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To begin with

Deny the first night trauma

The Unknown 'Third Giant of Psychology'
Why can humans change?
Trauma does not exist
Humans create anger
A life not dominated by the past
Socrates and Adler
Are you okay with it 'like this'?
My misfortune was something I 'chose' myself.
Humans constantly resolve not to change.
My life is decided 'here and now'

Second Night All troubles stem from human relationships.

Why do you hate yourself?
All worries are 'worries that arise from human relationships.'
Inferiority is a subjective feeling.
Inferiority complex as an excuse
A person who boasts is a person who feels inferior
Life is not a competition with others.
I'm the only one who looks at my face carefully.
From power struggle to revenge
Admitting a mistake is not defeat.
How to overcome 'life's challenges'
Red thread and strong chain
Don't Ignore the 'Lies of Life'
From the 'psychology of ownership' to the 'psychology of use'

Third Night: Throw Away Other People's Tasks

Deny your need for recognition
Don't live to meet 'that person's' expectations.
Separate the tasks
Let go of other people's tasks
How to solve your relationship problems in one fell swoop
Cut the Gordian Knot
The need for recognition forces unfreedom.
What is true freedom?
The cards of human relationships are held by 'me'

Where is the center of the world on the fourth night?

Individual Psychology and Holism
The goal of human relationships is to foster a sense of community.
Why don't you pay attention to anyone but 'me'?
I am not the center of the world
Listen to the voice of the larger community
Don't praise, don't scold.
The process of 'giving courage'
To think of yourself as a person of value
It's worth it just to be here
Humans cannot distinguish between 'me'

The fifth night, living earnestly in the 'here and now'

Excessive self-consciousness puts the brakes on
Accept yourself, not just be positive.
What is the difference between credit and trust?
The essence of work is contributing to others.
Young people are ahead of adults
The lie of life that work is everything
Humans can be happy from this moment on.
A fork in the road for those who want to become "special."
The courage to be ordinary
Life is a series of moments
Live like you're dancing
Shine a strong spotlight on the 'here and now'
The biggest lie of my life
Give meaning to a meaningless life

In closing the book

To celebrate the 2 million copies sold in Korea, the re-cover edition of "The Courage to be Hated" is published!
"Do you have the courage to be hated?"
A new classic of our time that fundamentally shakes our values!

Why don't you change?
Why don't you feel happy now?

A, an ordinary office worker.
He has one problem: he has had a dark personality since he was young, and it is difficult for him to become close with people.
That's why I don't have many friends.
I think I'm doing pretty well at work, but the problem is that this personality is revealed whenever I go to unfamiliar places like company dinners or external meetings.
How long must we live in fear because of our relationships with other people?

There is an eccentric philosopher who answered A's worries by saying, "Personality is not something you are born with, nor is it something you can change. It is something you choose."
According to philosophers, a person's personality is not determined by heredity or environment.
The philosopher says:
“We don’t remember everything about our childhood, we just decide what our lifestyle will be like around the age of ten.
“The reason why it is difficult to change that lifestyle even if it feels uncomfortable and unfree is because we are afraid of the changes that will come.”


But we all want change.
For a life freer than now, a life happier than now, a life more successful than now.
But we easily make excuses and give up easily.
Let me look back on my life now.
Have you ever blamed the past or put off doing things you need to do now, saying things like, “It’s all because of him that I ended up like this,” “If I had been born into a richer family, I wouldn’t be living like this,” or “If I just endure these past few years, better days will come”?


The philosopher says:
“Humans can change, and anyone can become happy.”
But to do that, you need ‘courage.’
The courage to be free, the courage to be ordinary, the courage to be happy, and the courage to be hated.
If you want a free and happy life, what you need now is ‘courage.’


Adler, the unknown master of psychology
His thoughts are reborn in everyday language, answering our concerns.

This innovative and groundbreaking philosopher's answer comes from the psychology of Alfred Adler.
Alfred Adler, who is considered one of the 'three giants of psychology' alongside Freud and Jung, was an Austrian psychiatrist and psychologist who had a great influence on modern psychology by creating 'individual psychology' that emphasized positive thinking.
In addition, he influenced people who are called mentors of self-development, such as Dale Carnegie and Stephen Covey, and is also called the 'father of self-development'.


There were people who were deeply impressed by Adlerian psychology and whose lives were completely changed: Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
Ichiro Kishimi is a philosopher who studied Greek philosophy. One day, after hearing a lecture on Adlerian psychology that said, “Anyone can be happy from this moment on,” he began studying Adlerian psychology.
As a result, I am now a more expert than anyone else on Adlerian psychology.
Koga Fumitake, a professional writer, encountered Adlerian psychology in his troubled twenties, which changed his worldview and made him deeply engrossed in Adlerian psychology.

These two people met and came up with "The Courage to be Disliked," a book that not only provides answers to personal happiness but also presents Adlerian psychology in an easy and fun way, powerful enough to change the way you view yourself and the world.
Adlerian psychology has not been widely discussed, overshadowed by Freud and Jung, but it is a useful philosophy of life that can provide practical help to modern people who are struggling with many issues.
The depth of the content was further enhanced by the addition of the supervision of Professor Kim Jeong-un, a delightful cultural psychologist who reads the times.


Adlerian psychology is the "psychology of courage."

Humans are social beings.
Unless we are alone in the universe, we have no choice but to live within human relationships.
That is why Adler says, “All human worries arise from human relationships.”
Whatever kind of worry you have, it is bound to involve relationships with others.
Therefore, he emphasized that in order to be happy, one must be free from human relationships, and in order to do so, one must not be afraid of being hated by others.
In other words, only when you have the 'courage to be hated' can you become free and happy.


In other words, it's all a question of 'courage'.
Freedom and happiness are both a matter of courage, not a matter of environment or ability.
If we simply have the courage to change, the courage to move forward, the courage to be hated, our relationships can change and we can become happy in an instant.
This is the core of Adler's concept of a free and happy life.
Let's discover the specific and practical prescriptions through "The Courage to Be Disliked," a book that introduces this innovative Adlerian psychology to the public for the first time.

- There is no such thing as 'trauma'.
About 100 years ago, Adler rejected Freud's 'causal theory', now widely known as trauma theory, and proposed 'teleology', which states that people act for the purpose of the present.
In today's golden age of psychology, the denial of trauma, which has become almost common sense, and the fact that it was done 100 years ago, may be shocking to many people.
However, those who blame their problems on 'that incident' in the past and are held back by trauma at every critical moment will find Adler's argument perky.


- Give up your need for recognition and separate your tasks.
Adler also argues that in order to live a free and happy life, one must boldly give up the 'need for recognition', which seeks to be 'recognized' by others.
We also point out that we do not live to meet the expectations of others.
Even if they are children, they do not live to meet their parents' expectations, so they should not be forced or instructed about the school they should go to, the job they should go to, the person they should marry, or even the small things they say or do in their daily lives.
This is the core concept of Adlerian psychology: ‘separation of tasks.’

‘Studying’ is not the parents’ task, but the child’s task; that is, it is the child’s task, not the parents’ task.
Because it is the child, not the parents, who has to accept the final outcome of that choice.
Of course, many parents say, "For your sake."
But is it truly "for you"? Or is it "for me," the parent? This "separation of tasks" isn't limited to the parent-child relationship.
For example, if you have a boss who gets unfairly angry, it is the boss's job to get angry, and it is the recipient's job to decide how to respond to the boss's behavior.


In other words, Adler believed that we must be able to draw the line by thinking about “whose task is this?” and distinguishing where our task ends and where it ends, that is, where it ends, with someone else’s task.
Moreover, I insist that no one should interfere with my tasks, and I should not interfere with the tasks of others.
When this ‘separation of tasks’ becomes possible, we can be free from the gaze of others, and all human relationships become relaxed and simple.

Life is a series of moments, not a line.
But why do we live so conscious of what others think? It's because we view life as a "line" and strive to live within that line, the line that others deem right.
One of the most common misconceptions we have is that life is a journey to reach the top of the mountain.
Adler even directly denies these common misconceptions.
If life is a journey to reach the top of the mountain, and we spend most of our lives 'on the road,' can we really consider the life we ​​spend on the road to be 'fake'?
Adler argues that life is not a single line but a 'series of points'.
In other words, life is a series of countless ‘moments’ called ‘now.’


Therefore, Adler urges us to live earnestly and completely in the 'here and now', not in the past or the future to come.
There is no reason to give up my present life for a future that has not yet arrived.
If my future dreams don't come true, will all the hard work I put in today be for nothing? Am I a failure, wasting my time on the road? Absolutely not.
Adler says:
“If I live happily like dancing today, that in itself is enough. If I do that, someday I will be able to live the life I want.”

The birth of a "new classic" that combines humanities, self-improvement, and fiction.

“It’s conversational, so it’s easy and fun.
“It’s a smooth read!”
“This one book is better than a hundred self-help books!”
“This is a book that fundamentally shakes our values!”
“Coming across this book is the greatest miracle of my life!”

The Courage to Be Disliked presents a new format that combines the brilliant interpretation of Adlerian psychology by Ichiro Kishimi, a leading Japanese philosopher, with the delicious writing of bestselling author Fumitake Koga.
It depicts a journey of a 'philosopher' who studied Adlerian psychology and a 'young man' who is negative about the world and has a lot of inferiority complex, finding the answer to the question we all wonder about: 'How can I live a happy life?' through five encounters.
The structure borrows from Plato's famous work, "Dialogues," and it feels like watching a play, making it easy and exciting to read, and even giving it a sense of liveliness.


The conversation between the philosopher and the young man, which proceeds in the following order: the first night, 'Deny Trauma'; the second night, 'All Worries Originate from Human Relationships'; the third night, 'Let Go of Others' Tasks'; the fourth night, 'Where is the Center of the World?'; and the fifth night, 'Living Seriously in the Here and Now', gradually builds tension and adds to the fun.
In particular, the young man's rebuttal following the philosopher's argument evokes a great deal of sympathy.
Professor Kim Jeong-un, a cultural psychologist and author of “Men’s Things,” who reviewed this book, also said, “This book is different.
Instead of yelling, argue logically and carefully.
Like the young man in the book, I often wonder, 'What does this mean?'
And as I read the book, I come across the author's logic.
He evaluated it as “interesting.”


While being evaluated as having rewritten the history of bestsellers in Korea by recording the 'longest-running #1 ranking in history for 51 consecutive weeks', 'The Courage to be Hated' has been translated and published in over 40 countries around the world and has been loved by 10 million readers. It can be said to be the birth of a 'new classic' that combines humanities, self-development, and novels.
How will your life change after encountering this new classic? Follow the young man in the book and open the door right now.


Its depth of resonance is extraordinary in that it logically presents a way to start with how to view oneself and expand this to relationships with others and the community.
It is not easy to change long-held mindsets.
But Adler's words are comforting in many ways.
'The world is very simple.
Life is like that too.'
- JoongAng Ilbo

Above all, this book says that ‘self-acceptance’ is needed, not ‘self-affirmation’.
Self-acceptance is accepting that you are 60 points and working to get closer to 100 points.
It's about accepting what you can't change and focusing your efforts on changing what you can.
So it is different from defeat and futility.
- Chosun Ilbo

The inferiority complex that all humans have from birth, and the development that is achieved when they struggle to overcome it.
Although it deals with a difficult topic, it is surprisingly easy and fun.
This is because co-authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga reinterpreted Adler's psychology and wrote it in a way that was easy for the general public to understand.

- Dong-A Ilbo

The craze for "The Courage to be Hated" may be a desperate search for ways to protect oneself and survive.
However, it differs from existing self-development discourse in that it assumes an individual who rejects 'competition' and pursues a 'horizontal relationship' based on a sense of community, going beyond market principles.
- Kyunghyang Shinmun