Six conversational skills that break down the walls of relationships and elevate the level of human relationships and life.
_ Breakthrough (attention), qualification (trust), authenticity (purpose), suitability (relevance), disqualification (expression), dignity (relationship)

Presents numerous examples of conversational skills and ways to raise the level of communication applicable to various situations and relationships, such as between family members, lovers, work, and society, at school, in daily life, at work, and in society.

What is a proper conversational style with proper posture and attitude?
A conversation method that raises the level through various examples!

In an age where all communication is achieved through social media, what does "conversation" mean? What constitutes a respectable conversation, complete with attitude and demeanor? "Gyeong" refers to the minimal level of posture and demeanor required to express oneself.
"The Level of Conversation" explains in detail why having a level conversation not only improves the level of interpersonal relationships but also improves self-esteem, and what a level conversation method is.
The author, who has been an anchor and announcer for over 20 years, has been asked countless times by those who want to speak with dignity how to do so with formality.
As with life, there is no right answer in conversation.
But there is a way to protect yourself from being swayed by relationships and words through respectful conversation.
In short, a 'conversation with class' means a conversation that is appropriate to the time, place, situation, and person.
Whether we're talking to a child, a boss, or family, we have countless opportunities to converse in a variety of situations, places, and with different people every day.
Language is as complex and diverse as human emotions.
Therefore, the more delicate the language you use, the more accurate your expressions will be, and smooth communication will be possible in various situations.
Proper use of language is both a courtesy to others and an effort to coexist.

It was a program that arranged meetings between single people.
A man picks out a woman based on first impressions and they have a five-minute conversation.

It was the turn of a man who, at first glance, was clearly timid.

I need to pour the wine into the glass first, but I'm not used to pouring wine, so I fidget and waste time.
The woman's expression hardens subtly.
Eventually, the production team pours wine into glasses for them, and soon the two begin to talk.
But the man's first story made me doubt my ears.
“Actually, I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather since yesterday.
“I had cold noodles at my regular restaurant, and it was spicier than usual.”
The woman gave an awkward laugh at the man's words.
Perhaps he was saying this to himself.
'So? What do you want me to do?'
In the announcer recruitment process, the first test is usually a camera test.
There was a most unbelievable (unsubstantiated) speculation during my preparatory days.
"Actually, just hearing the first line of the news tells you whether you'll get accepted or rejected." How can applicants who've spent years preparing for a single public recruitment exam be determined in just 10 seconds? It wasn't until I became an interviewer, years after becoming an announcer, that I finally realized the truth of that statement.
Just one line would have been enough.

--- pp.16-17

Let's go back to the story of my friend 'C' and his boss.
'ㅊ' must first show respect for the superior.
The responsibility for negative outcomes lies with the boss.
Thoughts like, “You don’t do what I tell you to do, you look bad” will inevitably be conveyed to your superiors through your actions and attitude.
Unless his position changes, if he threatens the hierarchy, the negative arrows will be pointed at him.
He needs to let go of his prejudice against female bosses and change his attitude to a positive one.
Also, the boss must forget about the hierarchy and humbly acknowledge the karma of 'ㅊ'.
If you follow advice and fail, 'ㅊ' is likely to change his attitude.
If you did something contrary to my advice and got good results, you can say, “Thanks to your advice, I got great results from my partner.
Pass the ball humbly, saying, “Thank you.”
As long as the position doesn't change, you won't lose to 'ㅊ', but you will win the hearts of the other members of the organization.
The basics of conversation begin with humbling yourself.
Since you don't know what the other person's eye level is, you have to lower yourself a little, step back, and observe.
The more you boast about your achievements, the more pathetic they become.
Just as the skills of living accumulated silently make a master, those who boast about doing their duty well are lowly.
If you have an achievement, it becomes valuable when others recognize it more than you.

The reason an empty cart makes noise is because the shock and rebound of the bumpy road is transmitted directly to it.
Even though it is difficult and takes time to pull, a heavily loaded cart disperses the impact of bumps and smoothly and quietly goes over the hill.
Ultimately, conversations, relationships, and life are all like mountain climbing that pushes my limits.
As Merri says, it doesn't matter how far you go in a relationship.
It doesn't really matter what position you are in the conversation.
Because the results of the conversation and relationship will speak for themselves.
No matter how loudly you brag and try to attract attention, it is just noise.
--- pp.39-40

The reason why it fails to elicit action lies in the way the story is told.
Fact-driven stories tend to be straightforward.
It's like a stepping stone thrown into a stream by a random person.
If they're to serve as stepping stones, a passageway for each other to pass through, shouldn't they be placed at an appropriate distance? Negative comments or criticisms about others are perceived as reprimands or admonitions.
The stepping stone moves away again.
The more you repeat the same thing, the less meaning it has beyond nagging, and it only ends up raising a wall between you and the other person.
The son of 'ㅅ' who felt the wall turned up the volume of his music, which was a kind of signal.
“I don’t want to hear my parents arguing” or “I have a lot of complaints about this house.
What I want to say is, “Would someone please step forward and calmly listen to why this is happening?”
However, from his/her perspective, 'ㅅ' may think, "Your relationship with your father is bad, so your mother is having a hard time. Are you really going to have to do this to her too?" or "If you stop listening to loud music and study hard so that your grades go up, you can endure even if your mother has a hard time.
“Can you really not do that?” he asks, raising his own frequency in response to his son’s signals.

The son wants his parents to match his code and give him a heart transfusion, but the parents are at a loss as to what to do and are making the situation worse.
If the transfusion of our hearts is delayed like this, the stepping stones that lead us closer to each other may be washed away one by one by the current of time and may never be found.

--- pp.65-66
'Conversation is the aesthetics of silence.' The artificial gaps in conversation stimulate curiosity, as in, 'What are they trying to say?'
It also gives you a chance to reflect on your own words, asking yourself, "What is this? Isn't this it?"
The true utility of intentional silence lies in the reversal that gives you control of the conversation.

Normally, a three-second silence is considered an accident on broadcast.
3 seconds is by no means a short time.
It is a story that is enough to catch the eyes and ears of people around you.
Humans instinctively avoid blank spaces.
Artificial gaps stimulate curiosity, which in turn draws attention to the other person.
The counterpunch thrown at that moment is more powerful than ever.
Of course, the special communication situation of an interview, where power and initiative are unilaterally given to one party, cannot be equated with everyday conversation.

However, it is equally useful for getting the other person's attention or changing the flow of a conversation.
The art of proper posing will not only enhance the news of the announcers, but also your conversations, making your chances of success in persuasion and negotiation more polished.
--- pp.82-83

Do you have a friend who constantly spouts out stories, but you can never quite figure out what they're talking about? There's something they always say during conversations.
“Wait, where did I leave off?”
Are you one of those people? If so, the training we need is to practice writing log lines.
Let's write a log line for a recent movie or a movie of your life that you enjoyed.
It's also a good idea to read a short story and summarize it in no more than 25 words.
Or, you can watch your favorite drama and try saying one sentence from each episode.
With consistent practice, your message will become clear, relevant, and concise.

Now that you're comfortable with this, let's practice delivering your message to someone.
That doesn't mean you should go to your spouse right away and tell them or spontaneously vent your complaints to each other.
Let's practice summarizing what we want to say in 25 words or less and then get into the real thing.
The main point of a story is to clearly define the subject and faithfully convey the purpose.
One thing to remember is that if you can't summarize a story in one sentence, you won't be able to accurately convey its meaning to the other person even if you give them an hour.
--- pp.139-140

Professor Kim Joo-hwan says that happiness is an ability.
It presents self-control as a method to develop positive emotions through effort and training.
Just because you decide to become a positive person doesn't mean you'll become one overnight.

Let's say you saw a muscular protagonist in a movie and wanted to be like him, so you started working out.
You should reduce body fat by refraining from eating chicken and beer, which you usually enjoy, and build muscle through regular exercise.
The important thing is long breathing and consistency.
Being a positive person is like being in great shape.
We must block the brain's pathways to negativity and pessimism and open the way to positivity.
Through this, our brain also gains muscles.
I call this 'psychological mise-en-scène'.
Mise-en-scène refers to the intentional staging of props, furniture, or surroundings to allow the director to film the scene he or she wants.
This means that if we create a positive mise-en-scène in our heads, we can change our emotions and moods as we wish.
If you can't do it on your own, at least stay with positive people.
Because emotions are contagious.
Here are five ways I deal with my emotions:

1.
Don't try to control the other person's language and actions.
2.
Allow me to control my own language and actions.
3.
Look for the source of conflict in your own emotions, not in the issue.

4.
Learn your own way to get out of that feeling.
5.
Don't let the argument escalate into an emotional fight.

A body maintained through consistent exercise is expressed as external confidence, and a prepared physical body helps internal self-esteem.
It also strengthens your self-confidence that you can do anything.
The same goes for mental health.
Psychological mise-en-scène, which helps the process of positive thinking, also improves physical abilities.

Brain scientists say the human brain is as soft as clay.
Our brain, like our body, has both flexibility and strength.
Just as a healthy body can transform you into a more positive person, strengthening positive thinking can transform you into an attractive person without exercise.
If you are a person who is pleasant to look at and hear, you will be able to easily reach your desired destination in relationships and conversations.
--- pp.185-186

Language is as complex and diverse as human emotions.
Therefore, the more delicate the language you use, the more accurate your expressions become, and smoother communication becomes possible.
Proper use of language is both a courtesy to people and an effort for coexistence.
So far, we have talked about the six maxims of conversation that are necessary for us to coexist.
There is no reason to feel difficulty with the word rate.
It would be better to interpret it as a 'premise' or 'condition' that maximizes each other's interests and allows the conversation to flow naturally.
Breakthrough deals with attention, qualification deals with trust, authenticity deals with purpose, qualification deals with relevance, disqualification deals with expression, and dignity deals with relationships.

Through this, you learn how to read the other person's emotions and express your own thoughts.
By learning the basic premise of conversation, we will learn how to understand others, ourselves, and the world.
I hope you will use this as an opportunity to grow yourself.
The classics, the truth, the certainty.
It is a world of people who preach that their own achievements are the best.
The thing I've always been wary of in my writing is, "Try to say it like I do."
There are many different ways to communicate, and expressions can produce very different results depending on the situation and the target audience.
It is not possible to win a conversation by saying you will not lose or by openly winning.

The word success erases even the lessons of failure.
A winning conversation makes the other person a loser.
The opposite of success is not failure, and the opposite of a winner is not a loser.
Success and failure are like white and black stones in life's baggage, and you never know when you might pull them out.
It's not like a successful life is good now, and it's not like a loser is hard now.
We are all just fellow travelers on the journey of fully living the long journey called life.

--- pp.301-302