Reconnect
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Book Introduction
“Have you ever had a moment in your life when you wanted to go into a cave?”
Counselor Jang Jae-yeol discovered 100 people who walked out of the cave of life.
On the power of connection that creates life-changing moments
★ A new book from the bestselling author of "Micro Rituals"
★ Strongly recommended by musician G-Dragon and Professor Choi Jae-cheon
Often, 'social isolation' is considered synonymous with hikikomori, a reclusive lifestyle.
Or, most people mistakenly think that it is similar to burnout, depression, or loneliness.
But isolation is completely different.
It is not a state of isolation where one stays in a room like a hermit and is cut off from the outside world, but it is a state that can also occur in people who go to work or school; that is, it refers to a state where one appears to be leading a normal social life on the outside but is not emotionally connected to anyone.
Despite research showing that one-third of the population experiences isolation, the reality is that there is not even a proper discussion about the concept of isolation in society.
The author, who has worked as a counselor for 11 years and met with over 44,000 people, includes vivid stories of those experiencing isolation that have not been properly highlighted until now, and attempts to bridge the gap between misconceptions about isolation and reality.
He points out that isolation is a 'state of mind' that everyone experiences at least once in their life.
In addition, through counseling with over 100 isolated individuals, the author discovers that the key to escaping the swamp of isolation lies in the "power of connection."
This book, which covers what isolation is, why people experience it, and even how to help a loved one who is experiencing it, will add vivid comfort to the lives of struggling readers.
Counselor Jang Jae-yeol discovered 100 people who walked out of the cave of life.
On the power of connection that creates life-changing moments
★ A new book from the bestselling author of "Micro Rituals"
★ Strongly recommended by musician G-Dragon and Professor Choi Jae-cheon
Often, 'social isolation' is considered synonymous with hikikomori, a reclusive lifestyle.
Or, most people mistakenly think that it is similar to burnout, depression, or loneliness.
But isolation is completely different.
It is not a state of isolation where one stays in a room like a hermit and is cut off from the outside world, but it is a state that can also occur in people who go to work or school; that is, it refers to a state where one appears to be leading a normal social life on the outside but is not emotionally connected to anyone.
Despite research showing that one-third of the population experiences isolation, the reality is that there is not even a proper discussion about the concept of isolation in society.
The author, who has worked as a counselor for 11 years and met with over 44,000 people, includes vivid stories of those experiencing isolation that have not been properly highlighted until now, and attempts to bridge the gap between misconceptions about isolation and reality.
He points out that isolation is a 'state of mind' that everyone experiences at least once in their life.
In addition, through counseling with over 100 isolated individuals, the author discovers that the key to escaping the swamp of isolation lies in the "power of connection."
This book, which covers what isolation is, why people experience it, and even how to help a loved one who is experiencing it, will add vivid comfort to the lives of struggling readers.
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Prologue_If you've ever encountered a tunnel with no end in sight in life
Part 1.
Everyone is alone at some point.
Even I, a counselor, didn't know what isolation meant.
People who can afford to use the lowest mobile phone plan
From a child with many dreams to an isolated young man
On Isolation, Not Reclusive Loners
Isolation is a 'state' that comes to everyone.
Misconceptions about people who choose to be completely alone
Four Reasons Why You May Have No Choice But to Be Alone
Isolation comes even in the brightest moments.
You and I will both end up alone
After yesterday was smooth, today suddenly
Part 2.
A story you may have experienced too
Visit 100 caves and hear 100 stories
Why the Cheerful Girl Lost Contact with Everyone
I looked up from my life as a mother and wife, but I was gone.
Reconnecting Therapy 1.
What Mental Recovery and Muscle Growth Have in Common
Reconnecting Therapy 2.
The "WHY 7 Questions" Method: Understanding Your Unknown Situation
Let's split the bill at 39,000 won each.
Reconnecting Therapy 3.
Reinterpreting Personality: Discovering the Dark Side of the Moon
If I can't endure this, I'm afraid I won't be able to do anything
Reconnecting Therapy 4.
Calculating the Probability of Failure Without Being Overwhelmed by Anxiety
The reason I insisted on going to the gym even though I was getting a ringer.
The day I was accepted to Seoul National University, my father told me I was a disgrace to the family.
Reconnecting Therapy 5.
10 Minutes to Erase Hurtful Words: Eraser Therapy
3, 2, 1 and 0.5
I only shine on Instagram
Reconnecting Therapy 6.
Invite a companion
After 8 years of studying for the civil service exam, I looked for another hope.
Reconnecting Therapy 7.
Checking My Relationship Boundaries
Part 3.
When the person I love stays in isolation
If our daughter had been born to different parents
Mom's Table Letter
Someone who is just there for you
Reconnecting Therapy 8.
How to Be Healthy Alone: Wish Planner
True empathy
Reconnecting Therapy 9.
Unsolicited advice is violence.
The first words the world spoke to me the day I ran out of the house to a disaster text message
Reconnecting Therapy 10.
First of all, let's throw away some trash today.
How to distinguish between what I can help with and what I cannot
Reconnecting Therapy 11.
Where can we provide practical help to those isolated right now?
So that your heart does not grow weary by their side
Those who passed through the cave to you in the cave
Epilogue_With sincere prayers for your well-being
Part 1.
Everyone is alone at some point.
Even I, a counselor, didn't know what isolation meant.
People who can afford to use the lowest mobile phone plan
From a child with many dreams to an isolated young man
On Isolation, Not Reclusive Loners
Isolation is a 'state' that comes to everyone.
Misconceptions about people who choose to be completely alone
Four Reasons Why You May Have No Choice But to Be Alone
Isolation comes even in the brightest moments.
You and I will both end up alone
After yesterday was smooth, today suddenly
Part 2.
A story you may have experienced too
Visit 100 caves and hear 100 stories
Why the Cheerful Girl Lost Contact with Everyone
I looked up from my life as a mother and wife, but I was gone.
Reconnecting Therapy 1.
What Mental Recovery and Muscle Growth Have in Common
Reconnecting Therapy 2.
The "WHY 7 Questions" Method: Understanding Your Unknown Situation
Let's split the bill at 39,000 won each.
Reconnecting Therapy 3.
Reinterpreting Personality: Discovering the Dark Side of the Moon
If I can't endure this, I'm afraid I won't be able to do anything
Reconnecting Therapy 4.
Calculating the Probability of Failure Without Being Overwhelmed by Anxiety
The reason I insisted on going to the gym even though I was getting a ringer.
The day I was accepted to Seoul National University, my father told me I was a disgrace to the family.
Reconnecting Therapy 5.
10 Minutes to Erase Hurtful Words: Eraser Therapy
3, 2, 1 and 0.5
I only shine on Instagram
Reconnecting Therapy 6.
Invite a companion
After 8 years of studying for the civil service exam, I looked for another hope.
Reconnecting Therapy 7.
Checking My Relationship Boundaries
Part 3.
When the person I love stays in isolation
If our daughter had been born to different parents
Mom's Table Letter
Someone who is just there for you
Reconnecting Therapy 8.
How to Be Healthy Alone: Wish Planner
True empathy
Reconnecting Therapy 9.
Unsolicited advice is violence.
The first words the world spoke to me the day I ran out of the house to a disaster text message
Reconnecting Therapy 10.
First of all, let's throw away some trash today.
How to distinguish between what I can help with and what I cannot
Reconnecting Therapy 11.
Where can we provide practical help to those isolated right now?
So that your heart does not grow weary by their side
Those who passed through the cave to you in the cave
Epilogue_With sincere prayers for your well-being
Into the book
'Social isolation' doesn't just mean 'locking yourself in a room'.
I work and go out, but I'm not connected to anyone.
There are no calls or KakaoTalk messages, and there is no one to contact first.
Rather, this is an image that is more suitable for social isolation.
This 'aloneness of mind' can come in life's darkest moments, but it can also come in life's brightest moments.
--- From the "Prologue"
My grandfather said that being alone in his old age felt very strange to him because he had never lived alone or taken care of himself.
You described yourself as immature, even though you seemed like a very educated and well-mannered old man to me.
You say that you lived your life ignoring the fact that everyone will be alone at some point in their lives, and that you faced isolation without being prepared for loneliness.
After parting ways with my grandfather, I thought about it for a long time.
Although the reasons may be different and the times may be different, there comes a time when everyone becomes alone.
Isolation may be a rite of passage in life that no one can avoid.
--- From "Chapter 1 Everyone is Alone Once"
She realized that her new role as a stay-at-home mom wasn't something she was good at or enjoyed, and that it didn't define her identity.
But that was all there was to do.
For over 30 years, I've always lived as a model student in Korean society, always doing well in whatever task I'm given. But this time, I felt like I wasn't doing the task properly and that I wouldn't be recognized for it, so my self-esteem plummeted.
As we live, there are times when we lose ourselves without even realizing it due to the surrounding environment and circumstances.
When I'm so busy trying to adapt to a given role or new environment, I often forget what kind of person I was and what kind of desires I had.
Just as the signal gradually weakens and the quality of a call deteriorates, if I don't keep connecting with my mind, I may eventually not be able to hear it.
To understand why I am sick, why I am struggling, and how to overcome this, I need to practice connecting with my own mind.
Why not invite a friend into your daily life? It doesn't have to be a person.
I like anything, whether it's an animal, a plant, or an object.
I try to choose the person with whom I can share my heart most comfortably.
And as you practice giving love to that being, you'll gradually discover how to give love to yourself, without relying on the number of "likes" or "followers" on social media.
--- From "Chapter 2: A Story You May Have Experienced"
Healing begins with listening to all the things that seem insignificant.
The little voices in our hearts that we have so far dismissed as unimportant are actually the most important links to ourselves.
The practice of cherishing myself will one day manifest itself healthily when I face the world again, not conforming to all beings who treat me rudely, but rather wanting to protect myself.
I once thought that isolation meant 'high, standing'.
'I'm going through these times to stand taller.'
And now, although I am not standing tall, I am standing on my own two feet and living again.
I truly believe that such a time will come for you too.
I work and go out, but I'm not connected to anyone.
There are no calls or KakaoTalk messages, and there is no one to contact first.
Rather, this is an image that is more suitable for social isolation.
This 'aloneness of mind' can come in life's darkest moments, but it can also come in life's brightest moments.
--- From the "Prologue"
My grandfather said that being alone in his old age felt very strange to him because he had never lived alone or taken care of himself.
You described yourself as immature, even though you seemed like a very educated and well-mannered old man to me.
You say that you lived your life ignoring the fact that everyone will be alone at some point in their lives, and that you faced isolation without being prepared for loneliness.
After parting ways with my grandfather, I thought about it for a long time.
Although the reasons may be different and the times may be different, there comes a time when everyone becomes alone.
Isolation may be a rite of passage in life that no one can avoid.
--- From "Chapter 1 Everyone is Alone Once"
She realized that her new role as a stay-at-home mom wasn't something she was good at or enjoyed, and that it didn't define her identity.
But that was all there was to do.
For over 30 years, I've always lived as a model student in Korean society, always doing well in whatever task I'm given. But this time, I felt like I wasn't doing the task properly and that I wouldn't be recognized for it, so my self-esteem plummeted.
As we live, there are times when we lose ourselves without even realizing it due to the surrounding environment and circumstances.
When I'm so busy trying to adapt to a given role or new environment, I often forget what kind of person I was and what kind of desires I had.
Just as the signal gradually weakens and the quality of a call deteriorates, if I don't keep connecting with my mind, I may eventually not be able to hear it.
To understand why I am sick, why I am struggling, and how to overcome this, I need to practice connecting with my own mind.
Why not invite a friend into your daily life? It doesn't have to be a person.
I like anything, whether it's an animal, a plant, or an object.
I try to choose the person with whom I can share my heart most comfortably.
And as you practice giving love to that being, you'll gradually discover how to give love to yourself, without relying on the number of "likes" or "followers" on social media.
--- From "Chapter 2: A Story You May Have Experienced"
Healing begins with listening to all the things that seem insignificant.
The little voices in our hearts that we have so far dismissed as unimportant are actually the most important links to ourselves.
The practice of cherishing myself will one day manifest itself healthily when I face the world again, not conforming to all beings who treat me rudely, but rather wanting to protect myself.
I once thought that isolation meant 'high, standing'.
'I'm going through these times to stand taller.'
And now, although I am not standing tall, I am standing on my own two feet and living again.
I truly believe that such a time will come for you too.
--- From "Chapter 3: When the One I Love Remains Isolated"
Publisher's Review
In an era where one in three people is socially isolated
“Are you really okay?”
As we live, there are times when we fall into a swamp without even knowing why our hearts ache because we live a life that only looks good on the outside.
And when the pain feels like it will never go away, there are times when you don't even have the strength to open up to anyone.
The author asks these people who are completely alone, unable to properly name their pain.
“Are you really okay?”
Only after meeting over 100 people who had escaped the tunnel of life called 'isolation' did the author realize that he, too, had experienced isolation several times in his life.
Beginning with vivid scenes of isolation experienced by herself and her lover, the book argues that isolation is not a problem for a special minority.
Rather, he points out that many people choose isolation as a last resort to protect themselves from the overwhelming tsunami of life.
In this book, which warmly captures the stories of countless isolated individuals, the author says, “Isolation may be a rite of passage in life that no one can avoid.”
In today's world, where misunderstandings and prejudices about isolation are rampant, "Reconnect" tells us that it's time to face reality head-on, guiding us on a healing journey to lift ourselves out of our shaky lives.
“10 minutes a day, time to connect with myself!”
11 Reconnecting Therapies for Mental Healing
From the author's honest experience of isolation, to a grandfather who finds himself alone for the first time in his life, to a college classmate who is losing himself due to living abroad and raising a child alone, to a young man who is afraid of forming relationships with others due to childhood wounds, to a mother who blames herself for not knowing how to stand by her isolated child.
The reason I chose to tell such an intimate story is because of the uncomfortable truth that anyone can experience isolation.
The author emphasizes that isolation comes regardless of age, personality, or wealth level.
Even if you have an outgoing and sociable personality, or are wealthy and socially successful, isolation can strike unexpectedly.
So where can we find the strength to break free from isolation? The author finds a tenacious hope in the stories of those who have been isolated.
It is recovery through ‘connection’.
By connecting with yourself, you can train yourself to listen to your own voice, and by connecting with others, you can regain healthy resilience.
To this end, the author suggests 11 'reconnecting therapies' that can be done in less than 10 minutes a day.
By following these easy-to-try therapies one by one, you will be able to develop the mental muscles that will not be overwhelmed by anxiety.
“To you who are better today than yesterday, better tomorrow than today”
I realized this only after going through the harshest period of my life.
Affectionate courage and wisdom that draws me closer to my heart
This book is divided into three parts.
Part 1 covers exactly what isolation is, Part 2 tells the stories of why people experience isolation, and Part 3 provides ways to help a loved one who is experiencing isolation.
Part 3 in particular teaches us how to deal with the feelings of others and our own when someone close to us is suffering from isolation.
Isolation is not a problem that only the person involved has to solve.
This is because if you focus on helping the isolated person, the family, lovers, and friends nearby may also lose themselves, leading to further isolation.
That's why the author presents various options for how to recognize this danger and deal with it, and how to comfort my heart, which is tired from caring for someone.
During this process, you must remember not to overwork yourself and to walk with long breaths.
This book does not say that we should prevent the moment when isolation comes.
The author, who has experienced isolation several times, says this:
“The answer is not to prevent isolation, but to realize that no matter how many times I am isolated, the one who will be with me is ‘me.’
The fact that at least while I live, I must live as my own best friend.
So, now we have to find a specific way to do that.” Perhaps, it is the gentle courage to face life’s shaky moments head-on and become closer to our hearts that allows us to grow.
“Are you really okay?”
As we live, there are times when we fall into a swamp without even knowing why our hearts ache because we live a life that only looks good on the outside.
And when the pain feels like it will never go away, there are times when you don't even have the strength to open up to anyone.
The author asks these people who are completely alone, unable to properly name their pain.
“Are you really okay?”
Only after meeting over 100 people who had escaped the tunnel of life called 'isolation' did the author realize that he, too, had experienced isolation several times in his life.
Beginning with vivid scenes of isolation experienced by herself and her lover, the book argues that isolation is not a problem for a special minority.
Rather, he points out that many people choose isolation as a last resort to protect themselves from the overwhelming tsunami of life.
In this book, which warmly captures the stories of countless isolated individuals, the author says, “Isolation may be a rite of passage in life that no one can avoid.”
In today's world, where misunderstandings and prejudices about isolation are rampant, "Reconnect" tells us that it's time to face reality head-on, guiding us on a healing journey to lift ourselves out of our shaky lives.
“10 minutes a day, time to connect with myself!”
11 Reconnecting Therapies for Mental Healing
From the author's honest experience of isolation, to a grandfather who finds himself alone for the first time in his life, to a college classmate who is losing himself due to living abroad and raising a child alone, to a young man who is afraid of forming relationships with others due to childhood wounds, to a mother who blames herself for not knowing how to stand by her isolated child.
The reason I chose to tell such an intimate story is because of the uncomfortable truth that anyone can experience isolation.
The author emphasizes that isolation comes regardless of age, personality, or wealth level.
Even if you have an outgoing and sociable personality, or are wealthy and socially successful, isolation can strike unexpectedly.
So where can we find the strength to break free from isolation? The author finds a tenacious hope in the stories of those who have been isolated.
It is recovery through ‘connection’.
By connecting with yourself, you can train yourself to listen to your own voice, and by connecting with others, you can regain healthy resilience.
To this end, the author suggests 11 'reconnecting therapies' that can be done in less than 10 minutes a day.
By following these easy-to-try therapies one by one, you will be able to develop the mental muscles that will not be overwhelmed by anxiety.
“To you who are better today than yesterday, better tomorrow than today”
I realized this only after going through the harshest period of my life.
Affectionate courage and wisdom that draws me closer to my heart
This book is divided into three parts.
Part 1 covers exactly what isolation is, Part 2 tells the stories of why people experience isolation, and Part 3 provides ways to help a loved one who is experiencing isolation.
Part 3 in particular teaches us how to deal with the feelings of others and our own when someone close to us is suffering from isolation.
Isolation is not a problem that only the person involved has to solve.
This is because if you focus on helping the isolated person, the family, lovers, and friends nearby may also lose themselves, leading to further isolation.
That's why the author presents various options for how to recognize this danger and deal with it, and how to comfort my heart, which is tired from caring for someone.
During this process, you must remember not to overwork yourself and to walk with long breaths.
This book does not say that we should prevent the moment when isolation comes.
The author, who has experienced isolation several times, says this:
“The answer is not to prevent isolation, but to realize that no matter how many times I am isolated, the one who will be with me is ‘me.’
The fact that at least while I live, I must live as my own best friend.
So, now we have to find a specific way to do that.” Perhaps, it is the gentle courage to face life’s shaky moments head-on and become closer to our hearts that allows us to grow.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: February 17, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 312 pages | 526g | 145*210*22mm
- ISBN13: 9791198774798
- ISBN10: 1198774797
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