If you live for someone else's reasons, you are not living your own life, you are living someone else's life.
If you live someone else's life, even if it seems like you're living well by the world's standards, you'll eventually end up feeling empty and depressed.
Even though my life may seem unlivable by the world's standards, I have no regrets and am fulfilled because I have lived my life true to myself.

---From "I must take off the face of others and find my own face"

The best time in our lives is when we retire from the work we have to do and spend time doing what we want without realizing the passage of time.
We have now reached a golden age where we no longer have to do other people's work or listen to other people's words.
Whether you enjoy it or not depends on how open your perspective is toward it.

---From "Can You Retire with the Thought of Retirement?"

I've been writing anniversary notes whenever I have time.
Some days are titled 'Blue Sky Anniversary', and some days are titled 'Refreshing Sleep Anniversary'.
When I'm busy, I might write one a month, and when I'm free, I might write ten a day.
There's one thing I realized while writing my anniversary notes.
The fact is that every day is a miracle.

---From "To be generous to others, you must first be kind to yourself"

The negative emotions, wounds, and traumas I experienced in the past are trains in my mind.
This train often passes through the mind at first.
Every time you stop the train and start a fight, it stays there without passing through your heart.
The train must pass and I must stop and watch.
After a while of this process, trains start to come occasionally.
And then, just when you're about to forget, it happens once in a while.
Trauma doesn't disappear, it fades.

---From "The Train Called 'Wound' is Passing By"

When you're in your fifties and in the afternoon of your life, you want to meet a good person.
A good person here is someone who is not empty.
I enjoy being alone because I know who I am and what I want.
He is a man with a strong mind like a walnut.
Even when I'm alone, I don't feel lonely, and even when I'm with others, I don't feel awkward.
If such people are a couple, friends, a boss and subordinate at work, or a professor and student at school, it is a healthy relationship.

---From "The Secret of People Who Are Not Lonely Even When They Are Alone"

When you make an effort to get to know a person properly, your perspective on them broadens and deepens.
If you treat one person well, you will naturally learn how to treat others well.
My husband, who has been married five times but has never lived a proper life, must have never really known anyone.
More important than meeting many people is getting to know one person well and treating them well.
All people are in one person.
He who is good to one can be good to all.

---From "Everyone is in One Person"

Spring flowers also have an order in which they bloom.
Forsythia, azalea, and cherry blossoms bloom in that order.
The reason for this different order is that flowers bloom only when a certain amount of warm temperature accumulates.
Forsythia is 84.2 degrees, azalea is 96.1 degrees, and royal cherry tree is 106.2 degrees.
Each of our lives has its own time to bloom.
It takes a certain amount of time for the desired flower to bloom.
Like spring flowers, everyone has their own flower.
And there is a separate time for the flowers to bloom.
Even I don't know when the flowers will bloom.
Because that time comes in the name of coincidence.
Until then, we have no choice but to wander.

---From "Why Studying Late Was the Most Fun"

The person who said that to rest well, you have to be simple also said, 'You have to be simple and ignorant.'
If you are complex and sophisticated, you will be caught up in work, but if you are simple and ignorant, for example, if you feel like going to Jeju Island while working, you will just go.
And then when I feel like eating something delicious, I go to a good restaurant and just eat.
Simplicity and ignorance, listening only to one's own desires and the story of one's body, are essential conditions for good rest.

---From "To work hard, you must rest well"

150 years ago, philosopher Schopenhauer said, "We live three-quarters of our lives living someone else's, and then we die regretting not having lived the remaining one-quarter of our lives."
We live three-quarters of our lives as copies, and then we die regretting not having lived the remaining quarter as the original.
Living in my 50s, I realized that just because I decided to live a fun life, it didn't mean I would live a fun life.
Because fun and happiness are results, not goals.
If you do it, it becomes fun, and if you do it, you become happy, but if you try to live a fun life, it becomes a boring life.
A life where I speak and act according to my heart, with the mindset of living just for today, a life where I am grateful for material wealth to the point where it doesn't hinder my speech and actions, without comparing myself to others, is the best product for dying well.

---From "Living a fun life is the answer to the question of how to die"

An unhappy childhood does not lead to an unhappy middle age.
Living my middle age in an unhappy manner is because I live without thinking deeply about myself and just repeat the unhappiness that was engraved on me at that time.
Through deep reflection and better choices, we can turn an unhappy yesterday into a happy today.
It is not misfortune that brings misfortune, but our habit of looking at misfortune that brings misfortune.
Happiness in middle age is simply the result of the choices I make.

---From "A happy middle age is possible even without a happy childhood"

I gave up comparing myself to others and trying to be a better person, and I became a resident of a new neighborhood called Life True to Me.
When I moved to a new neighborhood, I met other residents who already lived there one after another like candy.
I met a painter who paints with his own colors, a musician who sings with his own notes, and an actor who performs with his own talent.
They had already moved into this neighborhood a long time ago and were living comfortably, enjoying their daily lives.
It took me nearly 60 years to realize that in order to meet people who live with their own colors, tones, and talents without harming others, I must first live with my own colors, tones, and talents.

---From "I decided to become a comfortable and fun grandfather"