The Ultimate Guide to Understanding Your Teenage Son
A special solution for frustrated and confused moms!

“Why on earth is my son like this?”
“He’s really my child, but I feel like this is all happening to him. I just want to give up and run away.”
“It’s so tiring because I keep getting annoyed and swearing at people whenever I feel even a little bit of dislike or dissatisfaction.”
“No matter what I ask my son, he just says ‘I don’t know.’”
“I don’t listen to my mom and dad, but I’m completely blind to what my friends say.”
“Aside from being upset, I really don’t know how to handle a child.”

Any mother raising a teenage son will likely experience frustrations almost daily.
This book offers practical, multifaceted solutions to mothers who are feeling frustrated and confused to the point of bursting.
This is not a simple parenting theory book, but rather presents the counseling case know-how of 'Suinjae Brain Science', the largest brain research center in Korea, while at the same time scientifically analyzing the inner thoughts and behaviors of adolescent sons through brain science research and gender psychology theories, and suggesting effective communication methods.

As children enter puberty, their brains become emotionally hypersensitive while their frontal lobe control becomes unstable.
The stimulation received from peers who are going through these changes together with them further reinforces the changes of adolescence.
As a result, they become more influenced by their friends' stories than by parental control.

--- p.24

It is important to remember that children are inherently immature and are still developing at this very moment.
Parents, too, are individuals who are constantly developing as they take on the role of parent.

--- p.33

Mothers need to practice keeping a certain distance from their sons' words and actions as they enter puberty.
It was time to say goodbye to the rituals I had formed while looking at my son.
This emotional detachment is natural.

--- p.51

Ironically, when a son overpowers his mother and acts according to his own will, it leaves psychological scars on the son as well.
No matter what anyone says, a mother is a mother.
My son also knows very well that he is the one who gives me love and loves me more than anyone else.
Just as the psychological trauma that physical punishment leaves in a son comes from the fact that "the one who loves me most is attacking me," the fact that "I hurt the one who loves me most" also leaves a deep wound in a son's heart.

--- p.83

Even though they are in the same puberty stage, daughters have active brains to read subtle emotional changes and have innately higher auditory sensitivity than boys, whereas sons are not only insensitive to auditory stimuli, but also have little interest in reading and expressing emotions.

--- p.102

In the special relationship between mother and son, the mother has a parental duty to create a sense of psychological security and bond with her son, knowing that he has someone to rely on even when he makes mistakes.
If you repeatedly point out, criticize, and scold your child for making the wrong choices, the child will learn less from the world.

--- p.138~139

Your teenage son needs just as much effort as you did as a toddler.
The only difference is that, unlike the toddler years, where parents needed to take care of everything from start to finish, the effort needed for adolescent sons should be to 'accept the child's expressions.'

--- p.161

My adolescent son's sensitivity to peer relationships is, paradoxically, a desperate plea for understanding.
It's about discovering myself in my friends, empathizing with them, and feeling happiness in the time I spend with them.
That is why it can be said that a mother's most important role during this period is to provide time and space for her teenage son to experience various activities with his friends.

--- p.170~171

First and foremost, what mothers need to know is that for children these days, games are not just games, but also mean 'social relationships.'
That is, preventing someone from playing a game is understood as blocking their communication with their friends.

--- p.181

Your adolescent son's motor development and physical ability development have a major impact on his self-esteem.
It is no exaggeration to say that this is beyond what mothers can imagine.
Even from a developmental psychology perspective, motor skills and self-esteem are deeply related.
It is especially important to pay close attention to the development of motor skills, as they have a significant emotional impact throughout childhood and adolescence.

--- p.192

When there is concern that a child may have incorrect perceptions of sex during the period of conception, it is necessary to bring the inner issues to the surface, even if it means fighting with the child.
You need to fight well with your child and face the problem.
Remember, you're not fighting to win over your child, you're fighting to figure out how to help your child.

--- p.223