On how to deepen your connection with alone time
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Book Introduction
“The greatest thing in the world is
“It is knowing how to belong to oneself” - Montaigne
Quietly and completely,
How to become your true self
★★★ Amazon Bestseller in the US, Germany, and France ★★★
★★★ A new writer's hit work that spread through word of mouth alone ★★★
★★★ The book that transformed social media around the world into a "certification shot" ★★★
A book that became a bestseller on Amazon in the US, Germany, and France solely through word of mouth.
Instead of 'living a life of excessive dependence on others or being dragged around to avoid feeling the fear of being alone and repeating regrets', the author chose 'a life of standing alone, finding one's true self, and growing oneself'. Through this book, the author changed his own life and the lives of countless readers.
As the 'proof shots' posted by readers on social media gradually spread, she went from being an unknown freelance writer to a bestselling author who captured the hearts of readers around the world.
This book is the author's personal story, but at the same time, it is the most realistic insight into 'loneliness' that all of us living in the present age cannot help but sympathize with, and the most fundamental exploration of the existence of 'me'.
The resonance this book conveys to those who are surrounded by people but are losing themselves is powerful.
As philosopher Montaigne said, “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself,” the author says, “In a world where everyone finds their home among others, knowing how to belong to oneself is a very important life skill.”
The author draws on his own experience and insight to share with us, in a very honest yet wise way, how to make your alone time meaningful and fulfilling.
Filled with heartfelt advice on how to transform alone time into opportunities for personal growth, how to cultivate inner strength without relying on others, how to discover true freedom and creativity, and how to overcome loneliness and understand and love yourself just as you are.
If you want to become someone who, as countless readers have already 'certified' and who 'goes deeper with time alone' as the title of this book suggests, then turn to the page now.
It will be a journey to find your true self, in silence and completeness.
“It is knowing how to belong to oneself” - Montaigne
Quietly and completely,
How to become your true self
★★★ Amazon Bestseller in the US, Germany, and France ★★★
★★★ A new writer's hit work that spread through word of mouth alone ★★★
★★★ The book that transformed social media around the world into a "certification shot" ★★★
A book that became a bestseller on Amazon in the US, Germany, and France solely through word of mouth.
Instead of 'living a life of excessive dependence on others or being dragged around to avoid feeling the fear of being alone and repeating regrets', the author chose 'a life of standing alone, finding one's true self, and growing oneself'. Through this book, the author changed his own life and the lives of countless readers.
As the 'proof shots' posted by readers on social media gradually spread, she went from being an unknown freelance writer to a bestselling author who captured the hearts of readers around the world.
This book is the author's personal story, but at the same time, it is the most realistic insight into 'loneliness' that all of us living in the present age cannot help but sympathize with, and the most fundamental exploration of the existence of 'me'.
The resonance this book conveys to those who are surrounded by people but are losing themselves is powerful.
As philosopher Montaigne said, “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself,” the author says, “In a world where everyone finds their home among others, knowing how to belong to oneself is a very important life skill.”
The author draws on his own experience and insight to share with us, in a very honest yet wise way, how to make your alone time meaningful and fulfilling.
Filled with heartfelt advice on how to transform alone time into opportunities for personal growth, how to cultivate inner strength without relying on others, how to discover true freedom and creativity, and how to overcome loneliness and understand and love yourself just as you are.
If you want to become someone who, as countless readers have already 'certified' and who 'goes deeper with time alone' as the title of this book suggests, then turn to the page now.
It will be a journey to find your true self, in silence and completeness.
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index
Prologue _ Being alone is not lonely
[Part 1: Only When I'm Alone Do I Become My True Self]
Chapter 1: Reality is different from drama.
Chapter 2: Those Who Lost Their True Self
Chapter 3: How to Be Yourself
Self-love begins with self-acceptance | Self-love grows with self-understanding | Small tips for finding yourself
Chapter 4: The only relationship that can last forever is the relationship with myself.
[Part 2: How to Deepen Your Alone Time]
Chapter 5: Practicing the art of being alone, quietly and fully present
Focus on Becoming Your Authentic Self | Digestion, Reflection, and Reset | The Art of Doing Nothing | How to Belong to Yourself
Chapter 6: How to Turn Loneliness into a Time of Growth
Make Your Dream Your Friend | What is Your True Dream? | Define Your Own
Chapter 7: Do One Thing Every Day
Learn to be honest with yourself | Step 1: The power of one focus | Step 2: One big action | Step 3: Be flexible in your own way
Chapter 8: The Joy of Being Addicted to Being Alone
Create a source of joy | Learn and challenge yourself with new things | Accumulate knowledge in your brain.
Chapter 9: Stand Completely Alone
Acknowledgements
[Part 1: Only When I'm Alone Do I Become My True Self]
Chapter 1: Reality is different from drama.
Chapter 2: Those Who Lost Their True Self
Chapter 3: How to Be Yourself
Self-love begins with self-acceptance | Self-love grows with self-understanding | Small tips for finding yourself
Chapter 4: The only relationship that can last forever is the relationship with myself.
[Part 2: How to Deepen Your Alone Time]
Chapter 5: Practicing the art of being alone, quietly and fully present
Focus on Becoming Your Authentic Self | Digestion, Reflection, and Reset | The Art of Doing Nothing | How to Belong to Yourself
Chapter 6: How to Turn Loneliness into a Time of Growth
Make Your Dream Your Friend | What is Your True Dream? | Define Your Own
Chapter 7: Do One Thing Every Day
Learn to be honest with yourself | Step 1: The power of one focus | Step 2: One big action | Step 3: Be flexible in your own way
Chapter 8: The Joy of Being Addicted to Being Alone
Create a source of joy | Learn and challenge yourself with new things | Accumulate knowledge in your brain.
Chapter 9: Stand Completely Alone
Acknowledgements
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Into the book
Our lives have become a collection of other people's thoughts and judgments.
The fear of 'how will people judge me' takes root deep within us and we start to censor ourselves before others.
Novelist David Foster Wallace once said, “If you knew how little other people thought about you, you could stop worrying about what other people thought of you.”
Ironically enough, your biggest enemy and critic is none other than yourself.
--- p.12
Being alone is a part of life and becoming a real adult.
No matter how close a friend or lover you are, you can't be together for the rest of your life.
Life moves fast and everyone is running tirelessly to keep up.
For better or worse, people leave and life goes on.
This is the truth.
Some people will leave in search of better jobs.
Conversely, there will be times when you need to let go of people for your career growth.
Or maybe people just get bored with you and leave you to find someone new.
That's life.
--- p.15
If you pretend to be someone you are not because you want to fit in with others, you will end up hating even the time you spend with yourself.
Who can accept someone who doesn't even accept themselves? Would others want to be with someone who hates spending time alone? Then, what kind of person will you end up becoming?
Yes? Yes.
You become a nobody.
If you run to get people's approval and love, you will eventually lose yourself.
--- p.40
If you draw a clear line for yourself, you will no longer have to accept trash.
There is no reason to force yourself to acknowledge or accept even the smallest thing.
I stop laughing at unfunny jokes.
I also stop saying “yes” to everything because I know it doesn’t suit me, I don’t want it, and I know it will never happen.
You will begin to think based on your own standards and realize that you are not here to adapt to the people, environment, or circumstances surrounding you.
--- p.86
Your true solution is within yourself.
Your mind knows what to do, and it is capable enough to figure out how to do it.
But if you keep filling your mind with other people's thoughts and opinions, you will eventually become similar to them and think the same thoughts.
Not a single drop of your uniqueness will remain.
That's why they say, 'You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.'
--- p.115
The core reason we follow the crowd is because we don't trust our decisions and choices.
We feel safer trusting the crowd than ourselves, who can't easily make any decisions.
And because they are afraid of being alone, they are reluctant to take new paths.
But enough is enough now.
How long will you persist in wanting to be like everyone else? Why obsess over competing with the same standards for everyone? Aren't you tired of striving for the same success as everyone else, while missing out on the small joys of everyday life?
--- p.152
We don't feel tired because we're working too hard.
We feel exhausted because we do too little of what makes us truly happy.
So if you intentionally do just one thing that connects you to yourself, to your inner child, you will begin to feel joy in life.
In our daily lives, there must be at least one exciting and anticipated event.
--- p.195
The effects of this 'mental nutrient' we have created will by no means be trivial.
It will help you discover abundant joy in your daily life, provide challenges you can tackle, and leave you with meaningful steps toward a better life.
Ultimately, what I want to say is this.
Never waste time.
Grow yourself and, above all, enjoy your life.
--- p.212
I feel like this is true self-care.
Because I'm doing what I want to do to myself.
If I were your mother, I would have pushed you out the door right now to do all the things you couldn't do alone.
The fear of 'how will people judge me' takes root deep within us and we start to censor ourselves before others.
Novelist David Foster Wallace once said, “If you knew how little other people thought about you, you could stop worrying about what other people thought of you.”
Ironically enough, your biggest enemy and critic is none other than yourself.
--- p.12
Being alone is a part of life and becoming a real adult.
No matter how close a friend or lover you are, you can't be together for the rest of your life.
Life moves fast and everyone is running tirelessly to keep up.
For better or worse, people leave and life goes on.
This is the truth.
Some people will leave in search of better jobs.
Conversely, there will be times when you need to let go of people for your career growth.
Or maybe people just get bored with you and leave you to find someone new.
That's life.
--- p.15
If you pretend to be someone you are not because you want to fit in with others, you will end up hating even the time you spend with yourself.
Who can accept someone who doesn't even accept themselves? Would others want to be with someone who hates spending time alone? Then, what kind of person will you end up becoming?
Yes? Yes.
You become a nobody.
If you run to get people's approval and love, you will eventually lose yourself.
--- p.40
If you draw a clear line for yourself, you will no longer have to accept trash.
There is no reason to force yourself to acknowledge or accept even the smallest thing.
I stop laughing at unfunny jokes.
I also stop saying “yes” to everything because I know it doesn’t suit me, I don’t want it, and I know it will never happen.
You will begin to think based on your own standards and realize that you are not here to adapt to the people, environment, or circumstances surrounding you.
--- p.86
Your true solution is within yourself.
Your mind knows what to do, and it is capable enough to figure out how to do it.
But if you keep filling your mind with other people's thoughts and opinions, you will eventually become similar to them and think the same thoughts.
Not a single drop of your uniqueness will remain.
That's why they say, 'You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.'
--- p.115
The core reason we follow the crowd is because we don't trust our decisions and choices.
We feel safer trusting the crowd than ourselves, who can't easily make any decisions.
And because they are afraid of being alone, they are reluctant to take new paths.
But enough is enough now.
How long will you persist in wanting to be like everyone else? Why obsess over competing with the same standards for everyone? Aren't you tired of striving for the same success as everyone else, while missing out on the small joys of everyday life?
--- p.152
We don't feel tired because we're working too hard.
We feel exhausted because we do too little of what makes us truly happy.
So if you intentionally do just one thing that connects you to yourself, to your inner child, you will begin to feel joy in life.
In our daily lives, there must be at least one exciting and anticipated event.
--- p.195
The effects of this 'mental nutrient' we have created will by no means be trivial.
It will help you discover abundant joy in your daily life, provide challenges you can tackle, and leave you with meaningful steps toward a better life.
Ultimately, what I want to say is this.
Never waste time.
Grow yourself and, above all, enjoy your life.
--- p.212
I feel like this is true self-care.
Because I'm doing what I want to do to myself.
If I were your mother, I would have pushed you out the door right now to do all the things you couldn't do alone.
--- p.221
Publisher's Review
“It’s not that I’m lonely because I’m alone,
“I am lonely because I cannot stand alone.”
A Philosophy of Aloneness for Those Who Have Forgotten How to Stand Alone
When you say the word "loneliness," what emotions come to mind? Most people don't particularly appreciate the feeling of loneliness.
People want to hide the loneliness of being left alone.
Why is this? Why do people consider "being alone" to be "lonely"? The author began writing this book by asking himself this very question.
It was an exploration of myself, who 'loved being alone so much, but hated being seen as alone by others,' and a resolution to 'overcome negative feelings about loneliness and live a life completely alone.'
She confesses that it was only after spending some very deep and intimate 'time alone' that she finally fully realized that she was a 'pretty good person'.
Being alone is a part of life.
But being lonely means looking at yourself through a lens of pity and misery.
When we look at ourselves through the lens of loneliness, we feel anxious and alienated.
You start to think that there is something wrong with you.
Then your self-esteem will be lowered.
I find myself treating the time I spend with myself as a curse, and that is loneliness.
Loneliness has nothing to do with being alone.
It just defines how you think of yourself.
_ From the text
Being alone is a part of life and in fact, it's part of becoming a real adult.
There is no relationship in life that never ends.
The same goes for family.
Everyone leaves everyone at some point.
That's life.
If there is one relationship that can last forever, it is the relationship with myself.
The relationship that we must most firmly maintain in our lives is none other than the relationship with ourselves.
Therefore, being ‘alone’ is never ‘lonely.’
Being alone means you are with yourself.
This book takes readers on that desperate journey of enlightenment.
Let's throw the lens of loneliness out the window.
Only then will the time come when I can look deeply into my inner self.
“The scary news is, you’re alone now.
But there's also some good news.
“You’re alone now.”
_ Taylor Swift
A Guide to Raising and Loving Alone
As Taylor Swift said, if you change your mindset, alone time becomes a time of endless opportunity.
There is an infinite world within you to travel and explore.
The author Pearl Buck said:
“There is a place of solitude within me where I live alone.
It is the only place that revives a parched heart.” You too, find your own place.
It's time to turn on the button so that your inner light can guide you.
If life feels hard, it's not because you're trying too hard.
It's hard because I do too little of what makes me truly happy.
So, let's consciously do at least one thing a day that fills our inner joy by enjoying our alone time.
In my daily life, let's do at least one exciting and anticipated thing for myself.
Life doesn't magically change overnight. It changes as you make small changes to how you live each day.
I hope this book will help you realize what lies within you and what you want to explore.
Now you are alone.
But not lonely alone, but full alone.
Raise yourself alone, love yourself alone, and stand completely alone.
“I am lonely because I cannot stand alone.”
A Philosophy of Aloneness for Those Who Have Forgotten How to Stand Alone
When you say the word "loneliness," what emotions come to mind? Most people don't particularly appreciate the feeling of loneliness.
People want to hide the loneliness of being left alone.
Why is this? Why do people consider "being alone" to be "lonely"? The author began writing this book by asking himself this very question.
It was an exploration of myself, who 'loved being alone so much, but hated being seen as alone by others,' and a resolution to 'overcome negative feelings about loneliness and live a life completely alone.'
She confesses that it was only after spending some very deep and intimate 'time alone' that she finally fully realized that she was a 'pretty good person'.
Being alone is a part of life.
But being lonely means looking at yourself through a lens of pity and misery.
When we look at ourselves through the lens of loneliness, we feel anxious and alienated.
You start to think that there is something wrong with you.
Then your self-esteem will be lowered.
I find myself treating the time I spend with myself as a curse, and that is loneliness.
Loneliness has nothing to do with being alone.
It just defines how you think of yourself.
_ From the text
Being alone is a part of life and in fact, it's part of becoming a real adult.
There is no relationship in life that never ends.
The same goes for family.
Everyone leaves everyone at some point.
That's life.
If there is one relationship that can last forever, it is the relationship with myself.
The relationship that we must most firmly maintain in our lives is none other than the relationship with ourselves.
Therefore, being ‘alone’ is never ‘lonely.’
Being alone means you are with yourself.
This book takes readers on that desperate journey of enlightenment.
Let's throw the lens of loneliness out the window.
Only then will the time come when I can look deeply into my inner self.
“The scary news is, you’re alone now.
But there's also some good news.
“You’re alone now.”
_ Taylor Swift
A Guide to Raising and Loving Alone
As Taylor Swift said, if you change your mindset, alone time becomes a time of endless opportunity.
There is an infinite world within you to travel and explore.
The author Pearl Buck said:
“There is a place of solitude within me where I live alone.
It is the only place that revives a parched heart.” You too, find your own place.
It's time to turn on the button so that your inner light can guide you.
If life feels hard, it's not because you're trying too hard.
It's hard because I do too little of what makes me truly happy.
So, let's consciously do at least one thing a day that fills our inner joy by enjoying our alone time.
In my daily life, let's do at least one exciting and anticipated thing for myself.
Life doesn't magically change overnight. It changes as you make small changes to how you live each day.
I hope this book will help you realize what lies within you and what you want to explore.
Now you are alone.
But not lonely alone, but full alone.
Raise yourself alone, love yourself alone, and stand completely alone.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: March 10, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 228 pages | 250g | 125*188*15mm
- ISBN13: 9791199040335
- ISBN10: 1199040339
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