Han Seok-jun's Conversation Skills
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“What’s different about people who can speak comfortably anywhere?” Korea's leading communications expert 32 Conversation Formulas from Announcer Han Seok-jun Strongly recommended by Kang Won-guk (writer), Kim Kyung-il (cognitive psychologist), and Hong Jin-kyung (broadcaster)! "What makes someone welcome everywhere different?" "How can I make myself known without being obvious?" "What if I find eye contact uncomfortable during conversations?" "What should I be mindful of in non-face-to-face communication like messengers, phone calls, and emails?" "What should I be aware of in group chats?" Following his bestseller, “Sukjun Han’s Speaking Class,” South Korea’s leading communication expert, Seokjun Han, has published “Sukjun Han’s Conversation Skills,” which provides practical solutions to everyday communication problems. The author, a veteran announcer with 25 years of experience, has compiled the essence of conversational techniques in this book, acquired through extensive research and personal trial and error. If the previous work dealt with one-way communication, where one conveys one's intentions to the other person, this book focuses on two-way communication, where 'I' and 'you' properly understand each other and create 'us.' Especially in an era where non-face-to-face communication has become the norm, it covers a wide range of communication methods, from how to use messengers like KakaoTalk to phone etiquette. Han Seok-jun emphasizes that the key to a good conversation is to 'place your center of gravity on the other person.' Many people worry about what to say and how to say it, but what really matters in a conversation is 'how the other person receives what I say.' The author says that to do this, you must first have an attitude of acknowledging and accepting the other person. With engaging case studies and practical training methods that anyone can immediately apply in real life, this book will provide practical help to those who find conversation difficult or uncomfortable, those who struggle with non-face-to-face communication, those who want to improve their communication skills in the workplace, and those who want to build deeper interpersonal relationships. |
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prolog.
We never learned to converse
PART 1.
What makes someone welcome wherever they go?
The key to a good conversation is to place your weight on the other person.
- Conversation is the foundation of human relationships.
- Am I someone you want to have a conversation with?
Are your words getting through?
Why an Economic Expert's YouTube Channel Failed
- Words belong to the listener.
- Consider the other person's reaction
- TIP: How to have a conversation that matches each other's eye level
There is a different way to have a conversation that elicits empathy.
- Communication failure is not just one person's fault.
- Why you should speak the other person's language
- Recognizing differences opens opportunities for communication.
What Makes a Conversation Trustworthy?
- What I say is what I am.
- Trustworthy words come from a trustworthy attitude.
- TIP 4 Ways to Give Your Words Trust
Good conversations create good relationships.
- The real reason we learn conversation skills
- Be kind to everyone you meet.
PART 2.
Expert Conversation Techniques for True Communication
Conversations that create enemies VS.
A conversation that takes my side
- Conversation is not a game where the most logical person wins.
- Things to remember if you want to win your opponent over to your side
- TIP Two conversation techniques to make someone on your side
How to Break Communication-Hindering Habits
- A life-threatening habit: “That’s not it.”
Timing is important when developing a counterargument.
- TIP: How to turn a crisis situation into a positive conversation
The Small Talk Formula That Turns Introverts into Popular People
- How to make a good impression on your first meeting
- 3-Step Secret to Turning Small Talk into Serious Conversation
How to appeal to me without being obvious
- Find the great ingredients you have.
- How to express yourself while being considerate of others
- TIP How to have a conversation that appeals to you in an attractive way
How to Converse Naturally in Tense Situations
- How to deal with unexpected questions without panicking
- How to be more engaging in presentations and interviews
Words that ruin relationships VS.
Words to restore relationships
- One word that will leave a scar for a lifetime
- The closer you are to someone, the more you shouldn't speak carelessly.
- TIP How to have a conversation that respects the other person
PART 3.
7 Conversation Tools to Add Depth to Your Relationships
The art of asking questions that will make conversation flow smoothly
- How to get a thumbs up in an interview with a Hollywood star
- Questions that build rapport and elicit empathy
- TIP How to ask questions that make conversations meaningful
Expressions of recognition that strengthen relationships
- When a single word, “Good job,” becomes the lubricant
- Sincere recognition changes the other person.
People who are considerate of others also communicate well.
- 3 communication methods to build close relationships
To build new relationships, you must sow the seeds of relationships.
How to Use Notes to Become a Conversation Master
- “I am listening to your story.”
- The Amazing Power of Note-Taking Habits
- TIP 3 ways to take notes effectively
The power of praise to lead to pleasant conversations
- Compliments can make awkward conversations flow more smoothly.
- 3 principles to maximize the effectiveness of praise
How to Give Heartfelt Advice to Someone Who Is Struggling
- Hasty advice can be poisonous.
- Do you need advice or encouragement now?
- TIP: How to express support and empathy
Eye contact adds depth to conversations
- Speak with your eyes before your mouth.
- If you feel uncomfortable making eye contact when talking
- TIP: Effective eye contact for introverts
PART 4.
Smart communication in the contactless era
How to communicate without misunderstandings in the contactless era
- Changes in communication methods due to technological advancements
- Recognize the limitations of non-face-to-face communication
Phone Etiquette Without Worrying About Call Phobia
- Appropriate phone etiquette in the smartphone era
- In public relations, phone calls are like this:
- In a personal relationship, phone calls are like this:
- TIP Telephone Etiquette for Office Workers
The Professional's Unique Email Writing Method
- Your expertise is evident in just one email.
- How to write a sensible email
How to Become a Communication Master with KakaoTalk
- There are manners in messenger windows too.
- The more you send, the more beautiful the return message will be.
Useful group chat etiquette to know
How to improve communication efficiency in group chat rooms
- Expressions to watch out for in public group chat rooms
In this era of contactless communication, the power of face-to-face communication is stronger than you might think.
- When you need to communicate face-to-face even if you're busy
- Facial expressions cannot be shown in the messenger window.
- TIP: How to improve face-to-face communication skills
PART 5.
The secret to becoming a master of communication lies in attitude.
Add class to your words
- Talk to the other person at their eye level.
- How to deal with criticism with dignity
The power of positivity to smooth conversations
- “Would you spit in a smiling face?” The power of a smile
- The magic of a positive attitude
The foundation of communication is listening.
- The listening attitude that increases favorability
- Listen, but don't lose sight of the purpose of the conversation.
- TIP How to improve relationships by listening
Respect makes you listen to what the other person has to say.
- Respect expressed with humility
- The power of humility that leads to true success
Conversations become easier when you let go of perfectionism.
- Don't be afraid of mistakes and be flexible in your conversations.
- Tell yourself that it's okay if you're not perfect.
True communication begins when we embrace imperfection.
- Does perfectionism make for successful conversations?
- Perfectionism is ruining your speech.
Conversation contains all of life's experiences.
- Practice objectifying life through self-reflection
How to turn failure into a turning point in your life
- The moment when failure turns into a life opportunity
What I say to myself becomes my life.
- A word from an NBA star who was eliminated in the first round.
- A life-changing conversation with myself
Epilogue.
How to Create a Virtuous Cycle in Life
We never learned to converse
PART 1.
What makes someone welcome wherever they go?
The key to a good conversation is to place your weight on the other person.
- Conversation is the foundation of human relationships.
- Am I someone you want to have a conversation with?
Are your words getting through?
Why an Economic Expert's YouTube Channel Failed
- Words belong to the listener.
- Consider the other person's reaction
- TIP: How to have a conversation that matches each other's eye level
There is a different way to have a conversation that elicits empathy.
- Communication failure is not just one person's fault.
- Why you should speak the other person's language
- Recognizing differences opens opportunities for communication.
What Makes a Conversation Trustworthy?
- What I say is what I am.
- Trustworthy words come from a trustworthy attitude.
- TIP 4 Ways to Give Your Words Trust
Good conversations create good relationships.
- The real reason we learn conversation skills
- Be kind to everyone you meet.
PART 2.
Expert Conversation Techniques for True Communication
Conversations that create enemies VS.
A conversation that takes my side
- Conversation is not a game where the most logical person wins.
- Things to remember if you want to win your opponent over to your side
- TIP Two conversation techniques to make someone on your side
How to Break Communication-Hindering Habits
- A life-threatening habit: “That’s not it.”
Timing is important when developing a counterargument.
- TIP: How to turn a crisis situation into a positive conversation
The Small Talk Formula That Turns Introverts into Popular People
- How to make a good impression on your first meeting
- 3-Step Secret to Turning Small Talk into Serious Conversation
How to appeal to me without being obvious
- Find the great ingredients you have.
- How to express yourself while being considerate of others
- TIP How to have a conversation that appeals to you in an attractive way
How to Converse Naturally in Tense Situations
- How to deal with unexpected questions without panicking
- How to be more engaging in presentations and interviews
Words that ruin relationships VS.
Words to restore relationships
- One word that will leave a scar for a lifetime
- The closer you are to someone, the more you shouldn't speak carelessly.
- TIP How to have a conversation that respects the other person
PART 3.
7 Conversation Tools to Add Depth to Your Relationships
The art of asking questions that will make conversation flow smoothly
- How to get a thumbs up in an interview with a Hollywood star
- Questions that build rapport and elicit empathy
- TIP How to ask questions that make conversations meaningful
Expressions of recognition that strengthen relationships
- When a single word, “Good job,” becomes the lubricant
- Sincere recognition changes the other person.
People who are considerate of others also communicate well.
- 3 communication methods to build close relationships
To build new relationships, you must sow the seeds of relationships.
How to Use Notes to Become a Conversation Master
- “I am listening to your story.”
- The Amazing Power of Note-Taking Habits
- TIP 3 ways to take notes effectively
The power of praise to lead to pleasant conversations
- Compliments can make awkward conversations flow more smoothly.
- 3 principles to maximize the effectiveness of praise
How to Give Heartfelt Advice to Someone Who Is Struggling
- Hasty advice can be poisonous.
- Do you need advice or encouragement now?
- TIP: How to express support and empathy
Eye contact adds depth to conversations
- Speak with your eyes before your mouth.
- If you feel uncomfortable making eye contact when talking
- TIP: Effective eye contact for introverts
PART 4.
Smart communication in the contactless era
How to communicate without misunderstandings in the contactless era
- Changes in communication methods due to technological advancements
- Recognize the limitations of non-face-to-face communication
Phone Etiquette Without Worrying About Call Phobia
- Appropriate phone etiquette in the smartphone era
- In public relations, phone calls are like this:
- In a personal relationship, phone calls are like this:
- TIP Telephone Etiquette for Office Workers
The Professional's Unique Email Writing Method
- Your expertise is evident in just one email.
- How to write a sensible email
How to Become a Communication Master with KakaoTalk
- There are manners in messenger windows too.
- The more you send, the more beautiful the return message will be.
Useful group chat etiquette to know
How to improve communication efficiency in group chat rooms
- Expressions to watch out for in public group chat rooms
In this era of contactless communication, the power of face-to-face communication is stronger than you might think.
- When you need to communicate face-to-face even if you're busy
- Facial expressions cannot be shown in the messenger window.
- TIP: How to improve face-to-face communication skills
PART 5.
The secret to becoming a master of communication lies in attitude.
Add class to your words
- Talk to the other person at their eye level.
- How to deal with criticism with dignity
The power of positivity to smooth conversations
- “Would you spit in a smiling face?” The power of a smile
- The magic of a positive attitude
The foundation of communication is listening.
- The listening attitude that increases favorability
- Listen, but don't lose sight of the purpose of the conversation.
- TIP How to improve relationships by listening
Respect makes you listen to what the other person has to say.
- Respect expressed with humility
- The power of humility that leads to true success
Conversations become easier when you let go of perfectionism.
- Don't be afraid of mistakes and be flexible in your conversations.
- Tell yourself that it's okay if you're not perfect.
True communication begins when we embrace imperfection.
- Does perfectionism make for successful conversations?
- Perfectionism is ruining your speech.
Conversation contains all of life's experiences.
- Practice objectifying life through self-reflection
How to turn failure into a turning point in your life
- The moment when failure turns into a life opportunity
What I say to myself becomes my life.
- A word from an NBA star who was eliminated in the first round.
- A life-changing conversation with myself
Epilogue.
How to Create a Virtuous Cycle in Life
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Conversation is like a game of catch.
Catch requires balance between two people, but sometimes even if one person doesn't throw the ball well, the other person can catch it if they have good catching skills.
It's a story about how success can be achieved with just one person's ability.
Likewise, in conversation, if one person actively listens, tries to understand, and approaches the conversation with a positive attitude, the quality of the conversation will greatly improve and good interpersonal relationships will be formed.
Ultimately, it is up to us to create good conversations.
Conversational skills can be improved with practice.
Use every conversational situation you encounter in your daily life as an opportunity to practice.
Don't be discouraged or afraid if you meet someone you just can't communicate with.
This could be a valuable opportunity to take your conversational skills to the next level.
--- pp.6-7, from "Prologue"
We often rush to tell our own story in conversations or try to respond immediately to what the other person is saying.
But true communication begins with listening fully to the other person and making an effort to understand his or her feelings and thoughts.
Giving weight to the other person doesn't mean simply listening in silence.
It means listening with all your heart, considering the other person's perspective, and empathizing with what he or she is saying.
This is like creating a safe space for the other person to feel comfortable telling their story.
In that sense, it can be said that a good conversation begins from the ‘heart’, not the ‘mouth.’
When we truly listen to what the other person has to say, try to understand their feelings and thoughts, and have an attitude of acknowledging and accepting them as they are, we can truly communicate.
--- pp.20-21, from “The key to a good conversation is to place the center of gravity on the other person”
There are some things you must remember to build good relationships.
It is ‘treating the other person with sincerity.’
Everyone wants to be respected.
I want to be respected and not be ignored by anyone.
If there is someone who ignores you and treats you rudely, you may be able to maintain the relationship for the time being because they are older than you, your boss, a difficult person, a powerful person, etc., but it will be difficult to truly like that person.
(Omitted) Is there someone you'd really like to meet? It could be a scholar you respect, a favorite celebrity, or a famous businessman.
When I asked students who took my lectures, they said that they thought of Dr. Oh Eun-young, Professor Kim Kyung-il, and Instructor Kim Mi-kyung.
What would our attitude be if we met that person and talked to him?
I will treat that person with joy and respect.
You will be more careful about your attitude and even your tone of speech than usual.
What if you treated those around you with this attitude and tone of voice? They'd be astonished by your sincere demeanor, and they'd treat you with the same sincerity.
This attitude changes the other person.
--- pp.57-59, from “Good conversation creates good relationships”
What if someone praised your accomplishments or bragging rights on your behalf? It would feel incredibly good.
I would really appreciate it if someone complimented me.
With this in mind, try switching positions and complimenting the other person first.
At least I revealed myself to him very clearly.
(Omitted) You may ask, isn't this just promoting others rather than promoting yourself?
But everyone who received this kind of compliment always started the conversation with me and praised me whenever they had the chance.
The opportunity to appeal to myself through others arose naturally.
Praise others for something they want to brag about.
From then on, he would compliment me in the same way, and this would naturally lead to my bragging.
--- pp.93-95, from “How to Appeal to Myself Without Showing Off”
How can I become a better communicator? Just having a lot of conversations doesn't make you a master of communication.
The more I talk to people, the more I want to avoid them.
There are people who talk a lot but are not very enjoyable and leave you feeling tired at the end of the conversation.
Right here lies an important principle of communication.
The principle is that 'the more you talk, the more comfortable and pleasant it should feel.'
You have to make the other person feel like, 'I can communicate well with this person.'
Conversation is like waves.
If there is a high tide, there is a low tide.
If I tell a story once, the other person should be able to tell one too.
It should be a so-called 'give or take' situation.
However, there are things to be careful about when it comes to ‘giving or receiving.’
If possible, keep the speaking ratio to 7 for the other person and 3 for me.
Why not 5-on-5? Because to have a meaningful conversation, you need to shine the spotlight on the other person, not yourself.
Only then can the other person become immersed in the conversation and feel a sense of affection for me.
Remember that while the ebb and flow is 5 to 5, the speaking ratio between you and the other person in a conversation is 7 to 3.
--- pp.139-140, from “People who are considerate of others also communicate well”
There are quite a few people who feel uncomfortable talking while looking into each other's eyes.
In that case, there is an alternative.
Instead of looking at the eyes, look at the philtrum.
When you look at the philtrum, the other person will feel as if you are making eye contact, but the person looking at it may feel less pressured.
You can find out for sure if you take a picture or video of yourself and test it.
Take a video looking 2-3 centimeters below the smartphone camera lens (roughly the distance from the eye to the philtrum), and then take a video looking 2-3 centimeters above the smartphone camera lens. If you play back these two videos and compare them, the video looking down will make you look naturally at the camera, but the video looking up will make you look somewhere other than the camera.
So, if you feel uncomfortable looking into the other person's eyes while talking, just look at the philtrum, which is below the other person's eyes.
Catch requires balance between two people, but sometimes even if one person doesn't throw the ball well, the other person can catch it if they have good catching skills.
It's a story about how success can be achieved with just one person's ability.
Likewise, in conversation, if one person actively listens, tries to understand, and approaches the conversation with a positive attitude, the quality of the conversation will greatly improve and good interpersonal relationships will be formed.
Ultimately, it is up to us to create good conversations.
Conversational skills can be improved with practice.
Use every conversational situation you encounter in your daily life as an opportunity to practice.
Don't be discouraged or afraid if you meet someone you just can't communicate with.
This could be a valuable opportunity to take your conversational skills to the next level.
--- pp.6-7, from "Prologue"
We often rush to tell our own story in conversations or try to respond immediately to what the other person is saying.
But true communication begins with listening fully to the other person and making an effort to understand his or her feelings and thoughts.
Giving weight to the other person doesn't mean simply listening in silence.
It means listening with all your heart, considering the other person's perspective, and empathizing with what he or she is saying.
This is like creating a safe space for the other person to feel comfortable telling their story.
In that sense, it can be said that a good conversation begins from the ‘heart’, not the ‘mouth.’
When we truly listen to what the other person has to say, try to understand their feelings and thoughts, and have an attitude of acknowledging and accepting them as they are, we can truly communicate.
--- pp.20-21, from “The key to a good conversation is to place the center of gravity on the other person”
There are some things you must remember to build good relationships.
It is ‘treating the other person with sincerity.’
Everyone wants to be respected.
I want to be respected and not be ignored by anyone.
If there is someone who ignores you and treats you rudely, you may be able to maintain the relationship for the time being because they are older than you, your boss, a difficult person, a powerful person, etc., but it will be difficult to truly like that person.
(Omitted) Is there someone you'd really like to meet? It could be a scholar you respect, a favorite celebrity, or a famous businessman.
When I asked students who took my lectures, they said that they thought of Dr. Oh Eun-young, Professor Kim Kyung-il, and Instructor Kim Mi-kyung.
What would our attitude be if we met that person and talked to him?
I will treat that person with joy and respect.
You will be more careful about your attitude and even your tone of speech than usual.
What if you treated those around you with this attitude and tone of voice? They'd be astonished by your sincere demeanor, and they'd treat you with the same sincerity.
This attitude changes the other person.
--- pp.57-59, from “Good conversation creates good relationships”
What if someone praised your accomplishments or bragging rights on your behalf? It would feel incredibly good.
I would really appreciate it if someone complimented me.
With this in mind, try switching positions and complimenting the other person first.
At least I revealed myself to him very clearly.
(Omitted) You may ask, isn't this just promoting others rather than promoting yourself?
But everyone who received this kind of compliment always started the conversation with me and praised me whenever they had the chance.
The opportunity to appeal to myself through others arose naturally.
Praise others for something they want to brag about.
From then on, he would compliment me in the same way, and this would naturally lead to my bragging.
--- pp.93-95, from “How to Appeal to Myself Without Showing Off”
How can I become a better communicator? Just having a lot of conversations doesn't make you a master of communication.
The more I talk to people, the more I want to avoid them.
There are people who talk a lot but are not very enjoyable and leave you feeling tired at the end of the conversation.
Right here lies an important principle of communication.
The principle is that 'the more you talk, the more comfortable and pleasant it should feel.'
You have to make the other person feel like, 'I can communicate well with this person.'
Conversation is like waves.
If there is a high tide, there is a low tide.
If I tell a story once, the other person should be able to tell one too.
It should be a so-called 'give or take' situation.
However, there are things to be careful about when it comes to ‘giving or receiving.’
If possible, keep the speaking ratio to 7 for the other person and 3 for me.
Why not 5-on-5? Because to have a meaningful conversation, you need to shine the spotlight on the other person, not yourself.
Only then can the other person become immersed in the conversation and feel a sense of affection for me.
Remember that while the ebb and flow is 5 to 5, the speaking ratio between you and the other person in a conversation is 7 to 3.
--- pp.139-140, from “People who are considerate of others also communicate well”
There are quite a few people who feel uncomfortable talking while looking into each other's eyes.
In that case, there is an alternative.
Instead of looking at the eyes, look at the philtrum.
When you look at the philtrum, the other person will feel as if you are making eye contact, but the person looking at it may feel less pressured.
You can find out for sure if you take a picture or video of yourself and test it.
Take a video looking 2-3 centimeters below the smartphone camera lens (roughly the distance from the eye to the philtrum), and then take a video looking 2-3 centimeters above the smartphone camera lens. If you play back these two videos and compare them, the video looking down will make you look naturally at the camera, but the video looking up will make you look somewhere other than the camera.
So, if you feel uncomfortable looking into the other person's eyes while talking, just look at the philtrum, which is below the other person's eyes.
--- pp.167-168, from “Gaze Processing to Add Depth to Conversation”
Publisher's Review
“What makes people feel better the more you talk to them?”
Announcer Han Seok-jun shares practical conversation techniques that will help you overcome your interpersonal concerns.
We have many conversations every day.
From morning greetings with family to business meetings with colleagues and casual conversations with friends, we spend our days interacting with others.
However, even though we talk like this every day, many people find conversation difficult.
On the other hand, when talking about the same topic, some people's words sound pleasant, while others' words sound repulsive.
Why does this happen?
Han Seok-jun, a veteran announcer with 25 years of experience and a leading communication expert in South Korea, asserts that the reason is “because I have never properly learned how to have a conversation in my life.”
When you go to school, you learn language, but no one teaches you how to communicate, and you have no opportunity to practice it.
In this book, "The Art of Conversation by Seokjun Han," the author presents simple and clear solutions to difficult and daunting conversation techniques that one may have never properly learned, using his characteristic wit and practical advice.
Furthermore, it emphasizes that conversation is the key that determines the direction of one's life.
“It is a key tool for sharing emotions and forming relationships, beyond a simple means of communication.”
In fact, today, good communication skills are becoming a key competency that determines not only personal growth but also success in the workplace.
The author addresses the everyday communication concerns modern people face, from the fundamental principles that must be observed in everyday conversations to the principles of non-face-to-face communication, such as KakaoTalk messenger, text messages, and email, which are business communication methods in the digital age.
Feel good! Not awkward! Without any hesitation!
“Good conversation moves others and turns the world on your side.”
What does Han Seok-jun mean by good conversation? He says, "A good conversation is one that places the other person at the center of gravity."
Many people worry about 'what to say and how to say it,' but true communication begins when we consider 'how will the other person receive what I say?'
This book is divided into five parts and explains specific methods for having good conversations.
Chapter 1 covers the characteristics of a person who is welcomed anywhere, Chapter 2 covers the conversational techniques used by communication experts, Chapter 3 covers seven conversational tools such as questions, recognition, consideration, notes, praise, advice, and eye contact, Chapter 4 covers communication methods in the non-face-to-face era, and Chapter 5 covers in detail the attitude required to become a communication expert.
Additionally, each chapter provides a separate TIP section with practical methods that can be immediately applied to specific topics.
These include ‘How to appeal to others without being obvious’, ‘Effective eye contact methods for introverts’, and ‘Conversation etiquette in group chats’.
As author Seok-Jun Han says, “A good conversation moves the other person and turns the world on your side,” if you improve your conversation skills through “The Art of Conversation by Seok-Jun Han,” you will be able to communicate comfortably, without awkwardness, and without hesitation with anyone.
'Am I someone you want to have a conversation with?'
Han Seok-jun's "Comfortable Conversation" Style
What do we live for? Each of us pursues different values: money, family, fame, health, etc., but the ultimate goal of all of them is "happiness."
The various conversation methods the author introduces in this book also ultimately aim for 'happiness.'
He says, “True happiness begins with relationships with others, and the quality of those relationships ultimately depends on conversation.”
According to the author, good conversation is like magic.
A single conversation can start a lifelong relationship or resolve a long-standing misunderstanding.
Conversely, one wrong conversation can ruin a precious relationship.
In this way, conversation is a powerful tool that affects the happiness of our lives.
The author emphasizes that “anyone can become a master of conversation, and therefore anyone can become happy through conversation.”
What's important is 'attitude'.
The attitude of accepting the other person rather than revealing myself is the beginning of all conversations.
Rather than rushing to convey your feelings and thoughts, think ahead about how your words will sound to the other person, use language that is easy for them to understand, and listen with genuine interest.
This is the core of ‘Han Seok-jun’s conversation method.’
This book contains practical conversation techniques that the author has proven through lectures given at universities and companies and verified by students.
What is particularly noteworthy is the emphasis on ‘gradual growth.’
The author advises that rather than rushing to become a conversationalist overnight, it's important to make small progress every day.
If today's conversation is a little better than yesterday's, that's enough.
“Anyone can learn to converse well if they learn to.” As Han Seok-jun said, this book presents readers with specific and practical conversation techniques.
If you follow the conversation techniques he teaches one by one, you will soon find yourself becoming an attractive person that people around you want to talk to.
Announcer Han Seok-jun shares practical conversation techniques that will help you overcome your interpersonal concerns.
We have many conversations every day.
From morning greetings with family to business meetings with colleagues and casual conversations with friends, we spend our days interacting with others.
However, even though we talk like this every day, many people find conversation difficult.
On the other hand, when talking about the same topic, some people's words sound pleasant, while others' words sound repulsive.
Why does this happen?
Han Seok-jun, a veteran announcer with 25 years of experience and a leading communication expert in South Korea, asserts that the reason is “because I have never properly learned how to have a conversation in my life.”
When you go to school, you learn language, but no one teaches you how to communicate, and you have no opportunity to practice it.
In this book, "The Art of Conversation by Seokjun Han," the author presents simple and clear solutions to difficult and daunting conversation techniques that one may have never properly learned, using his characteristic wit and practical advice.
Furthermore, it emphasizes that conversation is the key that determines the direction of one's life.
“It is a key tool for sharing emotions and forming relationships, beyond a simple means of communication.”
In fact, today, good communication skills are becoming a key competency that determines not only personal growth but also success in the workplace.
The author addresses the everyday communication concerns modern people face, from the fundamental principles that must be observed in everyday conversations to the principles of non-face-to-face communication, such as KakaoTalk messenger, text messages, and email, which are business communication methods in the digital age.
Feel good! Not awkward! Without any hesitation!
“Good conversation moves others and turns the world on your side.”
What does Han Seok-jun mean by good conversation? He says, "A good conversation is one that places the other person at the center of gravity."
Many people worry about 'what to say and how to say it,' but true communication begins when we consider 'how will the other person receive what I say?'
This book is divided into five parts and explains specific methods for having good conversations.
Chapter 1 covers the characteristics of a person who is welcomed anywhere, Chapter 2 covers the conversational techniques used by communication experts, Chapter 3 covers seven conversational tools such as questions, recognition, consideration, notes, praise, advice, and eye contact, Chapter 4 covers communication methods in the non-face-to-face era, and Chapter 5 covers in detail the attitude required to become a communication expert.
Additionally, each chapter provides a separate TIP section with practical methods that can be immediately applied to specific topics.
These include ‘How to appeal to others without being obvious’, ‘Effective eye contact methods for introverts’, and ‘Conversation etiquette in group chats’.
As author Seok-Jun Han says, “A good conversation moves the other person and turns the world on your side,” if you improve your conversation skills through “The Art of Conversation by Seok-Jun Han,” you will be able to communicate comfortably, without awkwardness, and without hesitation with anyone.
'Am I someone you want to have a conversation with?'
Han Seok-jun's "Comfortable Conversation" Style
What do we live for? Each of us pursues different values: money, family, fame, health, etc., but the ultimate goal of all of them is "happiness."
The various conversation methods the author introduces in this book also ultimately aim for 'happiness.'
He says, “True happiness begins with relationships with others, and the quality of those relationships ultimately depends on conversation.”
According to the author, good conversation is like magic.
A single conversation can start a lifelong relationship or resolve a long-standing misunderstanding.
Conversely, one wrong conversation can ruin a precious relationship.
In this way, conversation is a powerful tool that affects the happiness of our lives.
The author emphasizes that “anyone can become a master of conversation, and therefore anyone can become happy through conversation.”
What's important is 'attitude'.
The attitude of accepting the other person rather than revealing myself is the beginning of all conversations.
Rather than rushing to convey your feelings and thoughts, think ahead about how your words will sound to the other person, use language that is easy for them to understand, and listen with genuine interest.
This is the core of ‘Han Seok-jun’s conversation method.’
This book contains practical conversation techniques that the author has proven through lectures given at universities and companies and verified by students.
What is particularly noteworthy is the emphasis on ‘gradual growth.’
The author advises that rather than rushing to become a conversationalist overnight, it's important to make small progress every day.
If today's conversation is a little better than yesterday's, that's enough.
“Anyone can learn to converse well if they learn to.” As Han Seok-jun said, this book presents readers with specific and practical conversation techniques.
If you follow the conversation techniques he teaches one by one, you will soon find yourself becoming an attractive person that people around you want to talk to.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: October 28, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 292 pages | 438g | 140*205*18mm
- ISBN13: 9791168342354
- ISBN10: 116834235X
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