Introduction · Practical Guidelines for Raising Children with Balanced Intellect and Emotions! 4

Chapter 1: Parenting is a Science

There are certain laws in a child's development 19
Mothers experience psychological distress 21
Don't rush your child's growth 25

Chapter 2: Dependence (0-12 months)

Look into your child's eyes and respond immediately when he or she cries. 33
Make them feel loved through abundant skinship 40
Promotes intellectual and emotional development through rich stimulation 45
Provide intellectual stimulation by engaging in lots of conversations 50
The dependent child must always be the winner 55
Children learn through play 58
Everything in everyday life is play, a toy 65
Interactive reading helps learning and memory 70
A child's quiet meditative state fosters concentration 77
Quietly greet a child who is starting to act shy. 82
Toilet training doesn't start too early 86

Chapter 3: Toddler Stage (12-18 months)

Make your home a place that satisfies your child's curiosity 95
101 Fulfilling Your Child's Desire to Go Outside
Stimulate your child's curiosity with praise and encouragement 106
When not eating, just leave it alone 112
Don't scold me for touching the peppers 116

Chapter 4: The First Rebellious Period (18-36 months)

The First Rebellious Period: A Time When Parents Play a Crucial Role 123
Learning by colliding with the world with your whole body 128
A child's emotions and behavior must be distinguished 134
Threats reinforce bad behavior 140
Actively empathize with your child's emotions 146
Creates a rich language environment 156
Encyclopedias are necessary for intellectual curiosity 163
Teach Korean quickly and enjoyably 169
Television, when used properly, can be very educational. 177
Rejecting your younger sibling is a natural emotion. 182
Start potty training leisurely 189
You don't have to let your children play to develop social skills. 194
Children love to make up stories from their imagination. 200
There is no need to force-feed or let them sleep alone. 208
Dad nurtures his child's dynamic strength with his whole body. 213

Chapter 5 Preschool Period (36-72 months)

The preschool period, a cycle of balance and imbalance 221
We must prepare for socialization through identification 232
Control your impulses to establish a strong sense of self 237
Develops basic learning skills and attitudes 244
Promoting children's intellectual development through play 250
The most important thing in kindergarten is the teacher. 256

Chapter 6: How to Raise a Child Properly Without Yelling

Prerequisites for Developing Inner Strength in Children 265
The Power to Change Your Child's Behavior: Raising Them with Praise and Encouragement 271
Cultivating a healthy and complete self 279
Learning through the 'Results of Nature' 286

In closing, 290
To my two beloved sons, Purum and Chorok 292

Considerate love makes a child a complete person!

There is no child in this world who is born to cause hardship to his parents.
The problem arises when parents blindly follow their children because they do not know what developmental stages their children go through.


Parents who do not understand their child's developmental stages end up raising their children by scolding or hitting them beyond the limits of their patience. This becomes a vicious cycle, making every moment of raising a child painful and turning the child into a problem child or a rebellious child.
On the other hand, parents who understand their child's developmental stage provide an environment where the child can grow to their fullest, and draw out the child's inner strength through praise and encouragement.
In this way, we help them grow into independent human beings with high self-esteem, complete and happy personalities.
If parents are happy raising their children, they are realizing the fundamental principle of education: caring love.


Pestalozzi, known as the father of pedagogy, defined God as giving mothers maternal love and the fundamental principle of raising children as 'considerate love.'
This book, based on the premise that, as Pestalozzi said, considerate love is the foundation of education, carefully examines the developmental process of infants by period and stage, and provides practical parenting guidelines for raising children with a balanced intellect and emotions.
It also allows you to see at a glance the growth process your child goes through up to 72 months, when all the foundations of your child's life are laid, and suggests how parents should act and respond at each critical juncture in raising their child.


A child begins to learn from the moment he is born.
From birth to 72 months, a child grows through developmental stages such as the dependent stage (0-12 months), toddler stage (12-18 months), first rebellious stage (18-36 months), and preschool stage (36-72 months).


This book says that from birth to 18 months, during the period of dependence and toddlerhood, a child must be a winner no matter what.
Conventional parenting books say that raising a child that way will result in spoiled or ill-behaved children, but they emphasize that children must receive absolute and unconditional love from their parents in order to view the world with eyes of trust and positivity and explore it.


It is also emphasized that during the rebellious period of 18 to 36 months, parental rules should be kept to a minimum.
For example, if a parent takes their child to a restaurant and scolds the child for running around, they say that the fault lies with the parent, not the child.
They say that in cases like this, parents need to be wise and minimize the chances of getting scolded, as children are not yet mature enough to understand social rules.
The preschool period of 36 to 72 months is when children first learn to control themselves and learn basic learning skills and to conform to social norms, so parents should provide a variety of intellectual stimulation to promote intellectual development.

Additionally, it is said that learning Korean and reading picture books from an early age can help develop thinking skills as well as creativity and imagination.
In other words, it emphasizes that with the great weapon of Hangul, if parents provide emotional stability through love and care, children can grow into happy and beautiful gifted children with a balance of intellect and emotion through reading.