Isn't that what life is like?
People, times, and events that seem special are nothing special or worth boasting about when viewed from a cosmic perspective, just a life of living together.
So don't try too hard, don't be too desperate, just live a life where you're a little more affectionate to the person next to you.
Wouldn't that kind of life be enough?
--- From "Prologue: A job that officiates divorces instead of weddings"

Every time I see a divorce petition, I always have a thought.

When people get married, they close one eye and don't look properly, thinking that everything will be okay, and they proceed with the marriage with a naive, almost reckless, simplistic mindset. After getting married, they open their eyes wide as if nothing had happened and become obsessed with finding all the other person's faults.


There's no such thing as a magical thing that happens when you get married, so if you have problems before marriage, just stop.
At first, you may feel defeated and feel like you've failed in life, but others may also use your story as gossip and chatter.
Then what do you think?
it's okay.
Please tell me so.
Shame lasts a moment, but regret can last a lifetime.
That regret may not stop with me, but may be passed down to my children.

--- From "The Repertoire of Common Divorce Petitions"

The husband, who loved his wife, eventually agreed to divorce her as she requested.
If you have a heart that cares, you should listen to the other person's voice.
Even if it is something that is difficult to understand and accept, and causes me considerable discomfort, it is something that comforts my heart.

--- From "If You Still Have a Loving Heart 1"

If a wedding march is a flowery path walked with everyone's blessings and cheers, then a divorce march is a grueling battle where you get hurt at every moment.
But even if you barely make it through the tough times, the march to divorce, and arrive at the end ragged and torn, covered in scars, the moment you emerge from that long tunnel, those scars begin to heal.
So, please never give up the fragrant sunshine of a spring day on this planet, the gentle waves of a midsummer day, the brown breeze of an autumn day, and the warm first snow of a winter day.
--- From "The Unfinished March"

My heart was crushed by the weight of the tears falling on my mother's wrinkled hand.
The old mother cries to the judge who consoles her by saying that it is not her fault.
“Your Honor, then please make our son’s marriage null and void.
Please do this so that even the dead guy doesn't have to worry about anything.
On the last journey of my life, that person whose nose is not even visible is my wife.
“This marriage is invalid.”
--- From "Mother's Tears"

We should not do such terrible things to children.
We must recognize that when children develop absolute rejection and anger toward the other parent, it is a serious sign that their emotions are becoming unwell.
However, parents in the midst of a divorce are so absorbed in their own difficult circumstances that they are completely oblivious to the pain in their children's souls, silently wailing and slowly dying.

Don't use your children in court.
Children are not tools to be used to win a case.
It is not something that should be consumed to relieve anger toward the other person.

--- From "Don't Use Your Children in Trials"

The husband was born in 1961 and the wife was born in 1975.
But then a little boy born in 2016, holding his mother's hand, follows her in.
I couldn't possibly officiate the divorce in front of that kid who was sitting on his mother's lap and looking at me with innocent eyes.
--- From "The Little One Who Came to the Divorce Room Together"

I was curious about what kind of people these young high school dads were.
As I was waiting, imagining that the wife would be a childish woman wearing revealing clothes, with flashy dyed hair and heavy makeup, and the husband would be a punk with a dirty face, they opened the door to the judge's office and came in, looking just like the innocent college couple next door, aged 24 and 26.
It's a bit of a latte, but as I looked at those children, a cloud of sadness settled over my heart as I thought that if I hadn't failed in my first love, I would have had children as good as them.
--- From "The Story of a High School Mom and Dad"

When I look at the parties in divorce proceedings, I often see them overcome with such anger and pain that they lose the ability to think rationally and want to destroy themselves together.
After working as a judge for a long time, there are times when I feel disappointment, anger, and even disillusionment with humanity.
This is because the majority of human relationships that cross the threshold of the court are devoid of the trust, fairness, consideration, and altruism that we universally value, and are instead filled with lies, greed, selfishness, and betrayal.

--- From "It ain't over till it's over"

A marital relationship is a very strange relationship that begins with one's own will, but at some point, it becomes as close as a blood relationship.
Marriage registration is a tool that connects people who are not blood relatives to form a deeper relationship than a blood relationship.
So when you try to break up that relationship, it's so hard that you want to die.
--- From “The Meaning of Marriage Registration”

You shouldn't get married just because you want to meet someone and be happy.
If I can't make myself happy, who can? The best time to meet someone is precisely when Cha Jeong-suk said, when you believe you're happy right now, right now.
If someone comes into my heart during that time when I am having such a happy time, there is a high chance that they will not fail.
That way, you don't repeat the same mistakes.

--- From "The Principles of Divorce"

Well, leaving aside all the good words, I want to tell young mothers and fathers who don't see any way to get better right now and who feel like they're dying from exhaustion, to believe in the power of time.
Just live today diligently, look at your spouse and children as if there will be no tomorrow, and if it was a day where you were so tired and irritated and yelled at your spouse and children, before going to bed, caress their cheeks once, apologize, and say in a small voice, 'I still love you very much.
A day where I whisper 'let's laugh tomorrow' and fall asleep is enough.

--- From "Is there anyone who hasn't packed their divorce bag at least once in their life?"

The effectiveness of couples counseling after a couple's relationship has completely deteriorated is limited.
Because my heart has already been so firmly closed to the other person, it is difficult to objectify myself, and it is not easy to accept it as my problem.
That's why couples counseling is so important, even when there doesn't seem to be a problem, before the problem gets worse.
--- From "The Power of a Professional Counselor 2 - My Husband's Story"

'Divorce is finally breaking free of the ties that bind us, whether they be spiderwebs or chains, and each of us decides to go our separate ways, each looking at our innocent children with a tinge of guilt.'

I hope that more couples will look at their young children and feel that it is good to be tied to something… .
It may be a chain or a spider web, but I root for the couple's love as it weathers and grows, feeling, "Being tied to someone as you get older is a pretty good relationship."

--- From "About Couples"