Psychology Cafe in Paris
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The Psychology Cafe in Paris, which made countless readers cry
11th Anniversary Special Revised Edition Released!
*** The legendary 'Psychology Cafe (Cafe-Psy)' that caught the attention of the world media
*** The #1 Psychologist Parisians Want to Meet
*** 10 Years of Korean Reader Reviews: "The Book That Made Me Cry"
『Psychology Cafe in Paris』 returns with a new cover to celebrate its 11th anniversary of publication in Korea.
『Psychology Café in Paris』 has been much loved for its comfortable writing style and warm, comforting words that make you feel as if you are sitting in a downtown café chatting with a psychologist, and has become a 'life book' for countless Korean readers for 11 years.
Cafe-Psy is a casual psychological counseling group that has been held every Thursday evening at 7pm in a basement cafe in Paris since 1997.
Psychologist Maud Ruan planned this place to create a place where people can comfortably pour out their hearts over a cup of tea. Starting with the first meeting of four people, a total of 50,000 people have visited over 18 years, and it has received a lot of attention from the world media, including the British Independent and French Liberation.
This book is the first to fully dramatize and compile the stories shared there that many people can relate to.
Since its publication, "Psychology Café in Paris" has consistently received positive reviews as a book that "provides psychological insights without using difficult technical terms and helps people resolve inner pain they were unaware of."
This much-loved book allows people to uncover hidden stories about inner anxiety, depression, the pain of loss, hurt from loved ones, and burnout that they have never told anyone before.
This kind of reflection will serve as the starting point for 'self-care', which is essential in modern society where comfort is becoming increasingly difficult.
11th Anniversary Special Revised Edition Released!
*** The legendary 'Psychology Cafe (Cafe-Psy)' that caught the attention of the world media
*** The #1 Psychologist Parisians Want to Meet
*** 10 Years of Korean Reader Reviews: "The Book That Made Me Cry"
『Psychology Cafe in Paris』 returns with a new cover to celebrate its 11th anniversary of publication in Korea.
『Psychology Café in Paris』 has been much loved for its comfortable writing style and warm, comforting words that make you feel as if you are sitting in a downtown café chatting with a psychologist, and has become a 'life book' for countless Korean readers for 11 years.
Cafe-Psy is a casual psychological counseling group that has been held every Thursday evening at 7pm in a basement cafe in Paris since 1997.
Psychologist Maud Ruan planned this place to create a place where people can comfortably pour out their hearts over a cup of tea. Starting with the first meeting of four people, a total of 50,000 people have visited over 18 years, and it has received a lot of attention from the world media, including the British Independent and French Liberation.
This book is the first to fully dramatize and compile the stories shared there that many people can relate to.
Since its publication, "Psychology Café in Paris" has consistently received positive reviews as a book that "provides psychological insights without using difficult technical terms and helps people resolve inner pain they were unaware of."
This much-loved book allows people to uncover hidden stories about inner anxiety, depression, the pain of loss, hurt from loved ones, and burnout that they have never told anyone before.
This kind of reflection will serve as the starting point for 'self-care', which is essential in modern society where comfort is becoming increasingly difficult.
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11th Anniversary Recommendation
A Parisian Psychology Cafe: A Place to Find My Lost Self _ Former Detective Chief Park Mi-ok
prolog
Let's have a cup of tea and talk about what's on our minds.
Day 1 Emotions
To you who cannot cry freely even when you are alone
Moments when life doesn't flow the way I want it to
ㆍIt's never your fault
ㆍWhy can't I get angry properly even in unfair situations?
ㆍI need time to cry freely once in a while.
What I, a former perfectionist, want to say to you
ㆍThings you must remember if you can't say you're in pain even when you're in pain
Day 2 Wounds
When we face our fragile hearts, life becomes strong.
ㆍThe past that has been mourned no longer hurts.
Even your parents cannot treat you carelessly.
ㆍWhy do I keep worrying about what other people think?
If I don't love myself, others won't love me either.
ㆍFor those who feel that their relationship with close friends is not what it used to be
Day 3 Love
Even if love leaves you, you are still a good person
If you want to love, remember the principles of love.
Never say it's okay in the face of a breakup.
If you've fallen in love with fate, try doubting it at least once.
Five pieces of advice for those who are determined to get married
Day 4 Relationships
A Guide for Modern People Living with Strange People
ㆍIt's madness to try to please everyone you know.
People respect those who confidently refuse.
How to live with people you don't understand
Beware of the narcissist next to you.
Where does the power that moves people come from?
ㆍWhy do we feel wronged when we don't receive as much as we give?
ㆍConversation techniques to get what you want without fighting
Day 5 Life
Adult happiness lies in an unwavering center.
We need time to stop and rest.
ㆍOnly I can save myself
ㆍWhat should I fill the emptiness in my heart with?
ㆍI've spent too much time in front of the mirror.
ㆍBreaking up with the lethargy that's eating away at my life
There is no such thing as a perfect choice in life.
ㆍRealizing the greatness of alone time
A Parisian Psychology Cafe: A Place to Find My Lost Self _ Former Detective Chief Park Mi-ok
prolog
Let's have a cup of tea and talk about what's on our minds.
Day 1 Emotions
To you who cannot cry freely even when you are alone
Moments when life doesn't flow the way I want it to
ㆍIt's never your fault
ㆍWhy can't I get angry properly even in unfair situations?
ㆍI need time to cry freely once in a while.
What I, a former perfectionist, want to say to you
ㆍThings you must remember if you can't say you're in pain even when you're in pain
Day 2 Wounds
When we face our fragile hearts, life becomes strong.
ㆍThe past that has been mourned no longer hurts.
Even your parents cannot treat you carelessly.
ㆍWhy do I keep worrying about what other people think?
If I don't love myself, others won't love me either.
ㆍFor those who feel that their relationship with close friends is not what it used to be
Day 3 Love
Even if love leaves you, you are still a good person
If you want to love, remember the principles of love.
Never say it's okay in the face of a breakup.
If you've fallen in love with fate, try doubting it at least once.
Five pieces of advice for those who are determined to get married
Day 4 Relationships
A Guide for Modern People Living with Strange People
ㆍIt's madness to try to please everyone you know.
People respect those who confidently refuse.
How to live with people you don't understand
Beware of the narcissist next to you.
Where does the power that moves people come from?
ㆍWhy do we feel wronged when we don't receive as much as we give?
ㆍConversation techniques to get what you want without fighting
Day 5 Life
Adult happiness lies in an unwavering center.
We need time to stop and rest.
ㆍOnly I can save myself
ㆍWhat should I fill the emptiness in my heart with?
ㆍI've spent too much time in front of the mirror.
ㆍBreaking up with the lethargy that's eating away at my life
There is no such thing as a perfect choice in life.
ㆍRealizing the greatness of alone time
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True unhappiness lies not in the unfortunate event itself, but in the mind's inability to accept bad things.
Facing misfortune is inevitable, but staying in misfortune is our choice.
My husband's death was a very unfortunate event, but it was my choice to dwell on it for a year and ruin precious time for myself and my child.
And the real misfortune came from this very choice.
--- From "Moments When Life Doesn't Flow Like My Heart"
Our hearts are not made of iron.
My heart also needs warm attention and affection.
As I live in this world, the only person who will never leave me is none other than myself.
If even I, who am like that, ignore my feelings and don't care about them, won't I be too lonely?
--- From "I need time to cry freely once in a while"
Empathy and sympathy can never be the same.
If empathy is seeing the world through the other person's eyes, sympathy is becoming that person.
You are drawn into that person's emotions and are unable to escape from the same emotional state.
--- From "Things You Must Remember When You Can't Say You're Hurt Even When You're Hurt"
Healing wounds doesn't mean going back and putting everything back the way it was.
It's about keeping an appropriate distance and letting go of painful memories.
It is to prevent the painful past from intruding into our present life and acting as its master.
--- From "The Past That Has Been Mourned No Longer Hurts"
If you were a good child who never refused a request from your parents, they might be initially taken aback by this firm attitude and blame you.
You may feel guilty for causing unnecessary conflict with your parents.
But we cannot be responsible for the feelings of others other than our own.
In other words, if your parents get angry, it is never your fault.
--- From "No matter how much your parents treat you, they cannot treat you carelessly"
Loving yourself is not a reward for doing something well.
You may fail and make mistakes, but still believe that you are worthy of love.
It is the courage to acknowledge and embrace not only your positive but also your negative aspects, and to stand upright when the world demands unfair sacrifices.
Don't forget.
The person you need to cherish the most in the world is none other than yourself.
--- From "If I don't love myself, others won't love me either"
People who cope well with breakups don't just brush off the pain of a breakup.
Rather, I fully feel all the emotions that come with a breakup and then let them go.
Even if it is difficult and painful, such as anger, depression, regret, or doubt, do not avoid it, but feel those emotions fully.
If you try to just let it go, the pain of separation that you didn't get to mourn will come back to haunt you and cause you even more pain later.
That's because when that happens, even old emotions come rushing back.
--- From "Never Say It's Okay in the Face of a Breakup"
Everyone has probably thought about this at least once in their life.
"Why do I have to live like this?", "Is this really that important?" When these questions arise in life, let's not just ignore them but think about them carefully.
I wonder if this is the life I really want or if I am just living the life people expect of me.
Perhaps you will realize that you have sacrificed too much of your life to seek the approval and praise of others.
--- From "It's madness to try to please everyone you know"
People respect those who can confidently say no.
If they accepted the offer, then it is credible because it is a decision they made on their own initiative.
But the affirmation of yes-men who don't know how to refuse is not like that.
This is because I feel uneasy in my heart, wondering if I was forced to give my consent reluctantly.
--- From "People respect those who confidently refuse"
Many people expect special solutions from psychologists.
The same goes for those who come to me.
You have this fantasy that 'this person will still solve my problem, right?'
But as the counseling progresses, you eventually realize that the only person who can save you is yourself.
No doctor can help you get rid of a painful wound.
We ourselves can be the best doctors for ourselves.
And when you feel like you have to do that role, that's when true healing begins.
After all, the person who can take care of me best is myself.
Facing misfortune is inevitable, but staying in misfortune is our choice.
My husband's death was a very unfortunate event, but it was my choice to dwell on it for a year and ruin precious time for myself and my child.
And the real misfortune came from this very choice.
--- From "Moments When Life Doesn't Flow Like My Heart"
Our hearts are not made of iron.
My heart also needs warm attention and affection.
As I live in this world, the only person who will never leave me is none other than myself.
If even I, who am like that, ignore my feelings and don't care about them, won't I be too lonely?
--- From "I need time to cry freely once in a while"
Empathy and sympathy can never be the same.
If empathy is seeing the world through the other person's eyes, sympathy is becoming that person.
You are drawn into that person's emotions and are unable to escape from the same emotional state.
--- From "Things You Must Remember When You Can't Say You're Hurt Even When You're Hurt"
Healing wounds doesn't mean going back and putting everything back the way it was.
It's about keeping an appropriate distance and letting go of painful memories.
It is to prevent the painful past from intruding into our present life and acting as its master.
--- From "The Past That Has Been Mourned No Longer Hurts"
If you were a good child who never refused a request from your parents, they might be initially taken aback by this firm attitude and blame you.
You may feel guilty for causing unnecessary conflict with your parents.
But we cannot be responsible for the feelings of others other than our own.
In other words, if your parents get angry, it is never your fault.
--- From "No matter how much your parents treat you, they cannot treat you carelessly"
Loving yourself is not a reward for doing something well.
You may fail and make mistakes, but still believe that you are worthy of love.
It is the courage to acknowledge and embrace not only your positive but also your negative aspects, and to stand upright when the world demands unfair sacrifices.
Don't forget.
The person you need to cherish the most in the world is none other than yourself.
--- From "If I don't love myself, others won't love me either"
People who cope well with breakups don't just brush off the pain of a breakup.
Rather, I fully feel all the emotions that come with a breakup and then let them go.
Even if it is difficult and painful, such as anger, depression, regret, or doubt, do not avoid it, but feel those emotions fully.
If you try to just let it go, the pain of separation that you didn't get to mourn will come back to haunt you and cause you even more pain later.
That's because when that happens, even old emotions come rushing back.
--- From "Never Say It's Okay in the Face of a Breakup"
Everyone has probably thought about this at least once in their life.
"Why do I have to live like this?", "Is this really that important?" When these questions arise in life, let's not just ignore them but think about them carefully.
I wonder if this is the life I really want or if I am just living the life people expect of me.
Perhaps you will realize that you have sacrificed too much of your life to seek the approval and praise of others.
--- From "It's madness to try to please everyone you know"
People respect those who can confidently say no.
If they accepted the offer, then it is credible because it is a decision they made on their own initiative.
But the affirmation of yes-men who don't know how to refuse is not like that.
This is because I feel uneasy in my heart, wondering if I was forced to give my consent reluctantly.
--- From "People respect those who confidently refuse"
Many people expect special solutions from psychologists.
The same goes for those who come to me.
You have this fantasy that 'this person will still solve my problem, right?'
But as the counseling progresses, you eventually realize that the only person who can save you is yourself.
No doctor can help you get rid of a painful wound.
We ourselves can be the best doctors for ourselves.
And when you feel like you have to do that role, that's when true healing begins.
After all, the person who can take care of me best is myself.
--- From "Only I Can Save Myself"
Publisher's Review
“Have you ever cried just for yourself?”
Life becomes stronger only when we face our weaknesses.
People often mistake tears for weakness.
People who are accustomed to this proposition even feel that it is unnecessary to reveal their suffering, and whenever they encounter inner darkness, such as selfishness, depression, or cowardice, they are startled and close their emotional shutters.
However, the characteristic of emotions is that if you suppress them, they will eventually leak out and explode.
Maud Rouen, the psychologist most sought after by Parisians, was deeply hurt by her father, who left her in a daycare center from the age of 7 to 18 and never returned.
As an adult, she met the man she loved, but the shock of his death the year she gave birth to his child caused her to lose her will to live again and turn to alcohol.
However, she had to get back on her feet for the sake of her child who only looked up to her, so she learned how to relieve her pain through 10 years of psychoanalytic treatment.
And after personally realizing that 'everyone needs someone's love and comfort' and 'the world would be a better place if there was just one person who understood me', he began studying psychology at the age of over forty.
“If you feel like you’re infinitely inadequate and lacking, you need to take some time just for yourself,” says Ruan.
I may not want to face my own weaknesses, but I must do so because only when I can cry for myself will my life become stronger.
The wounds of the heart are a little similar all over the world.
Five Things to Say to Fabien, Sophie, and Liz in Korea
As I read the stories of those who visited the psychology café in Paris, I find myself thinking, "How can this story be so similar to mine?"
This is because it selects universal emotions and pains with a sharp and warm gaze.
Fabian, who is acknowledged as a nice guy by everyone but sometimes explodes with emotions without realizing it; Sophie, who can't say anything to her boss's unfair work orders; Liz, who firmly believes that her boyfriend who broke up with her will eventually come back; Nicola, who has anxiety symptoms due to abuse he suffered as a child...
They were all holding themselves back, unable to express their suppressed emotions or avoiding them without even realizing it.
And Mod Ruan guided them to sufficiently mourn their past.
This book is a compilation of the lives of various people met by a psychologist, organized into five themes: 'emotions', 'hurts', 'love', 'relationships', and 'life'.
This story is not at all unfamiliar to us living in modern society.
That is why the five pieces of advice the author emphasizes also provide great inspiration and comfort to our lives.
*5 Tips from Psychologist Maud Ruan
1.
To discover the inner feelings that even I am unaware of, I will cry freely at least once in my life.
2.
Don't let anyone hurt me.
Even if that person is a parent.
3.
Even if love leaves, I will still have faith that I am a good person.
4.
The world is full of people you don't understand, but don't give up trying to communicate.
5.
In the face of a long life, we will build a pillar of mind that will not be shaken by any storm.
A Parisian psychology café beloved for 11 years
29 Psychological Prescriptions for Reflecting on Pain and Suffering
Over the past 18 years, 50,000 people have visited the 916 Psychology Cafés, and the diverse life data accumulated over the years has led to psychological insights into universal concerns that anyone can relate to.
So the insights in this book still shine even after 11 years.
It's becoming increasingly difficult to tell the truth.
However, emotional wounds must be talked about openly to be healed.
"Psychology Café in Paris" delicately teaches us how to maturely resolve emotional wounds through 29 stories.
Just as the bitterness of eggplant disappears when salt is sprinkled on it and the moisture is drained, the bitterness of life also disappears when people shed tears.
If someone is holding back tears, tell them that they don't have to hold back. If someone is already shedding tears, offer words of concern and comfort, telling them that they must have had a hard time.
And I have to say that to myself first.
If you are feeling tired and worn out right now, visit the Paris Psychology Cafe.
This book welcomes you with open arms, even when you are alone, unable to cry freely, and living diligently without even realizing how difficult it is.
As I read the stories of people similar to me, how about taking the time to console myself by telling myself, “It’s okay to cry once in a while,” and “You must have had a hard time.”
Life becomes stronger only when we face our weaknesses.
People often mistake tears for weakness.
People who are accustomed to this proposition even feel that it is unnecessary to reveal their suffering, and whenever they encounter inner darkness, such as selfishness, depression, or cowardice, they are startled and close their emotional shutters.
However, the characteristic of emotions is that if you suppress them, they will eventually leak out and explode.
Maud Rouen, the psychologist most sought after by Parisians, was deeply hurt by her father, who left her in a daycare center from the age of 7 to 18 and never returned.
As an adult, she met the man she loved, but the shock of his death the year she gave birth to his child caused her to lose her will to live again and turn to alcohol.
However, she had to get back on her feet for the sake of her child who only looked up to her, so she learned how to relieve her pain through 10 years of psychoanalytic treatment.
And after personally realizing that 'everyone needs someone's love and comfort' and 'the world would be a better place if there was just one person who understood me', he began studying psychology at the age of over forty.
“If you feel like you’re infinitely inadequate and lacking, you need to take some time just for yourself,” says Ruan.
I may not want to face my own weaknesses, but I must do so because only when I can cry for myself will my life become stronger.
The wounds of the heart are a little similar all over the world.
Five Things to Say to Fabien, Sophie, and Liz in Korea
As I read the stories of those who visited the psychology café in Paris, I find myself thinking, "How can this story be so similar to mine?"
This is because it selects universal emotions and pains with a sharp and warm gaze.
Fabian, who is acknowledged as a nice guy by everyone but sometimes explodes with emotions without realizing it; Sophie, who can't say anything to her boss's unfair work orders; Liz, who firmly believes that her boyfriend who broke up with her will eventually come back; Nicola, who has anxiety symptoms due to abuse he suffered as a child...
They were all holding themselves back, unable to express their suppressed emotions or avoiding them without even realizing it.
And Mod Ruan guided them to sufficiently mourn their past.
This book is a compilation of the lives of various people met by a psychologist, organized into five themes: 'emotions', 'hurts', 'love', 'relationships', and 'life'.
This story is not at all unfamiliar to us living in modern society.
That is why the five pieces of advice the author emphasizes also provide great inspiration and comfort to our lives.
*5 Tips from Psychologist Maud Ruan
1.
To discover the inner feelings that even I am unaware of, I will cry freely at least once in my life.
2.
Don't let anyone hurt me.
Even if that person is a parent.
3.
Even if love leaves, I will still have faith that I am a good person.
4.
The world is full of people you don't understand, but don't give up trying to communicate.
5.
In the face of a long life, we will build a pillar of mind that will not be shaken by any storm.
A Parisian psychology café beloved for 11 years
29 Psychological Prescriptions for Reflecting on Pain and Suffering
Over the past 18 years, 50,000 people have visited the 916 Psychology Cafés, and the diverse life data accumulated over the years has led to psychological insights into universal concerns that anyone can relate to.
So the insights in this book still shine even after 11 years.
It's becoming increasingly difficult to tell the truth.
However, emotional wounds must be talked about openly to be healed.
"Psychology Café in Paris" delicately teaches us how to maturely resolve emotional wounds through 29 stories.
Just as the bitterness of eggplant disappears when salt is sprinkled on it and the moisture is drained, the bitterness of life also disappears when people shed tears.
If someone is holding back tears, tell them that they don't have to hold back. If someone is already shedding tears, offer words of concern and comfort, telling them that they must have had a hard time.
And I have to say that to myself first.
If you are feeling tired and worn out right now, visit the Paris Psychology Cafe.
This book welcomes you with open arms, even when you are alone, unable to cry freely, and living diligently without even realizing how difficult it is.
As I read the stories of people similar to me, how about taking the time to console myself by telling myself, “It’s okay to cry once in a while,” and “You must have had a hard time.”
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: September 10, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 280 pages | 426g | 141*205*18mm
- ISBN13: 9791193941461
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