· Acknowledgements
· Prologue

Chapter 1: Challenges Commonly Faced by Long-Term Couples

Moving from being in love to being “in love”
When two become three, children become independent
Retirement and Aging
The Key to Success in a Long-Term Relationship

Chapter 2: The Structure of Collaborative Couples Counseling: The First Session

Chapter 3: Effortful Love: Behavioral Change in the Here and Now

Task motivation
Why it's hard to do homework
Preparation, planning, practice, processing, persistent encouragement, persistence

Chapter 4: Setting Effective Tasks for Each Client

Speaking/Listening Activities
Rules and variations of formal speaking/listening activities
Timeout Rule
Business is business
Decision-making tools
Gentle loving care

Chapter 5: The Secret Conundrum: Sexual Intimacy

Why do many couples struggle to maintain a satisfying sex life?
The Magic of Sexual Intimacy
And tips for turning frustration into art and comedy
7 Conversation Activities
7 types of physical activities

Chapter 6: Treadway Camp: Weekend Intensive Counseling Program

Chapter 7: Protocol of Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Compensation

Chapter 8: The Challenge of Adultery

Consultation stage
Step 1: Crisis Management
Step 2: Public
Step 3: Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Reparation
Step 4: Creating a New Marriage

Chapter 9: Dealing with the Couple's Original Family

psychological trauma
Treatment Goals
Childhood Coping Skills in Adult Interpersonal Relationships

Chapter 10: Divorce: The Sword of Damocles

Marriage Experiment
therapeutic separation
Therapeutic Separation Protocol

Chapter 11: When One Spouse is Designated as a Problem Child

drug abuse
Process addiction
If both spouses are process addicted
physical abuse
mental illness

Chapter 12: Chaos, Steps, Mistakes, Invalidity, Dissonance

Chaos
Intervention strategies for severe marital conflict
The dance and steps of ancient interaction
Counselor's Mistake
When couples counseling doesn't work

Chapter 13: The Elephant in the Counselor's Chair: The Counselor, the Most Difficult Person to Deal with in Counseling

Counselor's gender and sexual orientation
Counselors' racial, ethnic, and cultural differences
Counselors' family of origin issues and past interpersonal experiences

Chapter 14 The Therapeutic Use of Self-Disclosure

Chapter 15 Our Calling

· Epilogue

· Appendix: Activity Assignment Handout
Formal speaking/listening activities, interactive speaking/listening, time-out rules, tender loving care, decision-making protocols, 10 key elements for a successful long-term relationship, why do many couples struggle to maintain a satisfying sex life?, the magic and frustration of sexual intimacy, activity tips for turning it into art and comedy, forgiveness and reconciliation, the protocol for reparation, forgiveness and reconciliation after an affair, and the protocol for reparation, couples' weekend intensive camp, and the therapeutic separation protocol.

· References

Doing Couples Counseling Well demonstrates a collaborative approach to couples counseling in which the couples counselor empowers couples to become agents of change and healing.
This book details, in an engaging and engaging conversational style, the process of helping couples choose the strategies that best suit their needs from a variety of clinical approaches.
Provides effective counseling strategies for a wide range of issues, including infidelity, intimacy and sexual relationships, communication, mental illness, and addiction.
Each chapter explores the importance of considering the counselor's own personal life experiences and how this impacts couples counseling sessions.
It includes practical intervention methods, clinical scenarios, and activity content to help counselors successfully support couples' needs and engage them in meaningful activities between sessions.

Drawing on numerous case studies from the experiences of leading couples counselors, Doing Couples Well will be a valuable resource for couples counselors at any level.
Dr. David Treadway is a nationally renowned counselor and author who has conducted workshops and trained couples therapists across the United States for the past 40 years.
He has authored four books and over 30 award-winning papers.
She has appeared on Good Morning America 20/20, TV and radio shows, and has her own radio program about family communication.