prolog

1.
The Center of "I": The Foundation of Relationships

I have no competitors.
Likes and dislikes are just a matter of taste.
In the middle of the line of sight
Someone I want to keep by my side
Managing the energy in your relationship
unchanging way of thinking
When there is no one to criticize you
A pleasant betrayal
Between hypocrisy and truth

2.
Seeing Others as They Are: The Beginning of a Relationship

I want a secret too
You can't know the depth of others
Don't guess what other people are thinking
There is no such thing as a 100% pure heart.
About understanding or selling
Other people always have more pride than me.
Let go of the fantasy of 'perfect people'
How to Survive in an Age of Jealousy
Control Hell
If you want to know the true feelings of others
The words he needs most in his heart

3.
Affection is Reciprocal: The Principle of Relationships

The weaker you are, the stronger you become
The secret to communication
How to listen
We can't talk
Affection is mutual
Who should I marry?
What can you give to others?
Do others want to be welcomed by me?
I am so grateful to you for giving me this.

4.
If you have someone by your side who you plan to be with for a long time: the depth of your relationship

The people who remain by our side
Every relationship has its crises.
A relationship that endures each other's ups and downs
Duplicity and blaming
The Secret of Long-Lasting Couples
How honest should we be with others?
About tying and severing ties
If you don't know much about other people's weaknesses
The courage to not remain a fixed entity

5.
Some 'walls' are necessary: ​​protecting myself in relationships.

About gossip
Surrendering to the heart of someone who hates me
Someone to blame together
Good criticism and criticism for the sake of criticism
I agree but I disagree
People who embody comparison
Immersion in a sense of superiority
About the arrogant bystanders
Be wary of people who talk about 'jackpot'

6.
Towards a Deeper Life: The Purpose of Relationships

If there are no people surrounding me
That's how we are engraved on each other
You and I become each other's protagonists
A relationship that acknowledges my core
We become ourselves when we give.
Contributing to the brilliance of others
Beyond power relations
Relationships Save Us _The Science of Friendship 1
He teaches us happiness _ The Science of Friendship 2
Giving Time to Others _ The Science of Friendship 3
My interview is

Appendix | Interview: The Depth of Otherness

Kim Beom-jun, former CEO of "Elegant Brothers," shares his vision for change.
The CEO of 'Choi In-a Bookstore' shares his thoughts on looking into the faces of others.
Kim Min-seop's heart for opening a festival
Yoon Seong-won's newsletter, "Someone," shares his thoughts with you.
Joyce Park's "My Heart on the Road"
Park So-jeong, CEO of 'Green Ray': Creating Her Own World

“How to make your life the way you want it to be
It's surprisingly simple.
Weed out those who harm the method,
“It’s about holding the hands of those who can help you along the way.”

Jiwoo Jeong, a writer, cultural critic, and lawyer who has written over 20 books, has published a book that fully captures his attitude toward people.
As an author who has consistently delivered the message that we must protect our own world while ultimately moving toward others in many books, including “What Do You Have But Money?”, “There Is No Despair on Instagram?”, “Love Asks and Humanities Answers”, and “Why Do People Help Each Other,” the creation of this book was inevitable.
His ability to accurately implement what he writes into his life is clearly revealed in this book.
In addition to his writing activities, including books and columns, he is also famous for posting on social media every day for 20 years. At some point, he stopped writing alone and started to focus on creating diverse cultures with his colleagues.


He has been running reading and writing groups consistently for several years, and the 'Writing Network' he is at the center of now has around 100 active members.
As part of this effort, we have planned various co-authored works and joint book talks that speak to the world, such as “I’m Doing That,” “I Want to Embrace My Time,” and “All the Youth of the World.”
Since 2021, I have been publishing the newsletter "All Cultures of the World" with over 30 colleagues, and I have also conducted the "Close Heart" interview project, meeting with acquaintances from various fields to practice a life of connection and learning.
Some of his acquaintances who support him include Goo Beom-jun, producer of 'Sebashi', Choi In-ah, CEO of 'Choi In-ah Bookstore', Kim Beom-jun, former CEO of 'Woowa Brothers', and Yoon Hong-gyun, author of 'Self-Esteem Class'.
This book tells the story of an aspiring writer who started writing alone in his room, but has since become a respectable professional and has met countless people, and has come to understand the meaning of relationships and humanity.


“By the very fact that you and I are in a relationship, we create life.”
Talking about 'relationships' in an age where 'alone' is familiar

In the book, the author confesses that he is “a person who has failed countless times in relationships.”
There were people I was close with throughout my life, but one day I would go into my own room and the relationships I had built would scatter like autumn leaves.
Perhaps this is not only a writer's way of relating, but a common way of relating in our time.
It is a common diagnosis of the times that each person is taken for granted, unconditional, long-term relationships are disappearing, and only anonymous relationships within social media and online communities remain.
However, as the author made a living as a writer and professional and raised a family, he gradually came to realize that the truth was contrary to the atmosphere of the times.


“We are all wired to get bored with relationships and long for isolation, only to quickly become lonely and seek out someone.
The fact that other people are the most fundamental 'condition' from which humans cannot escape tells us that many of the problems we experience in relation to relationships are fateful.
“Many writers, burdened by the presence of others in reality, flee to their rooms, but what they ultimately find in those rooms is someone who will read their writing from beyond the blank page.” (p. 10)

This book contains the author's thoughts on relationships, established through countless trials and errors, overcoming the difficulties of human relationships, which were "the greatest rift in life."
This is not a technique for the comfort of the mind that says, "Good is good," nor is it a simple worldly strategy for gaining status through relationships, nor is it the expression of a hopeless desire to stand alone and become perfect.
The author confronts the essence of human existence, which cannot help but live in association with others, and speaks of the laws of true relationships that restructure life so that we can contribute to each other's wholeness.


“Life is ultimately about contributing to the brilliance of others.”
The Law of Relationships That Bring 'Real' Benefits to Life

The laws of relationships presented by writers who sometimes write to endure life and move toward a better life through writing are concrete and practical, not divorced from reality.
The first law of relationships, as the author says, is to maintain one's center as an independent individual and not be swayed by others.
It proves that the opinions and likes and dislikes of others are often vague and without standards, and it sets a standard to distinguish between simple 'criticism' that is spewed out without responsibility and deep 'criticism' that must be seriously considered.
There are ways to cope with the bad relationships that weigh you down, the crises and challenges that follow long-term relationships.


The author, who has firmly blocked out baseless gossip and sarcastic, hateful remarks, says that in order to start a relationship, one must first have an attitude of seeing others as they are.
We must not rashly assume the inner thoughts of others, imagine the depths of others that we can never know, and accept that we cannot judge a human being with a single, flat surface, but with a multifaceted and diverse range of facets.
Only then does a relationship begin, and we are in a position to share affection with each other.
As a writer, the author has met countless readers and colleagues, as a lawyer, he has dealt with clients and various cases, and as a member of a family, he has lived his life. He shares his experiences and examples of hospitality and communication skills that allow him to fully enter into the hearts of others, from close family and friends, to business partners and colleagues, to even a visiting lecture audience.


Above all, the purpose of relationships that the author speaks of is to realize that without the people surrounding me, I am nothing.
We generally think that we work and live for ourselves, but if you think about it, most of what humans do is for others.
The same goes for writing, art, teaching, advocacy, accounting, medicine, or anything else.
In other words, when others are happy, joyful, satisfied and smiling, he becomes a good worker.
If we properly understand and deeply embody this perspective, we can move forward to a better life both personally and socially.
Life is ultimately about relationships with others.
It is a matter of contributing to the brilliance of others.
Contributing to it is the 'real' benefit of our lives, the author says.
“Protecting that real benefit is the true pragmatism of life.”