Translator's Note
introduction
As I was going in, the child became lethargic and cold.

Part 1_Your Adolescent Child: Show as much as you know

Chapter 1: Puberty is a Gift
Chapter 2 What is normal?
Chapter 3: You're Behaving Too Dangerously
Chapter 4: Are you doing a good job as a parent?
Chapter 5: The New Role of Parents of Teenagers

Part 2_Don't take it too seriously

Chapter 6 Why did the children become cold?
Chapter 7 Don't Take It Badly

Part 3_Lead, but leave the results to heaven.

Chapter 8: Six Children Who Need Parental Care
Chapter 9: Setting Family Rules
Chapter 10: Dealing Wisely with the Four Major Risk Factors
Chapter 11: Children Have Their Own Standards
Chapter 12: The Role of Parents

Part 4_What is the appropriate distance to keep from your adolescent child?

Chapter 13: Things You Should Never Do: The Four Deadly Sins of Parenting
Chapter 14: How to Be a Wise Parent

Part 5: Parents, take care of yourselves before your children.

Chapter 15: Puberty for Children, Menopause for Parents
Chapter 16: How to Love and Care for Myself First

Part 6_Enjoy it from a distance

Chapter 17: Boomerang Kid
Chapter 18: Dreaming of a world where youth and parents are all happy

Addressing issues beyond the appendix

How should I deal with my teenage child who has suddenly changed?
How to maintain a healthy relationship with your growing child while maintaining an appropriate distance!

Parents of adolescent children are often bewildered by the drastic changes in their children's behavior.
Even bright and cheerful children become quiet and even appear sullen when they enter puberty.

'Did I do something wrong to the child? We just wanted to have a conversation between family members.
Is this really that difficult? What's the problem?

When I think about it, sometimes I get annoyed for no reason.
However, scolding the child will only make the situation worse.
What if a child's puberty coincides with a parent's menopause? War often breaks out.
What on earth should I do in a situation like this?

It is perfectly natural for children to change during their teenage years.
However, when a child who was once cute and lovable starts to talk less and even has a sullen expression, it can be disconcerting for parents.
However, if you scold or neglect them, the relationship will only get worse.
If the parents' menopause is added to this, the situation becomes worst.
Children and parents both get hurt and disappointed in each other, and become cynical.

The new book, "1-2-3 Magic: Teens," from the Amazon best-selling "1-2-3 Magic" series in the parenting category, which has sold over 2 million copies worldwide and is recognized for its effectiveness, provides clear answers to this problem that occurs in most families, and presents parenting principles and situational solutions that will make the whole family happy and peaceful.

My child is lethargic and cold - thankfully, it's normal.

The apathetic and indifferent reaction of a child entering puberty comes suddenly one day.
One morning, my kind and gentle child opened his eyes and suddenly became listless and cold.
If it's just weird music, loud clothes, and being on your phone all day, that's okay.
There are many cases where parents worry that their children might end up going down a strict path by hanging out with friends who are likely to drink or smoke.
To mend their cold relationship, parents try to do everything together, but the more they try, the more strained the relationship becomes.
Why has my child changed so much? Is there any way to turn my child around? Parents of adolescents face these questions at least once, and "1-2-3 Magic: Adolescents" offers the answers.
Your child is perfectly normal, and just needs a new relationship now.

How to Build New Relationships - Understanding Your Child's Changes and Maintaining an Appropriate Distance

As children enter puberty along with the development of secondary sexual characteristics, their minds undergo changes just as significant as their bodies.
As self-identity is established and the desire to express oneself becomes stronger, they want to break free from parental influence and make their own voices heard.
They feel that their parents' attention is intrusive and they are closer to their friends than their parents.
It's all a natural phenomenon.

As children change, the way we relate to them must also change.
If you approach your adolescent children, who are going through a turbulent period both physically and mentally, in a conventional way, you will only be met with coldness and silence.
But even if you know that the old way is not effective, it is not easy to come up with a clever way to build a new relationship.
That doesn't mean you need to worry too much.
If you just avoid the '4 deadly sins of parents', you can avoid the worst situation.

The 'Four Deadly Sins of Parenting' refers to four mistakes that most parents make: impulsive responses, nagging, scolding, and arguing.
Any parent would inevitably commit the same 'sin' in front of a child who is listless and cold, but children at this age are all like that.
Parents need to quickly acknowledge this fact and take a step back.
This means that you need to keep an appropriate distance while watching your child from a distance as he or she tries to escape from your arms.
I'm not saying you should neglect your child or leave him alone.
It means to watch from a step behind with an interested gaze and respond firmly when your child seems to be going astray.

The Prerequisite for Happiness Together: Reflecting on Yourself First

Frankly, it is not easy to practice ‘maintaining an appropriate distance’.
It is natural for parents to worry and be concerned about their growing children.
But for adolescents who are just starting out in life, realistic advice from parents can only be boring and frustrating nagging.
So, even if it is difficult, parents must first look into their own hearts before hoping for their children to change.
It is more realistic to change yourself than to change your child.
If you find peace of mind by reflecting on yourself, you will be able to feel more relaxed in front of your child and build a slightly better relationship.
Wouldn't a healthy relationship with your child be possible only if your own heart is healthy? This book is filled with concrete examples of how finding the right distance to support each other's lives can lead to a much better relationship than before.
If you're a parent struggling with a strained relationship with your teenage child, try practicing simple yet effective relationship secrets with "1-2-3 Magic: Adolescents"!