Prologue_Our children must never be raised to be angry adults!

Part 1.
Did you lose your temper in front of your child today?

Chapter 1.
Parenting is so hard, parents are still angry today.

-Today too, I got angry and reflected, got angry and reflected, got angry and reflected
-Out of the blue! Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?
-Is this a weekend special? Anger erupts from the child's front, back, and sides!
-Why is parenting so hard?

Chapter 2.
Infinite Destructive Power! Wook Ruins Parenting

-Ugh, it hinders the child's emotional development.
-Ugh, ruining the parent-child relationship
-Ugh, it reduces the child's problem-solving skills
-Two important things in parenting: waiting and respect.
-No matter how much effort you put into raising your child, it all comes crashing down in one tantrum.

Chapter 3.
I know I shouldn't, but why not?

A society that glorifies anger, a society that provokes anger
-A sad childhood, a late desire for dependence
-Why am I so angry with my child?
★Bonus Page.
Find out your 'angry' index

Part 2.
There's a different way to deal with a child who can't stand it.

Chapter 1.
If you don't do it right now, there will be chaos: 'When you can't stand it any longer'

-Why can't the child endure anything?
-Say “wait” and wait.
-Children these days have small emotional pockets
-If you press hard, your emotional pockets will eventually explode.
☆Think about parenting? A child who has a particularly hard time tolerating hunger.

Chapter 2.
When you insist on your own will and don't listen to anyone else: 'When you try to do whatever you want'

Parents' desire for their children to listen well vs. their children's true feelings
-What we need now is to set limits and boundaries.
-Why didn't you listen to me even when I was nagging you?
-If you control your child's momentary anger with 'Yuk', you will lose every time!
☆Think about parenting? No to rambling parenting! Yes to the straight-forward method!

Chapter 3.
Pushing, hitting, throwing, and spitting: 'When acting aggressively'

-At the root of aggressive behavior is anger and rage.
-If you thought that, I would feel bad.
-If something is not right, just say, “It’s not right.”
-A child with well-developed aggression, an aggressive child
☆Think about parenting? When your child comes back after getting revenge(?) for what he got last time

Chapter 4.
Whether everyone around you is watching or not: 'When you don't listen in public places'

Parents who can't control even one child? Shame-inducing.
-Tell them what behavior is not allowed in that place and let them learn by watching.
-Even if we have to be mindful of what our neighbors think, our family always has consistent principles.
My child has two faces? He's different inside and outside the home.
-Fatal injury to a child in a public place!
☆Think about parenting? Talking to a child who keeps whining

Chapter 5.
Not giving a single word to parents: 'When you answer back point by point'

-The psychology of parents who are uncomfortable with their children talking back
-You have to encourage them to speak.
That's the basics!
-I'll listen to any objection until the end, what's next?
-Why does my child always talk back to me?
☆Think about parenting? If you don't catch it now, you won't be able to catch it in the future?

Chapter 6.
No matter how hard you try, it won't work: 'When you can't be appeased'

-The hidden immaturity of parents is stimulated.
-Focus on the ‘reason for whining’ rather than the ‘act of whining’!
-Three secrets of a child who cannot be appeased
- Think of your child before anyone else.
Four Golden Secrets to Soothing a Whining Child
☆Think about parenting? What does a husband do when his wife gets angry at the child?
★Bonus Page.
Dealing with an Irritable Husband or Wife

Part 3.
When you're in a frustrating situation, find a solution.

Chapter 1.
Mom is so busy, she's dying, but the child is like "Time, April, April": "When you don't hurry, hurry."

-Why don't children move quickly?
-Children are simple, think simply and treat them simply.
-Not in a way that makes the mother feel comfortable, but in a way that helps the child grow.
-About parents' impatience
-Why did I become unable to stand it if my child didn't do it quickly?
☆Think about parenting? Is mom in charge of scolding, and dad in charge of praising?

Chapter 2.
No matter how much you try to coax or persuade, it's all in vain: 'When you don't sleep or eat'

-Food that puts parents' pride on the line and stimulates their guilt
-Children do that to survive, so you have to adjust a little.
- Trying to feed a balanced diet can ruin a child's personality.
-That's the problem with you, the parent.
☆Think about parenting? The worst parenting for a child who knows how to be patient

Chapter 3.
There's nothing I like about it: 'When it's not done properly and it breaks apart'

-First, I need to check my standards as a parent!
-Parents with overly high standards, that miserable childhood
-For whom should I break it?
-If you can't do it right, just teach me how to do it right.
☆Think about parenting? You should do it yourself. How long will I stop doing it?

Chapter 4.
Is a mother's love a good remedy for teaching? : 'When disciplining a child for misbehavior'

-Do you discipline because you're angry, or do you get angry while disciplining? It's all violence!
What is discipline? Great love for a child.
-Discipline A to Z for ages 3 and up
-Some reasons why discipline fails
☆Think about parenting? Are pretty words and gentle words really that important?

Chapter 5.
I'm tired too, stop calling me! : 'When you keep asking for something when you just want to rest'

-Why dads get angry when they're with their kids
-For mothers whose dependence needs from childhood were not resolved
-When a child lacks confidence in love, he or she calls out to his or her "parents"
Even if you lack self-confidence, you look for your "mother" first.
☆Think about parenting? Parents who ask their children anything.

Chapter 6.
Why is my child like that? : 'He doesn't even try, he's too slow, and he can't do even the easiest things.'

-A smart kid who doesn't want to do anything
-If you get angry while teaching, your child will not try.
-Children who are too slow need to set limits
-Frogs, think of your tadpole enemies.
☆Think about parenting? Is a sensitive child just a difficult child?
★Bonus Page.
Protecting Our Children from an Angry Spouse

Part 4.
If I don't want my child to grow up to be a sullen adult,

Chapter 1.
Facts we need to know

-If everyone is angry, the world is unsafe for everyone.
-No one has the right to express my unresolved feelings to anyone else.
-About self-esteem and self-reflection

Chapter 2.
I'm so angry, I need to change

-First, acknowledge my anxiety and difficulty regulating my emotions.
- Write down the commonalities of situations that make you angry.
-Look back on your relationship with your parents.
-When you get angry at someone you don't know, ask yourself, 'Is this person important to me?
-Don't blame the other person, even if he gets angry.

Chapter 3.
Parents who don't get angry in front of their children

- Let's check if there are any excessive aspects to my parenting.
- Rethinking the value of efficiency, speed, and visibility
-Observe the child, obtain the child's data.
- Take 10 minutes a day to reflect on your family.
-It's not about enduring, it's about waiting

Chapter 4.
To help children who can't stand it develop emotional control skills

-Be wary of parenting that is ‘too permissive’ or ‘too coercive’.
- Children over the age of 3 must be taught 'regulation and control'.
-Don't always put the child first.
-A somewhat harsh story about character education
-The most important thing is to love your child enough.
★Bonus Page.
A clever, improvised way to suppress the anger that's rising right now

* A child's problem behavior that cannot be tolerated is a signal to ask for help.

When parents get angry, it may seem like their children's problem behaviors will stop, but that doesn't mean the problem is solved.
The child just endures it for a while to avoid getting scolded, and the 'anger' he receives from his parents is stored in the child's emotional pocket as discomfort until it explodes one day.
It could be during puberty or after you become an adult.

If a child exhibits behavioral problems, parents should observe their child closely.
Children constantly send signals when they are uncomfortable, so it is important to capture their signals, gather data, identify the cause of their problem behavior, and then safely and effectively accept their emotions.
The most important thing is to let them know that they are loved enough in any situation.

* Observe yourself to avoid becoming an angry parent.

Parents who repeatedly lose their temper and regret in front of their children should first take an objective look at themselves.
When we deal with our closest friends, like our spouse or children, our unmet needs for dependence from childhood are revealed, and we sometimes show strange behaviors, such as losing control of ourselves and turning into monsters.
To avoid becoming a sullen parent, you need to look inside yourself and examine whether you have any unmet dependency needs from childhood, when they manifest, and whether you have any wounds from your biological parents.
If you can't control your anger, it's not your child's fault or your spouse's; it's because you have a bloated emotional bag inside you that's waiting for an opportunity to explode at any moment.

* A guide for parents and children who struggle with emotional regulation

Children learn slowly.
It takes time for a child to understand unfamiliar situations and given conditions, process them in his brain, and put them into action.
At this time, parents should think of it as 'naturally waiting' rather than 'enduring'.
If you think your parents are being patient, you get angry and say, 'That's enough patience!'
But it is natural to wait for a child.
A child is not an adult.
They don't think as quickly or systematically as their parents.

When a child cries, parents urge the child to stop 'quickly'.
However, children grow through the process of expressing their emotions through crying.
The more parents nag their children, the longer it takes for them to process the new stimuli they receive, and the less they learn to manage their emotions.


You can successfully address your child's problem behaviors without yelling at them or exploding in anger.
This book not only provides appropriate solutions to the perplexing situations faced by impatient children and irritable parents, but also examines the fundamental issues of parents and children struggling with emotional regulation, making it an essential guide.