Time to learn silence
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Book Introduction
“A person who can control his words is a mature person.
“An immature person can never control his words.”
*** Bestseller on Amazon Germany for 32 consecutive weeks!
*** Spiegel Bestseller!
The world is full of useless words.
The same news is repeated on every broadcast, and smartphones ring nonstop.
Even close friends and colleagues are constantly talking, and as if that wasn't enough, politicians and reporters are also coming forward and pouring out words like an avalanche.
So how can one be sane?
We live in a flood of words.
“If you know it well, three words are enough.
There is a saying, “If you don’t know, you need thirty words.”
Among people who talk a lot, there are many who don't even know what they are saying.
To sum up, it is because they do not know the power of silence.
No one will listen to someone who talks without taking a breath.
Conversely, people who know how to keep their mouths shut when the situation demands it appear competent and serious.
This book teaches you how to give weight to your words through silence.
The point is not to “be silent instead of speaking,” but to “control the amount of speech and use silence as an effective means of persuasion.”
Think of someone around you who is confident, trustworthy, and respected.
They will be sparing with their words.
So their words carry weight.
If you know how to be silent, you can achieve personal growth and spiritual enlightenment.
That is why almost all religions have a practice of silence.
Paradoxically, distancing yourself from the world through silence can help you connect more with the world.
If you use the 51 silence tools presented in this book appropriately, the weight of your words will be noticeably different from what it is now.
“An immature person can never control his words.”
*** Bestseller on Amazon Germany for 32 consecutive weeks!
*** Spiegel Bestseller!
The world is full of useless words.
The same news is repeated on every broadcast, and smartphones ring nonstop.
Even close friends and colleagues are constantly talking, and as if that wasn't enough, politicians and reporters are also coming forward and pouring out words like an avalanche.
So how can one be sane?
We live in a flood of words.
“If you know it well, three words are enough.
There is a saying, “If you don’t know, you need thirty words.”
Among people who talk a lot, there are many who don't even know what they are saying.
To sum up, it is because they do not know the power of silence.
No one will listen to someone who talks without taking a breath.
Conversely, people who know how to keep their mouths shut when the situation demands it appear competent and serious.
This book teaches you how to give weight to your words through silence.
The point is not to “be silent instead of speaking,” but to “control the amount of speech and use silence as an effective means of persuasion.”
Think of someone around you who is confident, trustworthy, and respected.
They will be sparing with their words.
So their words carry weight.
If you know how to be silent, you can achieve personal growth and spiritual enlightenment.
That is why almost all religions have a practice of silence.
Paradoxically, distancing yourself from the world through silence can help you connect more with the world.
If you use the 51 silence tools presented in this book appropriately, the weight of your words will be noticeably different from what it is now.
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index
To begin with
We live in a flood of words.
Chapter 1.
Practice emptying your mouth
The more you talk, the less power you have.
People who regret it after saying something
Why Silence Is Effective in Conversation
A society that has lost respect
[Silence Lesson 1] Maintaining a Balance Between Speech and Silence
Chapter 2.
Silence is also a form of communication.
Words that destroy a tower of hard work
Still waters run deeper
Only those who listen seize the opportunity
“Thanks for the good idea.” That’s it!
Often, we regret it later
Why the Defendant Has the Right to Remain Silent
[Silent Lesson 2] Preparing a Powerful Word
Chapter 3.
We are all 'spectators'
Let go of the illusion that the speaker is in control.
No player chatters right before the game starts.
If you talk, you can't hear
“I can’t stop bragging.”
Why the higher your status, the more you talk
Everyone has weaknesses
Stop saying one thing and one thing only!
[Silent Lesson 3] Think for 5 Seconds Before Speaking
Chapter 4.
The weight of words grows as they are emptied
Why can't I turn off my smartphone for even an hour?
How to talk to yourself
If your relationship with yourself is satisfactory, your relationships with others will also be satisfactory.
Listen to the voice in your heart first
How to Find Peace of Mind Through Exercise
[Silent Lesson 4] Try to cut off all noise.
Chapter 5.
Break free from the compulsion to “speak up.”
Don't you hate this awkward silence?
Let go of the obligation to please others.
Other people don't care much about you.
How to start a good conversation
[Silent Lesson 5] Actively Embracing Awkward Silence
Chapter 6.
How to Lead a Conversation to Your Advantage
Never give an immediate answer!
How to Respond to Provocative Questions
How to Deal with Unbearable Insults
Silence makes your negotiating partner uneasy.
The best way to deal with an angry person
How to read your partner's desires
Coach with silence
The best conversations follow the stop-go principle.
[Silent Lesson 6] Persuading with Silence
Chapter 7.
How to move someone's heart
A 'pause' gives weight to words.
When is it time to stop talking?
Facial expressions and gestures that make others feel good
People don't gather around self-promotional leaders.
The art of silence shines even brighter in conflict situations.
[Silent Lesson 7] Stop talking and give the other person time to think.
Chapter 8.
The Right to Silence in a World Overflowing with Words
How to Deal with Your Boss's Noise
Let go of the “I won’t hold back” attitude.
How to quickly shut up a chatterbox
Metacommunication: Ask Direct Questions
Aggressive silence is also possible
The one who asks the question has the initiative.
[Silence Lesson 8] Resisting Noise Properly, Not Enduring It
Chapter 9.
The power of quiet contemplation
People who constantly push themselves too hard
Quiet in the midst of noise
The power of wisdom comes from stillness, not noise.
Listen to the voice of your intuition
Sometimes writing is better than talking
[Silent Lesson 9] Writing Instead of Speaking
In conclusion
Happiness comes in quiet moments
We live in a flood of words.
Chapter 1.
Practice emptying your mouth
The more you talk, the less power you have.
People who regret it after saying something
Why Silence Is Effective in Conversation
A society that has lost respect
[Silence Lesson 1] Maintaining a Balance Between Speech and Silence
Chapter 2.
Silence is also a form of communication.
Words that destroy a tower of hard work
Still waters run deeper
Only those who listen seize the opportunity
“Thanks for the good idea.” That’s it!
Often, we regret it later
Why the Defendant Has the Right to Remain Silent
[Silent Lesson 2] Preparing a Powerful Word
Chapter 3.
We are all 'spectators'
Let go of the illusion that the speaker is in control.
No player chatters right before the game starts.
If you talk, you can't hear
“I can’t stop bragging.”
Why the higher your status, the more you talk
Everyone has weaknesses
Stop saying one thing and one thing only!
[Silent Lesson 3] Think for 5 Seconds Before Speaking
Chapter 4.
The weight of words grows as they are emptied
Why can't I turn off my smartphone for even an hour?
How to talk to yourself
If your relationship with yourself is satisfactory, your relationships with others will also be satisfactory.
Listen to the voice in your heart first
How to Find Peace of Mind Through Exercise
[Silent Lesson 4] Try to cut off all noise.
Chapter 5.
Break free from the compulsion to “speak up.”
Don't you hate this awkward silence?
Let go of the obligation to please others.
Other people don't care much about you.
How to start a good conversation
[Silent Lesson 5] Actively Embracing Awkward Silence
Chapter 6.
How to Lead a Conversation to Your Advantage
Never give an immediate answer!
How to Respond to Provocative Questions
How to Deal with Unbearable Insults
Silence makes your negotiating partner uneasy.
The best way to deal with an angry person
How to read your partner's desires
Coach with silence
The best conversations follow the stop-go principle.
[Silent Lesson 6] Persuading with Silence
Chapter 7.
How to move someone's heart
A 'pause' gives weight to words.
When is it time to stop talking?
Facial expressions and gestures that make others feel good
People don't gather around self-promotional leaders.
The art of silence shines even brighter in conflict situations.
[Silent Lesson 7] Stop talking and give the other person time to think.
Chapter 8.
The Right to Silence in a World Overflowing with Words
How to Deal with Your Boss's Noise
Let go of the “I won’t hold back” attitude.
How to quickly shut up a chatterbox
Metacommunication: Ask Direct Questions
Aggressive silence is also possible
The one who asks the question has the initiative.
[Silence Lesson 8] Resisting Noise Properly, Not Enduring It
Chapter 9.
The power of quiet contemplation
People who constantly push themselves too hard
Quiet in the midst of noise
The power of wisdom comes from stillness, not noise.
Listen to the voice of your intuition
Sometimes writing is better than talking
[Silent Lesson 9] Writing Instead of Speaking
In conclusion
Happiness comes in quiet moments
Detailed image
Into the book
An experienced negotiation expert once gave this advice:
“The person I truly fear is someone who knows how to remain silent.
Because I can't read the inside.
It's like a poker table.
If you keep talking, you'll only end up getting caught."
--- p.26
The ancient Romans had a legal principle: 'Qui tacet consentit'.
In modern law, this is called 'implied consent'.
If there is no objection to a proposal, it is interpreted as agreement.
(...)
A woman praised her man so much that she was drooling over him, saying, “That was such a great conversation.”
However, as far as the team leader knew, the man in question was not a person with particularly good communication skills.
So out of curiosity, I watched the recorded video again, and the man barely said anything.
The words that came out of his mouth were mostly interjections expressing agreement, such as “hmm,” “yes,” “of course,” “really?” and “oh my god.”
--- pp.44-45
Every defendant who appears in court has the right to remain silent.
It is the right not to have to testify in a way that may be detrimental to oneself.
This too is silence.
Silence is so beneficial that it is even used in court.
--- p.57
What kind of person is your best friend? Someone who gives you great advice? Few people would answer that way.
Most people answer like this.
“A friend who listens to me.” We want someone who listens to us, not someone who talks too much.
--- p.59
The effect of static is beyond imagination.
Think of the athletes before they compete.
There are no players who chatter just before the game starts.
Everyone shuts their mouths and gathers their wits.
Because there is power in silence.
--- p.71
One of the reasons why it is becoming increasingly difficult for us to remain silent is because we want to attract people's attention.
It is literally a world overflowing with 'indulgence'.
Like a child trying to get their mother's attention, they constantly talk, send messages, and post pictures and texts on social media in an attempt to get people's attention.
--- p.72
We constantly push ourselves too hard.
Our rest is not rest.
We cannot stand still and allow ourselves stillness and silence.
Most people never realize this fact in their entire lives.
Even after having three heart attacks.
--- p.242
That's why wise old people are taciturn.
Wisdom and strength come from silence, not noise.
But taciturn wisdom doesn't necessarily come with age.
Regardless of age, those who know how to keep quiet when others are talking can gain wisdom.
“The person I truly fear is someone who knows how to remain silent.
Because I can't read the inside.
It's like a poker table.
If you keep talking, you'll only end up getting caught."
--- p.26
The ancient Romans had a legal principle: 'Qui tacet consentit'.
In modern law, this is called 'implied consent'.
If there is no objection to a proposal, it is interpreted as agreement.
(...)
A woman praised her man so much that she was drooling over him, saying, “That was such a great conversation.”
However, as far as the team leader knew, the man in question was not a person with particularly good communication skills.
So out of curiosity, I watched the recorded video again, and the man barely said anything.
The words that came out of his mouth were mostly interjections expressing agreement, such as “hmm,” “yes,” “of course,” “really?” and “oh my god.”
--- pp.44-45
Every defendant who appears in court has the right to remain silent.
It is the right not to have to testify in a way that may be detrimental to oneself.
This too is silence.
Silence is so beneficial that it is even used in court.
--- p.57
What kind of person is your best friend? Someone who gives you great advice? Few people would answer that way.
Most people answer like this.
“A friend who listens to me.” We want someone who listens to us, not someone who talks too much.
--- p.59
The effect of static is beyond imagination.
Think of the athletes before they compete.
There are no players who chatter just before the game starts.
Everyone shuts their mouths and gathers their wits.
Because there is power in silence.
--- p.71
One of the reasons why it is becoming increasingly difficult for us to remain silent is because we want to attract people's attention.
It is literally a world overflowing with 'indulgence'.
Like a child trying to get their mother's attention, they constantly talk, send messages, and post pictures and texts on social media in an attempt to get people's attention.
--- p.72
We constantly push ourselves too hard.
Our rest is not rest.
We cannot stand still and allow ourselves stillness and silence.
Most people never realize this fact in their entire lives.
Even after having three heart attacks.
--- p.242
That's why wise old people are taciturn.
Wisdom and strength come from silence, not noise.
But taciturn wisdom doesn't necessarily come with age.
Regardless of age, those who know how to keep quiet when others are talking can gain wisdom.
--- p.258
Publisher's Review
The weight of words grows as they are emptied: "I've lived my life talking too much."
*** Wittgenstein, Montaigne, Tolstoy, Pythagoras… .
The power of silence emphasized by numerous philosophers
There are people who can't stop bragging every time we talk,
There are people who always try to teach others by pointing out their mistakes.
Intelligent people feel such impulses, but they do not pursue them.
Know how to overcome temptation and exercise self-control.
That requires tremendous intelligence.
Because only with intelligence can one have self-control.
_From the "Main Text"
A scene where you are alone with your boss in an elevator, an elementary school classmate you haven't seen in a long time, the awkward atmosphere right before a meeting...
There are countless awkward moments like this.
Situations where you have to stammer out words just to avoid awkward silence.
In this situation, words are not a tool for conveying information, but merely noise to break the torturous silence.
There are also people who say meaningless things out of a sense of obligation to please others.
But relationships with others reach a whole new level when you don't have to force awkward silences with useless words.
Rather, people who feel uncomfortable with even a little silence and habitually ramble on and on often end up being avoided by their family, colleagues, subordinates, customers, and superiors because of this very behavior.
Silence is also a form of communication.
Words and silence complement each other.
So the balance between words and silence is important.
Aren't there also proverbs like, "Still waters run deep" and "Empty carts make the most noise"?
If you speak little, you appear deep.
The profound human aura is the result of silence.
“If you want to talk
“Speak words that are worth more than silence.”
After talking for a while, suddenly close your mouth and observe the other person.
The other person will ask this with an anxious expression.
“What’s wrong? What’s wrong?”
_From the "Main Text"
The effect of static is beyond imagination.
Think of the athletes before they compete.
There are no players who chatter just before the game starts.
Everyone shuts their mouths and gathers their wits.
Because there is power in silence.
_From the "Main Text"
People are more sensitive to rejection from others than we think.
If you've tried everything and the other person still won't stop making accusations, choose intentional silence.
But be aggressive, like a boxer! Just "chew" what they're saying. Think about something else, anything, and make them realize your mind is in the bean field.
Silence sometimes speaks louder than a thousand words of complaint and makes the other person feel uneasy.
Anxiety is one of the most powerful human emotions.
So, when you argue or negotiate with someone, I hope you will make good use of the silence tools presented in this book.
Your conversational combat power will be maximized.
Isn't this the most necessary weapon for us living in a world full of words?
*** Wittgenstein, Montaigne, Tolstoy, Pythagoras… .
The power of silence emphasized by numerous philosophers
There are people who can't stop bragging every time we talk,
There are people who always try to teach others by pointing out their mistakes.
Intelligent people feel such impulses, but they do not pursue them.
Know how to overcome temptation and exercise self-control.
That requires tremendous intelligence.
Because only with intelligence can one have self-control.
_From the "Main Text"
A scene where you are alone with your boss in an elevator, an elementary school classmate you haven't seen in a long time, the awkward atmosphere right before a meeting...
There are countless awkward moments like this.
Situations where you have to stammer out words just to avoid awkward silence.
In this situation, words are not a tool for conveying information, but merely noise to break the torturous silence.
There are also people who say meaningless things out of a sense of obligation to please others.
But relationships with others reach a whole new level when you don't have to force awkward silences with useless words.
Rather, people who feel uncomfortable with even a little silence and habitually ramble on and on often end up being avoided by their family, colleagues, subordinates, customers, and superiors because of this very behavior.
Silence is also a form of communication.
Words and silence complement each other.
So the balance between words and silence is important.
Aren't there also proverbs like, "Still waters run deep" and "Empty carts make the most noise"?
If you speak little, you appear deep.
The profound human aura is the result of silence.
“If you want to talk
“Speak words that are worth more than silence.”
After talking for a while, suddenly close your mouth and observe the other person.
The other person will ask this with an anxious expression.
“What’s wrong? What’s wrong?”
_From the "Main Text"
The effect of static is beyond imagination.
Think of the athletes before they compete.
There are no players who chatter just before the game starts.
Everyone shuts their mouths and gathers their wits.
Because there is power in silence.
_From the "Main Text"
People are more sensitive to rejection from others than we think.
If you've tried everything and the other person still won't stop making accusations, choose intentional silence.
But be aggressive, like a boxer! Just "chew" what they're saying. Think about something else, anything, and make them realize your mind is in the bean field.
Silence sometimes speaks louder than a thousand words of complaint and makes the other person feel uneasy.
Anxiety is one of the most powerful human emotions.
So, when you argue or negotiate with someone, I hope you will make good use of the silence tools presented in this book.
Your conversational combat power will be maximized.
Isn't this the most necessary weapon for us living in a world full of words?
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: July 24, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 272 pages | 348g | 130*188*16mm
- ISBN13: 9791198752444
- ISBN10: 1198752440
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