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* Speaking class praised by 600,000 students * * SNS cumulative views exceed 50 million! * * The best instructors that companies like Samsung, LG, and Naver are crazy about * “We never learned how to have a proper conversation!” Conversation Skills for People Who Want to Succeed in Relationships and Life This is the author's second book, published a year after his first book, "I Wouldn't Want to Hear People Say I'm a Good Speaker," which helped him become a leading figure in the field of speaking. The author explains his motivation for writing this book by saying that while giving lectures to hundreds of thousands of people, he realized that 'conversation' is as important as speaking. Having witnessed firsthand how many people struggle with conversation and how much they desire to improve, the author has compiled a comprehensive guide to conversational skills required in today's world, drawing on his experience and know-how accumulated through various lectures. Everyone who has achieved the highest position in their field knows this. To be successful, you need to build good relationships, and the only way to build good relationships is through 'conversation'. But nowhere does it properly teach you how to have a good conversation. What kind of person will I be to those around me? Can I make people I meet for the first time like me? How can I get people to agree with my ideas? What's the secret to attracting countless followers? These questions are endless because each of us must learn the art of conversation, a skill no one teaches us. The author provides answers to all these concerns in his characteristically soft and confident voice. He wrote "The Essentials of Conversation" by gathering his experiences of meeting successful people, analyzing them, and coaching them to speak to business executives, as well as the brilliant stories he heard from students in the field and the insights he gained from his own teaching. Conversation is speaking that builds relationships. By applying the conversation techniques in this book to countless interpersonal relationships—at work, at home, in groups, and elsewhere—you can create a foundation for your own growth and ultimately achieve your desired position as a respected boss, a proud junior colleague, a trustworthy colleague, a caring family member, and a friend. When it comes to success in relationships and life, people are ultimately the key. Anyone who has truly realized this fact will quickly open this book and gain the secrets of wisdom. Success ultimately belongs to those who have mastered the art of communicating well with people. |
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Getting Started | Why You Should Read This Book Now
Chapter 1: Sensible Questions Create Engaging Conversations
If you acknowledge that others are different from you,
How to put 'people' at the center of your questions
Before I tell you what I think, let me ask why.
Ask about 'feelings' rather than 'results'
Instead of asking questions one by one, ask better questions!
Things to ask your loved one
A question that seeks the truth hidden in the question
Chapter 2: If you listen carefully, your relationship will go smoothly.
Meaning of being a good listener
Your story is the most precious
Other people's stories are told from another person's perspective
Even if you're done talking, let's wait a moment
It's even better when you listen while writing
Say things you don't want to hear in the third person
Sometimes you have to ask to be heard first
Chapter 3: My character is revealed in the words I speak.
Positive language always has power.
The same words are pretty too
Add a sentence that beats punctuation
Words of gratitude that must be expressed even if it is embarrassing
If you don't apologize properly, things will only get worse.
A title that reveals the dignity of a horse
Words to avoid in this day and age
Chapter 4: A Rich Life Begins with Everyday Conversation
You have to know what you want.
The magic words “It can be done”
Treat your family as friends and conversation partners
Don't be disappointed by expecting or hoping
Attitude toward promises
A sense that is appropriate to the time and place
Chapter 5: People who are good at their jobs have different attitudes toward their words.
Awkward relationships are awkward as they are
The most surefire way to get what you want
The speech of a respected leader
The Secret to Becoming Friends with a Great Boss
Some techniques for smooth meetings
Reporting, emailing, messaging, and phone conversations
Common speech patterns of successful people
Chapter 6: Handling Emotions Gracefully Makes Conversations Smarter
Rejection for each other
Things to keep in mind when gossiping or listening to gossip
How to have a conversation that minimizes friction
How to express anger without getting hurt
To control your emotions well in normal times
Things you shouldn't say at home
When mediating a conflict between two people
Chapter 7: The Power of Conversation Comes from Caring for Myself
Writing a diary is a time to talk to myself.
My Top 10 News Stories of the Year
My world expands through reading
The habit of talking to your body every day
The power of life's direction and values
It will come true as you say
In conclusion | If we could be happier
Chapter 1: Sensible Questions Create Engaging Conversations
If you acknowledge that others are different from you,
How to put 'people' at the center of your questions
Before I tell you what I think, let me ask why.
Ask about 'feelings' rather than 'results'
Instead of asking questions one by one, ask better questions!
Things to ask your loved one
A question that seeks the truth hidden in the question
Chapter 2: If you listen carefully, your relationship will go smoothly.
Meaning of being a good listener
Your story is the most precious
Other people's stories are told from another person's perspective
Even if you're done talking, let's wait a moment
It's even better when you listen while writing
Say things you don't want to hear in the third person
Sometimes you have to ask to be heard first
Chapter 3: My character is revealed in the words I speak.
Positive language always has power.
The same words are pretty too
Add a sentence that beats punctuation
Words of gratitude that must be expressed even if it is embarrassing
If you don't apologize properly, things will only get worse.
A title that reveals the dignity of a horse
Words to avoid in this day and age
Chapter 4: A Rich Life Begins with Everyday Conversation
You have to know what you want.
The magic words “It can be done”
Treat your family as friends and conversation partners
Don't be disappointed by expecting or hoping
Attitude toward promises
A sense that is appropriate to the time and place
Chapter 5: People who are good at their jobs have different attitudes toward their words.
Awkward relationships are awkward as they are
The most surefire way to get what you want
The speech of a respected leader
The Secret to Becoming Friends with a Great Boss
Some techniques for smooth meetings
Reporting, emailing, messaging, and phone conversations
Common speech patterns of successful people
Chapter 6: Handling Emotions Gracefully Makes Conversations Smarter
Rejection for each other
Things to keep in mind when gossiping or listening to gossip
How to have a conversation that minimizes friction
How to express anger without getting hurt
To control your emotions well in normal times
Things you shouldn't say at home
When mediating a conflict between two people
Chapter 7: The Power of Conversation Comes from Caring for Myself
Writing a diary is a time to talk to myself.
My Top 10 News Stories of the Year
My world expands through reading
The habit of talking to your body every day
The power of life's direction and values
It will come true as you say
In conclusion | If we could be happier
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If you look at situations where conversation was difficult, most of them were probably because the other person was not interested.
The power that keeps a conversation going is interest.
If there is interest, questions will arise, and those questions will be directed at the other person.
If you want to improve the quality of your conversations, take an interest in people.
It's about being curious about that person's thoughts, feelings, and heart.
--- p.31~32
I've always wondered.
Why don't people separate themselves from others? Why don't they ask and listen to what others are thinking? Separating ourselves from others allows for better conversations.
End your own story on your own terms, and listen to others' stories from their perspective.
--- p.87
Let's become discoverers, not evaluators.
Instead of evaluating something by adding conditions like “I like it because you -,” I am talking about my thoughts on discovering that good thing and my feelings or emotions that come from that discovery.
Instead of saying, “I like that you keep your promises,” you could say, “I appreciate that you seem to value your promises to me.”
Praise is an expression of gratitude.
--- p.127
You need to know exactly what you are sensitive to before you can ask the other person to do something for you.
Conversely, if you were asked to do something and didn't do it, when apologizing, don't say, "I'm sorry I didn't do the dishes," but rather, "I'm sorry.
It's better to say, "I forgot that you hate it so much."
This is true understanding of each other.
--- p.175
If you want to persuade someone, you have to tell them what they want.
In other words, it means saying what you want from the other person's perspective.
Let's think from the other person's perspective: what does he want, what can I do to make him want to work with me, and what can I give him?
Then the subject changes.
--- p.221
There is a saying that you should fight well with the person you love.
My interpretation is this:
Reaching the goal of the fight is fighting well.
If a fight started when the other person complained due to a misunderstanding, the target of the fight was the 'misunderstanding' that caused the distance between the two.
We are always on the same side.
We must fight together to overcome misunderstandings.
It is about embracing the other person's disappointment caused by misunderstandings and maintaining a strong relationship.
--- p.313
I earnestly urge you to have values at all costs.
It is about values that are unwavering, your own firm beliefs, and the power to lead your own life toward your life's purpose.
It's telling me to really live my life.
Don't blindly use quotes from books or other people's wonderful words.
The things that have pierced through my life, the things that have accurately targeted my center and turned it around, the sentences and words that made me realize with a great surprise, "Ah, that's it!" and couldn't close my mouth for a while, deserve to become my values.
The power that keeps a conversation going is interest.
If there is interest, questions will arise, and those questions will be directed at the other person.
If you want to improve the quality of your conversations, take an interest in people.
It's about being curious about that person's thoughts, feelings, and heart.
--- p.31~32
I've always wondered.
Why don't people separate themselves from others? Why don't they ask and listen to what others are thinking? Separating ourselves from others allows for better conversations.
End your own story on your own terms, and listen to others' stories from their perspective.
--- p.87
Let's become discoverers, not evaluators.
Instead of evaluating something by adding conditions like “I like it because you -,” I am talking about my thoughts on discovering that good thing and my feelings or emotions that come from that discovery.
Instead of saying, “I like that you keep your promises,” you could say, “I appreciate that you seem to value your promises to me.”
Praise is an expression of gratitude.
--- p.127
You need to know exactly what you are sensitive to before you can ask the other person to do something for you.
Conversely, if you were asked to do something and didn't do it, when apologizing, don't say, "I'm sorry I didn't do the dishes," but rather, "I'm sorry.
It's better to say, "I forgot that you hate it so much."
This is true understanding of each other.
--- p.175
If you want to persuade someone, you have to tell them what they want.
In other words, it means saying what you want from the other person's perspective.
Let's think from the other person's perspective: what does he want, what can I do to make him want to work with me, and what can I give him?
Then the subject changes.
--- p.221
There is a saying that you should fight well with the person you love.
My interpretation is this:
Reaching the goal of the fight is fighting well.
If a fight started when the other person complained due to a misunderstanding, the target of the fight was the 'misunderstanding' that caused the distance between the two.
We are always on the same side.
We must fight together to overcome misunderstandings.
It is about embracing the other person's disappointment caused by misunderstandings and maintaining a strong relationship.
--- p.313
I earnestly urge you to have values at all costs.
It is about values that are unwavering, your own firm beliefs, and the power to lead your own life toward your life's purpose.
It's telling me to really live my life.
Don't blindly use quotes from books or other people's wonderful words.
The things that have pierced through my life, the things that have accurately targeted my center and turned it around, the sentences and words that made me realize with a great surprise, "Ah, that's it!" and couldn't close my mouth for a while, deserve to become my values.
--- p.362
Publisher's Review
“The conversation techniques in this book will change your life.”
The "Essentials of Conversation" from Heungbeon, recognized and praised by 600,000 people.
Everyone has a desire to be recognized by others and to feel important.
I want to give love to my loved ones and receive love from them.
I want to get along well with people.
I hope you are happier than you are now.
So it is no exaggeration to say that success and happiness depend on human relationships.
All the successful people the author met in the field had something in common.
Their success is supported by their ability to communicate well and build relationships.
They knew better than anyone that to rise to the top, they had to gain the support and trust of the people.
I was keenly aware that people need people.
The author emphasizes that no matter how much the world changes, the essence of human relationships remains constant.
"The Essentials of Conversation" focuses on the essence of human relationships and provides conversation techniques that fit that.
The author hears inspiring stories every day from countless people who have applied this conversation method and seen their lives transformed.
He also says that not only has his business expanded and profits increased, but his relationships with his family and friends have also improved significantly.
The author speaks confidently.
The conversation method in this book will completely change the way you think, and it will affect not only the way you talk but your entire way of life. So now is your turn to change.
The author emphasizes, “I wrote for your happiness.”
This book also says that those we love will feel happy more often because of us, and that we will be able to demonstrate our communication skills at crucial moments in our lives, taking us one step closer to success.
Are you ready to embrace a completely transformed life? If so, I encourage you to open any page and start reading right now.
“For those who struggle with conversation and relationships”
The art of conversation that appeals to everyone and moves people's hearts
We live in an era where the means and methods of communication have become truly diverse, from phone calls, messages, emails, comments, videos, non-face-to-face chats, and even messengers.
We live connected to something without resting for even a moment.
However, in this age of free connection, many people find conversation difficult and have difficulties in relationships.
Bosses feel stressed about managing their employees, companies struggle with marketing because they can't read their customers' minds, and executives fail to get promoted because they are excellent at their jobs but have a bad reputation among employees.
Even among family and friends, conversations often break down.
"The Essentials of Conversation" teaches us that conversation is not just about speaking.
Conversation is about continuing to nurture emotions and think from the other person's perspective.
It's about strengthening relationships and moving hearts.
So, people who are good at conversation gain the favor of others, win their hearts, and achieve success in their positions.
The art of conversation benefits our lives in many ways.
Even those who find conversation and relationships difficult will find it easier to converse and build relationships if they follow the conversation methods in this book.
The author provides conversational techniques that can be applied across various fields.
A corporate executive who oversees an organization of hundreds of people dramatically increased the organization's profits by changing the way he interacts with his employees.
The hospital, which was on the verge of closing down due to a loss of public support, learned to speak from the patient's perspective and quickly became the most popular hospital in the neighborhood.
A startup CEO received a huge subsidy from the government after persuading others from their perspectives.
All of this is thanks to the conversation techniques learned in this book.
Even without checking, the gap between the lives of those who have mastered good conversation skills and those who have not is quite significant.
“People who are good at conversation are different in ‘this’!”
The same words are pretty, questions are asked with interest, and persuasion is done with empathy.
"The Essentials of Conversation" helps you learn how to stay centered and speak well "together" in a busy, real-time society.
It provides concise and reliable solutions to all kinds of situations we face, from how to naturally start a conversation with someone we just met with a single question, how to overcome awkward situations through conversation, how to respond to gossip, how to protect our hearts when anger arises, and how to look within ourselves to have a good conversation.
Even when saying the same thing, use pretty and affectionate words.
Express yourself in positive terms as much as possible.
If you find it difficult to open your mouth, show interest in the other person and questions will come to you.
When persuading a business partner, empathize with what he wants and present a vision that matches it.
It's easy to let your guard down among family, friends, and lovers, but the closer you are to them, the more careful you are with your words in everyday life.
The conversational method the author conveys is always directed towards people.
When asking questions, persuading, comforting, or listening, we advise keeping the person we are talking to in mind.
On the contrary, when refusing, nagging, or demanding something, he advises that you learn to recognize and express your own desires.
The secret to good conversation isn't far away.
All you have to do is put 'people' at the center of the conversation.
As we live, we constantly form relationships.
The ability to build good relationships is a key element of happiness and a prerequisite for success.
Conversation is never an option in building a relationship.
This book, "The Essentials of Conversation," will serve as a powerful turning point on your path to growth in life.
The "Essentials of Conversation" from Heungbeon, recognized and praised by 600,000 people.
Everyone has a desire to be recognized by others and to feel important.
I want to give love to my loved ones and receive love from them.
I want to get along well with people.
I hope you are happier than you are now.
So it is no exaggeration to say that success and happiness depend on human relationships.
All the successful people the author met in the field had something in common.
Their success is supported by their ability to communicate well and build relationships.
They knew better than anyone that to rise to the top, they had to gain the support and trust of the people.
I was keenly aware that people need people.
The author emphasizes that no matter how much the world changes, the essence of human relationships remains constant.
"The Essentials of Conversation" focuses on the essence of human relationships and provides conversation techniques that fit that.
The author hears inspiring stories every day from countless people who have applied this conversation method and seen their lives transformed.
He also says that not only has his business expanded and profits increased, but his relationships with his family and friends have also improved significantly.
The author speaks confidently.
The conversation method in this book will completely change the way you think, and it will affect not only the way you talk but your entire way of life. So now is your turn to change.
The author emphasizes, “I wrote for your happiness.”
This book also says that those we love will feel happy more often because of us, and that we will be able to demonstrate our communication skills at crucial moments in our lives, taking us one step closer to success.
Are you ready to embrace a completely transformed life? If so, I encourage you to open any page and start reading right now.
“For those who struggle with conversation and relationships”
The art of conversation that appeals to everyone and moves people's hearts
We live in an era where the means and methods of communication have become truly diverse, from phone calls, messages, emails, comments, videos, non-face-to-face chats, and even messengers.
We live connected to something without resting for even a moment.
However, in this age of free connection, many people find conversation difficult and have difficulties in relationships.
Bosses feel stressed about managing their employees, companies struggle with marketing because they can't read their customers' minds, and executives fail to get promoted because they are excellent at their jobs but have a bad reputation among employees.
Even among family and friends, conversations often break down.
"The Essentials of Conversation" teaches us that conversation is not just about speaking.
Conversation is about continuing to nurture emotions and think from the other person's perspective.
It's about strengthening relationships and moving hearts.
So, people who are good at conversation gain the favor of others, win their hearts, and achieve success in their positions.
The art of conversation benefits our lives in many ways.
Even those who find conversation and relationships difficult will find it easier to converse and build relationships if they follow the conversation methods in this book.
The author provides conversational techniques that can be applied across various fields.
A corporate executive who oversees an organization of hundreds of people dramatically increased the organization's profits by changing the way he interacts with his employees.
The hospital, which was on the verge of closing down due to a loss of public support, learned to speak from the patient's perspective and quickly became the most popular hospital in the neighborhood.
A startup CEO received a huge subsidy from the government after persuading others from their perspectives.
All of this is thanks to the conversation techniques learned in this book.
Even without checking, the gap between the lives of those who have mastered good conversation skills and those who have not is quite significant.
“People who are good at conversation are different in ‘this’!”
The same words are pretty, questions are asked with interest, and persuasion is done with empathy.
"The Essentials of Conversation" helps you learn how to stay centered and speak well "together" in a busy, real-time society.
It provides concise and reliable solutions to all kinds of situations we face, from how to naturally start a conversation with someone we just met with a single question, how to overcome awkward situations through conversation, how to respond to gossip, how to protect our hearts when anger arises, and how to look within ourselves to have a good conversation.
Even when saying the same thing, use pretty and affectionate words.
Express yourself in positive terms as much as possible.
If you find it difficult to open your mouth, show interest in the other person and questions will come to you.
When persuading a business partner, empathize with what he wants and present a vision that matches it.
It's easy to let your guard down among family, friends, and lovers, but the closer you are to them, the more careful you are with your words in everyday life.
The conversational method the author conveys is always directed towards people.
When asking questions, persuading, comforting, or listening, we advise keeping the person we are talking to in mind.
On the contrary, when refusing, nagging, or demanding something, he advises that you learn to recognize and express your own desires.
The secret to good conversation isn't far away.
All you have to do is put 'people' at the center of the conversation.
As we live, we constantly form relationships.
The ability to build good relationships is a key element of happiness and a prerequisite for success.
Conversation is never an option in building a relationship.
This book, "The Essentials of Conversation," will serve as a powerful turning point on your path to growth in life.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: November 1, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 376 pages | 534g | 152*210*23mm
- ISBN13: 9791190299800
- ISBN10: 1190299801
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