Preface: Stability: A Key Element in Life

Chapter 1.
How is your sense of security?

[Data 1] Self-diagnosis of stability
[Data 2] Diagnosis of organizational stability

Chapter 2.
If you did not form a stable attachment relationship as a child,

Damaged Attachment Relationships and the Challenges Left Behind

Chapter 3.
Two life paths based on your level of stability

A route that pursues stability
A path that pursues a sense of accomplishment

Chapter 4.
How much influence does stability have on life?

What Happens When You Lack Security

Chapter 5.
Risk avoidance vs. opportunity seeking: What's your life philosophy?

[Situation 1] Should I leave the company and create my own personal brand?
[Situation 2] Should I start studying again and change my field?
[Situation 3] Should I completely end my relationship with someone who doesn't suit me?

Chapter 6.
People are the most feared people

Practice Managing Anxiety That Ruins Relationships

Chapter 7.
Common misconceptions about security

There is no such thing as 'absolute safety' in this world.
Our lives don't end just because we lose someone.
If you want a healthy relationship, first become aware of your true motives.

Chapter 8.
Can stability really be restored?

Correcting logical errors made early in life
To you on your journey to recovery

Chapter 9.
A sense of stability that is 'acquired' again

[Step 1] Redefining Your Perception of Yourself
[Step 2] Correcting False Beliefs
[Step 3] Soothe and Regulate Emotions
[Step 4] Developing Mental Strength to Transcend Limits
[Step 5] Building self-esteem and self-worth
Step 6: Accepting Uncontrollable Factors
[Step 7] Facing Past Wounds with Compassion
[Step 8] React and think slowly
[Step 9] Find a role model to follow.
[Step 10] Believe in the power of 'I AM' to acknowledge myself.

Conclusion: The more I cherish myself, the stronger my sense of security becomes.

Instead of uncontrollable anxiety
Pay attention to the stability that can be acquired!

Many people across generations and genders complain of anxiety.
In response to this trend, a flood of content is emerging that purports to teach us how to manage anxiety, or even, more importantly, how to eliminate it.
But let's stop and think about it for a moment.
Is anxiety really something we should be devoting our limited time and energy to? As we all know, life is full of unpredictable variables and problems, and the anxiety it triggers cannot be completely controlled or eliminated.
What we need to focus on now is ‘stability.’
We must build a strong inner foundation so that we can proactively deal with crises, big or small, that may come at any time.


If stability determines your life
Can you believe it?

The author, a psychological healing expert, had a reason for writing a book on the topic of 'stability'.
This is because so many people, not only my clients but also students taking my psychology classes and people who come to give public lectures, describe themselves as “people who lack a lot of stability.”
Although stability is mentioned in everyday life, it is often confused with 'safety'.
A sense of security goes beyond the psychological need for comfort and safety (the need for safety), and like self-esteem, it is the core of the inner self and the foundation of personal growth.

A sense of security stems from the belief that one's relationships with oneself, one's surroundings, and others are stable and predictable, but when turned around, this leads to characteristics that are characteristic of people who lack security.
They have no faith in the world, in others, or in themselves.
They hesitate to connect with people amidst endless worry and doubt, and their lack of confidence in their own worth and abilities prevents them from trying new things.
In other words, a sense of stability has a great influence on a person's overall life, including his or her way of thinking, behavioral patterns, and interpersonal relationships.
The author also expressed the importance of stability in the book as follows:
“The degree of stability determines the size of the world a person sees and how far they can courageously advance.” This is why the most certain and realistic solution to regaining control of one’s thoughts and life lies in ‘stability.’


This is the first book to seriously deal with 'stability'.
The only psychological healing book that helps restore stability

It is known that feelings of security are influenced by the attachment relationship we have with our primary caregivers during childhood.
If a child does not receive sufficient attention and consistent care in the early stages of life, his or her sense of security is bound to be impaired or lacking.
The good news is that even if you didn't experience secure attachment relationships as a child, just as you can consciously change your attachment style as an adult, you can also regain a sense of security.
Of course, the process of regaining stability requires a long period of time and consistent training, so it can be difficult to even take the first step without professional help.
This is because it is by no means easy to correct 'distorted' cognitive beliefs that have been internalized for a long time and are difficult to realize on one's own.
"Stability Class" is a book that contains my experience as someone who had an unstable childhood and the knowledge I have accumulated over 25 years as a psychological healing specialist.
If you systematically solve and practice the tasks presented in 10 steps, like a customized prescription, one by one, you too will surely be able to transform into a more stable person.


“I wrote this book to provide practical help to those who have been curious about their own sense of security or are concerned about their fragile sense of security.
I hope that by reading the book, you will have the opportunity to have a conversation with yourself, apply it to your life, and look at and interpret problems differently.
You can use the book's message in any way you like.
“I hope that through the process of gaining a deeper understanding of your inner self, of a clearer perception of your relationship with the outside world, and of discovering a sense of stability, you will be able to find true freedom and comfortable happiness.” (pp. 13-14)

[Keys to Restoring Stability]

· Step 1: Redefine your perception of yourself → If your perception of yourself remains as ‘the wounded me of the past,’ you will see yourself as weak and dependent.

· Step 2: Correcting False Beliefs → Only by identifying the distorted, internalized cognitive beliefs can we break the vicious cycle that is eating away at our own strength and abilities.

· Step 3: Calm and regulate emotions → The purpose of regulating emotions is to relieve the pressure caused by negative emotions.
The pressure caused by negative emotions stimulates the survival instinct, causing anxiety and a sense of crisis.

· Step 4: Develop mental strength to overcome limitations → Try to look at the difficulties or stress you are currently experiencing from as far away as possible.

· Step 5: Build self-esteem and self-worth → Do not connect other people’s rejection or opposition to an evaluation of ‘my importance’ and ‘my worth.’

· Step 6: Accept the uncontrollable factors → Remember that stability is never achieved through ‘control.’

· Step 7: Face the wounds of the past with dignity → Recognize that past experiences once happened to me but have already passed, and let them go as they were in that time and space.

· Step 8: React and think slowly → Distinguish between fast thinking, which is an automatic reaction, and slow thinking, which requires attention, and consciously practice slow thinking.

· Step 9: Find a role model to follow → Observe and learn how secure people live, how they conduct themselves and become independent in relationships, and how they communicate and cooperate with others at work.

· Step 10: Believe in the power of 'I AM' that acknowledges myself → Thoughts have energy.
If you think, 'I am a comfortable and stable person,' your words and actions will be consistent with that belief.