To all the parents in the world who are suffering from their children's problems
Monk Beopryun's Child-Raising Method

If I had to pick the most memorable and exciting moment in my life, it would be the day my first child arrived.
Getting married is a ritual that comes to any couple, but the moment my body conceived a new life, it was a time filled with the emotion of entering another world.
Becoming a mother is like entering another universe.

But what about us now? Are we fulfilling our role as parents, following the natural order of things? This is why I republished an expanded version of "Mom's Class," which was first published 12 years ago.
Twelve years have passed since the publication of “Mom’s Class.”
Now, more than 10 years later, the child from that time is a teenager or an adult, and the mother is middle-aged or even a grandmother.
"Mom's Class" has been re-released with content tailored to today's mothers and children, and with new stories added.
As the world changes so quickly, life as a mother and a parent becomes increasingly confusing.
Regarding this, Venerable Pomnyun says that although various phenomena occur depending on the environment, whether it is artificial intelligence or the coronavirus, the essence of the truth that permeates the times is one.
Just as farming becomes less tiring and more fun when you know the principles of farming, he emphasizes that anyone who knows the principles of life can be happy in it without having to struggle to raise a child.


Many parents today view their children as property rather than independent individuals, treating them like nice objects.
So, we think we are doing a good job as parents by dressing our children in nice clothes, feeding them expensive food, sending them to private tutoring, and sending them to study abroad.


Is that really true? Monk Beopryun says that children grow well without these conditions, simply by receiving parental love.
Even if a child has all the material conditions, if he or she does not grow up feeling the warmth of his or her parents, he or she will not be able to see himself or the world in a positive light.

Helping a child be happy is the best gift a parent can give to their child, says Venerable Pomnyun.
However, most parents unknowingly pass on to their children the parenting methods they learned from their own parents.
This is not because of a lack of desire to make the child happy, but because of a lack of understanding of the child, that is, a lack of wisdom.
Therefore, it is said that only when parents' perception and attitude toward their children change can they solve the pain and problems they experience because of their children.

This book, which introduces the wise ways to raise our children by compiling the words of Venerable Pomnyun, who gave immediate enlightenment to parents who had been suffering from child problems for a long time, will serve as an excellent parenting guide for parents and children in everyday life.

In order to raise children to be people with healthy personalities, parents must first have a stable mind.
It doesn't really matter whether you are rich or poor financially.
You must have a strong mother's heart that says, 'I will protect my child no matter what happens.'
That way, the child can grow up well, supported by the mother's heart.

A child has the right to grow up in its mother's arms. A child has the right to be protected and loved by its mother from the moment it is born, and once a mother gives birth, she has unlimited responsibility for the child.
Otherwise, it will be difficult for the child to live happily, and if the child is not able to become independent, the parents will suffer the consequences until they grow old and die.


To a child, mother is the world, the universe, and God.
If that god is shaken, how will the children live with anxiety? We must always be as strong as a mountain in front of the children.
When the kids say something, just say, “Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.”

If you have a healthy ego when you are young, you can live with dignity even if you are poor and overcome criticism from others. However, if your ego is weak, life will be difficult no matter how much money you have.
The reason why many mental illnesses are appearing these days and the suicide rate is increasing is because there is a problem with self-formation.
That is why we must care for our children with love until they reach the age of three, when their ego is formed.

A child is an independent life and a human being who should be respected, not a possession.
Adults choose to get married, so they must take responsibility for that choice.
Parents who give birth to a child without asking the child what they want to be born with must bear infinite responsibility.

“Even if you stutter, I love you.” “Even if everyone in the world has problems with you, I love you.” “Even if you are physically disabled, I love you even if you are bad at studying, I love you even if you get into trouble.” This is the true heart of a mother.
For a child, a mother is the last bastion he can lean on.
So, even if a child is tired and having a hard time in the world, he or she should be able to find comfort when he or she sees his or her mother.


When a child is young, love means caring for him or her with devotion and devotion.
For children in their teens, love means watching over them while suppressing the desire to interfere, that is, the desire to help.
When a child becomes an adult, a cool-headed love is needed, centered on parents restraining their own feelings and not interfering at all with their children so that they can follow their own path.

Fostering self-reliance is the best gift parents can give their children.
However, there are many cases where children are ruined because they are only passed on material wealth and not a spiritual legacy.

Children do not exist for their parents.
It is the parents' role to put aside obsessions about studying and school and to carefully check on their children's condition and help them live healthy lives.

When raising children, parents should not scold them and teach them what is allowed and what is not allowed, but should strictly distinguish between them and put it into practice.
So, if it doesn't work, it definitely doesn't work, and if it does work, the child and the mother should exchange opinions once or twice and discuss it and listen to it.

No matter how great a parent's love is, if that love is conveyed in the parents' own way, the child may not always accept it well.
I did it with love, but it could be oppressive to the child.
If you don't know that, you will only end up resenting them and saying, "I love and cherish you so much, how could you do this to me!"
'All problems are my fault, not my child's.' Only when we understand this truth can we truly solve our children's problems and fulfill our role as true mothers.

'Are you a parent or a parent?' These days, many mothers and fathers have given up on being parents and are only doing the job of a parent.
They are only interested in their children studying well and becoming successful later in life, so they catch them from a young age.

A child is a being that resembles others.
If parents live like this, their children will inevitably become unbalanced and shaken, but they don't even look after themselves and just scold their children.
Now is the time for parents to take courage.


If you do as your mother tells you, only one or two out of ten children will do well, and the rest will only become more resistant because they can't do as they are told.
And because they have no subjectivity, they can't find the center of their own lives and wander around, blaming their mothers for everything, saying, "It's all my fault."
Because this is the life my mother created for me, I don't reflect on myself or make any effort.
As a result, children end up becoming a heavy burden to their mothers.

True parents should encourage their children to find work that suits their tastes, temperaments, and talents.
In your twenties, you should try this and that, work here and there, and go through hardships to find happiness in your own way.

You shouldn't look at children based on who you are now.
I can understand children by focusing on what I was like when I was their age, but if I do that, I become obsessed with my own experiences and absolutize them. If I go that far as to criticize my children, they will end up going astray.
Because experiences are different for each person, and as times and situations change, so do tendencies.

If you want your child to study, the mother must study first.
If a mother studies her mind, she will be able to communicate with her child and feel comfortable no matter what situation arises.
Then, nothing that causes trouble to the child will happen, and no matter what happens, the mother can be a support for the child.


When children have problems, it's because their mothers were anxious, had a hard time, were neurotic, or whatever, and caused psychological harm to them when they were young.
Knowing this principle, when children grow up and resist, instead of fighting with them, you should realize that you have been psychologically suppressing them while raising them, and from then on, you should be able to accept their feelings.

We must understand the child's behavior, but we must ensure that he or she receives appropriate punishment for his or her misconduct.
If your child is taken to the police station, no matter how bad the act was, as a mother, you must visit them regularly and take care of them because they are your child.

If you accept that your child can cause an accident, there is no problem, and if you believe that if they do something wrong, they should be punished according to the law, then there is nothing to worry about.
Having this kind of comfortable mind is what it means to be a parent and a practitioner.

A husband is neither a good nor a bad person.
He's just that guy.
But if I see you as good, you become a good person, and if I see you as bad, you become a bad person.
If I look down on my husband, I, as a wife, will become a worthless woman, and my son will also become worthless.
So, we need to start by calculating the number of seeds for the son who became the son of a worthless person.
The way to do this is to say, 'Honey, you are a wonderful person.
'I was foolish and misjudged you.' This is how you pray for repentance.
This is the best way to care for your children.

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