Prologue: 90% of happiness depends on human relationships.

Chapter 1: No One Is Looking at You

You're not the only one nervous
“What do you think my impression is?”
Comparing yourself to others ruins your relationships.
How to change your self-image
There is no one in the world who can fill my emptiness.
Breaking free from excessive self-consciousness

Chapter 2: Practice expressing your feelings honestly

“I don’t want to get hurt.”
Why You're Ruining Your Own Life
We have a choice
If you're honest, the problem becomes simple.
How to get angry in a healthy way

Chapter 3: The Danger of Wanting to Look Good

The world treats us as we expect it to.
Communicate exactly what you want
Let go of the need for recognition
Don't explain your actions in detail.
People who are good at saying no are happy.

Chapter 4: The Secret to Becoming More Likeable the More You Meet

People are always thirsty for praise.
Everything for a good conversation
Control your life by being consistent with your words and actions.
“I understand you’re annoyed.”
You must know how to express your emotions.
Everyone needs time alone.

Chapter 5: Small Things Determine Relationships

A person who knows when to be silent
How to avoid arguments in conversation
Admitting that “I could be wrong”
Be free from insults and blame
Use 'Questions' to facilitate smooth communication
How to Get What You Want Without Getting Angry
Rules essential for smooth communication
Learning from mistakes
Adjust your expectations and expectations to suit the situation.
Manners make friends

Chapter 6: How to Set Boundaries for Healthy Relationships

What happens when you hug each other
Don't judge by your own standards
Don't be swayed by rumors
A gift is not an exchange
An attitude of waiting for the happiness of others
Don't cry next to a depressed person.
Don't expect to change other people.

Epilogue

How to build good relationships,
A book that teaches you how to resolve a bad relationship
Knowing just one formula for relationships solves ten problems!

Living in society means meeting a variety of people.
Relationships with family and school friends were not easy, but when you go out into society, human relationships become more diverse and complex.
Especially in an age where relationships are often touted as a means to "success," building relationships seems like a massive goal that requires strategy and skill.
But what people really want are the little things: communicating smoothly with the countless people they meet at work, making a good friend, and spending a smooth day without arguments with their family.
This is because the reality is that simply dealing with salespeople who are pressuring you to make a sale right away consumes a lot of energy.


Relationships where I have to pretend to be happy even when it's uncomfortable, relationships where I have to constantly be mindful of others, relationships where I have to only show my cool side are eating away at me.
That's why the saying, "Human relationships are difficult" comes out naturally.
But what if, like a mathematical formula that can solve countless problems, there were a formula for human relationships? The reason we find relationships difficult is because we tend to adopt familiar attitudes and behaviors, even though different approaches are needed at every moment.
Now, just as companies analyze their profits and change their strategies based on the results, we too must examine ourselves and change our strategies.
Let's look at our current situation and ask ourselves:
How am I acting now? Are those actions enriching my life? If I'm accumulating things because I can't say no, or if I'm being hurt by someone who consistently ignores my signals of interest, it's time to change my attitude.
This book is full of tips for making small changes that can have big effects, from approaching someone you like to breaking free from a draining relationship.

We enjoy the fun of life at the same time
We too must become fun-loving beings.
How to coexist peacefully without getting hurt

The most important thing in human relationships is ‘myself’.
The first rule of human relationships is that you must be your own best friend.
However, this saying can easily be distorted into saying that human relationships are just tiring, so it would be better to be alone.
As 'alone' became an important keyword in phrases like 'eating alone', 'traveling alone', and 'living alone', a social atmosphere was created in which people thought of human relationships as unnecessary and isolated themselves.
But actually, we all know.
Things that are much more enjoyable when done together than when done alone.
These are things like travel, play, and eating.
If you chose to be alone because you were hurt in relationships or didn't know how to approach others, let's find a way to coexist peacefully without getting hurt.
You should not give up the happiness that can only be felt in a good relationship.


Just learning how to say no to people who cleverly use guilt to push their demands, people who repeat the same thing over and over again, and people who belittle others to promote themselves can make relationships that used to feel so difficult easier.
Once I learn how to protect myself in relationships, the next step is to reach out to others first.
The author says that 'honesty' is very effective at this time.
To have good relationships, you don't have to be like everyone else; you just have to be your most authentic self.
Perhaps this is the second formula of human relationships.


What the author, known as the 'philosopher who draws happiness', wants to convey in this book is not necessarily just the skills of human relationships.
In a society where people are becoming increasingly distant from each other due to reasons such as ‘it is difficult, hard, and inconvenient,’ it makes us look back on the precious values ​​of ‘love, friendship, trust, and self-confidence.’
So, after reading this book, I feel warm inside with the realization that it is not difficult to build relationships with people and the confidence that I can do it too.
Let's open our hearts and begin relationships with this mindset.