A parenting guide for parents and children who procrastinate.
It provides detailed information on procrastination and temperament, how to guide procrastinating children, and how to prevent group problems, so that you can immediately apply it when guiding your child who procrastinates. It also provides self-care methods and a general understanding of parenting for parents.

What procrastination do you struggle with in your daily life? It's usually when your child refuses to clean up after themselves, puts off brushing their teeth until just before bed, or strays from homework and instead becomes absorbed in the television. You start to get angry.
This kind of procrastination not only causes conflict between parents and children, but also has negative psychological consequences for the child, such as self-blame and low self-efficacy.
Therefore, as parents, we need to have parenting wisdom regarding our children's procrastination.

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Temperament refers to a person's innate tendencies and unchangeable personality traits.
If temperament is a unique characteristic that a child is born with, personality can be explained as the process by which a child adapts to the socialization process while living with that temperament.
Temperament does not change.
Temperament is the core of personality development, constantly influencing emotions and behavior and revealing traits.

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Children who have low concentration and high activity tend to engage in other behaviors or activities to change their moods when they don't want to do something.
In such cases, rather than explaining or demanding why they have to do something they don't want to do, it is more effective to provide an alternative way to finish the task quickly or to point out the benefits of finishing it quickly.

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Therefore, it is effective to give children with low activity levels smaller meals and fewer tasks.
Give your child a small meal so he or she thinks, "I can eat quickly," and give him or her a small amount of chores to do so he or she develops a positive mindset, thinking, "I'll just have to do a little bit and it'll be over."
Praise your child when he or she gets up quickly and gets things done.
The idea is to make the child remember the feeling of being more relaxed and refreshed by moving quickly and getting things done.

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For children who are emotionally sensitive, it is important to acknowledge their feelings before giving instructions.
And when conveying that one word, the nonverbal cues parents send, such as facial expressions and tone of voice, are very important.
Children with high emotional sensitivity can detect the unseen sincerity in others' words and attitudes, so even the smallest gesture from a parent can intensify their procrastination or melt it away as quickly as ice.
Therefore, parents need to look into my emotions rather than my logical words that appear on the outside.

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If your child has a persistent temperament and is determined to do what he or she wants, it is very important to give them time to do activities after school.
Because this is the time when normal recovery takes place.
While learning and adjusting to school are things children should do, parents must also provide their children with opportunities for independent time and activities after they have exhausted themselves.

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If your child is not very active, their body senses may not be immediately alert when they first wake up.
Your body's arousal needs to be high to open your eyes, get up, and move, but since your body's sensory signals haven't yet awakened, it's difficult to move.
For children who have difficulty waking up quickly, it is recommended to have them sleep in a room with plenty of sunlight so that the sunlight can slowly awaken their senses, and to open the window in the morning so that a cool breeze can help awaken their senses.
When parents wake their children up, it is also effective to gently rub their arms or pat their backs to help them wake up.
It is better to wake a child up with a light, pleasant touch, as touching them too roughly or forcefully can make them more sensitive and convey discomfort to the touch.

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Of course, a good parent-child relationship doesn't mean that everything is filled with laughter every day.
There may be times when you feel bad for each other, and your child may be rude when you discipline him or her.
There are days when parents make mistakes.
However, families that know each other's temperament and good communication skills and put what they know into practice can be said to be moving in a good direction, even if it is slow.
In order to naturally put into practice what you learn from books or lectures at home, 'relationships' must be the foundation.
Conversely, if you spend time together to build a good relationship, an awkward relationship can become better.

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And the important thing is that children are beings who can choose their actions according to their own purposes and desires.
To understand such a child's behavior, we need to think about, "What is the purpose or goal of the behavior?" and "What do they want to achieve through this behavior?"
Your child's behavior can be influenced by four major goals/needs: belonging, power, protection, and withdrawal, so you can prevent undesirable behaviors in your child.
First, look into what your parents' feelings are.

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Querencia is a Spanish word meaning 'affection, attachment, or resting place', and refers to the area where a bull can take a break and catch its breath during a fight with a matador in a bullfight.
Just as a bull in the bullring takes a moment to catch its breath in the querencia and prepare for the next fight, we parents also need our own space where we can recharge our tired bodies and minds without being disturbed.

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The kind of parenting you experienced as a child influences your current parenting attitude.
I need to examine what kind of parenting I received, how it affects my current parenting, and what kind of parenting style my co-parents have.
If I can be close to my children and not be shaken by their reactions, I think I can call that the inner strength of parenting.

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