In publishing the book
Discovering relationships that help us understand life

Opening remarks
For parents who are okay, rather than perfect.

Lesson 1: Are you doing well with yourself?

Things You Can't Do If Not Now | Psychological Birth as Important as Physical Development | The Beginning of Understanding Yourself | Are You Getting Along Well with Yourself as a Parent? | The Beginning of Being a Good Parent: Knowing Yourself | Unconscious Memories Drive Me | The Subconscious Embedded in Your Body | If You Don't Know Yourself, Relationships Will Repeat Themselves

Lesson 2: Look at Yourself Before Your Child

Am I trapped in a box called 'me'? | Who am I? | What does raising a child mean to me? | My emotional buttons are pressed | This feeling I can't bear | What are my beliefs when raising a child? | What is at the base of my heart | What I want to show vs.
What I Don't Want to See | If You Really Know Me...

Lesson 3: We All Grow in Relationships

Relationships are our fundamental needs | I am in the relationship pattern | On emotional color | You are worth it | A prophecy for me

Lesson 4: Everyone Becomes a Parent for the First Time

The Beginning of Relationships, in the Name of Attachment | The Crucial Early Years | Beyond Determinism, If Change Is Possible | Fear of Abandonment, Clinging to Relationships | Fear of Being Devoured, Distance from Relationships | Fear of Being Empty

Lesson 5: The Power of Relationships: My Reason for Living

The first survival | I'm looking at you | Just by your presence when a child needs you | You're inside me | I see the parts and the whole | This is not the end | A mother yet not a mother, a child yet not me, an in-between | I'm glad you came to me

Lesson 6: Principles for Building Relationships that Enrich Your Life

No matter what happens, I'm on your side | The power of holding on, holding on | The touch of handling, the caressing touch | The way to present, to bring the world to you | When frustration is needed | Parents who take away all frustration | Children grow properly through frustration | The good, the bad | Always there | Your life is yours

Lesson 7: Parents Make Their Children Sick

How Parents Hurt Their Children | I Want It, So Do You | You Have to Do It My Way | I'm a One-Timer | I'm Perfect vs.
I'm in bad shape

Lesson 8: Perfect Parents vs.
So-so parents

Effective Communication with Children | My True Feelings for You, Sincerity | Understanding Your Feelings, Empathy | Empathy We Must Be Careful About | Listening to What You Really Want to Say, Listening | I Did It to Survive, Validation | The Meaning of Emotional Care | Perfect Mother vs.
Good Enough Mother

References

“Parents are the first guides to their children about relationships.”
The power of the relationship that connects parents and children!

Moving forward without wavering even in the face of frustration and crisis
A beautiful and powerful life growth journey for parents and children

『Mom Will Always Be Here』, which has been consistently loved for establishing relationship parenting, has been published as a special edition called 『Parenting Psychology Class to Cultivate the Power of Relationships』 after five years.


When a child is born, parents are concerned about the child's physical development, but they do not know much about the child's psychological development.
Because physical development is visible, psychological development is an invisible, internal process.
However, the psychological capital accumulated through relationships with parents during infancy becomes a powerful force that influences the child's entire life.
The book offers powerful advice for parents to reflect on their own inner selves and restore their relationship with their children, thereby broadening their children's hearts.
In particular, it focuses on the psychological birth that occurs in the early stages of a child's life and presents principles for forming a healthy relationship between parents and children that parents must keep in mind.

A child is born into this world as a very weak being who cannot survive on his own. During this crucial period of forming the child's psychological structure, parents must provide the child with complete emotional contact as a constant safety base.
Before this period is missed and the psychological vicious cycle repeats itself, what role parents need for their children and what kind of mindset parents should have when raising their children are presented in "Parenting Psychology Classes that Cultivate the Power of Relationships." Through solid psychological theories and various cases based on decades of research and experience, it presents specific tips that can be understood with the heart and deeply touched.

We all grow in relationships.
A book that will fill you with healthy and abundant psychological capital!

In order to raise a child well, self-understanding as a parent is the first step and key task toward becoming a good parent.
If I don't know myself, my unconscious thoughts, regardless of my intentions, will lead my child into difficult and uncomfortable situations.
The author, who felt the urgent need for conscious change through understanding parents themselves, has compiled a step-by-step question that can help parents transform the unconscious reactive behaviors they show toward their children into conscious actions.

Parents are also very important figures in laying the psychological foundation for their children.
At a time when a child is embraced and accepted by their parents with their whole body and can touch them whenever they want, the words, "You are very precious and valuable, you are very important," are not just conveyed through words, but through thousands or tens of thousands of glances, caresses, hugs, and other interactions between parents and children. This allows the child to internalize the world's perspective on their existence and their parents' perspective, and this becomes an important foundation for forming their self-image and personality.

If through this process you develop the belief that the world is worth living in, you can live the rest of your life properly with the psychological capital you have accumulated at this time.
It is about fulfilling the psychological functions that a child needs by empathizing, reflecting their emotions, and supporting them when they are anxious.
Based on this understanding of parents and their children, it also provides guidance on the direction of child education by including principles of desirable parent-child relationships, characteristics of parents that hurt children, psychological reasons for creating unhealthy relationships, and effective communication methods between parents and children.

“Doesn’t that tree look dead?
But when spring comes, leaves sprout.
“You are that winter tree.”

About the power that always sustains the existence of a child

Just as you recharge at base camp when you get lost or experience difficulties while climbing a high mountain, it is important for children to recharge emotionally with their parents.
When a child encounters difficulties while exploring the world, he or she comes to his or her parents to refuel psychologically and then goes on to explore the world again.
Parents are supposed to be a safe haven for their children.
Through the safety base of ‘parents,’ children can live their lives with strength.

The book suggests that rather than being a "perfect parent" obsessed with the anxiety and compulsion to do everything for their child, we should have the perspective of a "pretty good parent" who has the leisure to believe that this is enough.
This is because children instinctively recognize the sincerity of their parents, who have tried their best in their role, even if they are a little lacking and inadequate.
Moreover, the warm gaze contained in the psychological healing process of the clients provides insight that allows parents to reflect on themselves, and even if their children face frustration and despair in life, it gives them the courage to believe that their children will grow up healthy and well through the stable faith of their parents who persevere.

The countless praise this book has received from readers!

-Of all the child-rearing books I've read, this is by far the best!
-A must-read if there is something unresolved between you and your child!
- It talks about all the psychological theories that can help you grow and gain insight as a parent and as a human being.
-About the most meaningful relationships that resonate deeply!
A powerful book of enlightenment! A must-read for parents!