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[Yesuricover] On a Wise Attitude That Doesn't Consume Me
[Yesuricover] On a Wise Attitude That Doesn't Consume Me
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“Noisy” people who are busy revealing themselves
You might hate this book
The 'quiet' people who chose moderation and humility
You will love this book.” _ Der Spiegel

- German Amazon Bestseller
- Der Spiegel bestseller
- The power of the attitude chosen by Pope Francis and former Chancellor Merkel
- An overwhelmingly popular work by Germany's top journalist and bestselling author.


Not a life that maximizes itself for show
A Guide to Living a Quiet Life


We live in an age where we are obsessed with being more successful, working harder, wanting more, and showing more.
But in a world where everyone is busy trying to show off and show off, paradoxically, restrained words and actions, quietness and peace are more desperately missed and come across more powerfully.
"On a Wise Attitude That Doesn't Consume Me" is a book that provides insight into what a "wiser way of life" is in an age where everything is excessively demanded and consumed in a flashy manner.
Dr. Matthias Nölke, a German journalist and bestselling author who has studied literature, communication science, and psychology, guides readers to a life of quiet self-preservation, not a life of maximizing for show, through his characteristic wit and clarity of writing.


There are people who quietly shine and demonstrate their abilities without having to work too hard and exhaust their lives.
The author, who says that “humility is the most effective and considerate attitude to show confidence,” very humorously demonstrates the power of a “humble attitude” through a wealth of relatable examples.
It not only sharply captures the landscape and meaning of the present age, but also broadens the reader's empathy and range of reflection by encompassing cultural and historical insights, psychological aspects, and relationship techniques.
If you want a freer and happier life, as the German press and readers have raved about, listen to these words of Matthias Nölke.
“No matter how stormy the world may be, a person who remains calm and does not lose his center.
A person who chooses to remain humble in a world where everyone is noisy about showing off.
This kind of person is the wisest and strongest.
“A person like this doesn’t hurt anyone and ultimately wins over everyone.”
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Prologue _ An attitude that holds more than meets the eye

[Part 1: Breaking Up with Everything for Show]

Chapter 1_ Saying goodbye to those who talk nonsense
A factory that produces positive illusions │ People desperate to talk about success │ Does money really change everything │ Desire never stops │ An era where if you can't capture it, you disappear │ A game played for social status
Chapter 2: Humble Abilities Who Win Quietly
Hidden Powerhouses │ The One Thing Schröder Doesn't Have │ Reykjavik's Outsider Mayor │ The Pope Who Transformed the Church at the End of the World │ The Illusion That Bigger is Better │ The Three Powers of a Self-Deprecating Attitude
Chapter 3: A Cultural History of Humility and Trust
Eirin and Socrates in Greek comedy │ The exaggerated greatness of those in power │ Chivalry and the samurai spirit │ The emergence of the gentleman, a symbol of courtesy │ An attitude that is not swayed by moods and emotions │ Goodness exists in a simple vessel │ Freedom of boundaries │ Vulgarity and fake humility │ Everyone can be humble

[Part 2: You Can't Choose Your Feelings, But You Can Choose Your Attitude]

Chapter 4: The Psychology of an Attitude That Doesn't Consume Me
The Correlation Between Self-Esteem and Humility │ The Handicap Principle │ Strategic Pessimism That Exceeds Expectations │ Why Do Successful People Have Such Personalities? │ The Illusion of Success and the Humility That Transcends It │ The Exact Amount of Success I Want │ The Two Pillars of Trust │ Fake Humility, Real Humility
Chapter 5: Humility as a Weapon in Corporate Life
Dunning-Kruger Effect │ 'Status Game' and 'Dominance Signals' │ Passing the Ball to the Opponent │ There Are Times When You Shouldn't Back Down │ The Wisdom of Saving Rather than Exploding Yourself │ Negotiating with Humility │ The Principles of Sophisticated Satire │ The Seven Steps to Power and the Price │ People Who Quietly Lead Others │ The Power of Not Being Perfect
Chapter 6: The Art of Dressing, Attitude, and Their Strange Relationship
People who dress consciously and frugally │ They wear attitude, not clothes │ The subtle distinction between the real and the fake │ Luxury and boasting are out of style │ In the end, it comes down to humility

[Part 3: A Wise Way of Living That Shines Without Showing Off]

Chapter 7: The Wit of Moderation, the Comedy of Humility
As if no fear is a big deal │ A posture that never loses composure │ A very meticulous wit that only 'we' understand │ The charm of self-irony
Chapter 8: The Art of Relationships That Don't Hurt or Hurt Them
As expectations grow, disappointment also grows. │ Why we can't celebrate a friend's success. │ The power of 'old trust' and 'loose relationships.' │ Relationships are like plants that grow slowly. │ How to wisely handle advice and opinions. │ The joy of a relationship that doesn't require revealing it.
Chapter 9: The Courage to Say, "I Could Be Wrong"
What glitters on the outside is not beautiful │ A quiet but sufficiently shining life │ The more you grasp at it, the further away it becomes │ You and I both have flaws │ The truth about imperfections │ The inner strength to not depend on others for my happiness

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Success-oriented people need to attract other people's attention to appear grandiose.
Even when you simply ask them how they are doing, they start talking about their success.
Because they believe that such exaggerated behavior proves their worth.
German pop band Wir sind Helden (meaning "We are heroes") captures their obsession with success perfectly in the lyrics of their song:
“We can do everything.
Like a well-trained monkey.
All we have to do is want to.
All we have to do is want to.
We just have to want it.
We just have to do it.
You just have to do it.
We only have to “want” like trained monkeys. Is that really what we truly “want” to do?
--- p.26

They are people who set their own values ​​and increase those values ​​on their own.
And in their hearts there is this wish:
The desire to become a person deeper and stronger than what is visible on the outside, the desire to live a life not for the praise of others but for one's own happiness, the desire to live well with others, with one's feet on the ground, rather than existing in a place far above others.
This book is about the attitudes and perspectives of people who have exactly this kind of desire.
Let's take a look at how people with this attitude and perspective make their lives more meaningful.
--- p.49

There is another point in Gentleman that well expresses the theme that this book is trying to talk about.
They don't let their emotions flow freely.
It's about controlling your emotions rather than letting others control them.
To borrow an expression from someone in the past, they “don’t lose control” easily. In English, they “keep a stiff upper lip.” In other words, they don’t get emotionally agitated in any situation and remain steadfast.

--- p.93

Humility is also closely related to confidence.
Only those who believe in themselves can express humility.
Some people sometimes misunderstand, but an expression of insufficient self-awareness is not humility.
A person who is not strong inside can never appear humble.
Such people are more likely to have misconceptions about their abilities and believe they can do more than they actually can.
On the other hand, people with inner strength are aware of their weaknesses and shortcomings and admit them without reservation.
It's not because they doubt their own potential, but because they are strict with themselves.

--- p.113

Strategic pessimists believe that things might not go as planned.
That doesn't mean you don't have to put in effort.
Quite the opposite.
They approach things more calmly and with greater care, anticipating the 'worst case scenario'.
Julie Norem, a psychology professor at Wellesley College, has studied this "strategic pessimism" thoroughly and has come to the following conclusion:
“People who have this tendency have a very effective way of mastering their fear of failure,” she said, quoting Nero Wolfe, a detective character created by American mystery writer Rex Stout.
“Strategic pessimists experience only positive surprises.

--- p.123

No one has the right to exhaust you.
You must keep energy reserves for emergencies, and no one should be allowed to take your reserves without permission.
In fact, the essence of emergency energy is to not use it if possible.
To conserve energy, you must maintain your own independence and autonomy.
You need to have uninterrupted time and your own free space.
If it doesn't exist, you can make it intentionally.
--- p.168

Every event has a different meaning for each person.
An event may be very important to one person, while it may seem trivial to another.
The most crucial difference is this.
There is always a good reason for my actions.
Especially if something goes wrong or doesn't work out properly, it's not my fault, it's due to external factors.
But on the contrary, we assume that all of the other person's actions have a specific intention.
It is not that there was a good reason or circumstance for that, but rather that it was done with bad intentions or knowingly and carelessly.
Then, in the end, you will conclude that you are perfectly normal, but the other person is not, and you will feel bad about it.

--- p.239

If you can choose humility, you can live a life free from self-consciousness and tension.
A life that is unobtrusive and simple, yet dependent on no one, a life that does not depend on the standards and demands of others for my happiness, a life where I decide for myself what to do.
It is a question of being able to respect yourself, and a sign of inner strength and independence.
--- p.274

Publisher's Review
Not a life that maximizes itself for show
A Guide to Living a Quiet Life


We live in an age where we are obsessed with being more successful, working harder, wanting more, and showing more.
But in a world where everyone is busy trying to show off and show off, paradoxically, restrained words and actions, quietness and peace are more desperately missed and come across more powerfully.
"On a Wise Attitude That Doesn't Consume Me" is a book that provides insight into what a "wiser way of life" is in an age where everything is excessively demanded and consumed in a flashy manner.
Dr. Matthias Nölke, a German journalist and bestselling author who has studied literature, communication science, and psychology, guides readers to a life of quiet self-preservation, not a life of maximizing for show, through his characteristic wit and clarity of writing.
There are people who quietly shine and demonstrate their abilities without having to work too hard and exhaust their lives.
The author, who says that “humility is the most effective and considerate attitude to show confidence,” very humorously demonstrates the power of a “humble attitude” through a wealth of relatable examples.
It not only sharply captures the landscape and meaning of the present age, but also broadens the reader's empathy and range of reflection by encompassing cultural and historical insights, psychological aspects, and relationship techniques.
If you want a freer and happier life, as the German press and readers have raved about, listen to these words of Matthias Nölke.
“No matter how stormy the world may be, a person who remains calm and does not lose his center.
A person who chooses to remain humble in a world where everyone is noisy about showing off.
This kind of person is the wisest and strongest.
“A person like this doesn’t hurt anyone and ultimately wins over everyone.”

“You can’t choose how you feel,
“Attitude is a choice”
Elegant and intelligent insights into life, happiness, attitude, and success.


What kind of person are you? Are you trustworthy? Honest? Unapologetic? Emotional? Prudent? Attention-seeking? Decent? What are your most important values? What kind of attitude do you aspire to have? What is the wisest way to live your life?

Dr. Matthias Nölke, who has given thousands of lectures and seminars to various companies, organizations, communication and psychology experts in Germany, identifies the 'virtue of humility' as a value that deserves attention in our time.
“Of all the values ​​I have experienced, the most sensitive and wise attitude is humility.
But unfortunately, many people do not fully appreciate the true value of humility,” he says. By examining the cultural and historical background of humility, as well as psychology, human relationships, and the perspectives of a better life, happiness, and success, he allows us to deeply reflect on the meaning of “humility as an attitude toward oneself.”
If you can choose humility, you can live a life free from self-consciousness and tension.
A life that is unobtrusive and simple, yet dependent on no one, a life that does not depend on the standards and demands of others for my happiness, a life where I decide for myself what to do.
It is a question of being able to respect yourself, and a sign of inner strength and independence.
_ From the text

As he said, it's a really cool attitude to be able to remain humble in any situation.
It may feel quiet and simple, but ultimately, this attitude is the wisest way to increase your own value.
This book contains stories of people who have actually lived such lives.
On the other side of those who are self-absorbed and talk big, there are those who quietly make their presence felt and demonstrate their abilities.
In a world like today, doesn't the wisdom displayed by such people feel more valuable than the empty words of those who only talk big?

“Really wise people don’t show off.”
The way of life of people who shine without revealing themselves


People who brag about how great, strong, and awesome they are and show off their success excessively often have low self-esteem and are consumed by a need for recognition.
Showing off your excellence and packaging your specialness is because you desperately need to do so.
This is because they are shaken by the anxiety that they will not be able to exert their presence without such directing and the worry that no one will notice.
But people who are strong and wise on the inside don't try to show it.
Rather, he knows how to be humble and self-restrained, pretending not to know even when he knows.
They don't try to collect other people's applause and ratings.
Because we know very well that it is we who judge our own worth.
So, they are not obsessed with the desire to be recognized by others, and they set their own standards and maintain self-centeredness.
It is about living quietly but strongly, humbly but clearly as the master of one's own life.
There are many times when we witness things that are shiny on the outside but not beautiful on the inside.
True value is not proven by what is revealed.
So how empty and meaningless is a life that strives to show off and maximizes to show off?
Exaggerated packaging eventually wears off.
There is no need or reason to expend my emotions and energy.
Instead, let's move forward toward a life that is calm but innerly strong.
Let's get back to living a life where we stand firmly on the ground and walk at our own pace and pace.
Don't forget.
Your life can shine brightly without you having to try to show it off.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: March 10, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 280 pages | 344g | 125*188*17mm
- ISBN13: 9791198682505
- ISBN10: 1198682507

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