Children come to see me for various reasons, such as 'I can't sit still,' 'I only like to play,' or 'I have no interest in studying at all.'
Rather than quiet children, the majority are so-called 'troublemakers'.
Since I work at a university hospital, the waiting period is long, so it takes a long time to see me. Unfortunately, I think that many children who come here with the problem of 'not being able to sit still' will need to be observed a little longer.
This is because temperament and disposition play a greater role during this period, so it is not sufficient to diagnose a child's disorder based on their behavioral pattern of distraction.
---「Introductory text.
The key to brain development before school age (ages 4 to 7) is ‘regulation ability’”

The ability to self-regulate is the foundation for creating a child who excels at studying.
So, before a child begins to seriously study, the brain, where the ability to regulate grows, must be well developed.
When we say that the age range of 4 to 7 is a key period for the development of self-regulation skills, many parents misunderstand this.

'The child is learning to endure better.'

Suppression is not the core of the ability to regulate.
Developing the ability to regulate emotions, cognition, and behavior doesn't mean speaking calmly when you're angry or sitting quietly when you want to go out and play.
Growing regulatory skills means that a child can express his or her needs and wishes and regulate his or her behavior and attitudes to persuade others to get what he or she wants.
In this situation, it means understanding why you are doing it and trying to do it that way.
---「CHAP 1.
From “From Infancy to Childhood, a Time to Open a New Door”

Our brain begins embryologically in the skin tissue.
Because it starts with the skin, the physical contact that parents and children share in daily life influences the child's brain development, forming emotional stability and bonds.
Skin contact is most important up to 48 months, the early stage of brain development, and it remains the same thereafter.
There are also research results showing that the brain development of babies who are breastfed while holding them and making eye contact differs by more than two-thirds compared to babies who are raised without eye contact or physical contact.
What a powerful developmental stimulus.
Children ages 4 to 7 don't just have more energy; they run wild like a locomotive.
This is the golden age to raise the quality of parenting and maximize emotional stability, just like accumulating mileage. Therefore, it is best for parents to play with their children physically to the point where their hearts are filled.
Skin contact and play are extremely important stimuli for children at this age.
---「CHAP 4.
From “The desire to learn, the motivation to study”

When you set a goal and put in your best effort, you may or may not achieve it.
However, based on the experience gained during the process of trying, you can have the will to try again and find new paths that you discover along the way.
Children grow up more comfortably when we guide them to have an open mind that the process we are working on can have various outcomes.
It takes a process of recognizing and accepting that there are things that cannot be achieved no matter how hard you try.
If this process is not properly learned, the child may show signs of 'excessive narcissism', thinking that everything he does is right and that he is the best.
In the case of these children, they feel they must be the leader unconditionally, and in the case of relative evaluation where there is no correct answer, they may not be able to accept that their ranking is lower than that of other children.
They are unable to accept their own limitations. These children often express their feelings in an emotionally explosive manner, so they appear strong on the outside, but they are depressed on the inside.

---「CHAP 8.
From “The power to navigate the unavoidable competitive society, the will to win”

This is why we need to develop good habits.
It is to lay the foundation for efficiently optimizing the limited capacity of the brain.
If you worry about every task, big or small, every day and approach it with an anxious mind, you will be consuming a lot of brain energy.
However, since our brain's energy storage capacity is limited, we try to reduce energy consumption through habits and automatic thoughts so that the brain can work more efficiently.

Children aged 4 to 7 are exploring an unfamiliar world, interpreting and processing numerous new stimuli.
We need to put more energy into this.
During this period, the shortcut to optimizing the brain is to accept and follow the child's desires as much as possible and give the child ample opportunity to do the activities he or she wants.
To do this, it is necessary to restrain parental control and guidance from being emotional and negative.
The most important key to developing emotional intelligence in children aged 4 to 7 is the parents' thinking habits and parenting attitude.
---「CHAP 10.
From "The Organizing Brain that Optimizes Energy (or Efficiency)"

I believe that the most common mistake in raising children between the ages of 4 and 7 is to create a conflict between the child's executive function development process and the parents' desire to develop learning functions.
Parents certainly worry a lot about their children's future and career paths, and they have a role to play in guiding them to grow up healthy as individuals. However, if parents apply their actions in a way that goes against the direction of their child's development, they can actually weaken their child's strength.


The best parenting is not going against the flow.
The human brain sends signals to express the needs and activities necessary for development.
This is why we emphasize observing the child closely and fully meeting the child's needs.

---「CHAP 12.
From “Understanding Intelligence and IQ”