Secret Room: Mental Counseling Room - “I Develop My Own Mental Muscles” introduces the various stories of teenagers who have sent letters of concern to Sam Sang-mi, and Sam Sang-mi offers customized solutions.
In particular, when you feel like dying, when you are hurt by others' words, when you want to be loved, when you want to find your aptitude and dreams, etc., not only teenagers but also adults often have concerns, and sometimes she gives warm and wise advice like a friend or the older sister next door.

Chapter 4, “The young people who achieved their dreams that Sam Sang-mi met - “If I focus on myself, the path will open up” contains photos and writings that Sam Sang-mi herself took while interviewing BTS in Berlin, Germany five years ago.
On that day, when BTS's success was already predicted, their footsteps were recorded in detail to inform the youth of why BTS was bound to succeed.

Chapter 5, Youth Asks and Teacher Sangmi Answers - “If You Knock Earnestly, the Door Will Open” is an interview in which teacher Sangmi Park asks and answers questions that youth have always been curious about, such as what she does and why she does it.
The teacher's past experiences and current activities show us that there are many doors in the world that may seem unopenable, but will open if you knock hard enough.
And that strength comes from ‘believing in myself,’ so I send you my support so that you can believe in yourself and achieve your dreams.


Author's Note, Preface

“The pain I experience today will one day become a burning hope for someone.”

The question I get asked most often when I give lectures is, “What pain have you overcome?”
I repeated a year in high school.
I was really bad at studying when I was in 3rd grade of middle school.
I was a kid who always got scolded at school… … .
But if I can overcome the pain I experienced as a child, I can grow into the person I dream of.
As long as I don't give up on myself!

While I was studying for the college entrance exam, my father said to me, "Sangmi, your dream is to become a writer, right? Go to the library and read lots of books and watch lots of movies.
At your age, you are probably the only young person in Korea who can read books and watch good movies to their heart's content.
“Daughter, the pain you are going through now will become fertilizer for you to speak and write in the future to save others who are hurting like you,” he said.
I wasn't sure if a worthless child like me could become that kind of person, but my father's words saved me.

Is there someone by my side right now who believes in me?
Am I being that person to someone?
Is there anyone who is going through a long tunnel of pain right now?
I will always believe in you and support you.

I hope that through this book, young people will gain comfort, courage, and wisdom in life.
Additionally, adults hope to learn how to read their children's minds and communicate with them.
So, I sincerely hope that young people and adults who read this book will have open conversations and become a little closer to each other.

* All proceeds from this book will be used to support books and counseling services for prisons, juvenile detention centers, and single mother facilities.

The young people who achieved their dreams through Sam Sang-mi

Interviewing BTS in Berlin in 2014!
“Wake up and listen to yourself!”
I already had a feeling they would succeed five years ago.

I looked closely at those faces that I thought were as handsome as sculptures.
I don't think I've ever seen young men with such sparkling eyes.
I could smell the fresh scent of grass on the faces of young people who were madly advancing toward their own dreams, the dreams they had found.
One by one, we shook hands warmly.

“Thank you for introducing Korea to the world.
You are patriots!”
Since I finished my interviews in 2014, I've been telling pop culture experts that BTS would be this successful.
So their success is not surprising, but rather heartwarming and tearful.
The question they posed to young people around the world at the UN in 2019.

I heard the answer to the question, "What is your name? Tell me about yourself?" five years ago, in a small waiting room backstage at a Berlin concert.
BTS's competition is themselves.
To constantly surpass themselves, they will be up all night making music, singing, and dancing.
I believe that their challenges will not end even in 10 years or 20 years.

-Idol philosophers who ask about dreams and their meaning, their run is endless.