Preface to the Revised and Expanded Edition
Preface to the first edition
Starting the book

Part 1 Puberty, He Has Arrived
Fourth grade in elementary school, the beginning of a child's puberty.
Problem child, problem child, non-problem child
Children's privacy on smartphones
Adult authority does not work
The basis for all choices is 'my feelings'
School violence where victims become perpetrators
Children who think it's too late to dream
“Is it hard? It’s okay.
“You’re doing great!”
A child doesn't become a monster overnight.

Part 2 Could it be that the parents are hurting their children?
Parents who evaluate their children solely on grades
Parents who criticize and judge their children
Parents who are overly strict and controlling
Parents who don't scold or teach their children
Parents who want their children to walk only on a flowery path
Parents who think their child has no problems
Parents who are harsh and violent
Rich kid, poor parents

Part 3: 10 Parent Coaching Tips for Proper Growth and Change in Children
Have a positive self-image
Listen to your child's little stories
Read the 'message' rather than the actions.
Celebrate your child's failures
Be a parent like Cox
Treat them with the eyes of a prosecutor and the mouth of a lawyer.
Don't give up on fighting your child's bad habits.
Appropriate punishment is stronger than forgiveness.
Sometimes, be an everyday secret royal inspector.
Accept that your child is at his best today.

Part 4 Things You Must Teach Your Child Before Puberty Ends

values
Learn to be grateful in any situation
There are things you must protect even if it means taking a loss.
A heart that does not turn a blind eye to the pain of others

family relationships
Parents need help too
Time to open our hearts to each other
Children must also strive to be loved.

Lifestyle habits
Correct speech and behavior are the foundation of everything.
Reading habits that allow you to read even thick books

School life
How to live and study regularly
The habit of speaking freely and asking questions
Don't give up easily if your grades don't improve

Friendship
Be a good friend to someone
It's best to postpone dating as much as possible.

Part 5 Children Can Change
A child who gets irritable and irritable easily
A child who never lets go of his smartphone
A child who says he will do it on his own but doesn't do it properly
A child who complains whenever he opens his mouth
A child who becomes silent as soon as he gets home
A child obsessed with celebrities
A child who lies for no reason
A child who hates going to school
A child who shows excessive interest in pornography
A child who swears too much
A child who is distracted and cannot concentrate on his studies
A child who lacks confidence in everything
A child addicted to computer games
A child who doesn't organize
A child who is overly obsessed with appearance
smoking child

In closing the book
Appendix: A mother's words on moving her child without hurting him

TIP.
Kang Geum-ju's Tips for Raising Teenagers
Signs that your child is entering puberty
Characteristics of today's teenagers
Bad Habits to Break Before Puberty
7 Things to Remember When You're Having a Hard Time Communicating with Your Child
Sexuality: The Essential Talk to Your Teenager
4 Steps to Changing Your Child's Behavior

A storm of empathy! Read and rave about by parents and teachers.
The Ultimate Guide to Eliminating Adolescent Worries and Anxiety

[Notes from Teenagers] 『Children Growing into Puberty, Children Going Wrong with Puberty』 by Geumju Kang, publisher and youth counselor, has been republished with an upgraded version.
The author, who worked as a middle and high school teacher in his younger days and later lived closely with the teenagers of this country, has refined and organized the words he wanted to speak for their minds and mouths, and his thoughts on educating teenagers, into this book.


In particular, this revised and expanded edition has been supplemented and added based on the latest counseling cases and data to address the new characteristics, problems, and solutions of adolescent children today due to the popularization of smartphones.
Additionally, it includes 'Words from a mother that move her child without hurting him' so that it can be used immediately in conflict situations with adolescent children.


The thoughts and inner feelings of teenagers, as well as stories about raising teenagers, that you've never heard before, provide a new barometer for parents of teenagers.
This is a must-read guide to parenting for parents of teenagers just entering the teenage years or those who will soon become teenagers.


When a child reaches puberty,
What should parents do for their children?

These days, children as early as the fourth grade of elementary school begin to show signs of puberty, such as calling themselves "teenagers" and responding harshly or rebelling against their parents.
The ever-changing external environment and rapid development are causing children to mature abnormally.
As early as the fourth grade, girls begin to bully others intellectually, and boys begin to show impulsive and violent tendencies.

In an age where every child is equally exposed to negative opportunities, we cannot be reassured that our child is okay.
How can I raise my child safely in this rapidly changing environment? What should parents do for their child as they enter puberty?

When a child enters puberty,
It means it's time to give new guidelines!

When a child talks back to others or acts rudely in a way they never did before, parents acknowledge and condone the child's rude and impolite behavior and speech, saying, "Now, my child has reached puberty."
This is because I believe that silently accepting puberty is what it means to be an educational parent who is sensitive to the child's changes and responds appropriately.
However, the author of this book says that accepting it that way is not the best way.

“Many parents attribute all their teenagers’ problems, which stem from untrained lifestyle habits, to ‘symptoms of puberty.’
I believe that if left alone, the symptoms of puberty will go away just like a cold.
However, if parents do not teach and correct it at this time, it will not go away.
“It just keeps changing shape and form and ruins the child even more.”

Based on 35 years of counseling and experience, the author advises parents on what they need to do right now to help their teenagers grow up properly.
It provides specific guidance on how to monitor your child, what must be taught, and how to change problem behaviors.
When a child goes through puberty, it doesn't mean you can let them go because they're all grown up.
It means it's time to give your child new guidelines.
Depending on how parents handle it, a child may either thrive or go astray through puberty.


For my child's proper growth and change
Parents' Adolescent Studies

Every child becomes a teenager.
And then you hit puberty.
Some children experience adolescence like a flowing river, while others experience it on the edge of a storm, swirling with emotions and impulses.


“Why? I’ll take care of it!”

When a child who used to follow their parents around saying, "Mom is the best," responds like this one day, the parents can't help but be at a loss, wondering, "Where did my beloved child go?"
But there is no need to be afraid and retreat in advance.
There is no need to turn a blind eye to it just because ‘that person has come.’
If you understand and guide your adolescent child's mind and behavior well, the child will soon grow up and return to his or her original position.

To achieve this, parents must put aside their impatience and their worries and anxieties about their children's future, and learn how to communicate and get along well with their children, even now.
If there is a problem, you must learn how to solve it.
We need to start studying 'puberty' before it's too late.


***** Praise for this book *****

This book is so honest and concrete that I think it will be very helpful to parents of adolescent children.
I really hope that many parents read this book.
It tells us about the terrifying reality of today and how we can protect our children from it and help them go through their 'growing adolescence'.
- key7890

I was frustrated and having a hard time dealing with my daughter who was moody and cranky about everything, but this book helped me a lot.
I liked that it read my child's inner thoughts and provided specific solutions to problem behaviors.
-Juwon's mom

I told my wife to read it first, and then I said I should read it, but after a few months, I finally got around to reading it.
I regret not reading it sooner.
I felt relieved that you explained in a logical and coherent way what I had been wanting to say.
A must-read for anyone who wants to be a responsible parent.
certainly.
-Mr. Baek Joo-bu

As a teacher, I read this book because I wanted to understand children better, and since it was written by someone who published [Notes from Teenagers], I have even more confidence in the content.
This is a guide to teenage education that you can trust and watch.
-Like wild grass

This is a good book to read in advance, not only for teenagers but also for parents raising children.
As parents and adults, it also makes us think about what kind of example we should show our children.
-heromom