Translator's Preface
Author's Preface

Part 1: What You're Up Against: Dealing with Emotional Immaturity

1 About emotionally immature parents
-What it's like to be with them, and how they became that way-

What it's like to be with them
emotionally immature relationship system
How their emotionally immature relationship system affects you
Does it have an impact?
How did emotionally immature parents end up like this?
Things to remember

2 Understanding Emotionally Immature Parents
-Their personality traits and emotional control-

Types of Emotionally Immature Parents
How do they reveal their emotional immaturity?
Emotional Coercion and Control Strategies of Emotionally Immature People
Key Points to Remember

3. A longing for a relationship with an emotionally immature parent
-Why I keep trying-

The relationship experience you crave
Emotionally immature behavior that interferes with bonding
You may also fear that you are emotionally immature.
Why You Keep Hoping and Trying at Relationships
Why can't they change?
Sadness about giving up your healing fantasy
Adjust your expectations and work on yourself.
Raise your expectations for other relationships.
Things to remember

4 How to Fight Emotional Control
-Recognize other people's distortions and don't disconnect from your own-

Maintain a positive mindset
You can challenge their distorted assumptions.
Get out of their distorted field
Important exceptions to request denial
Why You're Vulnerable to Emotional Control
Harry's Reaction: Why He Can't Think of What to Say
Things to remember

5. Skills for managing interactions and avoiding coercion
-Actions that empower you-

Guidelines to make your skills more effective
Five Effective Techniques for Dealing with Emotionally Immature Parents
Things to remember

6 Emotionally immature parents are hostile to your inner world.
How to Protect Your Right to Inner Experience

The Importance of Your Inner World and What It Gives You
The emotionally immature person's attitude toward your inner world
Why They Are Hostile to Your Inner World
How You Learned to Turn Your Back on Your Inner World
How to Protect Your Rights to Your Inner World
Things to remember

Part 2: Emotional Autonomy: Reclaiming the Freedom to Be Yourself

7. Developing a relationship with yourself
How to Trust Your Inner World

The Impact of Devaluing Your Inner World
The Reality of the Inner World: Supporting Evidence
What exactly is your inner self?
Benefits of Guidance from Your Inner Self
Start a better relationship with yourself
Cherish your inner experiences and prioritize self-care.
Things to remember

8 Mindfulness Techniques
-Creating space for your own mind-

Shame and guilt can block free thought.
Emotionally immature parents view free thinking as disrespectful.
They try to tell you what to think.
You don't have to think only good thoughts
Separate your thoughts from the confusion you inherited.
Anxiety and worry are types of mental confusion.
Self-talk is your ticket to mental clarity.
Once you've cleared your mind, what will you fill that space with?
Things to remember

9. Renew your self-concept
How to Correct Distortions and Boost Your Confidence

Be sure to protect your own adult self-concept.
How to Renew Your Self-Concept
Identify and challenge your distorted self-concept.
Things to remember

10 Now you can have the relationship you've always wanted.
- Focus on one interaction at a time -

Do you want to maintain an existing emotionally immature relationship contract?
Two thoughts on recalibrating interactions with emotionally immature people.
How to stay connected to yourself and in the present
How to Lead Your Relationship with an Emotionally Immature Person to a More Equal and Peaceful Interaction
Mature communication makes your interactions natural.
Accept your loss and move forward
Things to remember

Epilogue: A Bill of Rights for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

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